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Are YOU A Good Lover? Find Out NOW!

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Better sex is completely reliant on you. Making the same mistakes that so many other men make is not going to help you. Learning how to separate yourself from the rest will give you the confidence you need when pleasing a woman. Here are some ways that you can immediately improve yourself in bed.

Don’t Put Too Much Focus On Intercourse

Being a great lover you is about being able to please a woman. It’s all about her orgasm first. You must be able to bring her to climax before you. Then she’s going to want to bring you to climax and the sex is going to be that much better.

Too many men focus on the intercourse. They’re all about being good in the intercourse part, you know, good in the dynamic part of sex. A lot of men spend too much time researching sexual positions: how to flip a woman over and how to do it from behind and what the best missionary positions are.

And that’s all great. Understanding all the different positions and different moves and how to stimulate the g-spot are all fantastic. These are all things that you need to know to be a dynamic lover.

It’s All About Mindset

If you haven’t figured out by now, life is 100% mindset. When a man meets a woman for the very first time and there’s sexual energy between the two of them, it’s not just about what you’re going to do with them physically, it’s all about the foreplay ahead of time that really drives a woman wild and actually drives the man wild too.

When you’ve got a lot of mental foreplay with somebody, it opens up a whole new world of sexuality. A lot of men and women don’t understand the art of talking dirty, or how important it is to really bring somebody to orgasm. But more important, a lot of men don’t realize the emotional connection that women need to have. Because men tend to think with their little head, and women, well, they have a little head too, but their little head is so small they don’t really think with it.

Use Her Emotion

In order to massage a woman, in order to get her to really open up sexually to you, you need to be able to understand the way that she is wired emotionally. I’ve said so many times that women are like giant a giant clitoris. If you go in for the kill right away, they’re basically going to be shut down.

You’ve got to learn how to open them up. You got to learn how to really become a dynamic lover, because that is what they’re looking for. It’s like licking an ice cream cone. Spend the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core for then seduction and teasing her. Learn how to control your mindset, learn how to influence hers, and you’re already on your way to becoming the best lover possible.

5 Female Orgasm Myths Men Believe That AREN’T True!

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Female orgasm myths are said time and time again. Some men think that there are women that simply can’t have one. Others believe that their penis size is the root cause. Here are 5 myths that simply aren’t true.

1. A Woman Can Reach Orgasm More Easily If Her Partner Has A Big Penis

If you think your penis size has something to do with a woman’s ability to climax, you need to think again. The truth is that size really doesn’t matter all that much. Look at it this way: just as large breasts may be fun to play with and look at, they really don’t have anything to do with whether or not you climax.

Just as they say “more than a mouthful is a waste,” the same holds true for penises, except our saying goes “more than a vagina full is a waste (and sometimes painful).” Since only the first two inches of a woman’s vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from a woman’s physical perspective.

2. A Woman Doesn’t Enjoy Sex Unless She Has An Orgasm

Listen up: NOTHING COULD BE MORE WRONG!!!! Although a majority of men believe that the only way a woman enjoys sex is if she orgasms, nothing could be farther from the truth.

For many couples, sex is generally a physical and emotional expression of love, intimacy, and trust. Because women thoroughly enjoy being close to their partners, many enjoy the physical aspect of feeling their partner’s naked body against theirs during sex, even when it is not accompanied by climax.

The physical touch of her partner helps satisfy a woman’s need for affection, so sex can be very satisfying both physically and emotionally even if she doesn’t climax. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman.

3. There’s Nothing Wrong With Faking An Orgasm

A lot of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is that there’s A LOT wrong with a fake orgasm. Although faking an orgasm may benefit the woman in one way or another, it does absolutely nothing for her partner. Faking an orgasm is nothing more than a lie.

It doesn’t matter if her reason for doing so is to spare your feelings or to get the act of sex done and over with. Allowing you to believe something that isn’t true is lying. While faking an orgasm may help a man feel good about himself in terms of his ability to satisfy his partner, the truth of the matter is that he is not satisfying his partner.

4. Some Women Just Can’t Have An Orgasm

While there are a percentage of women who have never had one, there is no evidence to suggest that some women are physically incapable of climaxing. One of the reasons some women have never had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm is because they just don’t know how.

While men have a lot of practice pleasing themselves through masturbation, many women lack the same experience. As a result, they don’t understand what the big deal is about sex and give up trying to learn how to reach climax. The main reason behind this failure to achieve an orgasm is improper genital stimulation.

Contrary to popular belief, a woman requires clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not vaginal stimulation. Without proper stimulation of the clitoris, orgasm is unlikely for most women.

5. Women Take Longer To Orgasm Than Men

This is another common myth, which has not been supported by research. The reason many men and women believe this to be true is because of their lack of understanding sexual arousal.  A woman’s pattern of sexual arousal is much different than a man’s.

As a result, it takes women longer to “want” to have sex than it does men. Once a woman is fully aroused, she can have an orgasm just as fast, if not faster, than her male partner. But should she fail to reach that optimum level of sexual arousal, it can appear to take her longer to have an orgasm than a man.

The key is to learn how to get your partner hot and horny first. Because men often don’t know how to sexually arouse their partners, they often engage in sex sooner than their partner is ready for. As a result, achieving orgasm can be difficult for the woman, if not impossible. Not only will that help her to climax faster, it will also help her to climax more often.

What Is The Symphisis And How Do I Use It To Make Her Orgasm?

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A female orgasm is one of the hardest sexual concepts for men to understand. Gaining knowledge of the anatomy behind the female orgasm can give you a deeper understanding of how women respond to touch during sex. Here are some techniques and anatomical features to help you bring your girl to orgasm.

Understand The Female Anatomy

The clitoral head – the bud that you see poking out when a woman is aroused – is actually just the tip of a large, interconnected network of nerve endings.

As the clitoris moves from the outside of a woman’s body to the inner workings of her genitalia, it expands into a complex network of nerves and tissues. Starting just under the fatty layer that surrounds this entire area, the network starts off with the clitoral shaft – similar to a man’s penile shaft – and then separates into two shafts and does a U-turn. The turn, called the clitoral knee, wraps back around to extend to the G-Spot at one angle, and the labia minora and majora at another.

Basically the entire network hub meets up at the clitoral hood, almost like a flower in wait to bloom. When in its normal, non-aroused state, the clitoral head seems much like a budding flower waiting to bloom, and when a woman gets aroused, it opens up its petals internally, expanding in both directions down and out.

As the clitoral hood reacts and expands very much like the head of a penis, it is able to increases in size and becomes erect. When it fills with blood, the internal U-turn straightens out somewhat, and lies suspended even closer to the woman’s skin because of its engorgement.

The Key To Female Orgasm: Symphisis

For most women, the head of the clitoral network – the clitoral hood, head and shaft – sits underneath a padding of fat and skin around the bottom portion of the mons pubis. Doctors call this area the symphysis, and it’s identified in X-rays as a small, thin oval-shaped bone.

The symphysis sits under the clitoral knee and shaft internally, with another cushion of fat, muscle and skin over the top. When a woman is aroused, you can feel the shaft with a delicate touch, as it swells and presses up against the symphysis. Men also have a symphysis at the base of their penis, and it is also covered with a small layer of fat, muscle and skin.

Therefore, to enhance the chance of a woman’s sexual release, make sure that every time you have sex, your symphysese are pressed up against one another. As well, make sure that each thrust into your partner ends with a grinding of these areas together, thus stimulating the shaft of her clitoris and giving her the friction she needs to orgasm. Additionally, if she can tilt her pelvis up towards the root of your penis, she’ll further enhance the sensation.

The Symphisis Connection

Depending on your partner’s individual anatomy and how excited she is, you can effectively stroke her clitoral shaft up to two inches while performing this maneuver. She’ll instantly know that it’s working because she’ll feel the difference in stimulation, and will probably liken it to how she feels during her own masturbatory sessions.

In time, she’ll be able to maneuver her pelvis exactly so she can achieve the right angle of friction, and you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot at the bottom of your thrusting because you’ll feel your symphysese press up against one another. For side or rear-entry positions, you may both have to alter your angle of thrusting and grinding, or use your hands, to achieve the same results.

Some women find that once they’ve mastered this technique, they orgasm quite quickly, and can control the speed of which they achieve climax as well. If she thinks she’s about to come and wants to prolong the pleasure, all she has to do is move her bum out and stop letting your symphysis rub up against hers. She’ll remain aroused, but won’t receive the stimulation that was pushing her too far too fast.

For men that find they orgasm too quickly for their partner to join them in the bliss of release, choose positions that don’t allow for a tremendous amount of thrusting, but instead focus on your partner’s grinding of her symphysis into yours. This way she’ll still get what she needs, and you won’t get the shaft rub that excites you too furiously. When she feels like she’s getting close to orgasm, you can change sex positions into one that offers you both the thrusting and grinding required.

The easiest way for both of you to learn how to perform this ‘symphysis press’ is to start practicing with woman on top positions. This way she can choose how deep you penetrate, how much grinding and pressing she receives, and can decide which angle works best for her physiology.

Handjob Tips & Secrets Guaranteed to Give ALL Men Intoxicating Pleasure!

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A handjob isn’t something most women immediately go to when they think if giving their man the most incredible pleasure possible. Most girls will go straight to a blowjob (which certainly isn’t a bad option at all) or sex.

But did you know that in a confidential survey, 82% of men admitted they would take an awesome handjob over a “good” blowjob any day?

WOW!

Who knew that a man would want a handjob over a blowjob, especially when he’s so used to feeling his own hand during masturbation?

Unless Your Man Is BEGGING You To Give Him Handjobs, You’re Probably Not That Great At It

When you stroke him, does he seem mildly interested but wants to quickly move on to something else?

Has it been a long time since he’s asked or even cared to get a handjob?

If this is the case, you might just be really bad at it.

Here’s the good news! It’s not really your fault. 

Women don’t have a penis. They don’t know how to stroke it, tease it, touch it and massage it to give their partners the most mind bending orgasms they’ve ever had. In fact, most women are COMPLETELY CLUELESS as to how to give a handjob!

Not to mention, men are harsh critics when it comes to receiving a handjob. He’s been doing it himself for YEARS – so naturally, he’s going to compare what you’re doing to what he can do. And what you do almost never holds a candle to how he can please himself with his own hands. Not so with a blowjob or even sex – he can’t suck himself off. There’s no judgement criteria there, so it’s easy to please him with your mouth.

The other reason most women don’t know how to stroke their partners into orgasmic oblivion is because there’s no one out there teaching it. 

It Feels SO Much Better To Him When YOU Can Do It Right!

You know how you can’t really tickle yourself because, well, it doesn’t tickle? The same goes for a man giving himself a handjob. It’s just not the same as when someone else does it exactly right. Sure, he knows exactly how and where to touch when he gets himself off, but the sensations are really out of this WORLD for him when a woman does it the right way.

To give your man the most incredible pleasure he’s ever felt – even MORE pleasure than he can give himself – you’ve GOT to be able to give him a great handjob. For him to feel totally, completely satisfied in bed (and not have any temptation to stray), giving an excellent handjob MUST be on your sexual skills list or you risk losing your man forever!

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Stroke By Stroke is an unprecedented resource that contains information from actual men that you won’t find ANYWHERE else – guaranteed. It doesn’t matter how many articles you read on how to give a handjob. You’re not going to learn the TRUE SECRETS of what men really want unless you read this.

What You’ll Learn In Stroke By Stroke

  • The 3 simple things you MUST do before you even touch him to make his experience out of this world!
  • The best positions and techniques to get him to orgasm faster so you don’t get cramps in your hands
  • What to whisper in his ear to make him 5x hotter than he’s ever been
  • The best lube for almost ALL handjobs (and what common lube will give you DISASTROUS results! If you’ve ever used THIS lube, it could be responsible for a lackluster handjob!)
  • What 3 positions almost all men have secretly fantasized about
  • The secret spot you can touch when he is about to orgasm that will make him shoot for longer and farther than he has in a very long time!
  • What 80% of women do WRONG when a man is ejaculating from a handjob  

And much, much more!

Stroke By Stroke will tell you everything your man wants but has been terrified to tell you (most men don’t like insulting the woman they are making love to – and especially if they love her).

Simply put, Stroke By Stroke WORKS for one reason and one reason only – one of the world’s most renowned love, relationship and sex experts has put together actual tips from actual men! These are the things they would NEVER DARE say out loud in the bedroom!

You’ll be learning what guys everywhere secretly wish THEIR lovers knew – and after you give him a handjob THIS good, your man will be bragging about how excellent you are to all of his buddies! They’ll be MORE than jealous of him, and they just might ask you to teach their lovers how to do what you do!

You’ll be the BEST lover your partner has ever had, and he’ll be so smitten and in love with you that he’ll NEVER ever let you go!

Think about it….

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How To Have Better Sex RIGHT NOW!

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Better sex comes with consistency. A lot of guys have a real tendency to swing from one extreme to another, thinking that the farther left or right of the continuum they go, the better sex becomes. When a girl asks you to go slow do you not only quit the breakneck speed, but swing to the opposite and equally annoying extreme. This mindset is no good. Instead, hone one of the most important sexual skills.

Pay Attention To Her Body Language

A woman’s body language (and her moans and groans) are your best guide during sex. When you pay attention to her body language, she will show you the way and tell you if you’re doing her right, instead of swinging from one extreme to another. Keep an eye and an ear on what she’s doing and how she’s responding, so that when you’re having sex you can tell what she likes and what she doesn’t.

Look For The Optimum Point

This is home. It’s where things simply flow and sex is “WOW!”  The OP is the zone of leverage – the zone of perfect sensations. Below OP, you get meager result. Beyond it (when you’re doing too much or stay in the same spot for too long), you have diminished effectiveness. One might think that things get better beyond OP. No it doesn’t, in fact the opposite happens, you get diminishing returns. Just because you’re pumping faster and harder doesn’t mean she’s getting happier. Stay at OP – no more, no less.

Be Just Right

It’s the point in clitoral stimulation for example, where you don’t go too slow or too fast. It’s the duration of hot sex where it’s not a quickie but also not a death-defying marathon – it’s what women refer to when they say “just right.”

Discover Her OP

OP’s vary not only from woman to woman but even in the same woman. That doesn’t make your job more difficult, it only makes it more challenging. I’m sorry to tell you that finding OP is not something you can read on a page. To cater to YOUR woman and give her better sex, you’re going to have to learn HER specific OP.

Play around and try different speeds, different strokes and different things on your girl. Since you’re the one in the room with her, you can observe her reactions – her body will talk to you, so listen to it!

This is never automatic, and like many things in life, it’s not mastered by simply sitting around and reading e-books, it’s honed by reading bodies. That means you actually have to dive to the trenches, commit the mistakes and learn from them, only then can you become a master. People have a word for it; I think they call it PRACTICE!