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How to Have Sex on an Airplane and Join the Mile High Club

Flying can be a so-so affair. It’s pretty much the same event. The destination or meal might change, but in the end, it’s all the same.

Adding a little sexual activity to your flight might seem like an ideal way to pass the time, but convincing your lady it’s a good idea might be the first, and most difficult, challenge to overcome on your way to joining the popular ‘Mile High Club’.

How can you convince her that having sex on an airplane will be fun, exciting, and worth the risk (yes, it IS illegal to have sex in an airplane so do proceed at your own risk!) and possible discomfort?

Convincing your woman to have sex on an airplane is as simple as addressing her concerns, promising to deliver and knowing the limitations. Let’s look at each of these in detail.

What To Do Before You Board The Plane

If your woman is closed off to the idea of having sex on a plane, be sure you understand her concerns. If you can, start before you even board the plane. Tell her that you’re goal is simply to “spice up” your sex lives and that you have no underlying wish to end up in jail.

You already know her threshold for adventure. If she’s pretty adventurous, you already have an “in”. If she’s not, ask her what her concerns are. Let’s look at some common concerns, and what to do about it:

Concern #1: She’s Afraid Of Getting Caught

She’s afraid you’ll be found out. Tell her that airplane sex is common. It happens more than you realize. In fact, it might have happened near her on a flight. She just didn’t know. Besides, there are many things you can do to prevent being caught.

You can keep yourselves covered with a blanket.
You can head to the bathroom and do the deed there (we’ll look at this in a bit).
You can limit your sexual activities so they’re not so obvious.
You can save the activity for a red eye, or late night flight when people are asleep.

Concern #2: She’s Too Embarrassed To Do It

Again, if nobody knows, what’s there to be embarrassed about? You can tell her that the two of you can simply hold hands, and kiss a little. Then you can move onto more intimate activities. Only if she feels comfortable will you move on even more. You might suggest she order wine or another drink to help her relax.

Concern #3: She’s Too Shy

She has a general objection to PDAs (public displays of affection). In this case, maybe she’s never thought of herself as the “wild and adventurous” kind of girl. Let her get it in her head and mull it over a bit first. She may soon realize that she’s more interested than she thought she ever would be.

Whatever her concerns are, be certain to reassure her that you won’t do anything that violates appropriate behavior given the circumstances. Tell her that you’ll respect decorum. No matter how excited you are about the possibility of joining that elusive Mile High Club, tell her that you will be discreet, quiet and controlled.

Finally… Let her know that if a problem arises, you’ll take the blame, admit fault, do whatever you have to do to protect her. Once you have reassured your woman that you have a plan, that it will be fun, and that you’ll be the fall guy if you have to, you will likely succeed in convincing her to get busy with you at 30,000 feet.

Ideally, the above discussions should take place before you board the plane or before your trip. However, if you’re already onboard when it occurred to you to see if she’s interested in some “above the skies action“, simply discuss it with her…but respect her concerns.

You can have a low, quiet conversation about things while on the plane. (Tip: Make sure it’s a long fight, so there is time to convince her!)

Now, let’s say you’ve convinced her. Great! Now what? Follow these tips to make your airplane sex fantasy come true.

Get An Aisle Seat

Make sure one of you has an aisle seat. In some cases, you can choose your seat after you buy your ticket. I always select an aisle seat. Nothing is worse than having to crawl over people to head to the bathroom to complete the deed. If one of you is on the aisle, you have an easy way to get to the bathroom with a minimum of fuss.

Do It At The Right Time

Go to the bathroom at times that are not busy. This might include meal or snack service, or right before the captain says it’s OK to move about the cabin. (This is when the flight attendants begin getting ready for service but before us regular folk are told it’s fine to start walking around.)

Quick Wipe Down

When you get to the bathroom, try and wipe down any surfaces that might need wiping; if you have any sanitized wipes, even those designed for hands, use them. Then proceed with your hot and illicit lovemaking!

Tell your woman that you’ll make sure she’s good and ready (perhaps some dirty talk beforehand in your seats, or even a little bit of subtle foreplay?) so things go well for her and not just you.

Make It Quick and Quiet

Be prepared for a quiet quickie. This isn’t the time to try out new positions or have all night honeymoon-sex where you moan at the top of your lungs. It’s the time to have fun quickly, quietly and, let’s face it, be proud of the accomplishment.

Another reason to make it quick and quiet is other people may be waiting to use the lavatory. If they’re standing outside waiting for you two to finish, and they hear some familiar sounds that shouldn’t be heard on board an aircraft, it may give them some suspicion about what you’re doing in there…

How To Exit The Lavatory After Sex

Finally, when it’s time to leave the bathroom, do it in a subtle way. If someone sees you leaving together, say that one of you (decide who ahead of time) was sick and the other was there for comfort and support. (Hey, it will be hard for anyone to prove otherwise.)

Top 10 Things Women Wish Men Would Do Before, During and After Sex

By leejenkins

These days it should come as no surprise that women enjoy sex just as much as men do, but one thing that has stayed the same is that they would like men to ‘just know’ what they want without having to break down and tell them!

This article should make sex a real no-brainer for you from here on thanks to these ten things that women admit to wanting even if they don’t necessarily admit it to you!

Before Sex She Wants You To…

1. Kiss Her

It seems that kissing has become a bit of a lost art in this day and age and this is especially the case when a couple has been together for a long time. Spend a few minutes just kissing (a.k.a. making out) the way you did when you were a teenager. You’d be surprised at how hot kissing can really be!

2. Indulge in Some Foreplay

Women need a little more than guys do in order to get really turned in and primed for action. By treating them to more foreplay, not only do you increase their chances of an orgasm, but you’re also setting yourself up for some very hot sex to follow!

3. Be Romantic

This should come as no shocker to anyone as it has been a problem since the beginning of man! While women enjoy a hard sexy throw down on occasion, they still want to be pampered and romanced a little.

Take some time to light a candle or two or just say something romantic. It doesn’t take a bed sprinkled with rose petals to make a woman happy-though that would be great too.

During Sex She Wants You To…

4. Look Into Her Eyes

You can’t even begin to imagine how incredibly arousing it can be to keep your eyes focused on each other during sex.

It creates an intimacy like nothing else which most women crave from their partners and it can really help you get in tune with each other so you’re better able to know what feels good to them and what could use a little work; all without having to say a word.

5. Be A Little Rough

Yes, women want romance and tenderness, but most often before sex. During sex a woman wants to feel the passion and the urgency that comes from being wanted and desired.

Men are often afraid to be too rough, but the truth is that many women want to be handled a little harder during sex. Note: Tip #5 is a great one to help gauge just how rough you should be with her.

6. Not Forget Her Clitoris

The clitoris is the female equivalent of the penis, meaning that it is full of pleasure-feeling nerve endings that need to be stimulated to achieve orgasm. Most often a man will be so wrapped up in all the thrusting that he will neglect the most sensual part of her body. Spend some time on the clitoris and you’ll make her one happy camper!

After Sex She Wants You To…

7. Cuddle

Big surprise; a woman wants to be held a little after sex as opposed to having you roll over and fall asleep like she’s not even there. Put your arms around her, let her rest her head on you and try to stay awake for the next tip.

8. Say Something

Again, this one should come as no surprise. This is because women tend to feel more vulnerable after sex and by taking the time to listen and talk to her; you are making her feel more at ease and special.

9. Be Tender

Once the passionate, raw sex is done and over with, it’s time to treat her like a delicate little lady again.

And Finally…

10. Have sex with her again!

That’s right; while most men need to rest and regroup after they climax, women are usually good to go again rather quickly and would appreciate another round!

Why Men Fail Miserably at Giving Their Women Orgasms – Even After Applying the Right Techniques

By paultony

As men, we are put under a lot of pressure in terms of how we perform as lovers. The media ensure’s this by battering us with statistics on the huge percentages of women that find it difficult to achieve orgasms.

In addition to that, men also have to measure up against porn and main stream movie stars that always seem to effortlessly give their lovers mind blowing orgasms.

Lastly, to complicate this stressed out situation even more, you are also obliged to give your partner multiple orgasms, g-spot orgasms, a-spot orgasms, clitoral orgasms and blended orgasms.

Techniques Don’t Always Work

Though there are many great guides that teach us powerful techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse, many men are rudely surprised that these techniques don’t always work out like they are supposed to.

This stresses them out even more, and soon the whole episode turns into a nightmare.

Okay, before you give up on the cause of becoming a masterful lover, take a deep breath, relax, and clear your mind. You are about to learn that being a great lover is not just about technique.

Yes, technique does play an important part in helping your partner achieve powerful orgasms, but only if it is applied with the right approach and mindset.

So, what is the Right Approach and Mindset?

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself in the bedroom. Have fun. After all, who ever wanted something as enjoyable as sex to turn into a chore, or worse yet, a science project?

You are not the only one that gets affected with the stress that is induced by this type of pressure. Your partner will notice how stressed you are, and ultimately, it will affect her overall performance in bed as well.

The last thing you want is for your lover to be worried that she might let you down by not reaching an orgasm. She will feel obliged to do anything she can in order to make you happy, even if it means having to lie by faking an orgasm. Ultimately, you will learn nothing, and she will gain nothing.

Approach your love making sessions with a sense of humor. Learn to laugh at yourself and the situation if things don’t go as planned. This will keep the environment between you and your lover relaxed and fun. Most importantly, it will help to keep the doors of communication wide open.

Communicate Openly

Once you are able to communicate openly and in a relaxed manner with your partner, everything will start to make sense.

Having the right approach and mindset will also make the task of learning new techniques in cunnilingus, fingering and intercourse easier. You will have a better understanding of how to apply these techniques because of the relaxed manner in which you and your partner are able to communicate.

You will realize that every woman will have different wants and needs when it comes to sex. You will also realize that it takes time to truly learn your lover. Most importantly, you will realize that there really is no hurry, because both of you are having fun.

eXtreme Sex Ed: Help! I Feel Like A Spectator During Sex!

By loveandsex

If you’re new at sex or are just new to your partner, it might be difficult for you to get “into” your partner.

Things might seem awkward at first and it can be frustration to experience sexual intimacy with your partner without being really “into” it. How can you get more into your partner and more into sex with them?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I want to tell my bf what I like in bed, but I don’t know how, because I don’t masturbate? (That’s right! – remember from before Scarlett is a pastor’s kid…) I feel like a spectator during sex. I find it hard to relax and I don’t think I’ve ever had an orgasm. Please help.

–Scarlett, NJ

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Finding Out What You Want

For you to get “into” sex, it’s important for you to experiment with what turns you on. If you don’t know what turns you on and what gets you excited, it’s hard not to feel like a spectator when you’re actually doing the deed. How do you do that? One of the greatest ways to experiment with what you like is to masturbate.

Use your hands, a detachable shower head or even toys to find out what feels the best. You can masturbate with your partner if you prefer, or you can masturbate alone to really try new things and find out what really gets you going.

It’s difficult to get into sex and share with your partner what you like without first knowing yourself.

Get Into The Game

One of the best ways to find out what you like during sex and really get into it is to just dive in and do it! Spend time experimenting with different techniques, including genital massage, oral sex and sexual intercourse.

You might like simultaneous oral sex or you might really enjoy your partner using their hands on you.

You’ll never know though if you don’t try! Have sex with your partner and make mental notes of what you don’t like and what you really don’t want to try again. Next time, try something new.

Continue to do this until you find a few things that you really enjoy doing with your partner. Make a mental note of these and when you’re feeling turned on, you and your partner can use these things to get you really excited and into it.

Make sure both partners get equal satisfaction. It’s easy for a woman to feel like a spectator during sex if the focus is on the man. Share each other equally and take turns pleasuring each other until you build up to an amazing climax!

Talk With Your Partner

While you want to be careful about how you approach this subject, it’s important to talk with your partner and be open and honest with them about what you like and don’t like.

Don’t criticize your partner for moves that you don’t like, instead suggest new ones that you’d like to try.

If you close the lines of communication and never let your partner know what feels good and what doesn’t, you’ll never be “into” your partner or even “into” sex with them.

Use Trial and Error

Similarly, your partner can share with you what they like so together you can experiment with what works and forget about what doesn’t.

With a little trial and error, you and your partner will learn what you like and what you don’t like, making it easier for you to have successful intimate encounters. Take it slow if you need to and stay open and honest with your partner. Don’t get discouraged and keep trying. You’ll never find out what turns you on and gets you into it if you don’t try!

Is It Okay to Have Anal Sex Without Lube?

By loveandsex

Anal sex, when done correctly, can be a source of pleasure for both men and women. It can break the sense of what is “taboo” and help spice up your sex life as well as giving both you and your partner new and exciting sensations.

However, if done incorrectly, anal sex can cause damage and infection. Without proper lubrication, you and your partner can get into some serious trouble with anal sex!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I am a sadist, and my girlfriend is a masochist. We both agreed that we wanted to have anal sex without lube.

My fear is that I could cause serious damage that way, because as you stated in a previous segment about anal sex, it’s not meant to be an in-hole and it doesn’t lubricate itself. So, is it possible to have anal sex without lube and not cause serious damage? Or is that just an impossible fantasy?

–Anonymous, California

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Tearing The Membranes

Anal sex is somewhat difficult to begin with, especially for the inexperienced. When having anal sex, it is extremely important to use lots of lubrication to make sure there is no friction. Keep in mind that the anal cavity is quite unlike the vagina. It doesn’t self lubricate like the vagina does.

Without external lubrication, the friction between the penis and the anal cavity can cause tearing. The rectum itself could easily tear, as well as the inner membranes of the lower intestine.

Remember, the anal cavity wasn’t built for sex! It was made for the expulsion of waste. That doesn’t mean you can’t have fun with it though, if you take the proper precautions.

For example, the mouth was designed for eating but that generally doesn’t stop people from having oral sex. With oral sex though, people take the proper precautions and make sure they don’t choke their partner with their penis.

Anal sex is similar, but there are a few more precautions to take. Using lots of lube helps keep the penis and anal cavity moist so there is little to no tearing. Remember to go slow when having anal sex and if it hurts too much, stop!

Infection

Tearing the anal membranes is of special concern because the anal cavity is filled with lots of unfriendly bacteria. In the event of an injury, the bacteria will go straight to the wound and severely impede healing.

Just imagine rubbing feces into a cut on your arm. You wouldn’t want to do that, would you? It’s the same concept with anal injuries. You don’t want them if you can help it.

The bacteria from feces can keep the wound from healing properly and it can also cause infection. If the tear is in the right place and big enough, it can cause fecal matter to leak into your abdominal cavity, causing serious health issues and possibly requiring surgery. Anal sex isn’t something you take lightly!

Take Proper Precautions

If you plan on having anal sex, use every precaution you can. Always use plenty of lubrication and you can protect yourself even further by having your partner wear a condom.

Never insert a penis or other object into a vagina after it has been inserted into the anal cavity without washing it thoroughly. Wash your hands and all toys or other body parts involved in hot, soapy water after you’re finished.

Be careful, and go slow at first, especially if you’re inexperienced. It might be a good idea to come up with a “code word” that means stop, in the event that you’re experiencing too much pain. Never force anal sex! If you are safe and smart, anal sex can become a pleasurable addition to your sex repertoire. If done incorrectly, anal sex can cause you a lot of damage, money and health problems.

It’s always better to be safe and smart!