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What Men Need To Know About Women, Sex And Emotions

Does your girlfriend or wife think you are a good lover? This is the question that most men find difficult to answer. On one hand, your girl probably shows all signs of being aroused and pleased when you are inside the bedroom getting it on. On the other hand, you noticed she does not climax sometimes and it has been bothering you.

What most guys don’t know is that sex for women is absolutely related to the emotions. It’s about caressing and kissing, of course, but there has to be a deeper meaning to it. For instance, if a girl is mad about something you did and you think just going through normal foreplay will “cure” her animosity, you’re wrong. You have to make sure she has forgiven you to some extent before she can really put out during your lovemaking. Here are some more tips on how to understand the emotional side of sex.

There are three emotions that contribute a lot to a woman’s pleasure during lovemaking. If you always think of these things while you’re making love, there’s no way you’re going to fail as a lover.

Love

Women have many ideas on what a good lover is, but any guy they sleep with can become a great lover if he can be romantic during sex. How can you pull this off? Tell her you love her, or whisper in her ear during sex. Make sure your caresses are lingering and your kisses are more passionate.

Trust

Have you ever wondered why some couples can do a lot of perverted stuff inside the bedroom? Think about it. How can ordinary couples do S&M like it’s the most natural thing to do when they’re alone? The secret has a lot to do with the trust that the woman has for the man. Think about this the next time you feel like bringing handcuffs (or a whip) to bed. The point is, you’re more likely to bring out your woman’s wild side if she trusts you completely.

Acceptance

A good lover must be able to make a woman feel sexy during sex, and the best way to do this is to make sure you really look at your partner’s eyes and body while you’re doing it.

A woman knows that her body isn’t perfect, but it’s extremely gratifying if you show how turned on you are by her body despite that fact. Touch her most sensitive areas along with the parts of her body that she’s most self-conscious about. Assure her that she looks sexy no matter what she’s wearing.

It is a shame that some men think sex is only about the physical. Well, I can’t blame you. Men and women react differently to sexual stimulation. However, if you really want to be her best lover ever, you have to pay attention to her emotions and the way you react to the things she tells you during sex, either through her words or through her actions.

Questions To Ask Before Sex

By jessicaperez

Before doing the deed with a total stranger, it is recommended to have an open discussion about sexuality, safe sex and STD’s. Ideally, coupledom should start this way, with both parties opening up and talking about the people they had sex with, the last time they had an HIV test, and whether or not they’ve always used protection during sex in the past.

But we all know that a conversation like that will kill romance and will make the date feel more like an interrogation than a prelude to sex.

So, should you just let the burning questions in your mind go unanswered? Of course not! There are ways to ask without being a “mood killer.” Tactful perseverance and the ability to read between the lines are the skills you need to make your new partner open up without feeling affronted.

For instance, you want to ask about condom use. You can start with a discussion on which condom brands are the best, which ones you have tried, and whether the condoms he brought with him are thin enough. From there, you can progress to questions on safe sex and number of sex partners.

Here is a list of questions to ask before sex…

Sexual Preference

Is he bisexual? If you ask about gender preference, you should also be ready to talk about your own preference.

You must also be prepared to hear something you do not want to hear. For instance, your partner might have been a woman in the past, or he was gay before he met you.

Safety

Was there a time when he did not use condoms? If your partner was in a long-term relationship (or he is in a long-term relationship with someone else), ask about his reasons for not using protection.

Maybe he wanted to have kids? Maybe he felt safe in a monogamous relationship? You can also mention something about latex allergy and how you are wondering if he is allergic to latex. Again, you must also be prepared to share your safe sex stories with your new lover if you open this topic.

Kinky Preference

Any S&M tendencies? What is kinky to you might be commonplace to your new partner. If your fetishes jive, you may have found your soul mate.

Ask about favorite sex positions, fetishes and the like. In addition, ask whether he engages in anal sex. You wouldn’t want your partner to surprise you with anal sex when you’re not ready for it, would you?

When you ask questions before you have sex, you have no choice but to take the answers as they are. You do not really know whether or not your new partner is lying. After all, he might assume that telling the naked truth may just turn you off completely.

Nevertheless, it’s still best to lay your cards on the table when you are about to get naked with a guy you just met. Be alert and watch out for inconsistencies. He may be saying one thing and doing another, so watch out.

Q&A: I Feel Guilty If My Girlfriend Doesn’t Climax

By loveandsex

Getting your girl to climax can be a huge turn on for you. But you don’t want her to orgasm just sometimes, you want her to have an orgasm every single time you have sex with her! Is this a realistic expectation? Do women have orgasms as often as men? Here’s how to increase your chances of giving your girl the big O – and whether you can expect her to be able to do it every time.

Question: My girlfriend and I are both 20 and my question to you two GURU’s are if feeling bad is natural after having sex IF my girlfriend does not orgasm? About 65 % of the time she does climax, but when she doesn’t, I feel as if I HAVE TO MAKE UP FOR IT. Is it normal for girls not to climax as much as guys?

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It Might Not Happen Every Time

Men generally climax every time they have sex, but not always. Women, however, take longer to reach climax than guys and therefore may not have an orgasm every time. It may take her even longer to climax when she’s tired or stressed out, making it even more difficult for her to reach climax in a reasonable period of time. This is normal! A woman doesn’t have to have an orgasm each time she has sex to actually enjoy it – nor does a man. Don’t pressure to have an orgasm or hold out for a long time to wait for her to come. This will make it even harder for her to reach climax!

Communicate With Her

Talk to your partner and ask her what she’s in the mood for. She may want a quickie, or may be too tired to do anything at all! She may want to have sex but she may not feel up to having an orgasm. Let’s face it – having an orgasm is tiring! Don’t stress out about it if she doesn’t want to have an orgasm or even finds that she is unable to orgasm. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you or love you, and it certainly doesn’t mean she’s not enjoying sex with you. There are a lot of external reasons why a woman might not be able to climax at any given time. Communicate with her about how she’s feeling so you’re not left in the dark when she doesn’t have an orgasm.

The Best Ways To Give Her An Orgasm

Don’t assume that your penis is all she needs to reach the big “O.” In fact, many women find that vaginal penetration is the most difficult way to reach climax! Study up on some different ways to please your partner and put them into practice. Learn how to give her an orgasm using your mouth and your hands, and practice turning her on that way before you even start having sex! Some women will actually have multiple orgasms during sex if they’ve had one before sex through oral sex. If stress is her problem, try relaxing with her first and allowing her to de-stress from the day with a beer or a glass of wine. If being exhausted is her issue, try having sex in the morning before she goes to work for the day!

How To Turn Her On And Off

By leejenkins

Intimacy starts when you and your girl start to act sexual towards each other. It means sexual tension is there and you are both thinking of sex. Perhaps you have started kissing, touching hands and even petting during your dates, even when you are in a public place. You know it’s “on” when you begin exchanging sexual innuendo whenever you talk on the phone or in person.

Sexual tension is present when a girl is turned on, but some guys who stumble upon that particular switch inside a girl’s brain can never seem to figure out how to do it again. Keep reading to find out how to turn a girl on, and the things that you should avoid if you don’t want to turn her off.

Be Spontaneous But Mind Your Timing

When you’re on your date with a woman, there are so many chances to get intimate, but the crucial thing here is timing. Caressing her hand during a romantic movie makes a woman feel warm and turned on, while touching her breasts when you’re watching horror is definitely off. Recognize the best timing for overtly sexual moves, and be extremely aware of her reactions.

For instance, if she stiffens and acts cold, then she’s probably not comfortable with your public display of affection. A lot depends on how uninhibited the girl is, and her views on making out in public. Wait until you’re in a relatively deserted place before you think about grabbing her. Spontaneity is sexy, but only if the timing is good.

The Goodbye Kiss

The end of the date is very crucial. It gives you and the girl an idea of your future as a couple, and as lovers. The best thing that could happen is that the girl invites you in for a nightcap. The worst that could happen is she goes inside without looking back with a cold “goodnight.”

What goes wrong during this phase that causes a girl to lose interest? Well, a lot of things. Let’s start with the goodbye kiss. If your kiss is too safe, like it’s a peck that conveys disinterest, there’s really no reason why the girl will invite you in.

If the kiss is too passionate, like when you shove your tongue down her throat, she will think that you couldn’t wait to get to the sex. Kiss her gently, without hesitating. And, make sure you kiss her in a way that leaves her breathless with anticipation.

The key is to make the girl feel comfortable during your date so that she’s thinking about getting it on with you by the time you get to her doorstep. Failure to turn your date into the beginning of an intimate relationship happens when only one partner is willing to go for it. Push a girl’s buttons right and you can turn her on. Making her feel uncomfortable and freaked out during your date will turn her off.

Q&A: Oral Sex – How Do I Get Him To Go Down On Me?

By loveandsex

Girls love oral sex just as much as a guy loves blowjobs. But many guys don’t give their partners as much oral sex as they would like! If you’re really into receiving oral sex from him but only find yourself on the giving end, here’s how to get your partner to go down on YOU as much as you go down on him!

Question: I have a question that I can’t ever seem to find an answer to. I always hear advice like “how to get her to go down on you more.” But what I want to know is how do I get HIM to go down on ME more?

–YouTube Viewer

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Ask Him!

Your partner may not be aware that you really love getting oral sex. He may think you love giving head more! So tell him point blank that you really enjoy it and want him to do it. Some guys need straightforward information to get a clue that you’re really into something or really want to try something. If you’re a little shy about asking him, hint around at it. Tell him how much you love the idea of oral sex period, for both men and women. Watch a sexy movie together and when a guy goes down on a girl, tell him how hot it gets you.

Find Out Why He Doesn’t Like It

There are many reasons why some guys don’t like oral sex. Find out what his reason is! Does it hurt his neck? Would sitting on a pillow or using a different position help? Or is he more receptive to trying simultaneous oral sex, better known as the sixty nine position? Find out why he doesn’t like it or isn’t doing it – without being critical towards him – and try to remedy those issues. If you’re critical towards him when he’s being open with you about why he doesn’t like giving oral sex, he’ll shut down and any chance you have of getting him to do it will fly out the window.

Hygiene And Body Chemistry

Hygiene is one of the biggest reasons guys don’t like giving oral sex. He may have had a bad experience before where smell and taste is concerned, and he may think that all girls are like that. Make sure you are clean, up to the point of taking a shower right before having oral sex. Keep an eye out for things like yeast or bacterial infections that can upset the natural pH of the vagina and cause things like odor and discharge. If pubic hair is an issue for him, consider trimming or shaving completely. It also may be a body chemistry thing. His semen has a certain taste to it, and so do your vaginal secretions. Your particular taste may not be something that jives with his own chemistry and it may not taste good to him no matter how clean you are. Body chemistry mismatches happen more often than people think. Try eating some sweet fruit like pineapple or strawberries to make your secretions taste sweeter, and avoid things like cabbage, garlic, onions or other strong foods.