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Why Every Girl Needs Her Own Sex Toy

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Believe it or not, many girls don’t own a sex toy. Some girls own sex toys that they use only with their partners, but many others don’t have a sex toy for their own personal use at all! Some women have never even tried masturbation alone! Sex toys can greatly improve the quality, frequency and intensity of a woman’s orgasms both with the sex toy and without it when having sex with a partner. There are also many other benefits to using a sex toy, so here’s why every girl needs her very own!

Sex Toys And Masturbation Make Orgasms Better

If you’ve never had an orgasm before, or your orgasms are few and far between when having sex with your partner, it’s time to invest in a great sex toy. This is especially true if you’ve never masturbated before! If you’re using a sex toy during masturbation, you will find that your orgasms come more frequently, as well as being more powerful and intense. Masturbation, even without a sex toy, helps to train your body to experience pleasure and reach orgasm without the stress and pressure of trying to reach climax with your partner. Many women who have never had an orgasm before aren’t ever going to reach their first orgasm in front of their partners because the stress and pressure to perform is just too much. Female masturbation can help a woman find her body’s own pleasure buttons without feeling like she’s being watched or being expected to reach climax. When a woman gives herself time to explore her body on her own with a sex toy, she is more likely to reach orgasm – and it’s probable that her orgasm will be absolutely incredible!

Why Your Partner Will Love Your New Sex Toy

When a woman masturbates, she learns more about how her body works and how she likes to recieve pleasure. This is excellent information that she can pass on to her partner! Women who have never masturbated or used a sex toy before have absolutely no idea what they like best sexually or what will bring them to climax. They don’t know how they like to be touched or even what feels good! How can a man know what a woman wants or likes if she doesn’t even know herself? Women who don’t masturbate essentially send their partners into sex blind, and they can only guess how she wants to be pleased. When she doesn’t reach orgasm (how could she?) he ends up feeling like he has failed her in some way, even though he tried his very best. Even guys who know just about everything there is to know about a female orgasm may not be able to make his girl reach climax if she’s never masturbated before. When a woman masturbates, however – especially if she uses a sex toy – she’ll learn about what she likes and how she likes it. She’ll show her partner her new discoveries and he’ll be inspired to use the same techniques to give her an orgasm during sex! So while many women believe that masturbating alone and using a sex toy is detrimental to their sexual relationship with their partners, quite the opposite is true. Using a sex toy and masturbating on your own will actually help make your sex life with your partner even hotter!

Which Sex Toy To Choose?

Of course, your first time sex toy shopping is going to seem a little overwhelming. There are so many different toys to choose from that offer so many different types of sensations. It’s easy to get lost or confused when selecting your first sex toy. There are, however, a few simple guidelines you can use to help narrow down the selection. You definitely don’t want to choose a giant double ended dildo, anal beads or anything of that nature. If you want to go for vaginal penetration, choose a sleek, slim dildo or vibrator instead. If you want to go for clitoral stimulation only, select a vibrator that is made specifically to be used on the clitoris only. While many people claim that getting used to using a vibrator to reach orgasm will train your body to only be able to reach climax with vibration, sporadic use can actually help you learn how your body goes through the stages of pleasure and orgasm. If you’re not sure whether you want to go with a vibrator or not, try getting a small, inexpensive toy that vibrates and one that doesn’t. That way, you can find out for yourself which one you like the best.

Glass Sex Toys: Playing With Fire And Ice

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When shopping for sex toys, you’re going to be inundated with literally hundreds of choices of toys. Each toy is different and serves a different purpose, whether it’s for g-spot stimulation, vibration or anal sex. A great option for both vaginal and anal play are glass sex toys. They’re quite different from your traditional latex or silicone dildo and have many benefits over other styles of sex toys. Here’s what you want to know about glass sex toys and how to keep yours safe and clean.

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What Makes Glass Sex Toys So Appealing?

First of all, glass sex toys are very visually appealing. They’re often handcrafted with high end glass that can come in clear or a variety of different colors swirled together. While many traditional silicone dildos and vibrators are very obviously dildos and vibrators, glass sex toys can easily be mistaken for a small sculpture or work of art. Another major benefit of glass sex toys over other styles of toys is that they retain temperature easily. If you like to play with heat and cold during sex, a glass sex toy may just be right up your alley. If you place your toy in a bucket of ice or the freezer, it is going to become cold very quickly and stay cold. You can take the toy out after just a few minutes if you want it just a little cooler than room temperature, or you can leave it for several minutes or even an hour or two if you want it to feel ice cold. You can also warm it up by running it under warm water or even placing it in a bowl of very hot water. If you use very hot water, definitely allow the toy to cool some before placing it in the anus, vagina or on the clitoris and check the temperature against your wrist before using.

Using A Glass Sex Toy

In addition to excellent geothermal properties, glass sex toys are also very, very hard. They feel quite different from a traditional sex toy, dildo or vibrator. They are excellent for g-spot stimulation and prostate stimulation, because they provide the firmness and intensity needed to reach g-spot or prostate orgasms. Many different types of glass toys can be used for vaginal penetration, but if you plan on using your glass toy for anal penetration, make sure it has a wide base or ring on the outside end. A ring will be uncomfortable if not impossible to sit on, while a flared base at the end of the toy offers more flexibility and comfort. Either way, if it doesn’t have a wide base on the end, it could get lost in the anus and require a trip to the emergency room. Remember to use lube with your toy, but use sparingly. Glass does not need a lot of lubrication to become very, very slippery! Glass sex toys are also incredibly easy to clean. They can be cleaned with simple soap and water or can be placed in your dishwasher for that super smooth clean. Latex or silicone can become harder to clean after prolonged use, even if you use a special sex toy cleaner. On the other hand, when you clean glass sex toys, they stay clean.

Selecting A Glass Sex Toy

When choosing a glass sex toy, it is important to consider the quality of the item. In this case, you really are going to get what you pay for. High end, quality glass is more resistant to breakage and chipping whereas other types of glass toys may be more apt to break or chip easily. Never, ever substitute a glass sex toy for a glass beverage bottle or any other type of glass object. If you want to use glass for sex, get a glass sex toy! Choose one that you like but that also suits your needs and what you’re going to use it for. A glass dildo with a flared base can be used for both anal sex and vaginal penetration, while one without a wide base can only be used for vaginal sex. To keep your glass sex toy in good condition, clean after every use and regularly inspect your toy for cracks, breaks and chips. Never, ever use a chipped or cracked glass toy! Keep your glass toy stored at room temperature, preferably wrapped in a soft cloth or towel. When properly cared for, a glass sex toy is a worthwhile investment – they can give you unimaginable pleasure and incredible orgasms, as well as last for many, many years.

How To Tighten Your Vaginal Muscles And Have Sex Just Like The First Time!

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Ever wish you were as tight as you were when you had sex for the first time? Of course you have! After having kids and aging, your vagina likely doesn’t feel like it did to you or your partner. Here’s the one simple sex toy you can use to tighten your vaginal muscles and make every time feel like the first time all over again!

Kegel Exercises

Sure, you’ve heard of kegel exercises. Sit down (or stand up if you like – in fact, kegels can be done anywhere and anytime) clench your vaginal muscles as though you were stopping the flow of urine, hold for ten seconds or more and release. Repeat ad nauseam. Kegels are a very powerful way to tighten your vaginal and pelvic floor muscles, however, they’re not the only thing you can use and definitely not the best way to make your vagina feel like brand new again. For centuries, women have been using one secret sex toy to keep their vaginas tight and fit for sex and now you can too!

Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are small, weighted balls that are inserted into your vagina and kept there for a period of time. You will naturally use all of your vaginal, anal and pelvic floor muscles to keep them inside your vaginal canal. This will completely and thoroughly exercise your muscles without you consciously having to do very much at all! There are so many different types of Ben Wa Balls available on the market and the best thing is that absolutely no one will know that you’re using them! For first time Ben Wa Ball users, start with lighter weight ones that have a string attached to them. You can get them in soft silicone or even the vibrating variety for extra pleasure! As you become a more advanced user, you can graduate to heavier balls, such as metal or glass balls, which will exercise your muscles more and more. Just like when exercising any muscle in your body, you need to start off small and build your way up to heavier equipment.

How To Get The Ultimate Tight Vagina

In addition to using Ben Wa Balls to tighten and improve the muscle tone in your vaginal walls, you can also use tightening and vaginal rejuvanation cream (such as PK24) to increase blood flow to your vagina and hydrate your vaginal walls. Creams and gels used for tightening aren’t long lasting, however, PK24 can last up to 24 hours. Other tightening products work for shorter periods, but can also be used right before sex to create even tighter sensations. Using Ben Wa Balls and tightening creams not only make sex better for your partner, but they will also make sex better for you! Women who use tightening creams and Ben Wa Balls regularly report having better, more powerful orgasms and that they’re able to reach orgasm more quickly and easily. If you’ve been living with vagina that you’re not happy with, don’t consider surgery or other drastic options until you’ve tried Ben Wa Balls first! They just might change the way you have sex forever!

Why Anal Sex Can Hurt

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Anal sex is not just about penetration of the anus. It encompasses other activities like analingus (licking of the anal region) or fingering the anal hole of your partner. But admittedly, when we say “anal sex” the first thing that comes to mind is penetration.

Do heterosexual couples engage in anal sex? Yes, absolutely. It may surprise some people but there are many straight couples that love anal sex. First of all, anal sex is a popular taboo and the thrill of doing something that’s not supposed to be done adds to the excitement of trying it out. Couples who have tried it often feel a lot closer afterwards.

Trust level is an important factor to consider if you are thinking of trying anal sex. I will not lie to you; the first time you do it, it will hurt. Even after you have been doing it for a while, there is still a certain amount of physical discomfort.

Here are some reasons why anal sex can hurt, and why you need to stock up on lube if you want to try it.

Anal Sex Can Hurt If You Aren’t Expecting It

There is such a thing as a “surprise anal” sex move, but this is so emotionally damaging that I do not recommend it. A man should always ask you nicely if he wants to put it in your ass. At the very least, he should give you the chance to prepare yourself. If a guy dares pull off this stunt, the shock combined with the sense of betrayal that you feel can contribute to the overwhelming physical pain.

Anal Sex Can Hurt If You Are Being Forced To Try It

Even if your boyfriend or husband asks for permission, if you really don’t want to try it, it will hurt. You have to be completely relaxed to enjoy anal sex. Moreover, you have to trust your partner enough to believe that he will stop when you ask him to. The muscle outside the rectum tightens when stimulated, and it will tighten even more when you’re tense or scared. Forcing entry when this muscle is too tight to allow entry can contribute to the hurt.

Anal Sex Can Hurt If You Are Not Lubricated Enough

Relaxing will help ease the initial pain of anal sex, but no amount of relaxation will ease the discomfort if the sphincter muscle isn’t lubricated enough. Spread some lube on your partner’s member or your anal sex toy and a huge dollop on your anal region to make anal sex more pleasurable.

If you’re intent on going for it, ask your partner to gradually loosen the sphincter muscle with gentle stimulation and fondling. He must never touch your sphincter without applying lubricant first. Also, remember to wash well after anal sex.

One major appeal of anal sex for me is the fact that it can be your dirty little secret. It’s extremely exciting to know that you’re both acting like a prim-and-proper, lovey-dovey couple in public, while you’re doing something “taboo” in private.

Your First Time… With A New Vibrator – Sex Toys 101

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If you’re new to using a vibrator, you’re not alone. As society becomes more and more accepting of masturbation, more and more people are starting to explore masturbation for themselves.

But getting your first vibrator and using it for the first time doesn’t have to be confusing. Here are some great tips on what to do when you get your first vibrator.

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6 Smart Rules For Using A Vibrator

1. Never insert any vibrator to the point where it cannot be controlled or removed. You may feel tempted to go a little deeper, but if you end up getting the vibrator lodged too far inside your vagina, you’re going to need assistance having it removed. This can result in a very painful and possibly damaging situation.

2. Always clean your vibrator after every use. Unwashed vibrators are excellent breeding grounds for all kinds of bacteria. Inserting a dirty vibrator in your vagina can easily give you a nasty bacterial infection that would require a doctor’s care to get rid of. Plus, clean, smooth and great smelling toys always feel so much better!

3. To make clean up easier, you can place a condom over the vibrator before use. If you often take your vibrator with you on the go, washing your vibrator with soap and water or toy cleaner may not always be a feasible option for you. Slip a condom over your vibrator before using and when you’re finished, simply take the condom off and throw it away!

4. Use only compatible water based lubes with your sex toy. Some sexual lubricants cause different types of vibrators’ material to break down and degrade. Not fun if you’ve spent a lot of money on the perfect vibrator! A good rule of thumb to remember is that water based lube works well with everything.

5. If it hurts, stop! While that seems simple enough to remember, such is not always the case. Many women compare themselves to women in adult movies, or that’s the only form of sex education they got and as a result they end up hurting themselves. Often, the way women use vibrators and dildos in adult movies is grossly exaggerated. Don’t feel like you have to make it hurt to make it good.

6. Do not use your vibrator on broken or irritated skin. You could possibly get an infection or at best, make your irritated skin feel even more uncomfortable and painful.

Additional Tips

  • Inspect your vibrator upon arrival. Look for tears, holes and other defects in the toy. Plug it in or charge it’s batteries and make sure it turns on and off, and that all the buttons work. If the toy has to be returned for any reason, it’s better that you find out before you use it.
  • Learn how to use it. Take some time just playing with the vibrator to see how it works and what it does. Learn how to work the vibrator first before you take it in the bedroom. Then you can experiment with the best techniques and positions for pleasure.
  • Wash your vibrator before using it for the first time. Manufacturing companies and packing plants aren’t very clean places for your vibrator to have hung out in before you bought it.
  • Use lube. It just feels better. Besides, vibrators aren’t self lubricating.
  • Get comfortable. Using your vibrator is about taking charge of your own pleasure.