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The Most Sensitive Part Of A Woman

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A woman sometimes fakes her excitement during sex for several reasons. You know about these times when she’s acting like she is enjoying herself but her whole body tells you that she isn’t aroused. She’s dry as a desert down there and she isn’t making an effort to touch you.

Well, there are several reasons why women just don’t feel like making love. First, the timing could be off. She hasn’t showered when you grabbed her, or she may be in a bad mood after a rough day at work. Second, she may be feeling desensitized because of some internal turmoil in your relationship (you haven’t been talking for a while, you’re in a fight, etc).

But here’s the thing. If you know where to touch her so that she instantly feels aroused, you won’t have to go out of your way to buy her jewelry or flowers to make her warm up to you again. There are certain places on a woman’s body where you can turn on her “sexual” switch just by touching.

The Neck and Ears

Just whispering softly will make a woman feel the heat of your breath on the sensitive areas of her neck, just behind the ears. Even the slightest touch of your lips on that sweet spot can turn her on. But you don’t have to stop with just letting your breath touch this sensitive spot. You can lick her ear lobes to increase her arousal, and you can take this chance to explore her body while she’s just starting to simmer.

The Chest Area

You already know about how sensitive a woman’s nipples are, but did you know that by kissing the area around her breasts, you can increase her arousal further? By kissing her chest region, you’re burning the sight into her brain so that her whole body knows that sex is starting. The trick is to caress the area with your hands and your lips leisurely, so that she can take in the sight frame by frame and increase her excitement only seconds after you start kissing her there.

Women are particularly vain about their chests, so doing this to her during sex will make her feel sexy. With this in mind, you also shouldn’t rush while you’re taking off her brassiere or her blouse. Romance her chest as slowly as you can.

Her Mound

Her most sensitive part isn’t the vaginal portal itself, but the areas surrounding it. Stroke the hairy area patiently, inch by inch, and you will be able to increase her arousal a hundred fold.

The clitoris region in particular houses a mother load of nerve endings. Even by just grazing the tiny nub during your exploration, you can create sensations she has never felt before. Be careful not to touch the nub directly, because the sensation may be painful or even shocking to her. The trick is to explore her vaginal area, wetting your fingers in the process, and “accidentally” touching her clitoris with your moving fingers.

Hot Sex And How To Get It

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Seduction is an art and some say women have all the tools they need to be great at it. When it comes to sex, a woman needs to work her way inside a man’s defenses, making him susceptible to her wiles and making him hot enough to forget himself and just attack her in the most delicious way possible.

Why do women go to such lengths to seduce men? To get hot sex, of course. Here are some ways to maximize your time in the bedroom with your man and get more than just so-so sex.

Understand That What Turns Him On

You know the old adage about women being more sensual and men being more visual? Most of the time, this “rule” applies. However, men can be extremely sensual too. Eating ice cream together and letting him lick your fingers will remind him of the things he wants to do to you. He gets turned on when you hold his hand, and when you rub some wax on his hair.

Some men need more to get aroused, and there is no fixed item or action that can make a man go wild in bed. Your best bet is to understand your man completely and figure out what floats his boat.

Men Like Erotica Too

Saying that men are only into hardcore porn is stereotypical and an affront to your man’s artistic comprehension. Erotica turns men on, but only if presented in a way that can actually turn him on. For your next sexual adventure, why not whip out your favourite erotica literature and read it to him, poetry style. It helps if you whisper the words in his ear, and lick his ear while you’re at it.

Costume Play

Most guys are into video games, or at least they were in high school and grade school. Even if they do not play as often as they used to, they’re still thrilled when you put on a sexy costume that makes them feel like they entered a role playing game of some sort. If he has other fetishes, make sure you indulge him by wearing what he likes most.

Give Him a “Free Pass” or Tie Yourself Up

If he’s particularly stressed or if you haven’t been doing anything naughty lately, it’s time to give him a way to de-stress and be his old playful self. You can tie yourself up, gift-wrap style, and present yourself as his “gift” for a job well done.

Alternatively, you can inform him that he can do anything he wants with you for one night. Ironically, offering to be his sex slave will turn him into your sex slave.

Your First Time… With A New Vibrator – Sex Toys 101

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If you’re new to using a vibrator, you’re not alone. As society becomes more and more accepting of masturbation, more and more people are starting to explore masturbation for themselves.

But getting your first vibrator and using it for the first time doesn’t have to be confusing. Here are some great tips on what to do when you get your first vibrator.

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6 Smart Rules For Using A Vibrator

1. Never insert any vibrator to the point where it cannot be controlled or removed. You may feel tempted to go a little deeper, but if you end up getting the vibrator lodged too far inside your vagina, you’re going to need assistance having it removed. This can result in a very painful and possibly damaging situation.

2. Always clean your vibrator after every use. Unwashed vibrators are excellent breeding grounds for all kinds of bacteria. Inserting a dirty vibrator in your vagina can easily give you a nasty bacterial infection that would require a doctor’s care to get rid of. Plus, clean, smooth and great smelling toys always feel so much better!

3. To make clean up easier, you can place a condom over the vibrator before use. If you often take your vibrator with you on the go, washing your vibrator with soap and water or toy cleaner may not always be a feasible option for you. Slip a condom over your vibrator before using and when you’re finished, simply take the condom off and throw it away!

4. Use only compatible water based lubes with your sex toy. Some sexual lubricants cause different types of vibrators’ material to break down and degrade. Not fun if you’ve spent a lot of money on the perfect vibrator! A good rule of thumb to remember is that water based lube works well with everything.

5. If it hurts, stop! While that seems simple enough to remember, such is not always the case. Many women compare themselves to women in adult movies, or that’s the only form of sex education they got and as a result they end up hurting themselves. Often, the way women use vibrators and dildos in adult movies is grossly exaggerated. Don’t feel like you have to make it hurt to make it good.

6. Do not use your vibrator on broken or irritated skin. You could possibly get an infection or at best, make your irritated skin feel even more uncomfortable and painful.

Additional Tips

  • Inspect your vibrator upon arrival. Look for tears, holes and other defects in the toy. Plug it in or charge it’s batteries and make sure it turns on and off, and that all the buttons work. If the toy has to be returned for any reason, it’s better that you find out before you use it.
  • Learn how to use it. Take some time just playing with the vibrator to see how it works and what it does. Learn how to work the vibrator first before you take it in the bedroom. Then you can experiment with the best techniques and positions for pleasure.
  • Wash your vibrator before using it for the first time. Manufacturing companies and packing plants aren’t very clean places for your vibrator to have hung out in before you bought it.
  • Use lube. It just feels better. Besides, vibrators aren’t self lubricating.
  • Get comfortable. Using your vibrator is about taking charge of your own pleasure.

How To Achieve A Spectacular Orgasm

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Focusing on your partner’s pleasure and giving her a fabulous orgasm is a great way to make sure you’re having awesome sex, but what about making your own orgasm even better and even more spectacular? After she’s gotten hers, here are some excellent tips on how to make your orgasm the best you’ve ever had.

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Prolong Ejaculation As Long As You Can

Instead of letting your orgasm come when it comes (no pun intended), try prolonging ejaculation as long as you can. Many men who hold out do so to help give their partners time to have an orgasm, however, this technique will also work to give you a stronger, harder orgasm when you finally ejaculate. Go slow, and don’t rush to have an orgasm. Instead, simply focus on feeling each wave of pleasure pass through you rather than focusing on the end result. When you feel you’re getting close to orgasm, you can stop for awhile, or just go slower. Take this time to give your partner some more pleasure, such as giving her oral sex while you back down from the brink of orgasm for a few minutes. Repeat this process until you just can’t hold it in anymore!

Hold Your Orgasm In

When you feel yourself physically starting to orgasm, squeeze your PC muscles to try to hold it in as long as you can. Your PC muscles are the same muscles that you use to stop the flow of urine. When your orgasm bursts through all of your efforts to hold it at bay, your orgasm will be amazingly powerful and the final release will be mind blowing. If you find this difficult to do, however, you’re not alone. Some men aren’t able to effectively use their PC muscles right away because just like any muscle, they need to be exercised to become strong. Practice doing kegel exercises on your own by squeezing and holding your PC muscles several times a day. These exercises will help you to strengthen your PC muscles so when you use them to hold your orgasm back, you are able to do so effectively.

How An Awesome Orgasm Will Turn HER On Too!

When you have a great orgasm, your partner will feel amazing too. She’ll feel super sexy and awesome for having given you such a mind blowing and intense orgasm and she’ll want to do it again and again. Women truly love giving their partners pleasure and get a great emotional high from it, so when you have a spectacular orgasm, she’ll feel great too. After sex, be sure to tell her how much she turned you on and how amazing it felt to finally explode inside her. She will love hearing how much pleasure she gave you and how wonderful your orgasm was, and it’s a great way for both of you to bask in the afterglow of amazing sex!

Q&A: How Can I Get My Wife To Have Sex Every Day?

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Having sex more often is a big issue among guys of every age, both married and unmarried. Many guys wish they were having sex more often with their wives, girlfriends or lovers and aren’t sure exactly how to make that happen. Here’s how you can get your wife to have sex with you every day – and get her to enjoy it.

Question: How can I get my wife to have sex every day?

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Does Her Sex Drive Match Yours?

It’s not at all uncommon for two people to have mismatching sex drives and for one person in the relationship to want or need more sex than the other. Usually, this is not an issue but when you and your partner differ greatly on how often you want to have sex, it can pose a problem in the relationship. For example, if you want sex daily or every other day and your spouse or partner is content having sex weekly or even every couple of weeks, it’s easy to become frustrated with your partner. When starting a relationship with someone, it’s important to find out if you and your partner have at least somewhat similar sex drives because it’s all part of being sexually compatible and having a future of sexual satisfaction with your partner or spouse.

Make Sure She’s Enjoying It

If you want to make your partner want sex with you more often, the most important thing you can do is make sure you are pleasing your partner and she’s enjoying it. Often, the reason behind women not needing sex as often as a man does in a relationship is because she’s just not getting as much pleasure from it as you are. Focus on your partner’s pleasure and make sure she has enough time to relax and warm up. If your partner is stressed out or under a lot of pressure, she won’t be able to receive pleasure no matter how hard you try. Focus on giving her awesome orgasms, because if your partner or spouse consistently gets great orgasms every time you have sex with her, she’ll naturally start to want and crave sex with you more.

Female Orgasm Tips

Start brushing up on your knowledge about female orgasms by checking out some of the best female orgasm tips out there. Watch as many videos and read as many articles as you can to learn how to give your girlfriend or wife absolutely mind blowing orgasms. Learning some new techniques to use in the bedroom that your partner has never experienced before with you is well worth the time it takes to study up. Without something more to offer your partner in the bedrom, there’s no reason to expect her to have sex with you many more than she already does. Making sure you’re pleasing her and giving her great orgasms is your ticket to better sex and sex more often. In fact, when you start really giving her what she wants in the bedroom don’t be surprised if she starts initiating sex with you more often than you originally wanted to!