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Female Orgasm Tip #3 – Why Communication Is Crucial

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Giving a woman an orgasm doesn’t have to be tricky – in fact, it doesn’t even require a circus full of performances, contrary to popular belief. You might think you have to stand on your head, recite the alphabet backwards and even juggle with your feet (at the same time, of course) to give your girl the big “O,” but the truth is that nothing is further from the truth. We’re going to go into one of the more basic (but no less intimidating) aspects of giving a girl a toe curling orgasm – communication.

When you hear communication, you normally think “talking” but words are not always the best way to communicate – especially when you’re having sex. In this video, you’ll find out why non-verbal communication is so important.

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Vanilla, Chocolate or Strawberry – What’s Your Flavor?

Just like everyone has different flavor preferences when it comes to ice cream, everyone has different preference when it comes to sex. It’s a rather basic comparison, but an easy one. If you take your girl to an ice cream parlor, how do you order her ice cream? Do you ask what flavor she wants, or do you pick one for her and hope she likes it, only to find out later that it was her least favorite and she only pretended to like it to be nice? Now take that scenario and apply it to giving your girl an orgasm – do you try to find out what she likes, or just wing it and risk doing something she doesn’t like in the bedroom?

Communication Is Key

Okay, so asking your woman what she likes in the sack isn’t as easy as asking her what her favorite ice cream flavor is. It’s much more difficult – in fact, some people are incredibly shy about talking about sexual topics in general and try to avoid it at all costs. Of course, communicating verbally about what she likes in the bedroom is the better way to go about it, but you can also use different forms of non-verbal communication to give you clues about what feels good and what doesn’t. Imagine going to the ice cream parlor and instead of asking her what she likes, watch her as she browses the flavors. Is she giving you any cues about what flavor she likes, such as looking at one more than the other, or even asking for a sample and exclaiming, “Mmmmm!” You can do the same thing during sex – when you’re using a sexual technique, see how she responds to it. Is she saying, “Mmmm!” or is she perhaps using body language to suggest another technique? You can even devise a system between you and your partner to let each other know what feels good and what doesn’t, such as a special word, or a type of moan or even a special touch.

Ladies Only – A Man’s Delicate Ego

Ladies, beware a man’s delicate ego. He doesn’t like to hear criticism about his performance – in fact, he’d rather not hear about what he was doing wrong at all. So how do you let him know if he’s doing something you don’t like? It’s easy – instead of mentioning what he shouldn’t be doing, make a big deal about what he does that you do like. Did he rub you the right way and really get you going last night? Make sure you are vocal about it during the act, mention how good it felt afterwards and for good measure, mention it next week. Chances are, he’ll repeat whatever it was that he did that pushed your hot buttons.

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The G-Spot Mystery Revealed

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How to Spot the G-Spot

Want to be labeled a ‘sex god’? To achieve this, you must know her body like the back of your hand. By knowing her body intimately, you are better able to elicit great sexual responses with minimum effort.

For men, women already know that they should focus on our penis and prostate. Women also have two main important sexual triggers: the clitoris, which is accessible from outside their bodies) and the g-spot, which requires a bit more probing as it’s located inside their vaginal walls.

Now, many men are probably already fully aware of how they can stimulate the clitoris. The g-spot, however, is another matter altogether! First of all, it’s not easy to spot the g-spot. However, if you know where it is and how to stimulate it, you can bet that she’ll be yours forever with all those earth-shattering orgasms you can give her.

WHERE is the G-spot?

The g-spot is located behind her pubic bone, about 2-3 inches up her vaginal wall. The spot feels like the underside of your mouth in that it has ridges so it should be easy to distinguish it based on texture. However, if you’re after exact size and coordinates, that’s not gonna happen because each woman is built differently.

As a rough guide, think of her navel as ’12 o’clock’. Between 11 and 1, you should be able to spot her g-spot. When stimulated, the spot is just like the clitoris in that it becomes slightly puffed up. As such, it’s in your best interest to engage in heavy foreplay while you try and find the spot!

What to Do with the G-Spot

Perfect Earth-shattering gspot orgasms are often caused by brief, but steady, friction. One of the best positions to apply this steady friction is when you take her from behind. This is because as you thrust, your penis gets to constantly reach, graze and tap her gspot. This gspot stimulation technique using your penis and you’re likely to hear a (pleasurable) scream from her like never before. She would never ‘fake it’ anymore because quite frankly, there’s nothing to fake. From this point on, you ARE a master lover capable of bringing her rock-hard orgasms.

But if for some reason doggy-style is not working for you guys, no sweat. You can go finger licking good style.

As mentioned above, the g-spot is slightly puffed up when she’s sexually stimulated. As all women differ, this puffed up spot can be anywhere from the size of a dime to a quarter. Regardless, the slightly engorged area should help you locate her gspot inside her. And once you do, a few, steady, masterful strokes are all you need to do to drive her wild.

As you stimulate her spot, she’ll have this sense of desperately wanting to pee. This is partly because you’re stimulating an area near her urethra. Whatever you do though, DON’T STOP. Reassure her that the sensation is normal and that she wont’ pee… but she will experience an orgasm like NEVER before.

The Hunt for the G-Spot

If you can’t find her g-spot immediately, don’t worry… practice makes perfect.

  • Ask your partner to lie down and make her as comfortable as you can by surrounding her with pillows; use one to prop her hips.
  • Slowly insert two fingers (palm up) insider her and start to slowly explore the front of her vaginal wall. Look for a slightly engorged area that’s slightly rough. Be attentive to her reactions so that you don’t end up causing her pain. As you come closer her gspot, you’ll notice that she’s slowly moving her pelvis to guide you home.
  •  With your other hand, touch her abdomen with a flat palm and apply some pressure. By applying ‘downward’ pressure, you’re better able to arouse her g-spot from the inside.

By now, your partner must be delirious from pleasure, try one of the positions listed below for maximum climax.

Top 3 Positions to End Your G-Spot Adventure

Position #1. Woof-woof.

Assume the doggy-style position, with her head bent low and her rump up high. Scoot behind her, hold her hips firmly and penetrate deeply. While inside her, aim your penis against her g-spot and reach and stimulate it. With these few well-aimed thrusts, she’ll be screaming out your name in no time.

Position #2. Missionary with a Twist.

Guide your partner to a comfortable position lying down. As you enter her, fold her legs until her knees reach her breasts. As in the position mentioned above, ‘extend’ your thrusts so that the tip of your penis touches her gspot.

Position #3. Reverse Cow Girl.

Lie down and ask your woman to straddle you. This time though, ask her to straddle you the other way, with her facing your feet instead. (I know you won’t get to see her breasts bounce but hey, at least you see her behind!) In this position, your penis is perfectly angled to hit her g-spot. Just one thing to take note of: as she comes wildly from the g-spot orgasm, take care that she doesn’t hurt your penis!

Tonight, make it a night she will never ever forget. Give her a g-spot climax and brand her for life!

Blowjob Tip: How To Make Her Want To Give You More Oral Sex

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Men want blowjobs – it’s a fact of life. Some women enjoy giving blowjobs, but others don’t. What if you’re a guy with a gal who you wish would give you more oral sex? Does she not do it enough? Does she not do it at all? Either way, you wish she would go down on you more. How do you get her to want to give you head?

Most guys just wish there girl would give them more oral sex – call it a blow job, giving head, or going down on him – fact is there are a lot of women out there who just don’t do it. Here are some things that you can do to actually help her enjoy the process so that she’ll want to do it more. Come on… You’ve just got to give a little to get a lot!

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Getting Her To Want It

That’s the key statement right there – getting her to want to give you a blowjob. There’s nothing that turns a woman off more than a man who wants to “make” her give him oral sex. Have you pressured your woman into giving you a blowjob? Have you tried to make her do something she doesn’t want to do? We bet you didn’t get very far, did you? The trick is to help her to want to give you oral sex. Pressuring her to do it, or complaining or whining about how you don’t get enough oral sex…well, that’s just not going to get you very far.

Lead By Example

The best way to get your partner to give you good oral sex is to give her good oral sex first! There’s nothing more giving than a satisfied woman, and if you give her the orgasm of her life by going down on her, it’s only natural that she’ll want to return the favor. Read a few female orgasm tips to help you get in the mood to give her oral sex, and try some of the new, fun techniques that she’s never experienced before. She’ll be putty in your hands before too long! After you’ve given her excellent oral sex, relax and let her take the bull by the horns.

Make Blowjobs For You Fun For Her Too

A woman won’t give a blowjob twice if it’s not good for her too. That doesn’t necessarily mean pleasuring her while she’s pleasuring you (although that’s not a bad idea sometimes), but it does mean that you have to make giving you a blowjob less like a chore and more like something fun for her to do to pleasure you. Make sure you’re clean – a sweaty, smelly penis is no fun to go down on. Trim if you’re hairy, or shave if you want to give her a real surprise. The best way to make a blowjob fun for her is to let her know how crazy she’s making you! Give lots of good feedback. Before she gives you a blowjob, make sure to tell her how excited you are that she’s going to do it, and how much it turns you on to think of her giving you head.

While she’s going down on you, give her plenty of verbal and non-verbal feedback, such as groaning, shifting your hips, grabbing her head (if she likes that) and really getting into it. Don’t fake it – she’ll be able to tell. Just let yourself go in a way that you might normally do. After the blowjob, make sure to tell her how good it was for you, how much you love her and how happy she made you. She’ll definitely want to do it again!

Foreplay 101 for HIM

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When it comes to foreplay, most articles out there are on foreplay tips for the benefit of women. However, you should know that if you treat your boyfriend/husband/lover to some great foreplay tricks of your own, you’ll be a sex goddess in his eyes because his orgasm will be extremely more powerful than before!

So, the next time you guys have sex, don’t be one of the women out there who ‘nag’ they don’t get enough foreplay. Instead, surprise him with pre-play moves that will make him treat you like a sex queen.

Foreplay Tip #1: Peak-a-Boo

Men are such visual creatures. Show them a nude photo, and blood gushes to their member. Hmmm, so what about presenting him with not just a nude photo of yourself but simply you, 100% nude.

How best to do it: Let us count the ways… try any of the tips below.

  • Just as he’s nice and comfy in bed, walk into the room in your birthday suit. (By the way, make sure your nipples are erect when you do this. Instant hard on!)
  • While fooling around in bed, straddle him and then slowly but surely, take off pieces of your clothing. You can torture him further by say, removing your bra, giving a glimpse of your nipples and then covering yourself up again. Agony!
  • Give him something to REALLY look at. Why settle for WALKING around naked when you can bend, twist, and turn yourself in various ways that he won’t believe what he’s seeing even if you’re right in front of him.

For the last tip be sure he gets to see everything but won’t be able to touch. Feed his eyes and maybe even his sense of smell… but don’t let him touch you. At least, not until he begs for it.

Foreplay Tip #2: Breathe On It

I bet you didn’t know how sexy and arousing your very own steamy breath on his exposed skin can be. The reason behind this is that your warm breathe will cause a temperature change on his skin, which in turn increases sexual arousal.

How best to do it: Engage in foreplay. When he’s already warm and aroused, go down and position your slightly parted lips to a sensitive area of his body such as his inner thighs, belly button, or the side of his neck, and then exhale your warm breathe on that spot.

You can also try the link-and-breathe approach. For example, lick the side of his neck and then exhale lightly on it. (Personally, my boyfriend loves it when I lick his lips and then exhale on it.) Another thing to try this trick on: lick his nipples and blow on it!

Now, go down and with his erect manhood standing mighty proud in front of your face, blow a steady jet of warm breath on his penis from top to bottom. Mind-blowing!

Foreplay Tip #3: Hustle!

Ok, so by now you know that both men and women will benefit greatly with a lot of foreplay. However, there is a difference; while women tend to go for slow seduction foreplay techniques; men tend to want more vigorous pre-play sessions.

I guess this is because most men tend to look at women as the ‘shy’ or ‘less animalistic’ one in bed. As such, if you unleash a more ‘raw’ you in bed, your man will be turned on all the more by this new, slightly more sexually aggressive you. You see, men take female aggressiveness in bed as assign of pure lust, which further fuels their desire. Besides, it’s A LOT of fun to be the one in control in bed every now and then, right?

How best to do it: Tonight, don’t be the timid one. Be the one to approach him and initiate sex. Be the one to kiss him roughly. And last, but definitely not the least, be the one to command what sex positions you guys should engage in.

For example, if he’s angling to go down on you, change sex positions and go down on him instead! OR maneuver in bed in such a way that he doesn’t go down on you but you sit on his face instead. Further, if he’s angling for the missionary, go ahead and beat him to it by going woman-on-top. And don’t just do the usual woman-on-top (where you face him), do reverse cow-girl where you face his feet.

I guarantee he won’t know what hit him in bed… but he’ll like it!

Foreplay Tip # 4: Tantalizing Touch

True, all men desire to have your lovely hands on their members but your lover can also receive a few other types of touches not just down there but all over his body. You see, men require a lot of hands-on stimulation and it should not necessarily all be focused on his penis.

How best to do it: Tonight, mix up your touchy feely moves. Flatten your palms and grope him all over. The warmth of your palms should make him feel warm all over too. Feel free to grab him too. For instance, run your palms all over his chest, reach down, reach back, and then grab a handful of his buttocks!

When he’s already undressed, run your palms slightly roughly across his chest and then very gently caress his erect nipples with your flat palms. The rough and then gentle approach will surely drive him wild!

You can also opt to need his back with long hand strokes or graze his sides gently with your fingernails. Mix up the sensations and he’ll be sexually dazzled he won’t know what to expect.

Foreplay Tip # 5: Push Him to the Brink

Nothing can be more sexually mind-blowing than ALMOST reaching a climax, ebbing, and then being brought up to that ‘almost there’ high again. Yes, tease your man tonight until he literally begs you for release.

How best to do it: Show him how romantic you are by drawing an imaginary heart shape over his groin with your lips! Trace the outline of his groin slowly by planting kisses and/or using your tongue. This will make him focus and pay sole attention to his groin. Now, perform fellatio. Just when you sense he’s nearing his release… let go of his member and go back to your lazy heart shape drawing again!

To up the ante, ride him for all you’re worth. And just when he – or you! – are about to come, let go and engage in some hot, passionate kissing. Then go back up on that horse again for the next round!

For Added Pre-Play Pleasure, Try These Toys

Following is a list of unusual sexual stimulants that you may want to try too to add more fun to your foreplay.

Snapshots. Let him play with is camera and snap a picture of you… naked… while on top of him.

Wigs. Walk into the bedroom with nothing on but a completely different wig. He’ll think you’re somebody else… and you get to be somebody else in bed too.

Stockings. Bondage sounds such a harsh word. Tonight, wear a sheer body suit and as he peels it off your body, whisper something like “honey, why don’t you tie my hands and show me who’s my daddy?”.

RED, very red lipstick. I know what you’re thinking, draw lazy circles and cute heart shapes all over his body, right? You can do that… OR write down dirty words all over his body. I bet your man prefers the latter!

What Does Abstinence Mean To You?

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If you’ve heard about sex ed, you’ve likely heard about abstinence. What is abstinence, anyway? Basically, it’s just a fancy word for not having sex. Believe it or not though, abstinence may not be as black and white as you think. Abstinence means different things to different people. What does abstinence mean to you?

We can all generally accept the idea that sexual abstinence means waiting for marriage to have sex… But here’s where it gets tricky – What does “Sex” mean to you? Is it sexual intercourse? Is it any sexually arousing experience? Is it oral sex? Anal Sex? Masturbation?

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The Definition Of Abstinence

Abstinence, in it’s most basic form, is to abstain, or keep from, doing something. Most people refer to it as refraining from having sex, but you can also abstain from alcohol, cigarettes, or anything really. In it’s most popular form, however, the definition of abstinence means to keep from having sex. In most cultures, the term abstinence refers to waiting until marriage to have sex, however, any couple can practice abstinence even if they’re married. Some married couples practice abstinence at a certain time during a woman’s monthly cycle as a form of birth control. In this article though, we’re going to explore how abstinence can mean different things to different people.

Defining Sex

To define not having sex, first you have to define the term sex itself. What does having “sex” mean to you? Does having sex mean only penetration, therefore abstinence from sex means oral sex doesn’t fall into that category? Or does having sex mean every type of sex, including oral sex, anal sex, masturbation and vaginal intercourse? Does your definition of abstinence relate to being a virgin? Is virginity still intact only if you abstain from vaginal intercourse, or is virginity intact if one abstains from the use of sex toys, or even tampons as well?

It Remains Undefined

The definition of sex, much like the definition of abstinence, remains essentially undefined. It means something different for everyone, and only you can decide what counts as sex and what counts as abstinence – no one else can or should decide for you. Abstinence, just like having sex, is a personal choice. Examine your own beliefs and morals, and do what feels right for you. Don’t let parents, a culture, society or your friends or family members pressure you into deciding to have sex or deciding to be abstinent – or even deciding what actions constitute sex and abstinence unless you’re sure that it’s what you want. It’s also not a one way street – just because you choose to be abstinent now doesn’t mean you can’t choose to have sex later if that’s what you decide. Similarly, if you decide to have sex now, that doesn’t mean you can’t decide to become abstinent later. While you may have lost your virginity in doing so, don’t assume that means you have to continue having sex if you’re not comfortable with it. Do what feels right to you!

Know Your Boundaries First

Before making your decision, know your boundaries. Think of the possible situations you might be in, and what you might decide if confronted with that situation. Really think about it – if you’re abstinent, does oral sex count? Does giving a handjob count? Do you want to be totally abstinent from every type of sex? Don’t be caught off guard – know what you want and what doesn’t coincide with your decision before you put yourself in a situation that might possibly make you uncomfortable if you aren’t prepared. Don’t forget sex education – learn about STD’s, pregnancy and birth control even if you’re being abstinent. You’ll be able to make smarter choices when you do decide to have sex. Ultimately, you’re responsible for your own sex education. You’re responsible for your body, right?