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Will Daily Masturbation Affect Puberty?

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Many teenagers have this very question – is masturbation wrong? Does it affect puberty? Will masturbating daily – or masturbating at all – cause health problems? What is the truth when it comes to masturbation?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Is daily masturbation going to halt, alter or harm my progress through puberty? If so, how drastic is it and how long would I have had to been masturbating daily for it to have an effect?

–Anonymous

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Old Wives Tales

You might have heard that masturbation can make you go blind. Or it might give you hairy palms, or even make you need glasses. There’s not one bit of truth to any of these claims – in fact, there are no medical problems that are caused by masturbation, even daily masturbation. In fact, masturbation is healthy for both men and women of all ages, especially those going through puberty. The extra hormones produced by your body during puberty cause you to want to satisfy your new sexual needs and urges, and it’s completely natural to do so. Masturbation is a healthy and not to mention safe way to satisfy those desires without worrying about pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Unfortunately, sex ed in this country is at a low – many adults are afraid to talk to their children about sex and masturbation, so children and teenagers growing up thinking masturbation is wrong and they’re “dirty” for doing it. Grow up people! Masturbation is healthy, safe and a natural way to satisfy those new desires that come with puberty.

How Much Is Too Much?

That said, it is possible that a person – teenager, adult, man or woman – can masturbate too much. Medically speaking, not so much. But what about when it starts interfering with your daily life? What happens if you’re making time in your day for masturbation (instead of just letting it happen naturally and satisfying the desire when it comes along and is convenient) or you’re masturbating 3 or 4 times a day? That’s when it starts crossing the line – and it’s not just masturbation. It can be anything, including television, books, video games or chat rooms. If you find that your daily life is being interrupted by these things – masturbation included – it might be a borderline obsession or addiction that you need to keep in check. Don’t be afraid to talk to a doctor or counselor if you find that you’re masturbating too much – with therapy, they can help you to find other outlets for your stress and extra sexual desires so you don’t feel the need to masturbate so much that it interferes with your daily life.

All in all, masturbation has no bearing on personal growth, puberty or your body at all medically and can, in fact, be healthy for you. We live in the era of the Internet, so don’t be afraid to Google masturbation and find out some good facts for yourself. Look them up on credible websites and keep an eye out for anything that sounds fishy – such as masturbation causing you to have leprosy. Even though the sex ed in this country is lacking, that doesn’t mean you can’t take the initiative to educate yourself! Be safe, smart and informed!

5 Mistakes That Most Women Make When Experimenting With How To Give A Blowjob

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Would you like to be a master in the art of fellatio and send him through the roof with a mind-blowing orgasm? If you do, then this is the best time to brush up on your oral sex skills.

What makes oral sex satisfying for men as it is for women is that the visual treat of seeing you worship his penis once you get down on your knees is extremely arousing. So if you want to know how to give a blowjob, you should first learn about the top 5 mistakes that you should stay away from.

Mistake #1: Having A Limp Grip

Remember that a good blowjob involves a combination of using your mouth, tongue and hands to send him over the edge. Once you take him into your mouth, you can use your fingers to stroke the rest of the shaft – and make sure to use a firm instead of a lax grip for this.

Mistake #2: Not Taking A Clue From His Body Language   

Once you get down on your knees, make sure to be extra attentive to his moans, groans, the way that he thrusts his hips and how he holds your head against his groin. This will give you a clue on what motion he likes best – and to make sure that you’re not accidentally grazing him with your teeth, learn to distinguish between the moans of pleasure and the groans of pain that he’s making. 

Mistake #3:  Not Being Familiar With His Family Jewels

Don’t treat his penis like breakable china, but don’t ignore the family jewels, either. These are probably two of the best rules that you can follow if you want to give him an out-of-this-world blowjob.

Mistake #4: Not Showing Him How Much You Like Giving Him Head

Men are visual creatures, and no sight is more arousing than you worshipping his penis from down there. When giving him a blowjob, make sure to show him how much you like giving him head by making eye contact and letting him hear your own moans and groans of arousal.

Mistake #5: Not Using All Tools At Your Disposal

A good blowjob involves using your hands and not just your mouth to get him off – so make sure to combine a stroking and sucking motion when going down on him.

Steering clear of the top 5 mistakes that women make when learning how to give a blowjob is one of the best things that you can do so that you can sharpen your oral sex techniques.

Now that you already have an idea about the top 5 mistakes that women make when giving a blowjob, what is the proper way to do it? Visit our site to find out more about how you can give that special man in your life an earth shattering orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

How to Give a Blowjob: 3 Steps that You can Follow to Give Him an Earth Shattering Orgasm Using Your Mouth & Hands!

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When it comes to the aspect of giving a man sexual pleasure, learning how to give head is probably the ultimate skill that you can attain. Nothing turns on a man more than the sight of a woman going down on her knees and worshipping his penis with his point of view.

As such, it would definitely be an improvement with your sexual skills as a lover if you know how to send him to an earth shattering orgasm using your mouth and hands. Read on to find out exactly how to give a blowjob to a man – and turn him into your willing slave!

Step 1: Use Your Hands & Mouth To Heat Things Up

This is probably the equivalent of a man indulging in some foreplay before getting it on with you in the sack. If you want to start heating things up, stroke his body parts and tease them with kisses, licks and love bites.

Begin with his chest, neck, abs and work your way down south. Once you reach that area below the belt, try to tease him first by staying away from his inner thighs and just zeroing in on your target when he least expects it. 

Step 2: Use Your Tongue To Get Things Going 

By now, he should already be anticipating the sensation of having your mouth on his penis. Once you finally give it to him, start by making a licking motion with the flat of your tongue on the head of his penis. Tease the underside of the shaft with little flicks and forays, before taking him slowly into your mouth. 

Step 3: Get Down On It

As you take his penis into your mouth, you should use a combination of hand and mouth techniques to send him over the edge. Whatever part of the shaft you cannot take into your mouth, use your hands to create an up and down motion which is in harmony with how you are sucking on him. This will give him a sensation that you are actually taking his entire shaft into your mouth.

Don’t forget to tease his balls – don’t squeeze, just rub them gently against his shaft. Also, use a combination of licking, flicking and hand motions to send him to a climax.

When giving a man a blowjob, keep in mind that there’s no one set of rules to follow – just use his body language as a guide to know when he’s about to come – and intensify things from there.
Tips

Men are visual creatures, so treat him to that oh-so-arousing sight of you on your knees, worshipping his penis – by looking directly into his eyes while giving him a blowjob.

Warnings

Cover your teeth with your lips – nothing feels worse for a man than to have your teeth grazing the skin of his shaft – so closely guard those fangs.

3 Mistakes You Should Steer Clear Of When Learning How To Give A Blowjob

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If you are trying to brush up on your oral sex skills, the first thing that you need to learn about is the worst mistakes that you can ever make. Although you might think that any blowjob is better than not receiving one at all – most men would wish that you to be skilled at it. 

They would most definitely prefer not getting a blowjob at all rather than receiving a bad one – especially if you are a ‘teeth-grazer’ or if you treat a penis like it’s your grandmother’s fine china! 

So if you do want to better your skills in bed and learn how to give a BJ or a blowjob, here is a list of the top three mistakes that you should steer clear of:

Mistake #1: Not Lending Him A Helping Hand

Perhaps one of the most common mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ is not using their hands enough. Remember that just like your vagina, there are secret crevices, curves and veins around his shaft and below his balls which require attention.

In order for you to explore these zones and give him some oral loving that he is not bound to forget anytime soon, make sure to lend him a helping hand. Move your hands up and down his shaft within the area which is not covered by your mouth. The motion of your hands and lips should be one fluid movement – which makes him feel as if you are taking it all in.

Mistake #2: Giving Him The Death Grip  

There’s a thin line between sucking firmly, and gripping him with your mouth as if you are trying to strangle a live chicken. If you don’t want to give him the death grip – either using your mouth of your hands – make sure to always listen to his moans and groans.

If the sounds that he is making are moans of pleasure rather than groans of pain – then you are on the right track.

Mistake #3:  Ignoring His Balls

You might hear how some men refer to their genitalia as his ‘package’ – and this is because the shaft of his penis should not be separated from their cousins – which are his balls.

While going down on him, make sure that you are well acquainted with his balls. Use your free hand to caress his balls – try not to squeeze too hard – tickle, tease them and do whatever it is that you want to do, just don’t ignore them!

By avoiding the top three mistakes that women make when learning how to give a BJ, you will be on your way towards mastering the art of giving head. 

After learning about the top three blowjob mistakes that you should steer clear of, visit our site to learn more about what exactly you should do to properly give him head – and lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.

Tips For A Lasting Relationship

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One of my biggest tips for a lasting relationships is scientific – but bear with me, as it has implications and advice for the real world. One of the best things you can do to ensure a happy, satisfying relationship that will endure through life’s ups and downs is to recreate endorphins. So what exactly does that mean? Endorphins are the same brain chemicals we feel when we begin to fall in love. They show up elsewhere, too, or course, when we’ve accomplished a goal or done something risky. But they show up in love because we’re anticipating the excitement, risk and – yes- perhaps the accomplishment of meeting someone new, starting a relationship, and all the details that brings with it.

When The “Fire” Dies

But it’s likely that after only a little while, those feelings of risk, excitement and accomplishment begin to wane. We know most of the stories our partner tells. We know all their secrets – and all of the details of their day-to-day life as well. We’ve learned much of what there is to know about their past, their likes and dislikes, their struggles and their hobbies. We’ve probably settled into a routine in this new relationship and what was once exciting and unsure has become second nature. This is not a bad stage in a relationship – on the contrary, it can be exciting in its own way as you get to know someone intimately and become comfortable enough with them to develop a life and support system with them. But that doesn’t change the fact that many relationships plateau here, and this often leads to trouble.

So, put into practice, what can you do to increase endorphins? As I suggest in my book, Make up Don’t Breakup – which focuses on getting through the dips in order to form a lasting relationship – I recommend that you linger. An example is a 20 sec hug which releases the feel good, happy, dopamine rush. Also a 30 second kiss which releases the cuddle hormone Oxytocin and which bonds you to your partner. I’m sure you can come up with more of your own!

More Tips To Make Your Relationship Last

• Make sure you fight fairly. I discuss this in Financial Infidelity that it’s so important to have a 10 minute heart-to heart each week, with a figurative emotional “bullet proof vest” to protect from hurt, anger and defensiveness, as you listen and echo back what you heard. It is essential to walk in your partner’s shoes rather than trying to be right. Instead of shame and blame you should give 3 solutions, and your partner has to pick at least one. Fighting fairly creates the tension that gives you passion and makes you feel safe.

• Make sex a priority, Schedule it in. Some examples are:

“Sex vows”

“Kidnap your partner” – take turns scheduling something – non-sexual – that you enjoy as a couple. Build on that intimacy, and see where it leads!

Use your imagination and come up with different ways to feel close to your partner, even when you don’t, well, feel close to your partner. Those endorphins will keep your body, spirit and mind happy in this relationship, making it last for the long haul!