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Q&A: How Is A Vibrator Different From A Dildo?

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There are so many different sex toys on the market today that it can be difficult to not only tell the difference between them and what they can be used for, but also which one you’ll like the best. Is there a difference between a vibrator and a dildo, or are they actually the same thing? Here’s how you can tell.

Question: How is a vibrator different than a dildo? Some of my friends say it is the same thing.

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What Is A Dildo?

Typically, a dildo is used for insertion only. The most common type of dildos are the ones that are molded to look like real penises, but any sex toy that is used for insertion in either the vagina or the anus is a considered a dildo. Dildos can come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors and textures and range from the very small and discreet to the very large and kinky. Anal dildos have a wide, flared base at the bottom to prevent the toy from going too far inside the anal cavity, and some dildos have attachments for both anal and vaginal insertion at the same time. There are double dildos for use by two people, or dildos with strap on attachments that can be worn hands free.

What Is A Vibrator?

Dildos can also be vibrators, but not all vibrators are considered dildos. Vibrating dildos are used for insertion, but other types of vibrators exist as well. Clitoral vibrators are among the most popular type of vibrators for women, and are made to simply be placed on the clitoris. These types of vibrators are typically small, but some of them can be quite large, especially wand vibrators that are also sold as back and shoulder massagers. Other vibrators include anal vibrators and vibrating beads, bullets and ben-wa balls. G-spot vibrators are also popular for women, as they’re made for insertion into the vagina but include a special curve that allows them to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

How To Choose The Best Toy For You

There are so many different sex toys to choose from, it is sometimes hard to figure out which one you’ll like best. First, decide whether you want a toy that vibrates or not. If you don’t want anything that vibrates, you’re going to be looking mostly at dildos and can simply decide which size and texture you’d like to try. If you do want some type of vibrating toy, decide whether you want one for clitoral stimulation, vaginal insertion or both. Many vibrators come with clitoral vibrating attachements, giving you both types of pleasure at once. If you’re looking for clitoral stimulation only, try a small vibrating bullet or even a strap-on vibrator that you can wear both during sex and under your clothes that can give you hands free vibration. If you’re looking for both clitoral vibration and vaginal vibration or simply vaginal vibration, look for a Rabbit vibrator or a slim and sleek, easy to use vibrator. You may want to have more than one sex toy in your dresser drawer, because you may be in the mood for something a little different now and then!

Q&A: Long Distance Sex Toys – a.k.a. Teledildonics

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With long distance relationships, one of the toughest obstacles is feeling physically intimate with your partner. Fortunately, with the advance of webcams and voice chat, you can feel like you’re in the same room as your partner! Here’s the newest technology for long distance sex toys, also known as teledildonics.

Question: Hey Dan and Jenn! Firstly, thanks for answering my last question. I’m in a long distance relationship at the moment – I’m in Denmark and my boyfriend is in Turkey. Our relationship is great and we fulfill our needs over webcam often, but I was wondering if there was any remote control sex toys that could work over that distance? I could send it to him and give him control over my sexual pleasure! I love your show and you both have always been very helpful to me, so thanks and have a wonderful day!

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Advances In Sex Toy Technology

While remote control vibrators have been around for awhile, teledildonics hasn’t. Remote control vibrators are usually battery powered, and the remote has a very short receiving distance. These types of vibrators are great for spicing up sex play in the bedroom (or another room) with your partner but have no real application for long distance relationships. Teledildonics, on the other hand, allow partners over long distances to control each other’s sex toys over the Internet. Imagine being able to give your partner an orgasm from thousands of miles away!

Teledildonic Sex Toys For Her

In the future, we will see more options available for teledildonic sex toys, but right now the best toy out there for her is an Internet enabled rabbit vibrator. The rabbit vibrator is one of the most popular vibrators available for women, allowing for penetration, g-spot stimulation and clitoral tickling all in one. The Internet enabled rabbit allows your partner to control your vibrator from wherever he is. He can choose when to tickle your clit, when to stimulate your g-spot and how hard or fast he wants it to go. With this teledildonic sex toy, your orgasm is completely in the hands of your partner! This is an excellent option for couples in long distance relationships or those where one or both partners are away on business often.

Teledildonic Sex Toys For Him

The Real Touch teledildonic masturbator is one of the most revolutionary male masturbators available on the market. This device is designed to be used in conjunction with adult videos, and uses USB technology to sync the motions of the Real Touch with what the adult video star is doing onscreen. The Real Touch offers gentle heat to simulate natural body heat and a lubricant dispenser to mimic the way a woman’s vagina will lubricate itself during sex. While the Real Touch device can be somewhat difficult to clean as it cannot be submerged in water or placed in your dishwasher, many men will enjoy the ability to masturbate completely hands free. This is an excellent teledildonic sex toy for long distance relationships, but it can also be used by any man who wants a revolutionary masturbatory experience.

Q&A: What To Do When Masturbation Gets Boring

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While masturbation is a great way to satisfy your desire for sexual pleasure whether you’re a man or a woman, sometimes it can get boring if you’re doing it the same way every time. Here’s what you can do if you want to spice up masturbation and make it more pleasurable, whether you’re single or are waiting to have sex until you’re married.

Question: My problem is with masturbation and I like to do so every so often but it’s gotten boring to me. What would you suggest I do to spice it up? Twist? Bend? Masturbate harder? I need help so that I can stay a virgin until I marry my girlfriend!

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Focusing On Different Fantasies

Having mental involvement with masturbation is one of the best ways to make masturbation better and more pleasurable. Try thinking about different fantasies while masturbating, or even try adding some visual stimulation like pornography or erotic novels if they work with your fantasies. Think of different things that really turn you on and incorporate them during masturbation. You may not be changing your physical masturbation techniques at all, but you’ll notice a big difference in the pleasure factor if you’re fantasizing about something that really gets you hot. There are a thousands and thousands of different magazines, videos and books out there, so there is definitely something for everyone no matter what your favorite flavor is.

Masturbation Toys

There are hundreds of masturbation toys available for both men and women. Women can experiment with different types of vibrators and dildos, experimenting with different sizes, shapes and textures to mix things up during masturbation. For different masturbation sensations, men can try a variety of male masturbation toys. Soft silicone masturbation sleeves with different textures can give you lots of different feelings during masturbation and make masturbation even more satisfying. Try going online and taking a look at the variety of male masturbation toys that you can buy, and look at ones that have different shapes and textures like studded or ribbed. You can even get a masturbation sleeve that was molded from an adult movie star’s genitals to go with your favorite movie if that turns you on. There are lots of ways to incorporate toys into masturbation, you just have to be a little creative and see what’s out there!

Are You Reaching Orgasm With Masturbation?

Most men do reach orgasm during masturbation, but many women do not, leaving them unsatisfied and always wanting more. If masturbation is getting boring for you or doesn’t seem to be satisfying you sexually, make sure you’re actually reaching the finish line. If you masturbate without actually reaching orgasm, you won’t get the sexual satisfaction your body needs and will pretty much be in a perpetual state of sexual desire. Make sure you’re having an orgasm at the end of each masturbation session. If you do reach orgasm after masturbating and still don’t feel satisfied afterwards, your body may actually be desiring multiple orgasms. Don’t short yourself! Give yourself plenty of time to masturbate without being interrupted so that you have the freedom to have as many orgasms as you need while masturbating to feel satisfied afterwards.

Q&A: More Anal Sex… How To Clean Up Afterward

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It’s a fact – anal sex can get messy. Whether you ejaculate in the anus during anal sex or not, you’ll still want to clean up afterward. Preventing the spread of bacteria and keeping yourself comfortably clean are important after anal sex. Here’s how you can clean up afterward so you can have fun before!

Question: I know you suggest using condoms for anal sex, and my girlfriend and I take every precaution when we do it. Sometimes we use condoms, but sometimes we don’t. I want to know about ejaculating in her through anal sex.
What are your takes on it? I want to know mainly because while in the heat of the moment things happen. In case it does happen, what are the best ways to go about cleaning up afterward?

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Is Semen In The Anus Safe?

If you ejaculate in your partner’s anus during anal sex, you may wonder if it’s safe. As far as pregnancy goes, you can’t impregnante a woman through anal sex so you’re safe there. But having unprotected anal sex at all – ejaculation or no ejaculation – puts you at risk for contracting or spreading sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Anal sex is a bit more risky when it comes to STD’s than traditional vaginal sex because the risk of exposure to blood and other bodily fluids is much higher. Having anal sex with a condom – even with a monogomous partner – is a great way to keep yourself safe from sexually transmitted diseases and infections as well as keep ejaculate from entering the anal cavity during orgasm.

Ejaculating During Anal Sex

When ejaculate enters the anus during anal sex, it leaves the anus the same way it leaves the vagina during vaginal sex – it comes out the same way it comes in. With vaginal sex, however, semen comes out much more quickly and can be cleaned up more easily than with anal sex. Ejaculate doesn’t always come out of the anal cavity right away, and it may come out at inopportune times. Usually, it comes out when you have a bowel movement but can leak out at other times as well. To clean the anal cavity of ejaculate after anal sex, you can pick up an enema kit at your local drugstore to wash the anus clean of semen. Enemas are also an excellent way to get clean before having anal sex, keeping the anal cavity free of fecal matter during sex. If you or your partner prefer to keep semen out of the anal cavity during sex, remember that using a condom is a great way to do that.

Cleaning Up Afterwards

Since anal sex can help spread bacteria that can make you and your partner sick, cleaning up properly afterwards is very important. Clean any anal sex toys used with warm soap and water, or use a special toy cleaner. Wash your hands and your penis thoroughly and have your partner wash her bottom with soap and water as well. Better yet, enjoy a steamy shower with your partner and make cleaning up after anal sex as erotic and pleasurable as anal sex is for you!

Pleasing Your Partner With A Strap On

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If you and your partner are looking for something to spice up your sex life, you may want to consider pleasing your partner with a strap on. In this alternative to traditional anal sex, a woman will wear a strap on dildo and please her partner anally, focusing on stimulating the prostate gland. Some men, however, are adverse to this idea – here’s how to find out if you can please your man with a strap on.

Introducing The Idea

Many women enjoy the idea of having sex with their partner with a strap on. It gives them the feeling of power and lets them experience a different side of sex altogether. Some men enjoy being on the receiving end, however, many men do not relish the idea at all. How can you find out if your man would like being pleased anally with a strap on? First, try traditional anal sex and let your partner please you anally. This is a good way to introduce him to the idea of anal play at all. Communicate with him how much it turns you on. Also, try a few roleplaying activities that allow your partner to take the role of the submissive. This is a great way to allow him to explore being submissive without diving right into anal play. If he enjoys anal sex with you and enjoys being submissive sometimes, browse a sex toy store online and let him suggest a few toys he would like to play with.

Getting Him Warmed Up

Don’t start by outright suggesting he try being on the receiving end of a strap on. Instead, give him plenty of time to warm up to anal play by purchasing a few small anal toys, such as anal beads or small butt plugs, and use lots and lots of silicone or water based lubricant. Never use desensitizing lube, because if it is painful or uncomfortable, he should stop. Once your partner really gets into anal play, try taking a look at a smaller sized dildo with a strap on. Let him know it could be a toy for both of you to enjoy!

Do’s And Don’ts Of Strap On Play

  • Don’t try any kind of anal play without lots of lube.
  • Don’t force your partner into a submissive role or strap on play if that isn’t where he wants to be.
  • Listen to him if he tells you something makes him uncomfortable or becomes painful.
  • Start small and work your way up. Always use toys and dildos that have a wide base on the end of them to prevent the anal toy from being lodged in the anus. You don’t want to risk it not being able to get back out.
  • Start slow and go slow. Anal play is not the time to be rough – stuff can tear back there!
  • Have a safety word and use it if one of you becomes uncomfortable.
  • Be open to ideas that your partner wants to try too – let him share something with you that really turns him on and make a vow to try it with him.