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3 Sex Positions To Make Her Think Your Penis Is BIGGER!

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Sex positions can work wonders – they can revive a dull sex life or give a woman screaming orgasms. But did you know that the right sex positions can even make your girl think that your penis is larger than it really is! Try these to give yourself a size boost.

Position #1: Straddle Missionary

Missionary is the original man-on-top position, and the most common one for most people. It also happens to be one of my favorites or clitoral stimulation, and that great feeling of really being stretched out, when we make a slight adjustment.

The next time you are on top, ask her to put her legs together while you spread yours a bit. You should now be straddling her while remaining face-to-face. This will help you to slide against her clitoris with every thrust you take. Since her legs are together, she will also feel tighter for you and also make you feel much wider for her.

To create a feeling of complete surrender, pin her hands down to the bed. You can also sit upright, which will allow you to thrust much faster and harder. Remember to have enough lube on hand, because this position can go from amazingly pleasurable to uncomfortable pretty quickly.

Position #2: Fork & Spoon

In the spooning position, both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction, while you enter her from behind. You will be doing most of the work of work in this position for both penetration as well as other stimulation including kissing her neck, fondling her breasts, or massaging her clitoris, with either your fingers or a tiny vibrator.

After you’ve been enjoying the spooning position for a few minutes, you can try an amazing variation; where she will move her bottom leg under your top leg, and her top leg on top of yours. This will allow your bodies to become wrapped up in each other’s, which helps to build incredible levels of intimacy while giving her very deep penetration.

For even deeper penetration still, lift her top leg towards the ceiling while you lean your body away from hers. This will give you an angle that allows for much deeper penetration, as well as a great view to look at.

Position #3: Froggie Style

The Froggie position is a variation of Cowgirl, where you are laying on your back, and she crouches on top of your penis while still on her feet. This will give her tons of freedom to ride you very vigorously while putting less strain on her knees. However, it does work several muscle groups in her legs and core, so she has to be fit in order to sustain this position.

If you really want to give it to her good, grab her waist or ass and pull her on to your penis. She can place her hands on your stomach, chest or the beds backboard to brace herself. This will also give her a chance to relax while you take over, thrusting upwards from below. And for even MORE stimulation, you can always slip a small vibrator in between her legs and right on to her clitoris.

The point of all of these positions is to help give you a little creative insight in to what it takes to be a truly amazing lover. The next time you have sex, go ahead and give some (or all) of these positions a try, and of course feel free to use your imagination to come up with some new variations of your own.

3 Sex Positions For Deeper Penetration

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Penetrating as deep as possible during sexual intercourse is a great way to connect emotionally and physically with your partner. Mixing sex positions that allow for deeper penetration with other pleasurable sex positions can definitely make your sex life even hotter than it was before! Try these positions if you want to go deep.

Doggy Style

Doggy style is probably the best sex position for going deep and stimulating the g-spot. It doesn’t allow for face to face contact with your partner, but if you want rough, deep and dirty sex, doggy style is the way to go. If you want to be closer to your partner while having sex (and still going deep) try some of the other positions below. Doggy style is usually fast and wild, so it’s great for a deeply penetrating quickie. While doggy style inevitably allows him to penetrate deeper, a woman can control the sensations by how she tilts her pelvis. Tilt your pelvis inward towards your stomach to cause the penetration to feel shallower, or arch your back and tilt your pelvis away from your stomach to make his penis go as deep as possible. Try experimenting with the way you position your pelvis so you can find out what feels best to you and your partner.

Not-Your-Boring-Missionary

Having sex with your partner missionary style is a great way to connect with them physically and emotionally, but if you’re looking for deeper penetration, you may be tempted to cross this sex position off your list. Think again! You can modify the missionary position to create the deepest penetration possible, while still being able to be eye to eye with your partner. When he’s on top, have him arch up a little so you can bring your legs back towards your stomach and hook your ankles on his shoulders. The more flexible you are, the closer he can lean in towards you – but if you’re not very flexible at all, don’t worry. The further his torso is away from you the less stretched your legs will be, but you will still be able to experience the difference in penetration depth between this modified missionary sex position and traditional missionary.

Woman On Top

One of the best things about the woman on top position is that she gets to control pretty much everything. The speed, depth and angle are all up to her and consequently, this often allows a woman to have an orgasm more easily than if the position were reversed and he were on top. If you’re on top and you want deeper penetration, have your partner spread his legs and bend his knees. This will allow you to push your pelvis down closer to his and allow your vagina to slide all the way down to the very base of his penis. This is also a great sex position for a female orgasm, because the closer your pelvis is to his the more friction will be created during sex and will allow you to stimulate your clitoris as well as your vagina. Experiment with different pelvic positions to find out which one feels the best to you and your partner and allows for the deepest penetration.

Why Delaying Penetration Can Make Sex HOT!

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Penetration is what guys look forward to during sex, but if you do it too fast, you could turn her off. Here’s why you should definitely wait!

Delaying Penetration Isn’t Easy

Get real, a moment by moment experience is easier said than done… especially when you throw in a raging boner and a naked woman. Savoring foreplay, while violent carnal forces take over your body, is a mean feat.

Women don’t get this, but delaying penetration is probably the most difficult thing a man can do. Guys see an erection as unresolved tension. It needs to be addressed. Immediately. Unnecessary delay is cruel.

While most women wish to luxuriate in this kind of feeling, men see it as torture.

Have a naked, gorgeous woman on your bed… moaning… with legs pointed to the heavens, and you’ll realize you’d rather be skinned alive than not jump her. It’s like the marshmallow experiment – only this time, the marshmallow is wickedly sexy at 120 lbs., calling out “Come and get me!” through a microphone. You don’t even see the woman, really, your vision just zeroes-in between her legs. And you would do anything, even pawn your Knicks season tickets, just to get into that magical place.

That’s why nobody’s telling you to stop a boner – you can’t. So don’t deny the urge. In fact, ACKNOWLEDGE IT, admit you wish to ravish her body. Admit that you want to be inside her, feel her warm and wet core embrace your penis. You want to plant it deep, deep into her. Acknowledge the urge.

Is It Possible To Even Do It?

Yes, it’s possible to delay penetration. Ever been so mad at someone you felt like strangling them to death? We’ll, did you actually do it? It’s the same with foreplay. Have the urge, but don’t act on it…yet. Feeling it is different from acting on it. This is where the bizarre struggle begins since men can easily blend the two. But just because you’re hard doesn’t acquit you of all the other options.

Why hurry a sure thing? Do you actually think she’ll do a disappearing act if you don’t jump her immediately?

What To Do Instead

GET BUSY. You will never get over that vaginal trance unless you fill your head with something else. Do some crunches if you got to, channel that sexual energy into some activity and accomplish something mind-blowing – great oral sex, for example. Get busy and realize that while you’re at it, keeping your mind off that battle-ready penis, you’re getting the hang of the thing that started off as distracters. Foreplay can rock… when you give it a shot.

Of course, don’t wait for kingdom come and allow your erection and arousal to shy away. Just remember a sexual reprogramming before finally deciding to ride. This next one is subtle but it could really change your foreplay game. Ready?

What Really Happens During Penetration

That moment you penetrate, the very first instant you slide that schlong into that pit of hers, think of it as: THE BEGINNING OF THE END, launching the finale – the final hurrah. You’re actually wrapping things up. Yeah that’s right, the moment you enter her, you’re actually nearing the end of the session, you’re taking the final bend of the final lap. It positions you a stone’s throw away from the inevitable conclusion.

To most guys, it’s the exact opposite. For them, that first push is like opening their box of chocolates… all the good stuff begins. They think, “Yeah, finally I get to do this!” It’s a “Yeheeey!” moment and fireworks are at long last lit up. Like the opening of baseball season – all wonderful things are up ahead.

But, without watering down the virtues of great sex, and without missing on the joys of being inside a woman, boxes of chocolates have been opened way before initial penetration. It’s not the opening of baseball season, it’s already the World Series! And as for the fireworks? They’re there for the closing ceremonies!

What You’re Missing If You Penetrate Too Fast

All things bright and beautiful didn’t begin when you went in for that first push, it started long way before that. It started when you first got a whiff of the scented candles she prepared, when you first ran fingers across her face, when you felt her tummy rising and falling from labored breathing. If you missed on those because of your anxiety to put your pelvic gyrations on display, then you missed a lot.

You missed the unique pleasures of the opening and middle game.

Remind yourself before you enter: This is the beginning of the end. Watch how this simple shift straightens things out and alter your foreplay game by giving you a wider shot of the whole sex thing.

The Right Way To Do Penetration

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Penetration seems simple enough, right? Wrong! If you penetrate her the wrong way, you can mess up the entire sex act. Here’s how you need to be doing it.

You’ve done the works – the whole nine yards. You’ve been thorough, gentle and moved slow as a turtle on hangover. And now you’ve decided, she’s more than ready. Besides, you can’t take the suspense any longer, your penis made that argument for you 10 minutes ago. It’s time to bring your ship to harbor.

How To Start With Penetration

Post a “Fasten Your Seatbelt” notice by performing SWEEPING maneuvers around the vulva before penetration. Although this is something that can be done anytime you fancy, Sweeping is usually a last minute act before switching gears. What you do is hold your ranting and raving tool at the mouth of her vagina. You have not entered her yet at this point, you’re just having a smoke at the gates.

Hold your penis and sweep it around the vulva. Rub the head of your unit around, moving it in circles, up & down and side-to-side – coaxing the bajingo to let you in. The resulting friction not only makes her want you more, it makes further delays harder to bear.

You may also use the underside of your shaft to rub on her vulva by mimicking thrusting motions. Without actually penetrating – give your woman a real thrill by rubbing her clitoris with the underside of your penis.

The First Moments

Everyone remembers their “firsts.” They are always noteworthy, whether they are for the good or for the bad. Everyone remembers their first kiss, first dates, first date disasters etc. They are “dear diary” moments.

But what we’re talking about here has nothing to do with the night she lost her virginity. Rather, it’s about those first moments in the session when you enter into vaginal territory – that moment when the 1st inch of your jimmy passes from the outside world into her wet ‘n wild world. You know, penetration. For many women, that first vaginal stretch is the most exciting and satisfying part – the BEST slice of the whole penetration process. (But if you’re not gentle, it could also be one of the most arduous things.)

These moments are both physically and psychologically meaningful for your partner. The two of you are officially joined, you are officially inside her. There is an elegant mini-drama in there that captures the phrase “getting into her pants” or the more spiritual “becoming one flesh.”

How To Make It Even Better

Share this episode by giving the lady lots of eye contact. Synchronize both your breathing and you’ll understand what connection means.

Don’t jam the first stroke of enetration. And for that matter, the several ones coming after that. Initially, thrust in a slooow and deliberate manner, as if she’s a virgin all over again – as if it’s her first encounter with Mr. Penis. (There’s always a first time – every time.) Instantly switching to high gear from the sensual style will stun a woman. It’s too fast a transition from laid-back to break back, like being mounted by a 1000 lb bull all of a sudden. That feeling is a bit disconcerting for the woman. Start slow, and gradually build up the speed.

Give her some slow, steady grooves and don’t cheapen penetration by immediately giving her all you’ve got. If you don’t pace yourself, you’ll burn out too early, you’ll orgasm even before you find your rhythm & balance. (What did you really expect?!)

How To Thrust The Right Way

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Sex tips can help you sharpen your game so you’re always getting better at sex. Check out how to penetrate correctly and give your girl incredible orgasms!

There many variations to penetration, thing, but all strokes hang on 3 basic elements of style.

  • Speed
  • Angle
  • Depth

1. Your Speed

Speed, which is very much related to power, is prime consideration for the male orgasm. Going at it hard and fast is the standard masturbating procedure – probably the only pace most men have been working with all their lives. It has been proven to work and many will find it awfully hard to operate any other way.

But since we are not unwitting agents to this whole thing, we can choose to dial the speed up or down. Speed doesn’t control you, you control it.

There are reasons, as you already know, why it’s good to give that “fast” button a rest once in a while. Again, if you don’t pace yourself, you’ll burn out too early or finish with a prematurely blown load. How can you hold off ejaculating when you’re stroking her like there’s no tomorrow?! Be realistic.

Instead, add variety to your style by patterning into different thrusting speeds.

For example, you can do 5 quick strokes followed a slow & deep one. Or 3 slow ones followed by 5 quick dips. Have fun and play around with a variety of speeds, mix it up. Slow it down and speed it up. Create an amusing rhythm or thump to the beat of your booty-music.

2. Your Angle

Stroking isn’t a straight in & out affair, another way of adding sexual variation is through the angle of your penetration. There may be just one point of entry, but there can be different angles of thrust.

Those different sex positions are ultimately about different angles. You’ll find for example, that Doggie is good for the G-spot because it allows you leg support and aim to thrust at the zone where it resides. Missionary Position, on the other hand, has difficulty fully engaging the spot, because in this configuration, the penis is usually angled down. The Woman-on-Top can be a good G-spot position as long as a woman angles her pelvis so you can stroke into it. Different angles of attack result in various sensations for the lusty pair.

When you stroke, you employ the combined efforts of your arms, hips, pelvis, knees and legs. Having physical endorsement as much as this allows you stuff other than simply dart in and out. Your hips and pelvis can do more than straight-up thrusting, and you might not be a great dancer, but you can definitely move those hips around. I’m sure that when you boogie on that dance floor, you also roll them to the sides and in circles.

So WORK IT! The bed is certainly not the place to go shy and timid. Grind into those hip and pelvic maneuvers as you stroke in – go left, right and round & round. And when you’re in deep – wiggle & grind some more, brushing your pubic bone against her clitoris. Try SCOOPING thrusts by pointing your pelvis up as you dive deeper into her. It’s playful, fun and a happy detour from the all too serious jackhammer classic.

3. Your Depth

This refers to how deep into her your equipment goes. Profound, isn’t it?

Women love “full and deep” – but it’s not the only thing they adore – they also love to be made wanting. You don’t need to fire everything all the time and be balls deep with every thump. Going in at various depths automatically creates variety.

You may start by thrusting just the head of your penis – then pull out. Kiss her. Caress or sweep the vulval area. Thrust the head, and pull out again. Do this several times. Go back in, and go deeper each time. Continue to progress until you’re all in. After which, you can really start pounding.

Get the idea? You don’t need to perform full strokes all the time.

Now, a shout out for those endowed with humongous equipment (say, anything 8” and longer). You’ll be lucky to find a woman who can take the fullness of you, your thing may simply not fit her. Don’t get me wrong, large penises rock, but paired with a petite and timid vagina, it’ll just be a waste of meat. She can’t take all of it in with pleasure. It’ll be like running an extra-large catheter up your thing.

So for guys who pack a horse of a penis: Make sure the lady is really aroused before you penetrate. Otherwise, you’ll just really wreck her cervix.

Remember the cervix? It’s the last point where penises go, a dead end of some sort. When a woman is highly aroused, her cervix will rise, giving your schlong more thrusting space. But when you start pounding before the arousal mechanisms kick in, there’s a good chance you’ll bump into her cervix.

It’ll hurt…a lot.

So give her arousal allowance so you’ll have more elbow room to play with. You feel me? OK. After these penetration details, we’ll look at the bigger picture and talk body arrangements. No erotic discourse will ever be adequate without venturing into the wonderful world of Sexual Positions. (Notice that sexual poses are considered primarily for their thrusting potential?) You’ll soon learn that there’s more to these anatomical configurations than meets the eye.