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Sex Toys: What Is Your Favorite Cock Ring?

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One of the most popular sex toys out there are cock rings and many couples use them during sex – and some men even use them during masturbation. Cock rings are designed to keep blood in the penis during an erection, instead of allowing the blood to flow out. This can help men with erectile dysfunction get and maintain an erection, and it can also help enhance and magnify sensations during sex. There are so many different styles, colors, shapes and sizes of cock rings that are available – so which one is the best one to try?

Question:  Please tell us all about your favorite cock rings! My boyfriend and i use them all the time, and we’re always up for trying different ones out!

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Decide What Sex Toys You Are Looking For

Since there are so many different sex toys out there, it’s important to decide what you are looking for ahead of time. For example, if you are looking for a vibrator, start thinking about what you want it to do. Do you want it to have multiple speeds, be waterproof, or have attachments for anal penetration? The same goes for cock rings – decide what you want the ring to achieve before you go out and get one. Do you want one that vibrates so you can enjoy it as much as your partner? Or do you want something textured, or just a simple, metal ring? What size do you need? Thinking about the details first before you make a purchase will help keep you from being overwhelmed at all the choices that are available to you and help you narrow it down to what you actually want.

Safety Tips To Keep In Mind

When it comes to using sex toys, there are always safety tips that make things safer and therefore, more fun. While using a cock ring seems pretty straightforward, there are some things to keep in mind so you and your partner can both have fun in a safe way. Always use a good water or silicone based lube to slide the cock ring on. Trying to put one on without lube will either be very uncomfortable for your partner or you won’t be able to get it on at all. Never use a cock ring for more than thirty minutes. It is possible for the penis to swell beyond the point where you can actually get the ring off afterwards, which would require an emergency call to your doctor. Thirty minutes is about the maximum amount of time a man can safely wear a cock ring. Always use a good toy cleaner after use to keep your toys clean, and avoid putting jelly or silicone style cock rings together – they can actually adhere to each other!

Different Sex Toys To Try

Cock rings come in all different shapes, sizes and textures. There are many more options available than just your simple ring-style toy. Here are some different ones you can try:

His And Hers Rabbits Cockring: Two vibrating rabbits are attached to a silicone ring that slides over the penis. The rabbits’ ears are designed to stimulate her clitoris and his testicles at the same time!

Bong O Cock Ring: A silicone vibrating ring that has a weighted gold ball attachement that is designed to bounce over a man’s testicles and perineum for added stimulation for him.

Double Penetrator Cockring: A silicone toy with a dildo attached to the base of the ring to allow for double penetration. Use this to have vaginal penetration and anal sex at the same time!

 If you’ve never tried a cock ring before, start basic and work your way up to the more adventerous styles of sex toys. If you’re using one simply to help your erection last longer, a simple, metal style ring will work just as well – if not better – than some of the softer, silicone varieties. The soft, silicone toys are great for men and couples that are just having fun, but may lack enough substance to really keep your erection going strong. If you’ve already experimented with this type of stimulation before, don’t be afraid to try new ones and check out some different styles. While the actual ring is designed to make an erection stronger, the attachements that come on different styles are geared towards so many different things from amazing clitoral stimulation to anal sex and more. The great thing about this type of sex toy is that the different sensations that you can experience are never ending!

Choosing Sex Toys For Her Without Ending Up In The Dog House

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Sex toys can be a wonderful way to spice up your sex life and have better sex with your lover. Choosing sex toys for your partner for a gift or simply because she won’t buy them herself can be a difficult task, but it’s certainly not impossible. If you’re going sex toy shopping solo, here are some great tips for choosing the right one for her without ending up having to sleep on the couch!

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Pay Attention To What She Likes In Bed

There are things she likes in bed and things she doesn’t, so it makes sense to get her a sex toy that is designed for an activity that she enjoys doing with you. Don’t worry, it won’t replace you – the right one will add to your sex life and make it hotter than ever before. For example, does she prefer to have her clitoris stimulated over anything else you do? Buy her a clitoral vibrator, which are designed to massage and stimulate the clitoris only. Or does she prefer vaginal or anal penetration? If that’s the case, select an item that is designed for g-spot stimulation or anal sex – or both!

Pay Attention To Your Penis Size

When picking something out for vaginal penetration, select something that is similar to your penis size. If you have a smaller penis, go for something that isn’t much larger than you are. You don’t have to select something that looks exactly like you in size or shape, but anything along those lines or a little smaller will work well. If you get something that is too large for her, especially for the first time, it may be painful for her. You can always graduate to larger sizes and start experimenting with different styles once you’ve both gotten used to using sex toys in the bedroom. On the same token, if you’re hung like a horse, don’t get a small, short or slim vibrator and expect her to like it – she probably won’t.

Stick With What You’ve Already Tried

When introducing a sex toy to your partner for the first time, you don’t want to get her something designed for an activity that she’s never tried before. This will most likely end badly and with you sleeping out on the couch – or worse, in the doghouse! For example, if she’s never tried anal sex, do NOT get her anal beads or a butt plug! This will make her uncomfortable, whether she decides to try it or not. Either way, you’ve just nixed the idea of ever bringing sex toys into the bedroom again. Instead, choose one that will be used in a way that she’s already familiar with through having sex with you. Most girls enjoy clitoral stimulation, since that’s generally how girls begin to masturbate when they’re younger. A clitoral vibrator is your safest bet if you and your partner haven’t tried much else.

Couples Sex Toys

If you’re bringing sex toys into the bedroom for the first time, you don’t necessarily have to get her something that is designed for her use alone. While these make great gifts later, what you choose for the first time should be something that is for you and her to use with each other. There are lots of sex toys out there for couples, and any sex toy can be used by both you and your lover together. Remote control vibrators give you the power to make her feel pleasure, without her having to do a thing. You can also just use a simple, sleek vibrator with your partner as though you were fingering her. If she enjoys anal stimulation, try using a butt plug or anal beads as you perform oral sex on your lover.

Don’t Forget The Lube

Even the best sex toys aren’t going to be fun to use without the right lube. Choose a lubricant that is either water or silicone based (depending on the material of the item you select) and is easy to clean up. Baby oil and other household “lubes” may break down latex and render the toy useless after just a few ventures outside the bottom drawer of the nightstand. You’ll also want to invest in a good toy cleaner, although hot, soapy water works well too. Specially designed cleaner will keep your toy looking like new for longer – which is a good investment if you end up selecting something that is more expensive or high end. You can also slip a condom over it if you really want it to last!

Homemade Sex Toys – Part 2

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Homemade sex toys are definitely a popular alternative to professional sex toys because they’re often much more convenient to purchase (especially for girls and guys under the age of eighteen) and use. Many things – such as phallic shaped vegetables – you can purchase at the grocery store, and others you already have lying around your house. However, does that mean that homemade sex toys are better to use? Not exactly. Here are some popular homemade sex toys, as well as some professional alternatives that just might serve you a little better.

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Cucumber Or Zucchini

A very popular homemade sex toy is the cucumber or zucchini. Many girls like to experiment with these instead of a traditional dildo, because it is easy to experiment with different sizes, shapes and textures. Other popular vegetables that can be used in place of a dildo include carrots and celery. These types of vegetables are popular sex toys among teenage girls and women alike, because they do not require a special trip to an adult toy store – instead, they’re available everywhere, including your local grocery and convenience stores. The downsides to using phallic shaped sex toys in lieu of professional sex toys is that many vegetables have cuts or knicks in them that can harbor bacteria. This bacteria can be transferred to the vagina or anus and can cause an infection in the body. If you must use a vegetable instead of a sex toy, slip a condom over it.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Slim Pink Pleaser or The Illumination by Doc Johnson.

Spinning Toothbrush

Some women enjoy using a spinning or sonic toothbrush on the clitoris in place of a vibrator. This will actually definitely work well in a pinch, especially if you’re traveling and don’t want to take your favorite sex toy with you. However, this is probably not something you want to use long term, because frankly, there are just so many better things out there to use to massage and stimulate the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Besides, you don’t really want to put your toothbrush back in your mouth after you’ve just gotten done using it down there, do you? Professional sex toys designed for clitoral stimulation are probably the best choice here, because many of them are just as discreet and easy to use. Think of a soft, squishy yet textured clitoral vibrator that feels just like a tongue – plus more.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Illumination by Doc Johnson or The Clitoral Kisser

Toilet Paper Roll

Many guys use a toilet paper roll for masturbation instead of their hands – ouch! They achieve a “vagina like feel” by stuffing a grocery bag inside the roll and squirting lube inside to allow it to slide up and down the penis. While this is definitely a cheaper alternative than a professional male masturbator, there are definitely some disadvantages to using this type of homemade sex toy. First of all, a male masturbator made from latex or silicone just feels better, and can come textured or ribbed for your pleasure. Paired with a good lube, a male masturbator will make it feel more like a vagina. Male masturbators are surprisingly inexpensive and easy to purchase – plus they can be turned inside out and cleaned thoroughly (with either special sex toy cleaner or good old fashioned hot soapy water) to make it last longer.

Adam & Eve Alternative: The Super Head Honcho Masturbator

Clothespins

Men and women have both been known to use spring clothespins as nipple clamps. This is actually a very bad idea! Clothespins cannot be adjusted at all to make them squeeze harder or softer, and usually they squeeze really, really hard (unless they’re broken). Clothespins can squeeze too hard and hurt or bruise the nipple, making it painful for days afterwards. Instead, try to find professional nipple clamps with a sliding adjuster on it that will allow you to control how hard the clamp will squeeze. If you like rough sex, move the slider so that the clamp squeezes harder. If you prefer vanilla sex, adjust the clamp so that it only gives you a light pressure sensation.

Adam & Eve Alternative: Feather Fetish Nipple Clamp or Micro Vibrating Nipple Clamps

DIY Anal Beads

Some people who enjoy anal sex are using marbles, golf balls or other round objects of varying sizes and placing them in a condom to create a homemade set of anal beads. They either tie the condom in knots between the round objects or use string to tie them. While this will work to provide stimulation of the prostate gland, it is a very dangerous homemade sex toy to use. The condom can easily break and the objects inside can get lost inside the anal cavity, causing you a very expensive and embarrassing trip to the emergency room. Most anal beads are inexpensive and come in a variety of sizes for people who enjoy different anal sensations. Anal beads are also safer to use because they can be cleaned thoroughly with a toy cleaner or soap and hot water. It is extremely important to keep your anal sex toys clean and wash them after each and every use!

Adam & Eve Alternative: x10 Anal Beads

Anal Sex Play For Beginners – Tips & Techniques

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Anal sex is very erotic for many people, both men and women. There are many nerve endings in the rectum, particularly around the opening of the anus, that a lot of people find pleasurable when stimulated. Men often love the super tightness of a woman’s anus. Anal play – whether you’re having anal sex or using a toy or your fingers – can be intensely intimate.  The taboo of enjoying a so-called ‘prohibited’ activity with your partner can be super exciting and just what you need to turn up the heat in your sex life! There are, however, a few guidelines that should be followed for anal sex to make both you and your partner safe and comfortable!

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Don’t Skimp On The Lube

The anus does not naturally lubricate itself at all, therefore, it is an absolute must to use a good water based or silicone based lubricant during anal sex. While you don’t want to use silicone based lube in the vagina because it’s difficult to clean out, silicone lube will get flushed out with everything else when you go to the bathroom so feel free to use it for anal sex. Don’t ever attempt to have anal sex without lube, because you could easily tear something on the outside or even the inside, which would require a not so fun trip to the hospital. Also, do not use numbing or desensitizing lubricant, because if it hurts, you need to feel it and you need to stop! Just use lots and lots of regular water or silicone based lube for any kind of anal play.

Learn To Relax!

If you’re not able to relax when you have anal sex, you’re going to find it very uncomfortable or painful. Practice relaxing your anus around a small anal sex toy or a finger and work your way up to the bigger stuff. You certainly can’t expect yourself to accomodate a large sex toy or penis if you’ve never tried anal sex before, but if you learn to relax during anal play, you’ll gradually get to where you can take more and enjoy more.

Keep Things Clean

Since going through the backdoor will potentially (probably) get you at least a little dirty, it’s very important to keep things clean. Clean any and all sex toys used for anal play with hot, soapy water or special sex toy cleaner and wear a condom when inserting the penis into the anus. Wearing a condom during anal sex will allow you to slip it off and go straight to vaginal sex without worrying about bacteria spreading. If you don’t want to wear a condom during anal sex, you will need to wash your penis thoroughly with warm, soapy water. Neglecting to keep things clean during sex will increase the risk of spreading bacteria and giving your partner an infection.

Warm Up And Get Turned On First

Just like with sex, if you want to have good anal sex, it’s important to have a little foreplay first and get turned on before you start. Giving yourself a warm up period will help you relax and help get you turned on so that you’re more ready for anal play. If you’re not turned on before you receive anal sex, you’re anus is going to be clamped tight and you’ll find that anal play is going to be more uncomfortable and painful than if you allow yourself a good warm up period first. Try having your partner give you oral sex first and even a rim job if you both like it.

Go Slowly And Be Gentle

Anal sex is not the time to be rough or practice BDSM. Since the anus is basically made for things to come out of, you have to be very careful when putting things in there. Go slowly and be very careful not to be too rough, even if you’re extremely turned on by having anal sex. Communicate with your partner about whether it feels good or it hurts too much, and if it hurts make sure you stop right away. Have a safe word that your partner can use to let you know that she wants it to stop immediately, such as “banana” or another non-sex word. Remember that your first time having anal sex doesn’t have to last very long or be perfect. There’s always another time! The important thing is to make sure your partner is comfortable and having a good time too.

Safe Anal Sex Toys

If you’re going to use anal sex toys, it’s important that you purchase toys that are specifically made for anal sex. Many sex toys that are for vaginal use or even homemade sex toys can get lost in your anus because there is no “end” like with a vagina. Getting a sex toy lost in your anus is not only extremely painful and dangerous, it is also very embarassing because it will require a doctor and most likely surgery to remove it. Instead, choose anal sex toys that have a wide, flared base or ring on the bottom that keeps the toy from sliding too far into the anus.

Best Sex Positions For Anal Sex

While almost any sex position can be used for anal sex, there are some sex positions that are better for anal sex because they allow for easier access. The missionary position with the girl on bottom and her legs lifted high allows for great access to the anus, as does the doggy style position. You can also try the reverse cowgirl position where the woman is on top but facing her partner’s feet, or you can try spooning with your partner behind you. The sex postion doesn’t matter as much as long as you and your partner are both comfortable and having fun!

Sex In The Shower: 5 Tips For Soapy Fun

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Hopping in the shower for some soapy adult fun is a favorite of many couples and for good reason. Sex in the shower can be great fun and can give you and your partner opportunities to try new things (or things you’ve done before but haven’t tried in a while) and spice up your sex life. You can try new sex positions in the shower, or give your partner a wetter, wilder version of your signature blowjob. Here are some great tips for shower sex so you and your partner can have some sexy fun in the water!

Silicone Based Lube

Silicone based lube is probably the best sexual lubricant out there for sexy shower fun. Silicone based lube is much thicker than traditional water based lube and doesn’t rinse away as easily. If you try to use water based lubricant in the shower, you’ll find that it doesn’t last very long at all! Water based lube is designed to be easily rinsed away with water, so you’ll end up washing the lube off in the shower before you even start having sex. Silicone based lubricant will wash off with soap and water, so it’s great to get started with before you break out the suds. Just don’t use a whole lot of silicone based lube often, because it can be difficult to remove it all from the vaginal canal after sex since it doesn’t just rinse away.

Water Safe Sex Toys

The shower is a great place to introduce new sex toys. The slick environment will allow for greater ease of insertion of dildos or vibrators and the feeling of water running down your body will intensify the waves of pleasure created when using t0ys. This is especially helpful for couples who have never used a sex toy before. Glass sex toys  are not recommended in the shower, because they’re slick to begin with and coupled with lube, you won’t be able to get a grip on it in the water. Instead, choose a waterproof vibrator or latex dildo to have fun with. If you have a detachable massaging showerhead though, it may be all the toy you and your partner need! Experiment with the different streams that the shower creates on your partner’s genitals and watch as your partner gets incredibly turned on! Using a showerhead during foreplay will help a girl that has trouble reaching orgasm get warmed up and may even give her a climax before you start having sex.

Soapy Massages

The shower is famous for being a great place to give your partner an sensual massage. Lather up your favorite great smelling soap and rub it all over your partner’s wet body. Have them do the same for you. Rub each other up and down with soap, or rub your bodies together as you kiss your partner deeply. You and your partner will both love the slippery feeling your bodies have against each other! Giving your partner a soapy massage will also help them relax and become exceptionally aroused, helping them to reach orgasm sooner and have a harder, more intense climax.

Blowjobs In The Shower

A lot of women truly enjoy giving their partners a blowjob in the shower because it becomes a much cleaner activity in the water. For example, a good soapy massage before the blowjob to get your partner’s penis erect will also help him to smell fresh and clean when you head south. Instead of trying to swallow the gobs of saliva your mouth produces as you’re giving him head, you can simply spit discreetly or let them drip out of your mouth to be washed away by the shower stream. Perhaps the best thing about giving a blowjob in the shower is that the environment is more conducive to her taking his semen in her mouth when he ejaculates. The ejaculate can be spit out quickly and she can rinse her mouth out immediately, which might make women who find swallowing semen distasteful reconsider if he really wants her to do it.

Hygiene

Of course, a shower before sex is the best way to get prepared for a romp in the sack, so why not make it a sexy shower and include it in your foreplay? Soaping each other up and down is not only extremely erotic for both partners, it also helps to remove sweat and odors that will dampen a hot mood pretty quickly. A guy that isn’t very interested in going down on his woman may be more inclined to give her oral sex if she’s just had a shower – and if he was a part of it!