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5 Wet And Wild Sex Positions

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The sex positions you can get into in the bedroom will only take you so far when it comes to trying new things. A lot of sex positions can end up being very awkward, especially if you and your partner aren’t extremely flexible or don’t have the right kind of furniture to help you out. However, you can spice things up by bringing in the element of water. Not only is having sex in the water extremely hot, it can help you get into sex positions that you never could before!

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Sitting On The Edge Of The Pool

This one is easy and probably a little cliche, however, there’s a reason it’s so popular. Sometimes it can be difficult to get into sitting sex positions in the bedroom (or even out of the bedroom). The pool adds the sexy, sultry element of water to your sexual escapades, but it’s really the ledge of the pool that gives you the advantage here. The female partner sits on the edge of the pool – usually on the shallow end – while her partner stands at an area in the pool that allows his groin to meet up with hers. After your hot sex-a-thon on the side, you can slide into the pool and cool off!

Up Against The Wall Of The Pool (Or On The Ladder)

Standing sex positions are even more difficult to do in the home than sitting ones, so if you really want to get into a standing position, the pool is really going to be an asset for you. Find an area of the pool where you can stand up, but the water should be high waist or chest level on the male partner. Use the wall of the pool for support – or the pool ladder to help you, but the key here is that the water will help make the female partner feel lighter and easier to lift up and onto the man’s penis. Underwater, the woman will feel fairly weightless, allowing both partners more movement and freedom in the standing sex positions.

Missionary Position In The Jacuzzi

Sure, the missionary position may be played out, but if you hop in the Jacuzzi first, the hot, bubbling water will turn it into a completely amazing experience. This is a great way to try the missionary position if you love doing it that way, but you’re tired of the same old, same old. Find one of the places in the Jacuzzi that is contoured and designed for a person to lie down in the tub but not be completely covered in water – these are usually on the sides of the Jacuzzi. Either partner can lie down – have the man lie down if you want to do girl on top. You’ll love the feel of the hot, steamy water around you and your partner as you get it on!

Doggy Style In The Shower

Often, the shower is the most convenient place to have sex in the water, because if you don’t have access to a private pool or Jacuzzi, you can forget those unless you want to get busted in the pool of a hotel! Shower sex can be lots of fun if you have a big enough shower or tub, but a lot of people don’t. Doggy style, however, is the best sex position to use in the shower if you don’t have a lot of room. Turn the shower on so you can feel the hot water running over your bodies, and get it on! You can vary the angle of penetration by having the woman put her hands up on the ledge of the tub instead of the bottom.

Scissor Position In The Tub

If you have a longer tub, you can use the scissor sex position as well. Have the woman lie on her side in the tub and raise on leg as high as she can. Then, the man will straddle the leg that is resting on the bottom of the tub and start penetration sideways. Her leg can comfortably rest on his shoulder if she’s flexible enough. You probably want to do this with the woman’s head facing away from the faucet, or she might bang her head into it and get quite the shiner! Run the water for a few minutes if you want a couple of inches of water in the bottom of the tub to splash around in, or turn the shower on to feel like you’re doing it in the rain!

What Is Double Penetration?

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Anal sex can be even more fun when you involve insertion of an object in the vagina in addition to the anus. It can increase the frequency and intensity of orgasms during sex and it can be just the boost you need if your sex life is in a rut. It can also help you add a whole new level of pleasure to masturbation. But what exactly is double penetration, how do you do it and how do you keep it safe and clean?

What Is Double Penetration?

Usually during sex or masturbation, a man’s penis or a sex toy penetrates the vagina only. During anal sex, a penis or sex toy will penetrate the anus only. With this sex activity, a penis or toy will penetrate the vagina and the anus at the same time. This can be very pleasurable for a woman who enjoys feeling very “full” during sex, and it can increase the amount and intensity of a woman’s orgasms significantly.

For women who have trouble having a g-spot orgasm, double penetration can be the key. The object inserted into the anus actually rubs up against back side of the g-spot, stimulating it from the other side. It also helps push the g-spot forward into the object that is inserted into the vagina, so that it receives more stimulation from the front side as well. Combine stimulation of the clitoris with insertion of an object into the vagina and rectum for a really wild orgasm!

How To Get Started

As with anal sex, it’s important to start small and work your way up. Giant sex toys aren’t the best choice for the first time you try it. Remember that the anus doesn’t stretch like the vagina does and objects that you think are pretty small are actually going to feel very big once you insert them into your rectum. Consider trying a tiny butt plug to begin with, and then work your way up to larger and larger objects as you become more accustomed to bigger sizes.

It’s also important to use a very generous amount of lube during double penetration. The anus does not self lubricate like a vagina does and even small objects will cause pain and may tear the delicate anal tissues if there’s not enough lubricant down there. Lube is inexpensive and available almost anywhere, so there’s really no reason not to use it! Anal sex of any kind is much more pleasurable when everything is going smoothly.

Tools Of The Trade

Unless you’re with two guys, you’re going to have to use a sex toy of some kind in addition to your partner if you want to achieve double penetration. During masturbation, you’re going to need even more equipment. Here’s a breakdown of the different tools of the trade.

During Sex With A Partner

If he’s going to be entering your vagina, you’ll want to have a small butt plug on hand to insert into your rectum. If you’re more advanced with this sex technique, you can try using a larger sex toy for anal sex.

If he’s going to be entering your anus, you’ll want to have a larger sex toy on hand that will provide stimulation of the vagina. This can be as simple as a torpedo vibrator or as complicated as a Rabbit vibrator that stimulates the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time.

During Masturbation

Double penetration is a little different with masturbation since you’ll be doing all the work yourself. The most important thing during masturbation is to find a comfortable position to lie in that allows you full access to both your vagina and anus without restricting the movement of your hands or arms. You may want to have a few pillows on hand to help you do this.

As far as sex toys go, you really can use whatever you want here! Again, if you’re a beginner, choose a smaller sex toy for your anus. If you use a butt plug, both of your hands will be free to operate the sex toy you’re using on your vagina. Some sex toys have components for the anus, the vagina and the clitoris to provide stimulation of all three areas at once.

During A Threesome

This can also be achieved during a threesome if you’re having sex with two men. A lot of women really enjoy the thrill of being penetrated by a man in both the vagina and the anus and this is actually a sexual fantasy that a lot of women have but don’t often get to really act out.

Staying Safe

Because double penetration involves anal sex, there are some things you need to do to make sure everything stays clean and safe.

Use condoms on your sex toys. Do not insert a sex toy into the anus and then into the vagina without first taking the condom used in the anus off and putting a new one on. This prevents serious bacterial infections.

Do not use sex toys in the anus that aren’t designed for anal sex. If it doesn’t have a wide base or a ring on the end of it that prevents the toy from slipping inside the rectum in its entirety, it’s not something you want to use for anal stimulation. If it’s not designed for anal sex, it can slip up inside and get lost, requiring expensive urgent medical care.

If you’re having sex with two men, use condoms. STD’s can be transmitted easily this way, especially if the men swap between the anus and the vagina. As with sex toys, do not allow anal to vagina activity without a fresh condom being put on in between.

Go slow and use lube. The anal tissues can tear and bleed if you’re not using lube, go too fast or are using something that is too large.

If it hurts, stop. Never use desensitizing lube during anal sex because you definitely want to feel it if it hurts, because if it does, you need to stop! Never continue with penetration if there’s pain of any kind.

Q&A: Sex Positions For Plus Sizes

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Finding the right sex positions that not only feel great but also work with the body type of both you and your partner can be frustrating. If you or your partner are plus size, you may not get good penetration in some sex positions and others may just be downright impossible. Here are some sex positions that work well for big boned couples, because everyone deserves a satisfying sex life!

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now, and we just cant seem to get it to “work,” meaning we can’t quite get a good flow going. With me being a girl, I have trouble getting it to feel really good for an extended period of time. The problem is he is very overweight and I am a mere 120 pounds.

We are only physically capable of doing the girl on top positions, and I have trouble keeping his penis in and when it stays, I have a hard time keeping thrusts going because I have to keep his belly out of the way. Please help us we really want to improve our sexual connection with one another.

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Doggy Style

Doggy style is a great sex position to try if one or both partners are big boned. If only he is larger, it works well because he can lay his belly on her butt to keep it out of the way and allow for deeper thrusting. If she is also larger than average, it allows her to keep her own belly out of the way during sex. Traditional missionary style sex may be difficult if both partners are larger than average because their genitals don’t always touch when facing each other chest to chest. Doggy style makes penetration and thrusting much, much easier for big boned couples.

Spooning

Spooning is also a great way to overcome difficulty having sex when you’re overweight. The woman will lie in a fetal position, with the knees bent. A pillow can be put under the woman’s hips if it is comfortable. The man will kneel facing the woman and enter her, and for variety, the woman can lift her leg and place it over his shoulder.

T-Square Position

In this sex position, the woman lies on her back with legs spread apart and raised. The man lies with his hips under the arch formed by her raised legs. This allows both partners’ abdomens to be out of the way, allowing the genitals to touch without difficulty.

Try A Love Swing

A love swing – also sometimes called a sex swing – can enable you and your partner to try sex positions you never could before. Because the sex swing holds one partner up, it is easier to do more things than you can if you’re having sex on a surface like a bed or couch. Most sex swings have straps that can suspend one or both legs in different ways, allowing lots of variety for penetration and thrusting. Couples that have larger than average body types will find that g-spot orgasms are easier to achieve using a sex swing, because it holds the body at a variety of angles.

Love Swing Safety

If you do decide to invest in a sex swing, make sure they hold you and your partner’s separate weight limits, and make sure to install it correctly according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Find a sturdy place in the ceiling from which to hang the swing, such as a beam or stud – not sheet rock or drywall.

It’s Not All About Penetration

Sex isn’t all about penetration – if you and your partner have difficulty finding sex positions that are comfortable, learn to please each other in different ways. Oral sex is a great option for big boned couples that have a hard time with intercourse and thrusting. Also, try experimenting with sex toys. You can give your partner pleasure and connect with them sexually in ways other than intercourse. Don’t stress out too much about it if you and your partner can’t have sex easily. You can still have fun together!

Fun Facts

Did you know that overweight men last longer in bed? Researchers in Turkey have finished a year long study which correlates body mass index with male sexual performance. Heavier men were able to make love for an average of 7.3 minutes, while smaller men lasted only an average of 108 seconds. The study showed that overweight men had higher levels of the female hormone estradiol, which blocks male hormones and delays the climax.

How To Have Great Sex Without Penetration

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Sex isn’t all about penetration. It’s a common misconception that you have to actually have intercourse to have awesome sex, but the truth is, you can actually have wonderful physical intimacy with your partner while not bumping uglies at all! There is so much more to doing it than just “penis-in-the-vagina” – in fact, there are so many more enjoyable ways to experience your partner sexually while avoiding intercourse! Here’s how.

Why Couples Would Want To Skip Traditional Intercourse

You might be wondering why anyone in their right mind would want to skip out on the sex part of sex. There are, however, lots of couples who either can’t or don’t want to have traditional intercourse with each other for various reasons. Some couples may want to avoid unwanted pregnancy by not engaging in penetration (if they’re not using condoms or birth control) and other couples may be avoiding penetration for religious, spiritual or moral reasons.

After childbirth, women are often cautioned not to have sex for six weeks afterwards, leaving them at a loss on how to please their partners when sex is not an option. Other couples may not be a great fit physically down there and will get more enjoyment out of foreplay than actual intercourse.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is a great way to give your partner an amazing orgasm with no intercourse. Most people feel like oral sex is for foreplay only, but why not make it the main event? It is that great, after all! Take turns pleasuring your lover with your tongue and letting them do the same for you, or try the sixty-nine position and give each other simultaneous oral sex. You may not think it’s possible to feel completely satisfied after having only oral sex with your partner and forgoing intercourse, but the truth is, you might even have a better and more satisfying orgasm this way than through intercourse alone. Your partner will too!

Masturbation

If oral sex isn’t your thing or you’re just not ready to go there with your partner yet, think about masturbation. Not the flying solo kind, but the masturbating your partner with your hands kind. This is better known as fingering (if they’re a girl) and giving a handjob (if they’re a guy). Lots of people avoid this type of stimulation when they’re getting it on with their lovers because they feel like that manual stimulation is actually boring – especially since this is the kind of stimulation you get all the time when you masturbate alone.

However, you can give your partner amazing orgasms through manual stimulation! All it takes is time, a little hard work and lots and lots of great lube. Most people who don’t enjoy getting a handjob from their partner have forgotten that crucial component – lots of lube!

Sex Toys

If you’re not going to have intercourse with your partner, why not bring in some fun sex toys to play with instead? If she can handle penetration but just not with a penis (for example, if she’s trying not to get pregnant), try using a dildo or a vibrator. If penetration of any kind is out of the question, a clitoris vibrator can definitely come into play. This is a great way to give a woman an orgasm when avoiding intercourse, especially if oral sex or fingering isn’t your thing. Instead of letting her take care of herself with the vibrator (which a lot of guys do when they can’t do it with their ladies), take care of it for her and get off on her pleasure.

For the men, sex toys can also be beneficial when you can’t or don’t want to do it the traditional way. Male masturbators (also known as masturbation sleeves) can make giving him a handjob a lot easier, especially when you use plenty of lube. In fact, it will probably feel better for him too!

Kissing

If you’re avoiding sexual activity all together for whatever reason, don’t forget that you can stay physically intimate and close to your partner through kissing. Don’t just assume that the quick kiss you gave your lover before work will suffice – if you’re not having sex, take some time to have a really great and satisfying make out session with your partner.

Kiss your lover deeply and slowly, with no regard to how much time you have or what is going to come next. Simply enjoy the kissing experience for what it is and encourage your partner to do the same. When done right, kissing can be an extremely satisfying way to stay physically connected to your lover when you can’t get it on!

5 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

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Sex is a very physical activity – there’s no doubt about that. Great sex will leave the sheets soaked with sweat, and even mediocre sex will leave you and your partner both out of breath if you’re not healthy and fit. If you’re not in shape, sex can definitely become lackluster and not just because you don’t feel confident about the way you look naked. Being physically ready for great sex will help you have sex that rocks your world. Check out these moves that will get your body ready for amazing sex.

Abdominal Workouts

Some of the most used muscles during sex are the abdominal muscles. They’re used for penetration and thrusting, they’re used for hip gyrating and strong abs can be extremely helpful when it comes to trying some of the more awkward sex positions. Strengthen your ab muscles by doing simple sit ups – as long as you’re doing them the right way.

Sit ups don’t have to involve you actually sitting all the way up. In fact, you can strengthen your abs by just lifting your shoulders off the floor – enough to tighten those muscles. Hold for a few seconds before resting your shoulders back on the floor and repeat. Do three sets of 10-15 sit ups three times a week for stronger ab muscles.

Another move for the lower abs involves assuming the same position as you would if you were doing a sit up and lifting your legs instead, using your lower ab muscles only. It might take a few tries to learn how to isolate the muscles you’re wanting to use (you want to feel the “burn” in your lower stomach, not your thighs), but these are the muscles that are going to be responsible for the majority of your hip movements.

Thigh Workouts

Both men and women can benefit from doing thigh workouts to enhance sexual stamina and performance. The thighs are used primarily during thrusting, and people with poor muscle tone in their thighs won’t be able to thrust for very long in bed, making sex shorter. A lot of men may mistake having a reduced libido with simply not being in good enough physical shape to continue thrusting for extended periods of time.

Simple squats can take care of this. Start without weight, and then add small amounts of weight as you get stronger. You don’t have to do this in a gym either – squats at home will work too. You can add weight by using cans of vegetables for the lighter weights and bags of sugar or flour for heavier weights. Just use your imagination! Three sets of 8-10 to start out with a few times a week is sufficient, but when you’re ready to step up your game, you can add repetitions.

Flexibility Training

Of course, to get into some of the more interesting sex positions, you need to be flexible. Flexibility is something that people have a lot of when they’re younger, and then they lose it as they get older. You can get your flexibility back, however, by doing stretching and training your body to stretch further and further each time.

Women can begin by practicing stretching their legs upwards while lying down, bringing the tops of their thighs and knees towards their shoulders. This helps stretch the tendons in the back of the thighs, allowing a woman to get her legs up farther when she’s beneath her man during sex or when he’s performing oral sex on her. Another great stretching move is actually simply learning to touch your toes in a sitting position. This helps a woman’s legs become even more flexible, allowing her to use them differently with different sex positions.

When stretching, simply practice a little each day, pushing yourself as far as you can go without experiencing a lot of pain (a little burn is normal). After several stretching sessions, you’ll notice that you can stretch a little farther each time.

Cardio Exercises

Cardio training is probably the cornerstone of getting your body ready for sex. Many people who don’t have a lot of stamina will get out of breath easily when having sex, especially if it involves more vigorous thrusting. If you want to last longer in bed, practice getting your heart rate up and keeping it there for a short period of time. You can do this with fast walking or jogging, or you can use a treadmill or elliptical machine at the gym.

Start small, with five to ten minute bursts of heart-racing activity. When you stop getting out of breath as much and your heart doesn’t beat quite as hard, it’s time to add another minute or two. After just a week or two of cardio a few times a week, you’ll notice a huge difference in your ability to have sex longer with your partner.

Safety

Of course, before beginning any fitness program (for better sex or otherwise), it’s important to consult your doctor first, especially if you have muscle or joint problems or any kind of heart condition. When doing these moves, make sure to listen to your body and stop if you become extremely uncomfortable, dizzy or are too out of breath.