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How To Achieve Simultaneous Orgasm

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Simultaneous orgasm is sometimes considered the “holy grail” of sex, because it can be difficult to achieve but absolutely amazing when you do. Having an orgasm together during sex will bring you and your partner closer together physically (and make you hotter for each other) as well as deepen and strengthen the emotional bond you have with each other as well. While many people think that simultaneous orgasm just happens and if it does, you’re lucky, there are actually quite a few things you can do to help you and your partner reach orgasm together. Here’s how.

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Recognize The Opportunity

A lot of times, couples fail to have an orgasm at the same time because they don’t realize that the opportunity is there. He may not know that she is close to orgasm, especially if it has taken a while for her to get there, or she may not realize that he’s close too. They may miss having an orgasm together by just minutes or seconds, and often they may have their orgasms just one right after the other. Instead of focusing so much on trying to make a simultaneous orgasm happen, focus more on recognizing the signs that she’s close so you can release when she does. When a woman is close to having an orgasm, her muscles will bunch up, her breathing will get faster and her chest will get flushed. When you realize that she is about to go over the edge, allow yourself to “catch up” with her so you can go over the edge too.

Match Her Pace

It can take a lot longer for a woman to reach orgasm through intercourse than a man, so it’s important that if you want to achieve a simultaneous orgasm that you match your partner’s pace and keep your orgasm at bay until she reaches the brink. Go slower and let her be on top. Having her on top allows her to control the pace herself, as well as helping her to control her orgasm. This also takes the control away from you, allowing you to concentrate more on holding out and keeping yourself from ejaculating too quickly. If you struggle with having enough stamina to keep up with your partner, use foreplay techniques to get her warmed up before you even begin having intercourse. Get her close to orgasm through oral sex, or if your partner is able to have multiple orgasms, give her the first orgasm through oral sex and she will be much closer to her second or third orgasms when you start having sex.

Communicate With Her

Another huge reason why couples struggle to have simultaneous orgasms is that they don’t communicate with each other when having sex. You or your partner may feel too shy to announce that you’re close to having an orgasm, so your partner doesn’t know when they need to hold out or when they need to speed up. Work on communicating what you’re feeling during sex with your partner, even if all you’re doing is breathing the words “I’m close” in their ear. You could even come up with a “code word” for being close to orgasm if you or your partner just aren’t comfortable with any other forms of communication. In fact, it doesn’t even have to be a word, it could be a simple action such as biting their ear or pinching their butt when you’re about to have an orgasm. If you and your partner work on communicating during sex, you’ll be able to respond appropriately to where your partner is sexually and hold back if you need to or speed up your orgasm if they’re close.

Seize The Opportunity

In addition to recognizing the opportunity to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, you need to seize the opportunity too! You may figure out that she’s about to have an orgasm, but you may not end up taking the initiative to bring yourself closer to orgasm as well. Instead, when you realize that she is about to have an orgasm, tighten your muscles and bring yourself to orgasm as well. However, if your partner likes to express herself when she has an orgasm with loud noises or moaning, you may end up ejaculating anyways without even trying because you’re so turned on by her! If you see the opportunity to have an orgasm at the same time as your partner, take it! You and your partner will both love having an orgasm together and your sex lives will become that much more satisfying for both you and her.

Sex Secrets For Men – Unlock The Secrets To Giving Her Wild, Pulsating Sex (97% Of Men Are Clueless)

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What are the sex secrets for men? Look, if you are reading this article with the hopes of learning about the best sex position, the best way to give her G-spot orgasms or great oral sex tips to seduce your girl, then I would advise you not to read further. Why? Well, if you are looking for ways to improve your sex life, these things will not help you a bit.

When it comes to having great sex, there is no sneaky trick you can pull out of your bag. It is all about the fundamentals, the basics of sex, mindsets, so to speak. If you get this right, believe me, your enjoyment in sex will increase multiple folds.

The Paradox Of Man’s Greatest Strength

Most men are focused on results. We are by nature very action-oriented. Results are what we care about; the end goal, so to speak. We set targets in the boardroom and get things done. Sadly the same mentality carries over to the bedroom:

(a) undressing yourself and her

(b) begin intercourse

(c) reach an orgasm (you NOT her)

(d) end of sex

So where does this perpetual male strategy leave a woman? Empty, unfulfilled, disappointed. You see, for women, sex is not so much about the end goal per se. They really care more about the journey; how you arrive at the end goal. Women love to savor the sexual experience moment-by-moment, from foreplay all the way to intercourse.

Getting The Foundations Right

You see, sex would be a monotonous and lackluster affair if you use sex techniques without a proper understanding of how and why they work on women. Think about this: What makes a great lover in bed, a Don Juan who can seduce and bring any woman to the elusive heights of sexual ecstasy? It is not the repertoire of techniques he has learned, but the way he USES them.

Many men make the terrible mistake and assume that women are aroused the same way as they are. Men are visually stimulated; women are not. Men can reach a climax within 2 minutes; women need at least a good 15 minutes on average to reach orgasm. Women need good old-fashioned love, affection and attention to detail.

Read that again. This means the way you touch her, the way you seduce her verbally, the mood you bring into the lovemaking, all play vital roles in your sex life.

Do You Know Her Emotional Underpinnings?

For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, emotions carry huge weight. This means you should never grope her right away. You need to value how she feels and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level. It is all well worth your time, because when you give her an amazing time in bed (and mind-tingling orgasms to boot!), you will be rewarded with much more from her!

So make her feel wanted and appreciated. This means when you kiss her, look into her eyes and run you fingers down the back of her spine. Spend quality time on slow, tantalizing foreplay and you will build up her sexual anticipation in a hurry. When you penetrate her, acknowledge her presence and ask if that feels great for her. Above all, be a man and focus on her needs exclusively FIRST. You will emerge a far better lover, one that she will be proud to brag to her friends the next morning!

What Are Pheromones And Do They Really Work?

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There are lots of ways to attract the opposite sex, such as wearing sexy clothes, putting on makeup or splashing on some great smelling cologne. However, our natural scent, called pheromones, are on of the most powerful ways to attract someone. Animals and insects have used pheromones for millenia to attract mates and to find food. Here’s how you can use pheromones yourself to improve your love life!

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What Are Pheromones?

Pheromones are a chemical that is excreted from humans, insects or animals that will affect the behavior of others. There are many different kinds of pheromones that can be excreted, such as pheromones that alert others of danger, pheromones that alert others where food is and of course, sex pheromones that help animals and insects find a mate. Science has long debated the existence of pheromones in humans, however, many scientists and researchers believe that all humans have the potential to communicate with each other through producing pheromones.

Do Pheromones Really Work?

Animals have used pheromones for many years successfully. They are able to attract their mates through the use of secreted pheromones, as well as let other members of the same species know where food is or if there is danger nearby. Humans are mammals and are very similar to many animals in a lot of ways, so it follows logic that humans would be able to secrete pheromones as well.  Probably the most powerful of human pheromones is the sex pheromone. Human sex pheromones will attract members of the opposite sex, making them feel relaxed, happy and aroused when around the pheromone. Real human pheromones aren’t easily obtainable, however, many companies have successfully manufactured synthetic pheromones for use by both men and women. A variety of studies shows that synthetic human pheromones are extremely successful in attracting members of the opposite sex! Pheromones are usually without noticeable scent and can be combined with your favorite cologne or perfume. The olfactory system picks up the pheromones through the nose and transmits the chemical signals the pheromones create to the brain. With sex pheromones, feelings of attraction, relaxation and arousal are transmitted to the brain of members of the opposite sex, instantly making them more attracted to you. Many people use pheromones when dating and going out to meet people, whether they’re going to a bar, a club or a bookstore. Instead of worrying about pickup lines and how to get yourself noticed, people who wear pheromones find that people are coming up to them!

What Happens When You Stop Using Pheromones?

Many people are concerned that after meeting someone and developing a relationship with them through the use of pheromones that the relationship and attraction will end after the use of pheromones is stopped. While pheromones do a great job of helping people to attract the opposite sex, they do nothing to develop and nurture a great relationship. Once you’ve attracted someone through using pheromones and you’ve built a relationship with them, the relationship isn’t going to be affected if you stop using the pheromones. There is a great deal more to a lasting relationship than just scent! However, when looking to meet people of the opposite sex, pheromones will definitely help get you noticed – in a good way!

Q&A: What To Do If She’s Only In It For The Sex

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Men often get a bad rap for being in a relationship only for the sex and women get stuck being the “booty call.” But truth be told, some women will actually do the same thing to men and turn the man into the “booty call” instead of wanting a real relationship. It’s actually not that uncommon for a single, independent woman to want to be with a man simply for the great sex. What are the signs that she is, in fact, only in it for the sex and what should you do if she is?

Question: What should I do if it looks like the girl I’m dating is with me just for sex?

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What Are You Looking For In A Relationship?

If you suspect that your girl is with you simply for the sex, stop and think about what you’re looking for in a relationship. Are you looking for a relationship that is sex only, or are you looking for something more serious? Do you want a long term relationship or do you want a casual relationship that involves a friendship in addition to sex? Stopping to define what you want in a relationship at this stage in your life is essential in figuring out if you want to stay in this particular relationship or not. If your girl is in it only for the sex and you want a deeper, more emotionally fulfilling relationship, you might want to consider moving on and dating other people. On the other hand, however, stop and consider that while you’re not getting what you want out of a relationship with your current girl, are you satisfied for the time being? If you would end up being single anyways and spending your time masturbating instead of having sex, why not continue to stay in a sex-only relationship until you meet someone you are interested in starting a real relationship with? If your girl really is in it only for the sex, she won’t mind you keeping your eyes peeled for someone who can better meet your needs.

Signs That She’s Just Looking For Sex

If you’re not sure that she’s just in it for the sex but you have your suspicions, there are many ways to find out. The way she acts towards you and her behaviors will definitely clue you in if she just wants sex from you and nothing else. In fact, these are the same types of behaviors that guys exhibit when they’re with a girl that they just consider to be a “booty call.” Your girl may not call you for days after having sex with you, but will call you again out of the blue if she wants more. She may call you only at night, or very late at night if she’s been out partying or hanging out with friends. She won’t want to hang out with you and may make excuses if you want to take her to dinner or take her to a game. She may hide her relationship with you from her friends, acting like she is “just friends” with you when you and her are together in front of them. When you are alone with her, however, she may act completely different towards you. She may bring up sex a lot in conversations with you and her, or she may just flat out put the moves on you when you first walk in her door. She may ask you to leave after sex instead of offering to let you stay the night or she may leave your house rather than asking to stay.

What To Do If You Want More Than Just Sex

If you are really wanting more out of this relationship than sex, talk to your girl. Let her know that you’re not getting what you need. Let her know that you really like her and that you want to be more than just a “booty call” to her. In some cases, a girl will assume that the man just wants sex with her so she tries to be what he wants. She may be surprised to hear that you want more than just sex and that you actually want a relationship! Don’t break up with her or end the relationship before talking to your girl and being completely honest with her. If you really like this girl, it would be a shame to let her go because of a simple miscommunication! If she really does want just sex though, and you’re not into that, move on because there are lots of other girls that would love to have an emotionally fulfilling relationship along with a sexual one.

Q&A: The Best Condoms of 2010

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Condom shopping isn’t exactly easy. With literally hundreds of different styles, sizes and materials available, it can be really hard, so to speak, to find the right one for you and your partner. While we have our personal favorites, we went to the pros at Condom Depot for the answer to this question. So here are the world’s best condoms for 2010!

Question: What are the best condoms and the best flavors?

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The Truth About Flavored Condoms

Flavored condoms, such as strawberry, mint or chocolate, are made to both taste and smell good. However, anyone who has ever used flavored condoms for oral sex will notice that these condoms taste a little bit like flavored plastic – because they are! Flavored condoms aren’t ever going to taste so great that you will want to eat them up, but they do make giving a blowjob a little nicer. Perhaps the best part about using a flavored condom is that they smell absolutely divine! If you’ve never tried a flavored condom before, don’t expect great things when you put it in your mouth. You and your partner will, however, really enjoy the different scents! Buy a sampler pack of different flavors so you can find the ones you and your partner like the best.

Crown Skinless Skin Condoms

Crown Skinless Skin Condoms, manufactured in Japan, is the clear winner of Condom Depot’s 9th Annual Condom Awards. In fact, this particular condom has won first place all nine years in a row! This condom is favored by the adult film industry and is tinted a slight pink that makes it look like you have nothing on. The best part? They’re so thin, you don’t even feel like you have anything on! This condom clocks in at a mere 0.00185″ and is officially the thinnest condom available. Plus, no latex smell!

Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms

Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms have ranked second place in the Condom Depot awards, however, it actually ranked first place five years in a row in the Consumer Report. This is Durex’s thinnest condom, and is made to help both partners feel more sensations during sex than any other condom made by Durex. The official thickness of Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms are 0.019.” Even though this condom takes second place in the awards, it is actually about 10 times thicker than Crown Skinless Skin Condoms!

Beyond Seven Condoms

Made by the same company that manufactures Crown Skinless Skin Condoms, Beyond Seven Condoms rank third place in the 9th Annual Condom Awards by Condom Depot. This condom is made from a special latex material called “Sheerlon” and are made thinner and stronger than most condoms. They’re the same thickness as Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms, but they’re a tad narrower at the top to fit the penis like a glove.

LifeStyles SKYN Condoms

For those with latex allergies, it’s time to chuck your non-stretchy and irritating polyurethane condoms. LifeStyles SKYN Condoms are made from a revolutionary new material called “polyisoprene” and is thin and can stretch to accommodate different penis sizes just like latex. It is thinner than polyurethane condoms and transfers heat unlike latex. This condom has been FDA approved to help prevent pregnancy and the transmission of STD’s so if you’re allergic to latex but still want great feeling protection, try LifeStyles SKYN Condoms.

Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms

Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms are ribbed for her pleasure, so sex ends up feeling great for both him and her. A two time Condom Depot Annual Condom Award winner, this condom is very popular among fans of textured condoms. This condom, however, is considered “average” in size, but will stretch to accommodate a variety of penis sizes. Impulse Bare Pleasure Condoms also offer a low latex odor for people who just don’t like that “condom” smell.

These are only the top five best condoms in the world – the list goes on! Visit Condom Depot to learn more about the best condoms of 2010 as determined by the 9th Annual Condom Depot Annual Condom Awards. You’ll find many more condoms on the “best of 2010 list,” including condoms for larger sized men. Condom Depot is actually an excellent website for finding the best condoms to use, because you can search for condoms several different ways, including by condom manufacturer, style or size. Each condom on the website includes a picture of the actual condom, size specifications (including how thick it is) and actual consumer reviews for each condom.