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Why Every Girl Needs Her Own Sex Toy

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Believe it or not, many girls don’t own a sex toy. Some girls own sex toys that they use only with their partners, but many others don’t have a sex toy for their own personal use at all! Some women have never even tried masturbation alone! Sex toys can greatly improve the quality, frequency and intensity of a woman’s orgasms both with the sex toy and without it when having sex with a partner. There are also many other benefits to using a sex toy, so here’s why every girl needs her very own!

Sex Toys And Masturbation Make Orgasms Better

If you’ve never had an orgasm before, or your orgasms are few and far between when having sex with your partner, it’s time to invest in a great sex toy. This is especially true if you’ve never masturbated before! If you’re using a sex toy during masturbation, you will find that your orgasms come more frequently, as well as being more powerful and intense. Masturbation, even without a sex toy, helps to train your body to experience pleasure and reach orgasm without the stress and pressure of trying to reach climax with your partner. Many women who have never had an orgasm before aren’t ever going to reach their first orgasm in front of their partners because the stress and pressure to perform is just too much. Female masturbation can help a woman find her body’s own pleasure buttons without feeling like she’s being watched or being expected to reach climax. When a woman gives herself time to explore her body on her own with a sex toy, she is more likely to reach orgasm – and it’s probable that her orgasm will be absolutely incredible!

Why Your Partner Will Love Your New Sex Toy

When a woman masturbates, she learns more about how her body works and how she likes to recieve pleasure. This is excellent information that she can pass on to her partner! Women who have never masturbated or used a sex toy before have absolutely no idea what they like best sexually or what will bring them to climax. They don’t know how they like to be touched or even what feels good! How can a man know what a woman wants or likes if she doesn’t even know herself? Women who don’t masturbate essentially send their partners into sex blind, and they can only guess how she wants to be pleased. When she doesn’t reach orgasm (how could she?) he ends up feeling like he has failed her in some way, even though he tried his very best. Even guys who know just about everything there is to know about a female orgasm may not be able to make his girl reach climax if she’s never masturbated before. When a woman masturbates, however – especially if she uses a sex toy – she’ll learn about what she likes and how she likes it. She’ll show her partner her new discoveries and he’ll be inspired to use the same techniques to give her an orgasm during sex! So while many women believe that masturbating alone and using a sex toy is detrimental to their sexual relationship with their partners, quite the opposite is true. Using a sex toy and masturbating on your own will actually help make your sex life with your partner even hotter!

Which Sex Toy To Choose?

Of course, your first time sex toy shopping is going to seem a little overwhelming. There are so many different toys to choose from that offer so many different types of sensations. It’s easy to get lost or confused when selecting your first sex toy. There are, however, a few simple guidelines you can use to help narrow down the selection. You definitely don’t want to choose a giant double ended dildo, anal beads or anything of that nature. If you want to go for vaginal penetration, choose a sleek, slim dildo or vibrator instead. If you want to go for clitoral stimulation only, select a vibrator that is made specifically to be used on the clitoris only. While many people claim that getting used to using a vibrator to reach orgasm will train your body to only be able to reach climax with vibration, sporadic use can actually help you learn how your body goes through the stages of pleasure and orgasm. If you’re not sure whether you want to go with a vibrator or not, try getting a small, inexpensive toy that vibrates and one that doesn’t. That way, you can find out for yourself which one you like the best.

Sex Positions: 3 Ways To Sixty-Nine Your Partner

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While there are lots of different sex positions you can use to give your partner great oral sex, the sixty-nine position is the favorite of many couples. Why is that? One of the greatest things about oral sex is that you’re giving your partner a gift for them to enjoy and for them to enjoy alone. However, the sixty-nine position allows both partners to recieve oral sex at the same time and experience levels of pleasure that can’t be reached when one partner is performing oral sex on the other. Here are 3 ways to get it on in the sixty-nine position so you and your partner can experience the pleasure of receiving and giving oral sex together.

Traditional Sixty-Nine

In the traditional sixty-nine position, the woman is on top with her vulva positioned over her partner’s face as he’s lying on the bed, while positioning her own face over her partner’s penis. Her legs will be beside his head, while his legs are stretched out on the bed in front of her. This is one of the easiest ways to sixty-nine with your partner, because usually the woman is smaller and lighter in weight than the man and it is more comfortable for her to be on top. Another benefit to the traditional sixty-nine position is that the woman’s head is not restrained at all and she has full freedom of movement when giving her partner a blowjob. She can slide her mouth up and down her partner’s penis without having to fight with the bed to move her neck. This position also allows her to press her vulva into her partner’s mouth as she becomes more aroused, and both partners can easily rock back and forth as they get closer and closer to orgasm.

Inverted Sixty-Nine

This oral sex position allows the man to be on top while the woman lies underneath her partner. This position is a little more difficult than the traditional sixty-nine position, but may work better for women who are larger or men who are more comfortable on top. This position will allow the man to thrust his penis into his partner’s mouth as he licks her clitoris, however, this can be a bit difficult for the woman if she has a strong gag reflex or hasn’t deep throated before. It can also be difficult for the woman to breathe while she’s giving her partner head, because often a man’s scrotum will rest right over the woman’s nose. She may need to use one hand to hold her partner’s scrotum out of the way so she can breathe. If you and your partner want to try sixty-nining with him on top, make sure you have a non-verbal signal (such as a strong pinch or slap) that will let him know that she is having trouble breathing or gagging. Agree beforehand that if she uses the signal, he must stop right away.

Sideways Sixty-Nine

The sideways sixty-nine sex position is probably the easiest position to use for simultaneous cunnilingus and fellatio. Instead of one partner being on top of the other, both partners are lying on their sides while giving and receiving oral sex. This can be much more comfortable for both the man and the woman than other sixty-nine sex positions, because one partner doesn’t have to have the weight of the other on top of them. The sideways sixty-nine still allows each partner to fully reach their partner’s genitals and both partners will have plenty of room to move around and pleasure each other orally. Make each other even more comfortable by placing a pillow under each of your heads, so you and your partner can sixty-nine all night long!

Simultaneous Orgasms

Going down on each other at the same time, no matter which position your in is a great way to connect with your partner physically and emotionally. It will also help open up the opportunity for you to experience a simultaneous orgasm with your partner. It’s easy – if one partner is getting too close to orgasm, they can continue giving their partner oral sex while their partner goes slower or stops giving them head until they catch up. If you have never experienced a simultaneous orgasm with your partner and have tried doing so through intercourse without success, you can definitely increase your chances of having an orgasm together through sixty-nining in any position. However, to make sure that both partners get pleasure out of sixty-nining, each partner must be comfortable. Try a new sixty-nine position if one isn’t comfortable enough to allow you or your partner to recieve pleasure.

How To Give An Orgasm To A Girl Who Doesn’t Like Clitoral Stimulation

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All the women you asked (or went out with) told you that the clitoris is the magic button that you need to knead and fondle if you want any girl to have an orgasm. But what if the woman you’re dating now doesn’t like clitoral stimulation? You must think something’s wrong with her brain but it’s a fact that a lot of ladies out there are too “clitorally sensitive“ to like the sensation of clitoral stimulation. For these women, they feel more pain than pleasure when the clitoris is rubbed, touched or licked.

So, what can you do? Here are some suggestions…

Stimulate Her Nipples During Penetration

The purpose of clitoral stimulation during penetration is to give a woman another variation of sexual pleasure on top of the sensation of being entered. But the clitoris is not the only place that’s susceptible to touching during sex.

There’s another part of her body that’s within reach during sex, her nipples. You can touch or lick her nipples while she’s on top, or you can touch them when you’re in doggy mode or missionary. Remember that a woman likes it when you lick her nipples during foreplay and she might even have a short orgasm called a “nip-gasm” (a burst of sensation during nipple stimulation) if you do it right. That sensation, when added to the sensation she feels while you’re penetrating her will send her reeling.

Watch Her Masturbate

Female masturbation is very different for a woman that doesn’t like clitoral stimulation as compared to masturbation for a woman who depends on clitoral stimulation to climax. Face the mirror while you’re penetrating her from behind and watch how she touches herself down there. Moreover, learn from what you observe. Some women dislike touching the clitoris directly because of sensitivity issues, but they may touch other parts.

Some women would gently pinch the cheeks of the outer lips (labia majora) inward to rub against each other in a rhythmic manner. This is a logical way to stimulate the clitoris without touching it directly. Some women may press their whole palm on the mound or just below the abdomen when penetration starts to induce indirect clitoral pressure. Or she may use a dildo or vibrator to access her g-spot instead of her clitoris. Observe her and get a clue. Then, on your next round, you can do it for her.

Remember that not all women are into clitoral stimulation. Although, the majority of women like it, there may be some women who don’t. The thing is, it’s not something you can just ask outright over dinner. You have to tread lightly during foreplay and observe her reaction when your fingers find their way to her clitoris. The good old formula of “touch her clitoris” may work most of the time, but you need a plan B just in case the girl is not into that.

5 Things You Didn’t Know About Cunnilingus

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Cunnilingus is the “fancy” term for giving a woman head. It may not always be your favourite sex chore (like some women don’t like blowjobs), but it’s a worthwhile skill to learn if you want to satisfy your partner. Women expect men to go down on them during sex. And, cunnilingus has often become the only way for some women to orgasm even before actual sex.

Are Women Able To Orgasm During Cunnilingus?

Yes. Although the chance of orgasm via cunnilingus is still dependent on the man’s skill, most women can climax when they’re being eaten out compared to penetration. This has a lot to do with the way their clitoris get more attention via cunnilingus.

Is It Necessary To Touch The Clitoris When I’m Giving Her Head?

Yes. The clitoris is one of the major factors that contribute to a woman’s pleasure. But how you touch it matters. Some women have a totally exposed clitoris, especially during full arousal. It may be painful for the woman if her clitoris is rubbed directly by a dry finger so what you need to do is to lubricate your hands before you touch her there. If you’re using your tongue, make sure you start licking around her clitoris until she’s used to the sensation before licking the pink tip directly.

I Like It When A Woman Nibbles Lightly On My Member During A Blowjob, Is It The Same For Women?

Unfortunately for the natural nibblers out there, the clitoris is more sensitive than the penis and any grazing of teeth will make it sore and then numb. The penis is often exposed to fabric and the air (when you go to the bathroom to urinate), which contributes to the slight desensitization that continues daily for men. A woman’s clitoris, however, is hidden from view and protected by plump skin for protection. Exposing it to too much sensation, like biting, will only result in pain.

Do All Women Smell Down There?

A woman’s scent down there takes some getting used to, and there are a lot of men who have been traumatized by their first oral sex experience because they are not ready for the smell. Don’t immediately assume that her hygiene is poor if she smells down there, as her diet and a lot of other factors affect her chemical make up.

Some women have a more pleasant smell down there especially if they washed well before jumping into bed with you. But there is still a certain musky odor that no soap or fragrance can mask, because most of the odor comes from the love juice that spews out of her as she gets progressively aroused.

How Do I Deal With The Smell?

You can lessen the exposure to the smell by letting your fingers take charge of her vaginal hole and keeping your mouth on her clitoris. But the best solution is to suggest that you shower together so you can eat her out under running water if the smell is too overwhelming for you.

Men And Porn – What’s The Big Deal?

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Men are very visual creatures, not least of all when it comes to sex. Walk down a crowded street, and you’ll likely see at least one guy overtly checking out an attractive woman. So overcome is he at the mere sight of her, that he’s forgotten how to be subtle. If a man can be dumbfounded at the sight of a fully-clothed woman, it should be no surprise that men love looking at naked women. Boy, do they—thanks in great part to the male love of watching attractive, nude women doing sexy things, the porn industry generates well over an estimated $10 billion a year in the U.S. alone (“Porn in the U.S.A.” by R. Leung, 60 Minutes online). It’s safe to say that, if they’re pulling in that kind of money on an annual basis, there are a whole lot of men partaking in porn viewership. But why do they do it, and how can you tell if their viewing habits are normal or not?

The Real Reason Men Like Porn

Some women are completely comfortable with their significant other’s porn consumption, but many are not. Oftentimes, women feel that their boyfriend or spouse must not be satisfied with their sex lives at home if they also want to view porn. The truth is that the vast majority of men who watch pornography aren’t doing it for any of those reasons. It doesn’t reflect on their love for their partner or how happy they are about the sex they’re having at home. They just enjoy the novelty and fantasy of it. Porn is like a dirty dream that doesn’t require your subconscious to do any work. Plus, as mentioned above, men are so visual when it comes to arousal that it helps them to have actual images to view. Perhaps women aren’t as into porn as men because they’re better at inventing their own fantasies. Girls can close their eyes and imagine a sexy situation involving themselves, but men need to see something right out in front of them.

Is Your Sex Life Suffering?

Ultimately, there’s nothing wrong with a guy who enjoys porn. You should only be worried if your sex life is suffering. If your boyfriend or husband can’t become aroused without watching porn, or he hardly ever wants to have sex with you but is regularly masturbating to porn, you need to have a talk. But if he wants to use porn every once and awhile, and it isn’t diminishing the quality of the sex you two are having, then more power to him. Perhaps you should even try watching some porn with him—who knows? You might find some ideas worth experimenting with in your own bedroom.

Women Like Porn Too!

In fact, despite the stereotype that men love porn and women don’t, many members of the fairer sex have enjoyed their share. In a recent Glamour Magazine column by Rebecca Webber (entitled “Are You Normal About Porn?”), the author revealed that 31% of young women have viewed porn within the past year, and 51% of women have watched pornography with their boyfriend. Though they also noted that 31% of women consider porn degrading, the numbers show that many women are either curious about or enjoying pornography. In fact, 47% of women reported liking porn featuring a man and a woman. Only 20% enjoyed less vanilla sex, so men take note—if you want to bring porn into your bedroom, start with something a little less adventurous. Try to get your partner’s input– that way you’ll pick material that will turn her on, too.