Are you looking for ways to last longer during sex? Are you desperate to end the guilt and anxiety that come with premature ejaculation? Many guys have suffered the unfortunate event of having their relationships ended just because they are not able to sexually fulfill their women. As a result, there are men who decided not to have sex until they feel confident enough to perform better. Sounds like you too? Don’t fret – there is a way out.

The Double-Edged Sword Of Performance Anxiety

Most men would love to completely satisfy their women in bed. It always starts with good intentions: you want her to feel the sizzling passions you have for her; you want the moment to last an eternity, or at least until she comes to an orgasm; you wish you were the best lover she’s ever had.

Unfortunately this “self-inflicted pressure” will result in what you fear most – an early ejaculation that could occur as soon as sexual intercourse begins! If you are reading this, you probably have had that unfortunate label of being “trigger happy” where your ejaculation tendencies are concerned.

Enjoy The “Sensual Pleasures,” Not “Sexual Indulgence” Of Sex

There is a key difference between the two. Enjoying sensual pleasures involves focusing on giving your partner the sexual gratification that she deserves. It involves becoming fully aware of the suite of sensations that envelop your entire body, not just on your genitals.

Start thinking of sex as a full bodied experience that involves a slow, tender build up. Do not view sex as the all-encompassing element of a relationship. It is not. Sex is just one part of a healthy, stable and enduring relationship. Believe me, getting this paradigm right is one of the keys to curing premature ejaculation!

Practice Makes Perfect – Always!

Do not shy away from sex just because of your early ejaculation tendencies. Communicate with your partner that you want to overcome this, and tell her that her help will make this much easier for you, and for her too! As with any self-improvement endeavor, practice makes perfect.

Try to have sex as often as possible. Rather than shying away from it, take it by the horns and see every sex session as an opportunity to improve your sexual endurance and your sexual intimacy. Use these as opportunities to get to know your own sexual response cycles.

Above all, practice some simple maneuvers with her, such as varying your positions to reduce penile stimulation as well as understanding the types of movements and intensity that will lower her threshold for an orgasm.

What about using delay sprays and creams? Won’t they give men better stamina in the sack?

There are plenty of commercial solutions to help end your premature ejaculation problem. Nutraceuticals such as sprays or creams can be used to treat a hyper-sensitive penis. The reason most men climax too soon is because their minds are not hardwired to handle the intense sexual stimulation, thus pushing them over the edge before they even had a chance to rein in their ejaculatory reflexes and truly satisfy their partners.

But there is a downside to these commercial solutions. You need to religiously apply these whenever you want to make out. And they are known to numb the penis so that you feel LESS during sex.

Worst still, delay sprays and creams can rub off onto the vagina and causes your female partner to lose the sensations during intercourse too! Well, they are not ideal solutions but may serve as pretty reliable “quick-fixes” whenever you need one.

The bottom line is this – if you find yourself finishing too soon during sex, rest assured that premature ejaculation can be cured. Continue to maintain a positive outlook. With some effort and PRACTICE, things will soon sizzle up in the bedroom for both you and your lover!

Let’s face it. When it comes to sex, there is a whole myriad of issues and perhaps even insecurities that we as men would face in the bedroom. But perhaps nothing comes close to the proverbial question that most men have been asking for the longest time: how do I delay premature ejaculation during sex? Or simply – how can I last longer in bed?

For a woman, the ability to reach an orgasm quickly is almost a far-fetch fantasy. But for a guy, ejaculating too fast during sex is the bane that can cause even the strongest relationship to falter if the problem is not addressed.

But if you are not lasting beyond 4 minutes into sex, you are not alone. You have almost 40 percent of the male population behind you! And you are definitely not alone in wanting to find a solution so that you can last longer and enjoy better sex.

A Supercharged Sexual Arousal Is Detrimental To Your Sex Life

Many “premature ejaculators” can go from erection to ejaculation within one or two minutes. That is simply not enough time for a woman to be properly aroused. In fact, most women require at least 10 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to be able to achieve an orgasm! The problem with most men suffering from PE is over-stimulation. They simply allow the stimulation to go out of control until it is too late.

But First, You Have To Possess The Right Mindset If You Want To Last Longer

This is fundamentally important. It is not just about using the latest sprays, creams or ointments to give you superior sexual stamina. It is about adopting the right paradigm and attitude during sex that will separate you from rookies who ejaculate from the word “GO” and REAL men who can truly master their ejaculation almost on command.

Mind Over Body

We all know that the mind controls the body, and not the other way round. Guys who climax too soon allow their bodies to rule their minds. They let the sexual stimulation get too intense to the point that they cannot stem an impending orgasm, regardless of how they try to mentally distract themselves. When you reach the “point of no return” during sex, it is too late to rein in your ejaculation.

The Attitude You Should Adopt

Honesty is the best policy even when it comes to sex. You don’t have to feel guilty that you are not lasting long enough for her. You just got to be honest with her that you are climaxing too soon because she has turned you on so much, and you would love to return her the favor.

Women love men who have the courage to face up to their sexual inadequacies. Sex doesn’t have to end when you ejaculate! You can and SHOULD continue to give her sexual stimulation. Your penis isn’t exactly the only “tool” you have. In fact, most women hardly get an orgasm through penetrative sex.

One of the key “female orgasm instruments” is the clitoris, and because of direct penetrative movement during intercourse, very often the clitoris does not get sufficiently stimulated.

So go down on her if you like and stimulate her clitoris with your tongue (women love oral sex) and continue to romp her erogenous spots with your fingers. This exudes sexual confidence on your part; it shows you are in control… and this turns women on!

Believe me, having confidence is that the first crucial step to curing premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed. Be bold, and take that first step!

Every guy knows (or secretly admits) that he has shortcomings when it comes to sex. Maybe it’s the incapacity to make a girl climax, maybe it’s the fact that he gets off after just 2 minutes, or maybe it’s that he just can’t get it up long enough to please his girl. Whatever your sex-related problem is, other men have had worse.

But, there are certain ways to make sure you don’t run into “technical problems” when it’s time to perform.

Practice Holding Back Your Ejaculation

Just like everything else, practice makes perfect when it comes to developing enough sexual stamina to hold back your climax. You can practice alone or with your girlfriend (if she’s comfortable with just practicing).

The problem is that most guys will not “practice” long enough to really learn the skills. I can’t blame you. I, myself, want to learn the basics just once and be a sex expert the very next day. It’s like going to a fitness center one morning and expecting to have bulky muscles by dinner time. It’s not possible.

When you’re masturbating and you feel tension building, hold it all in and do breathing exercises. You can also interrupt your own climax by shifting your attention to other things. When you’re with your girlfriend, you can change sex positions or you can go back to foreplay.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are the most convenient way to strengthen your inner thigh muscles without letting everyone know you’re actually exercising. There are so many tutorials around on how to do Kegel exercises, but they all boil down to one thing… you have to exercise your pubococcygeus muscle (also known as your pelvic floor). Tighten this muscle a few times a day and reap the benefits when you’re on sex mode.

The main benefits of doing kegel exercises include getting rid of erectile dysfunction, getting a rockhard erection and being able to control your ejaculation.

Increase Your Strength

Do you have to be a body builder to have great sex? No, of course not. But you have to be able to lift a girl’s body when you’re doing it standing up, or when she wants you to try some exotic sex position in which you need to partially carry her.

Staying fit can benefit you in the bedroom. If you eat well, work out and maintain a healthy lifestyle, your circulation will stay in tip-top condition and you will not have to worry about erectile dysfunction caused by circulation problems.

Sharpen Your Imagination

Marathon sex can be physically and mentally draining. This means you need to train your mind as well as your body to bear the demands of a thirteen-hour sex session. Remember, your brain is your greatest sex organ. Don’t let it get desensitized. If you can keep thinking of kinky stuff even after a few hours, you can be sure that you won’t lose your erection, and you can continue to please your girl for as long as she likes.