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7 “Innocent” Words That Turn Women On

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And in this article, you’ll find out seven “seduction” words guaranteed to get a woman thinking about sex, how to use them and exactly what you need to say to make a woman wet her panties whenever you’re around. But first…

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Seduction isn’t all action – a lot of what’s involved in seducing a woman comes from what you say. What if you could whisper a few simple words into any woman’s ear and then have her look at you with a big smile, grab you by the belt and drag you to her bedroom? Yeah, that may be a slight exaggeration, but the right word at the right time will turn her on quicker than roses, candy or even a romantic dinner for two.

Here are seven “seduction” words guaranteed to get a woman thinking about sex!

“Wet”

These aren’t things you whisper into her ear by themselves. For example, if you lean over to your woman and say “wet,” she’s not going to instantly have an orgasm. That’s not realistic. However, if you’re making strong eye contact, flirting a bit, and then she drips a little bit when she takes a drink of water, you can say, “Oh baby, you’re so wet…”

And her mind will instantly go to sex. Why did it work so well? Because of three simple ways that the phrases must be used:

Indirectly. When you say “wet” you don’t want to say, “Wow baby, your panties must be so wet.” That’s just crude. However, if you say, “Baby, you’re so wet” after she came in from the rain, she’s going to respond to your flirting. This is because women’s minds are just as dirty as yours. So when she hears the word “wet,” she thinks about sex and her vagina being moist, just like you do. Even if it’s hidden in the conversation.

Timed Correctly. You want to use an innocent “seduction” word right after she does something that makes sense. Wet is the easiest example. Use it whenever she drips water from a glass, comes in from the rain, comes out of a pool or talks about some time she got wet in the past.

With The Right Tone You don’t want to bring attention to what you’re doing. Instead, you want it to seem like a regular part of your normal conversation. So use the steady, low voice tone you use when you’re chatting to her instead of ANY emphasis on the “seduction words.”

“Deep”

When should you use “deep” in conversation? Whenever you’re talking about feelings, emotions or anything physical. Here are a few examples:

  • When you’re talking about something exciting: “And how does that make you feel, deep inside?”
  • When you’re on a roller coaster: “I’m so excited. Can you feel your heart fluttering, deep inside you?”
  • When you’re planning a date: “I can’t wait to see how you feel, deep down.”

And when you’re about the meet a woman for the first time, one of the very best words is:

“Come”

Get your giggling out of the way, because “come” is one of the very best ones you can use. It has so many different uses and applications! For example:

  • When you’re waiting for her to come over: “I can’t wait for you to come..”
  • When you’re talking about a vacation: “It’s going to be so exciting when you come.”
  • When you’re talking to a woman about meeting up with you: “It’s OK baby, just come now.”

So you can see how each of those examples a “charge” of sex to it, yet it doesn’t set off any of her “horny” alarms. Another one of the most “under the radar” words to use is:

“Hard”

Obviously, you know what this one implies. And you know the ways comedians use it in bits. However, you may not know that “hard” is a quick way to make her imagine sex and unbuckling your belt. Which is one of the quickest ways to real life sex, even on the first date. So here’s how to use this “seduction” word:

  • When she’s teasing you: “You’re making it so hard, for me to resist you…”
  • When she’s making a tough decision – especially about coming home with you: “Baby, it’s so hard.”
  • When she’s talking about a challenging thing she’s doing: “Do you like it when it’s hard?”

And from here on out, these phrased get more and more blatant about sex, so you’ll want to use them when you’re really ramping up for sex.

“Eat/Mouth”

These are great for anything involving food or drink and because eating and drinking are so sensual by themselves, they pack a powerful punch. Here’s exactly how to use them:

  • When you’re feeding her food, tell her: “I wanna watch you eat it.”
  • Also, when you’re feeding her food, tell her: “Here, just put it in your mouth.”
  • If you’re eating something she finds gross, tell her: “No, don’t look away. I want you to watch me eat it.”

Do you see how the things you say can carry sexual tension? Try adding them to your conversations, to make your first date into something much more interesting.

“Inside”

This is the easiest “seduction” word to use, hands down. You can put it in, whenever you want – if you catch the drift. Here are a few examples:

  • If you’re going somewhere together, say: “Baby, I can’t wait to go inside, with you.”
  • If she says something that makes you happy: “You make me so happy. I feel warm inside when I’m around you.”
  • If a hostess at a restaurant asks where you’d like to sit, say: “I like it inside.”

“Dripping”

Paired with “wet,” this phrase is a sexual powerhouse. For example:

  • Say she’s eating and a little messy: “Baby, you’re dripping all over the place.”
  • If it’s raining, and she didn’t have an umbrella: “Look at you, you’re dripping wet…”
  • If you have ice cream, and it’s starting to melt: “Baby, you’re dripping all over yourself.”

So you see how you can use innocent “seduction” phrases to make any woman feel naughty, like having sex, around you. And you see how easy it is to toss these into any conversation you have. The real payoff comes when you finally use them on a woman you like.

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Guys Make When They Approach Women

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When you don’t know how to approach women the right way, you’re constantly missing out on opportunities. Very few guys understand how to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, interesting way that creates a compelling REASON for women to want to know them and take things further.

When you spot a hot girl, you can assume that the last 47 guys who attempted to approach her — whether it was at the bar, the supermarket, or on the street — sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her “force field” to go on high alert. At that point, she’s going to look for a reason to end the interaction as soon as possible.

She may indulge you with a few minutes of polite conversation and then blow you off gently (“It’s been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend…”), or she might shoot you down immediately (“Uh, I’ve got a boyfriend”). Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it’s very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere.

Don’t Make These Mistakes When You Approach Women

Here are the three deadliest mistakes that guys make when they approach women, and some tips on how to AVOID these traps and get the results you want.

Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Asking permission to talk to her

This means you must eliminate from your vocabulary phrases such as:

“Excuse me, may I know your name?”

“Hi, do you mind if I ask you something?”

“Can I buy you a drink?”

Opening a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. In her eyes, you are a random stranger and you WANT something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in.

Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you’ll expect in return: you’ll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When you offer to buy a drink for a woman you don’t even know, you’re basically attempting to bribe her into granting you some of her time.

Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Absolutely not. There’s a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it and it’s certainly not in the first 30 seconds.

One of the rules of effective conversation is for you to stay in control at all times. You maintain the “power position” and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to “invisibly” guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her passions, ambitions and talents) that she’d normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago.

This is when women begin to feel attraction, and you’re on your way to success.

The first key to maintaining this sense of power and control is NOT starting the conversation in a weak, uncertain manner. Asking permission is a surefire way to blow the conversation before it even begins. Don’t do it.

Deadly Approach Mistake #2: You must assume rapport.

When two people have “rapport” it means they’re comfortable with each other and have things in common. They vibe with each other in the manner of old friends — joking around, having fun, talking about topics of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview.

When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the “conversation” seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: “So what’s your name?” “Are you from around here?” “So what do you do for work?” He could be having this same conversation with his dentist!

On the other hand, the guy who is extremely good with women always assumes rapport. He doesn’t bother with the boring “getting to know you” questions. Right from the start, he’s joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination.

He makes her feel invested in the conversation, and she’ll want to show that she can keep up with him. Even in the first few minutes he’s showing her that he’s a fun, dynamic, interesting guy who leads an attractive lifestyle.

Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy.

Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to “open” her). Actually, what you follow up with is far more important — how you transition into the conversation and get it flowing.

From there, you’ll want to use techniques of mine such as Hypotheticals, Advanced Cold Reads, and Hooks & Ladders (my method for making sure the conversation NEVER runs out of steam).

After You Approach Women, What Comes Next?

In short, you’ve got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different “emotional buttons.” For example, building comfort is a crucial early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven’t made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important.

Next, once comfort has been established, you’ll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is “hard to get.” You’re going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they’re up to HER standards.)

Then comes the Escalation stage, and finally there is The Close. Depending on the circumstances, this could mean getting her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than ignoring your calls), or taking her home that night. So few guys understand how to “close” successfully.

Learning how to approach women and follow these steps means the difference between chatting with girls every time you go out but never sleeping with them – or seeing them again – and having the “rock star sex life” that most men can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with fun, beautiful women.

It means that literally anytime you leave your home – whether it’s to run errands, or to hit a bar or nightclub with your friends – you’ll look for opportunities to approach women and have fun interactions, instead of this being something you shy away from, or stress out about.

What Your Kiss Says About You

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Kissing is as unique as your fingerprint. What do your techniques reveal about YOUR personality?

Kissing is a part of every relationship. But what does your kiss really say about you? You can tell a lot about somebody by the way that they do it. What you do with your hands, if you keep your eyes open and how long you kiss your partner are all tells of your personality. When you are kissing your partner, you should be aware of how you come across. If you have no idea what it says about you, read on. Here is a guide on how kissing can reflect your personality.

Eyes

Do you kiss with your eyes open? Most people like to close their eyes when they are kissing. A simple peck on the lips with your boyfriend could be the exception. Pecks are often obligatory when leaving a situation or entering the home after a day of hard work. However, if you’re leaving your eyes open during sex or while you’re kissing for more than 5 seconds you could have trust issues. Kissing puts you into a vulnerable position. When you are kissing and you close your eyes, you are putting trust into your partner and the motions you are both making. If your boyfriend sees that your eyes are open during your kissing, they could think that you’re uncomfortable.

Hands

Your hands are an essential part of kissing. Although your lips do most of the work, your hands are a detail that cannot be ignored. If you keep your hands to yourself, you might come off as distant. If you put your hands on your boyfriend or husband’s waist, you probably come off as happy with the relationship. If you put your hands on his face, you display passion. Every guy wants their girlfriend or wife to be passionate about their relationship. When you don’t use your hands during kissing, you could come off as stale and uninterested. Use your hands the next time you are kissing your partner and you might find them to be more receptive.

Kissing Length

The length of your kiss is another aspect that can tell a lot about you. If you are just getting home or heading out for the day, a peck can be appropriate. If you’re lying in bed trying to get something going, a couple of seconds can show distance. When you are kissing your partner before intercourse, it should be longer than 10 seconds. Your boyfriend isn’t only interested in your lips, but kissing shows that you are passionate about a physical relationship with him. When you only do it for a couple of seconds before pulling away, he might think that he’s a bad kisser or that he has a rank mouth.

Distance

When you are kissing your boyfriend or husband, the distance between your two bodies can say a lot about you. This distance can actually show distance in the relationship. If you hug each other while you kiss, then you probably have great physical compatibility. You should be touching each others bodies when you do to show compliance. This means that you feel comfortable being close. If there is distance in the kiss, you might not be comfortable in the relationship. Your part will pick up on this wonder why your kissing feels like you’re just going through the motions.

Afterwards

The moments after a kiss can also say a lot about you. When you are done kissing, do you immediately turn away? Do you give him one more peck on the lips before you go about your business? Or do you look into his eyes as you pull away slowly? All of these are typical of kissing, but only one of them can show that you’re not comfortable with intimacy. Pulling away immediately after the kiss is a sign that you don’t feel comfortable enough with your partner to continue engaging in the act. He will definitely pick up on this wonder what the problem is. Be aware of this while you’re kissing and think about it after you have finished.

Kissing is a great way to show how much you love your guy. But when it shows your vulnerabilities or that you’re not happy with the relationship, your boyfriend or husband will start to wonder what needs improvement. If you really are happy with the relationship, be aware of the potential hazards that your kissing can impose. Make a conscious effort to avoid hazardous kissing movements before, during and after the kiss so you aren’t confusing your partner.

Advanced Kissing Tips

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Kissing is something you may think is basic, but you can create amazing sexual tension just by putting your mouth on hers – the right way. If you think you’ve mastered kissing tips and know everything there is to know about it, think again! Here’s how you can blow your lover’s mind and take it to the next level.

Take The Next Step In Kissing

Learn how to be both gentle and firm at the same time. Many guys think that they have to be either super soft or really wild, when the best kisses come from guys who know how to be both at the same time. Kiss your lover with a little bit of an urgency, like you have to do it right now. Start off a little firm to show your passion, then relax into softer, sweeter moves to convey how much you’re enjoying it.

Start integrating eye contact when kissing. Eye contact is one of the most powerful forms of body language, and it’s incredibly effective when used with a woman. Pull away for a few seconds while making out with your partner and gaze deeply into her eyes. Hold the eye contact for just a few seconds longer than is comfortable, and then go back to kissing.

Enjoy each step of kissing your partner. Don’t rush through it so you can have sex sooner, and don’t just kiss her for the sake of having sex with her. Make the an incredible activity all by itself, and if you don’t end up having sex afterwards, so be it. The kiss was great, after all!

Girls Like Variety

Learn a variety of kissing tips and techniques. Girls don’t necessarily like to do the same thing with a guy over and over – it gets old after awhile. Take some time to learn a variety of techniques, so you have something new to offer your partner every now and then. Experiment with new things and find out what works for you and your lover and what doesn’t!

Move around while kissing. Don’t just stay on her mouth the whole time – slide your lips down her neck and kiss her gently there, or gently nibble on her ear. Staying in one spot will not only make her mouth tired quickly, it’s also going to get boring pretty fast.

Make it a kiss to remember. Make it slow, soft, sensual and special. If you don’t end up having sex that night, make it so that she thinks about the kiss all night long and that’s all she has running through her mind.

Tease her. Remember that kissing is part of foreplay and you will create a ton of sexual tension if you tease your lover and make her want more. You don’t want to be the guy that overwhelms her and leaves her pulling away, gasping for breath. Always pull away first and make her want to come back for more.

The Importance Of Touch While Kissing

Touch her hair when you kiss. Start with a gentle caress and as you get more and more passionate, it can even progress into a light tug. The nerves in the scalp are extremely sensitive, and playing with her hair while you kiss or tugging it gently can send shivers down her spine.

When it feels right, run your hands over her body. Don’t assume that touching her body means going straight for her breasts or vagina! Run your hands over her arms, touch her cheek softly and gently caress her neck. Put your hand on her hip and draw her closer to you. Touch her in places that she wouldn’t expect a guy to touch – because let’s face it, she’s probably expecting you to head for her nether regions anyways.

Being Kissable

Make sure your lips and mouth aren’t too dry. Your lips should be soft and kissable, but also make sure that your lips and mouth aren’t too wet either. You definitely don’t want to go into a kiss with slippery, slimy lips and tongue.

Practice good oral hygiene – you may think this falls into the category of basic kissing tips, but you wouldn’t believe how many guys expect to kiss a girl right after they’ve had a plate of hot wings and a beer. Don’t do this! Freshen up before you move in. If you have to excuse yourself to the bathroom to get fresh, go for it. Brush your teeth, use lip balm and carry mints. Make sure that you’re fresh and ready to be kissed. She’ll not only appreciate it, but the kiss will be a lot better.

3 Kissing Tips That Will Drive Her Wild!

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Kissing is one of the best ways to turn a girl on – women love to kiss and it ignites their senses immediately. The same isn’t true for guys – they respond better to visual stimulation, such as porn. However, with a kiss, you allow a woman’s imagination to go wild, which will have her all over you in no time. Here’s how to kiss a girl and make her melt.

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Wait Until You Know That She Wants To Be Kissed

You don’t want to surprise a woman with a kiss when she’s not ready, because it can totally backfire and depending on the woman’s mood, it could ruin the whole evening. You want to feel the situation out first and make sure you’re fairly confident that she wants to be kissed before you actually head in for the smooch.

To find out if she’s really ready for you to make the next move, get in your girl’s space while flirting. Move in closer to your girl and touch your lady’s hand or arm softly. How does she respond? If she seems to like it, that’s your cue to continue. Move in closer and closer, touching your girl’s arm and then moving to brush the hair out of her face and touch her cheek softly. If you get a good response to all of these maneuvers, you can be pretty confident that she’s ready for a kiss.

Knowing When She Doesn’t Want To Be Kissed

Making a kiss absolutely perfect is all about having the right timing. Timing is everything when it comes to seducing a woman. You don’t want to do it when she’s not responding well to your advances, because that usually means that  she’s just not in the mood. That’s the whole purpose of feeling your woman out to begin with – because if she’s not into what you’re doing, it’s better if you stop and simply try again another time.

If she doesn’t seem into it, it doesn’t mean that she’s not into YOU – in fact, quite the opposite may be true. If she doesn’t want you to make a move now, she may still be into it later. Pay attention to your girl’s body language and cues. She’ll let you know when she’s ready.

Start Slowly And Gently

If she seems ready for kissing, it’s important that you start slowly and gently, and work your way into building it up into something more passionate. You don’t want to start off with tongue right away – even if she’s ready for a kiss, if you plow into your woman with your mouth right off the bat, you’re going to turn her off immediately and probably cause her to shut down for the rest of the night.

Pay attention to the kissing tips you’ve heard before and be aware of introducing tongue too early or using too much tongue. Some girls don’t even like tongue during kissing, so make sure you’re paying attention to your girl’s responses to each move that you make. If she backs off a little or seems uninterested in what you’re doing, switch it up and do something a little different. Backtrack a little and start kissing more softly if you were escalating too fast.

Slowly Escalate To More Passionate Kissing

If she seems into what you’re doing, that’s your cue to take it to the next level. Just like how foreplay is important for sex, slowly building up the kiss is important when you’re making out with a woman. If she keeps responding to your advances though, you know that you’re okay to kick it up a notch.

Start slowly bringing your hands up to cradle your lady’s face or place them on her hips to draw her body close to you. Gently move your lips down to the chin and lightly kiss your girl’s neck. You can also gently nibble the ear before moving up to put your lips on hers again. If you’re moving at the right pace, you might end up seducing your girl into having sex with you! However, if you go too fast, you’re bound to turn your woman off before you can even understand what happened.

Always Start From Scratch

Each time you go to kiss a woman – even if you’ve done it hundreds of times before – you want to start from scratch. Don’t assume that because you guys had an intense make out session last week that you can jump right back in where you left off. Even in long term relationships, you want to approach a girl like you’ve never kissed her before and take steps to make sure that she is ready.