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6 Types Of Sex You Need To Try – Tonight!

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Sex can of course get boring. It’s a natural, albeit frustrating progression of long term relationships. But does being in a committed, monogamous relationship and doing it with the same person again and again mean that you’re stuck with boring sex for the rest of your life? Not hardly! Check out these six different kinds that will turn up the heat in the bedroom – or elsewhere. Each type is amazing and satisfying in its own way – try one out with your partner tonight!

Animal Sex

There’s just something special about the “I want you right now!” kind of nookie. When you do it like the animals do, you forget about everything else except “doing it.” Every once in awhile, throw down everything that you’re doing, no matter what it is, and just have do it with your lover right then and there. Bend your partner over the stove while she’s cooking, or do it over the washer while she’s washing clothes. Let your partner know that you have to have them right now or you’re just going to bust! Bonus points if you do this with oral sex instead of penetration.

Chicken Soup Sex

When you or your partner had a bad day at work or are feeling down about something, the right kind of nookie can be just like a bowl of chicken soup. Warm and comforting, it’s just what you want right when you want it. With this type, you want to use the sex positions that are most comfortable for you and your partner. If missionary is what you both like, don’t worry that it’s considered “boring.” Don’t worry about trying something new, “spicing it up” or looking a certain way during the deed. Just do what you’re comfortable with and what feels good.

Make Up Sex

Make up sex can be some of the best you or your partner have ever had. After an especially big fight (or even a little tiff if you feel like it), start kissing your lover deeply and passionately. When they kiss you back, make a move to start taking off their clothes. Like chicken soup sex, it can make you feel better when you’re down because of a fight you and your partner just had. This type of nookie also has a way of making everything seem like the fight never happened, especially when you’re basking in the glow of an amazing orgasm.

Quickie Sex

There’s nothing like an amazing quickie. Just when you think you don’t have time to do the dirty deed, your partner surprises you by taking advantage of the situation and reaching climax in record time. While many couples in long term relationships get “tired” of having quickies, having a quickie is actually a great way to get the desire for pleasure out of your system in a short amount of time. Whether you’re in the back of the car on a pit stop during a road trip or have to do it fast before the kids get home from school, the quickie is great – just in a shorter amount of time.

Public Sex

There’s very little out there that will give you the adrenaline rush that public sex will. This will usually involve a quickie, but doing it in public is very different than just having a quickie in your house. The fear of getting caught or being watched by other people while you do it is an amazing turn on for both you and your partner, and it is a great way to spice up your life. Don’t do it anywhere that you could get caught and have permanent repercussions for you, such as losing your job or getting arrested.

Marathon Sex

If you have a day off without kids in the house – for example, if you’re snowed in – it’s the perfect time to set up a little sex marathon for you and your partner to engage in. Instead of trying to do it as quick as you can, try to last as long as you can. Try going through all of the different positions you know, or breaking the record of how many orgasms you can give your partner in a row. You can prolong it by switching between oral sex, foreplay and penetration, or you can take small breaks in between several sessions. Don’t stop until you’re both completely exhausted and satisfied!

How To Turn On Your Girl Without Touching Her

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You’ve read about foreplay and how to sex manuals before and you just haven’t found the right way to make your woman want you like never before. That’s about to change! You can make your partner want to have sex with you right now, if you use these four little know foreplay tips.

In fact, you’ll get her wetter than you ever have before without even laying your hands on her.

Leave Your Scent On Her Pillow

Your scent is what will really drive her crazy and get her more turned on than she’s ever been in her life. Your scent is actually what drew her to you in the first place, even if it was subconsciously. We’re not talking about your favorite cologne here, however, your cologne can actually play a part in how hot your smell makes your lover.

What makes your partner instantly turned on by you are your pheromones – the special hormones that are secreted by you in your sweat and on your skin. Each person’s pheromones are different, so you can be assured that it’s your smell that she’s so crazy about. Add a hint of cologne to your natural “man” smell and she’ll be head over heels in no time – or is that heels over head?

To make her horny before you even lay your hands on her, switch pillows with her for a night or two. Sleep with her pillow and don’t be afraid to put it under your arm and snuggle up with it. Get as much of your scent on her pillow as you can. The next night she sleeps with it, you’re definitely going to get some.

Compliment Her

Every woman loves getting complimented by a man, especially if it’s her man. While telling her that she looks great may seem like a straightforward compliment, it’s not going to get you laid in and of itself. In fact, a compliment like that won’t even make her horny and want to have sex with you. However, if you choose the right compliment, she will want to do it with you without you even having to make a move on her.

Instead of saying something about how she looks or what she’s wearing, say something about how hard she works or how much her skills amaze you. Talk about how great her cooking is or how awesome she is at her job. Compliment something that she’s really worked hard for and you’ll be in the sack with her before you know it.

Master The Smoldering Look

There’s a reason that there are so many movies out there with “brooding” male characters that make every woman swoon.  Many sexy actors can pull off the “smoldering” look that will make a woman instantly melt and be absolutely powerless against you and your advances. There’s no better foreplay technique.

However, if you get the smoldering look right, you’ll probably have your woman throwing herself at you before you can even get your pants unzipped. Believe it or not, this tip in and of itself is one of the most powerful ways to get her hot and bothered, even more so than dirty talk or any other sex tip out there!

When you’re by yourself one night, rent a few of the popular movies that all the women are talking about. Check out the way the guys in the movie look at the women – almost like their feelings for the woman are so powerful and overwhelming, they’re almost painful. Stand in front of the mirror and practice the look – once you feel comfortable doing it, give your lovely lady the same look. Watch as she melts right before your eyes!

Do Something “Manly” For Your Girl

Since the women’s rights movement, the amount of “manly things” that men do and women don’t has decreased. Now women are mowing the lawns and men are cooking dinner, as well as doing other role reversed activities. Sure, a woman can fix a toilet or a garbage disposal. She can mow the lawn, put oil in the car and do anything else you can. But does she want to? Not hardly!

You can actually turn her on by stepping up and doing something “manly” for her. Don’t insist that she can’t do it or take the task from her because you can do it “right” or better than she can. This attitude will backfire in your face! Instead, you’re going to beat her to the punch and do something manly for her before she can even think about it needing to be done. Fill her car with gas in the morning before she wakes up to get ready for work, or have the water drip in the bathroom fixed before she comes home.

Bonus points if she comes home to a shirtless man in grease covered jeans with a wrench in his hand. You might just find that the wrench doubles as a sex toy and that your jeans didn’t stay on very long.

Going To A Sex Party – 5 Things You Need To Know

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So you’re interested in checking out a sex party, but aren’t quite sure how to get started. Fortunately for you, there are underground sex parties just about everywhere, especially in larger cities. Because of health codes, laws and regulations, most sex parties are “roaming” and move from place to place – often from someone’s posh pad to another. If you want to attend a sex party but aren’t sure how to get to one – and what to do once you’re there – check out these simple but essential rules that will help get you started.

Scoring An Invite

An invitation to a swinging get together or sex party isn’t something you’re going to get in the mail. Since most of these groups meet secretly, they’re considered “underground” and usually invites are given simply by word of mouth. Therefore, to get into a sex party – especially a top notch, elite one – you’re going to have to be connected. Invites to the sex party are given by the hosts to certain people, and they in turn invite people that they think would be a good addition. However, not everyone that hears about the get together are able to invite people. Since it only takes one jackass to ruin a great sex party, invitations are issued discerningly. Score your invite by getting out there and befriending people that are likely to be into that scene.

Condoms Are A Must

At a sex party, condoms are an absolute must. Of course if you and your partner are “watching only” and simply participating in sex with each other, that’s a different story. However, if you plan to be having sex with anyone else at the shindig, bring your own protection. A good host will have a “grab bag” of latex and polyurethane goodies that can be passed around, but depending on the type of get together you’re going to, they may not. It’s better to be safe than sorry, so slip a few condoms in your purse before you leave. Don’t expect to have sex with anyone else there without the proper protection.

Alcohol Is At The Discretion Of The Host

Depending on the type of sex party you’re going to and the preferences of the host, there may or may not be alcohol available. Hosts that have been jaded in the past by a drunk that ruined the shindig (because it only takes one) will most likely keep it alcohol free. Some hosts will provide alcohol for a steeper cover charge, or they will allow guests to bring their own and have a bartender there to serve it. Make sure you’re fully aware of the alcohol policy before you go, lest you bring a bottle of wine to an alcohol free party or end up alcohol-less when everyone else has something to ease their jitters.

Everything Must Be Consensual

Remember the golden rule about sex – anything that goes on between consenting adults is all in good fun as long as no one gets hurt. While there may be some questionably painful BDSM going on at your chosen shindig, it is usually okay as long as everyone involved in the activity consents to what is going on. If you’re not into something in particular, like anal sex, make sure you gravitate more towards others who are taking part in activities that you are more comfortable with. Don’t judge, because nobody at a sex party wants someone around who will look down on them for what they’re doing. On the same token, remember that anything you want to do with someone else must be agreed upon beforehand – even if it’s something as simple as giving them a slap on the rear.

Single Guys Are Usually Not Allowed

Many sex parties and sex clubs require that men come accompanied by women and single guys looking to hook up just aren’t welcome. Single guys who want to get into the sex party scene can come with a friend of theirs that is a girl, as long as they appear to be a couple and are comfortable with having sex with each other and other people. Guys, of course, must be on their best behavior and any guy that is being lewd or rude is going to get the boot – and his girl will end up outside with him. Single women, however, are almost always welcomed at these kinds of get togethers, because many couples are looking for a single woman to join the fun. Just remember that the cardinal rule of all sex parties is this: be safe, polite and have fun.

7 Unforgettable Sex Tips

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Having sex with your partner can be “blah” or it can be absolutely incredible. Problem is, it’s easy to slip into a rut and not so easy to dig yourself out. With a little patience, some effort and reinventing your outlook on sex, you can turn the tables on your life and make it better than it ever has been before. Check out these seven amazing tips that will knock your socks off!

Roleplay

Turn the heat in the bedroom up a notch with a little roleplay action. Ever get off on the teacher/student fantasy or the french maid costume? Tell your partner about your dress up fantasies and have them play along. You can both dress up for each other, or have one partner dress up and the other enjoy the show. Just make sure that both you and your lover get to express your fantasies to each other and act them out so you are both turned on!

Lower Your Expectations

Many guys – and girls – have high expectations of what it should be and how it will turn out. Some girls expect their man to give them an orgasm (without any help at all) and if he doesn’t blow her mind immediately, the game is over for her. On the other hand, some guys expect not to have to give a woman an orgasm at all – that she will be more focused on getting him off than her own pleasure. If you want to have better sex, lower your expectations a little bit. It doesn’t always end in orgasm (but good for you if it does) and it’s all about having fun with your partner and enjoying each other’s bodies.

Take Turns Taking Control

If you and your lover are used to having “blah” sex where one or both of you says, “Ok, we’ll do whatever you want to do” or “I guess we could do that if you want to,” it’s time to either grab the reins or give them up and take turns taking control in the bedroom. Let your partner decide what you’re going to do that night, whether it’s oral sex, anal sex or a new position, and then let him do whatever he wants that night while you play along. Make sure you get to be in control another night, where everything goes your way!

Set Up The Perfect Atmosphere

Believe it or not, the atmosphere of the bedroom (or living room, or wherever else you’re doing it) plays a big part in how great it really is that night. For example, shower sex is super hot, but try doing it with your kids’ soaking wet Barbie dolls at your feet or stuck in other less desirable parts of your body. The mood instantly dissipated, didn’t it? Instead, try setting up some candles, soft music and incense or scented oil in your partner’s favorite scent. It may sound cliche, but it will make a big difference, guaranteed.

Break Your Boundaries

Tired of doing the same old thing every time you and your lover get it on? Try breaking your boundaries and doing something new that neither you nor your partner have ever done before. You don’t have to go crazy and try something that is totally out there – like BDSM – but you can and probably should go a little bit outside your comfort zone. Try a new position or incorporate a toy. Start small and introduce something that is a little different from what you normally do but not something that is going to freak you or your partner out.

Don’t Put On The Pressure

Pressuring your partner to have an orgasm will likely backfire in your face. Even if you’re giving her oral, licking her clitoris, fingering her and doing everything you can to bring her to climax, if it’s not happening then it’s not happening. The same goes for you. If you’re realizing that it’s going to take you an hour or more to have an orgasm, move on to something else and just have fun with it! The chances are, an orgasm will come much more easily later and will most likely be better than if you forced it!

Flirt A Little – With Someone Else

You wouldn’t believe at how much a little harmless flirting – with someone else – can spice up your life with your partner. When someone who isn’t your partner flirts with you, even if it doesn’t go anywhere, your ego is boosted and you instantly feel more attractive. Channel these awesome feelings into sex with your partner and watch it go from “blah” to explosive!

The “Deep Spot” Orgasm Technique

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An orgasm is pretty much the holy grail of sex for both men and women. While many people have sex without aiming for an orgasm just to “do it,” most of the time, an orgasm is the goal and end result of sexual activity. That said, giving an orgasm is an incredibly personal and intimate thing. Whether you’ve tried and failed to give your partner a climax or have done so in numerous different ways and are looking to spice it up, this sex tip will add something new to your sexual arsenal.

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Step One: Go As Far In As Possible

Insert your fingers into your partner’s vagina as far in as possible. The g-spot is located on the top wall of her vagina about 2 inches in, but you’re going to push your fingers in even further than that. Push them in until they won’t go any further and until your fingers are in her vagina as much as possible. While this won’t feel any different to you than the rest of her vaginal canal, you will know when you hit the right area because you’ll meet a lot of resistance and your fingers and hand won’t go in any further. While you can use one finger for a virgin or a woman that is extremely small or tight down there, two fingers or more are best for this intense technique. One finger may not apply enough pressure for an experienced woman.

Step Two: Add Pressure And The “Come Hither” Motion

Once you’ve pushed your fingers in all the way, curl them upwards in a “come hither” motion. This is the same motion you would use if you were aiming to stimulate your lover’s g-spot. Add some firm pressure (this is not the time to tickle lightly) and move your fingers forward and backwards. Pay attention to your partner’s body language and what movements she is responding to. If she pushes against you harder and grinds herself against your hand, it’s a pretty safe bet that she’s enjoying it and wouldn’t mind you to do it a little harder. If you notice that she’s backing away or isn’t making much noise, she may be in discomfort or pain and be afraid to tell you she doesn’t like it. Let your girl’s body language dictate your next moves.

Step Three: Add Oral Sex (Optional)

Once you’ve gotten the fingering down pat, you can stimulate your lover’s clitoris with your tongue and give her oral sex. While this isn’t always necessary to give her the orgasm, it will add to her pleasure and may even give her a blended orgasm! Some women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm at all, so if your partner seems to be grinding her pubic area and clitoris against your hand or starts masturbating herself, you know it’s time to put your tongue into play.

Use Lots Of Lube And Foreplay

Don’t forget to start with a great deal of foreplay and use lots and lots of water based lube. Silicone lube will work fine too, but it is harder to wash off and your lover may not be able to get her vaginal canal completely clean afterwards. Water based lube is inexpensive, easy to use and rinse off and is available just about anywhere including drugstores and grocery or superstores. It’s important to use foreplay to warm her up before you start, because inserting your fingers inside her may be uncomfortable or painful if she’s not adequately aroused. Lube will also help keep things comfortable for both you and your partner, because even if she’s completely turned on and begging for more, she may not produce enough natural lubrication to help things go smoothly.

If It Hurts, Stop!

While this may seem like a no-brainer, you wouldn’t believe how many people continue doing a certain activity even if it hurts or causes extreme discomfort. Sex should be fun and exciting, and certainly shouldn’t hurt or feel bad in any way (unless you dig that sort of thing). Before you begin, let your partner know that it is ok to tell you if it hurts or if she wants you to stop. Tell her that it’s also ok to let you know what feels good and what doesn’t – and what she’d like you to do next. While great sex doesn’t always come naturally and must be learned in a lot of cases, nothing can replace good communication between two partners when it comes to sex.