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What Kind Of Sex Toys To Buy

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Sex toys come in all shapes, sizes and colors. You can do just about anything with them or put them…ahem, anywhere. How do you choose what sex toys to get?

There are a huge amount of sex toys available on the market today: dongs, dildos, vibrators, cock rings, G-Spot stimulators, eggs, bullets – the list goes on and on. We’ll get into each option in a second, but first, let’s discuss what kind of material you want to search for first.

Jelly or rubber sex toys aren’t the best option, mostly because of their inability to be properly cleaned. There are several other options available, depending on the kind of toy you want, but in most circumstances (unless otherwise noted) you’ll want to purchase sex toys made out of silicone. Although more expensive than regular jelly or rubber sex toys, silicone sex toys are:

  • Hypoallergenic
  • Warm up quickly to your body heat, touch or warm water
  • Sterile, and can be cleaned with gentle soap and water
  • Able to be used both vaginally and anally, provided they are properly sterilized in between uses
  • Non-porous and odourless
  • Lifetime purchases that won’t break, flake or melt

Now that you have a better idea as to what kind of materials to look for in a sex toy, let’s talk about the different options available to you that help with orgasms during intercourse.

Clitoral Sex Toys

There is a certain angle and thrusting mechanism required to rub up against a woman’s clitoral complex well enough to have her orgasm during sex. If for whatever reason you aren’t able to use these positions to attain the proper movement or angle, or if your partner can’t let go of her vibrator habit, a clitoral stimulator is the first type of sex toy to try. These implements are meant to be worn during intercourse, and they provide sensation, vibration or rubbing along the clitoral head and frenulum.

For example, the Ladybug made by Nasswalk is an unusual vibrator that a woman wears on her hips like a pair of underwear. It sits along her pelvis and stimulates her clitoris using two feelers that encircle her genital region. Many women have shared with me that this one toy saved their sex lives, and they couldn’t imagine having an orgasm during sex without it. I recommend this product wholeheartedly.

G-Spot Vibrators

G-Spot toys during intercourse? How is that possible? With a new and highly recommended toy called the We-Vibe, you can do it all. This small C-shaped vibrator offers both clitoral and G-Spot stimulation, where the woman wears the toy snugly inside herself and her partner thrusts. Once inserted, you don’t need to use your hands to hold it in place, and it packs a powerful vibratory punch. This incredible little gadget is easy to clean, rechargeable, and fully waterproof.

Eggs

Egg vibrators are sex toys that are shaped like an egg and are sold in pairs. Most eggs are meant to be worn inside while a woman goes about her day, prior to intercourse, so she can strengthen her pelvic floor muscles in an attempt to enjoy stronger orgasms. Some eggs even vibrate when they touch one another inside her body, so she gets a little thrill each time she moves! Although these aren’t meant to be used during sex, they will assist your partner with feeling more in touch with her body and how orgasms work. Ask her to put two inside her a few hours before you’ve planned a sex session, and see just how wet and excited they make her.

Bullets

Bullet vibrators are sex toys that are powered by either small internal watch batteries, or an attached remote. They range in size from two to four inches long and come in a variety of similar shapes and sizes. Bullets are fantastic pieces of equipment because they are:

  • Tiny, thus fitting into small or cramped areas when your bodies pushed together
  • Powerful, offering strong vibrations in a focused manner
  • Versatile, and can be used solo or with a multitude of attachments

Bullet vibrators are great sex toys to give to your partner. She can use them during sex whenever she needs an extra thrill, and because they are highly focused vibrations, she’ll be able to pinpoint her itchy spots with ease during sex.

Finger Vibrators

Sex positions that allow for a free hand are perfect for finger vibrator use. They fit neatly over your finger like a ring and provide extra stimulation through the pads of your fingertips. The Fukuoku 9000 uses silicone sleeves and makes your finger the actual vibrator, while the Ophoria loops around the base of your finger to give you an extra, vibrating digit.

Vibrating Cock Rings

One of the newer additions to the sex toys family are cock rings. All are meant to fit around a man’s penis, stopping the flow of blood so that he can maintain a longer erection. Some are plain rings that only provide support to the gent in question wearing one, while others have clitoral and anal attachments to stimulate those parts of her body as well. My favorite types of cock rings however are the ones that vibrate. Easily found at most grocery stores today, some come with a condom already attached. Because the batteries in these cock rings are small, they usually don’t cost a lot of money, and wear out quickly.

These lovely little sex toys offer a lot of benefits when having sex and wanting some extra stimulation, such as:

  • Ease of use. You don’t need to read an instruction manual to use these sex toys, and they are ready to use as soon as you open the package. All you do is stretch the ring around your penis, put it as far down your penis as you can, and then pull it around your balls as well. Let go gently until it gets back to the size it came out of the package. It should fit snugly but without any pain.
  • No thinking required. Once you’ve put the cock ring on, you can forget about it. It won’t move, and you’ll both have your hands free to try out any of the wild and sexy positions shared in this eBook.

There really isn’t a lot to these bundles of joy, but there are a few things to remember:

  • When putting on a cock ring, make sure your hands are dry. You don’t want to slip and let go of it midway through and accidentally hurt yourself.
  • Think about the sex positions you’ll try out that evening before putting on the ring. If you’re focusing on woman on top or missionary, put the vibrating bit farthest away from your scrotum so that your lover gets the buzz around her clitoral network. If however you want to use mostly sideways or doggy-style positions, flip the ring around so that it sits just at your balls.

Hot New Twists On Classic Sex Games!

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Sex games that have been done over and over can be boring. But you can try these sexy new ways to do old sex games and have tons of fun!

Food Games

Every once in a while, choose culinary delights to accompany your intimate enterprise. In the field of food alone, there’s of myriad things to do – so long as the couple is not afraid of getting messy. Practically anything set on a table and served on a plate can be eaten off the human body. Practically anything a hand can hold can be fed to your lady.

But don’t feast ‘til the tank’s full, that’ll only make you sleepy, you might as well forego the sex. In this context, food exists to tease the senses – not just the tongue, but also the skin, eyes and nose. Work your appetite with torrid sex, then eat to your heart’s content during the Afterplay dates.

Food can get messy, especially if you have food fight in the agenda. I suggest you buy a special mattress exclusively for sex play, something that doesn’t absorb liquid or stain. You can use the ones they have in gyms, lay it on the floor and you’re good to go – you won’t have to worry about going to the cleaners in the morning.

Besides ice, mints, candy, wine, strawberries and whipped cream, here are other food ideas:

  1. Chinese food – Work the grease on each other. This may not be your idea of romance, but who knows, it might be your idea of fun. It will feel odd initially, but then you’ll remember how wonderful it was to be in a sandbox. Play and eat, be a child once again. Finish the messy affair by lathering each other in the shower. Get ready for some serious action after.
  2. Sauces – See how adorable she looks with some sauce on her face. (Don’t use too much, licking it all off can be nauseating.) Liquids are mainstays during foreplay, when penetration is not the main issue. Getting foreign liquids into the vagina may disturb the pH balance inside, so be careful not to drip anything in. Finally, cleaning up is as important as getting messy, make sure you still approach it with childish fun.
  3. Fruits – There are messy fruits, there are easy fruits – take your pick. Consider the issue of seeds, pulp and flow of juices.

Role Playing

Pepper your encounters with role playing and themes by putting on your best acting pants and pretend you are making love like different couples.

A very big warning though: WHEN THE GAME STOPS, WHEN IT’S ALL OVER, YOU HAVE TO STOP PLAYING THE PART – don’t get carried away. Moreover, never hurt, abuse or threaten your partner – I don’t care what the role you’re playing is. Keep it light, playful and flirtatious.

  • Doctor & Nurse
  • Dentist & Assistant
  • Judge & Lawyer
  • Boss & Secretary
  • Rockstar & Groupie
  • Superstar Athlete & Reporter
  • Business Tycoon & French maid

Of course, it can also go the other way and women can play the dominant role:

  • Hot Teacher & Naïve Student
  • Amazon Boss & “Let’s see if you’re really gay” Assistant
  • Horny Mistress & Pizza Boy
  • Beauty Queen & Pool Boy
  • Horny Heiress & Hunky Gardener

Mix & match, and make your own. Try Astronaut and Alien!

Sex Toys

There’s a legion of sex toys available in the market today – some of them will work for you, others are better off as home decors. But you will find that those that rub you the right way are really heaven sent.

Toys don’t get tired or think that the kitty tastes awful. They simply do their job and allow both of you to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Vibrators and butt plugs don’t compete with you, they aid in your pleasure and are on your team. Many get threatened with sex gadgets. It’s the “Why, am I not enough?” feeling that nips on the egos of men.

But there’s really nothing to be insecure about. You are definitely better than any toy – more delightful than any battery-operated device. Toys might bring her orgasms, but they are only physical implements devoid of psychological warmth.

You’re different – you’re a fumbling, sometimes clueless, ball of fun! So don’t think twice of employing toys, it’s not cheating. It’s simply admitting to being human. Face it, you can’t vibrate your tongue or fingers as rhythmically and tirelessly as any garden-variety vibrator. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

To spice up sex toys, try masturbating in public, in a discreet way. Bring a quiet vibrator to a movie theater, or masturbate in your car on a long drive. Wear a pair of quiet, vibrating panties to a business meeting and try your hardest to keep a straight face! When it comes to sex toys, use your imagination to bring life to old, played out toys.

How To Choose The BEST Lube!

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Lube comes in all different kinds, consistencies, flavors and formulas. Here’s how to select the best one for what you’re going to be doing.

You’ve decided to go ahead and get some lube, but there are so many different kinds out there that it’s completely overwhelming! What kind do you get? How much money do you have to spend? Should you get one, two or four bottles? Should you get different kinds or stock up on one kind? Here’s what you want to know about what kind of lube to get for what you want to use it for.

Water Based

What It Is: Water based lubricant is just that – a lubricant made with mostly water and other inert ingredients. Water based lube feels the most natural, although it can come in both slippery thin versions and thick gel versions. It’s the most condom compatible lube and the easiest to wash off. It almost never stains sheets!

Don’t Use With: Underwater sex or sex in the shower. It will rinse away almost immediately.

Best For: Vaginal sex, use with sex toys

Silicone

What It Is: Silicone lube is not water based – it’s made from silicone (a type of plastic) and is typically “oilier” feeling than water based lube. (Never use oil for lube – it will ruin any latex product including condoms). It lasts longer and doesn’t wash away that easily. It requires washing off with soap and water and can be more difficult to get out of intimate areas like the vagina. It can also stain sheets and clothing, so be careful!

Don’t Use With: Silicone sex toys. Silicone + silicone doesn’t mix – it will degrade the toy and the outside will start to get sticky and gross looking!

Best For: Underwater sex, anal sex

All Natural/Hypoallergenic

What It Is: For sensitive women, there are “all natural” or “hypoallergenic” lubricant formulas available. Some are even considered “organic.” Most, if not all of them are water based, since silicone can be more irritating to some individuals. All natural lubes are usually unscented and feel very natural.

Don’t Use With: Nothing. These lubes are very versatile!

Best For: Women with very sensitive vaginal tissues, or men who have sensitive penises. Also good for couples who simply desire to use lubricant that is closest to their own natural bodily fluids.

Flavored

What It Is: Flavored lube is almost always water based, since consumers typically associate flavored lube with “edible lube.” And it usually is edible, although there isn’t really a lubricant out there that doesn’t taste like some sort of poorly flavored plastic. It’s tolerable though, if you must use lube during oral sex. However, the scents are what make flavored lube so great! They come in a variety of scents like chocolate, mint, strawberry and more. When using them for anal sex, the scents can come in handy when covering up any unwanted body odors.

Don’t Use With: Some flavored lubes are made with sugar, which can cause yeast infections in women. Read your labels carefully!

Best For: Oral sex or anytime you want a better smelling lubricant

Desensitizing Lube

What It Is: Desensitizing lubricant is a special formula with “numbing” ingredients that numb the surface of the skin it’s applied to for a short period of time. This type of lube was created specifically with anal sex in mind, but should not be used for this.

Don’t Use With: Anything! Desensitizing lube was created with anal sex in mind, since anal sex tends to be painful when not done correctly. However, if you use this type of lube with anal sex, it can prevent you from feeling pain – which can be a very, very bad thing contrary to popular belief.

You may think you want to numb yourself against feeling pain during anal sex, but you need to be aware if something hurts while you’re engaging in that type of activity. Tearing and bleeding can occur and when severe, require immediate medical attention. If you can’t feel what’s going on, you may not know there’s an issue until it’s too late.

Best For: Nothing, really. You can’t use it for oral sex because you don’t want a numb tongue (what good would that do?) and you don’t want your lover to have a numb vagina and clitoris either. You can use it if you’re a particularly fast ejaculator, but it’s not going to numb you to feeling the pressure of stroking during intercourse, which is typically what causes a man to orgasm anyways. It may buy you a minute or two, but it’s not really worth it.

Stimulating Lubricants

What It Is: Like desensitizing lubes, stimulating lubricants are either water or silicone based lubes that are made with special ingredients to stimulate the vagina or penis during sex. There are warming lubes or cooling lubes, both of which provide a tingling sensation. Some formulas of warming lubes get really, really hot and can burn quite a bit, while most cooling lubes aren’t as strong. These can be fun to play with!

Don’t Use With: Oral sex. Do you really want your tongue to be on fire?

Best For: Experimenting with a drop or two on the penis or the clitoris. Fun for handjobs! Use in moderation.

What Not To Use

Oils

Never, ever use oil based products like olive oil, coconut oil, baby oil or mineral oil during sex. These will break down latex condoms and latex sex toys faster than you can say, “Oh ****!” Technically, you “can” use oils like this if you’re in a monogamous sexual relationship with someone and you are both STD free and are either trying for a baby or are protected against pregnancy in other ways (such as birth control), but water and silicone based lubricants are so much better and more natural feeling. They’re also easier to wash off!

Saliva

Saliva is NOT lube. No matter how many times you’ve used it in a “pinch” and it’s worked okay, it’s just not the same. It doesn’t last as long, there’s usually not enough of it and it’s really not that erotic to be smearing your spit all over yourself and your girl’s vagina during sex. Just get some lube, okay?

Lotion

Lotion isn’t lube either. You may have used it during masturbation and sure it was thick, but it was better than nothing, right? It’s not going to work that way if you’re with a woman. It’s too thick and it will likely irritate her delicate vaginal tissues. Lotion is meant for the outside, not the inside.

Food Products Like Mayonnaise, Etc.

If the thought of using condiments like mayo for lube makes you shudder and sends you running in the other direction, good for you! However, people have been known to use whatever they have on hand instead of just going out and buying a bottle of damn lube. It’s ridiculous, yes. But it happens. Mayo and other condiments can have oil in them, so refer back to why you should not use oil as a lubricant during sex. Also, using condiments (unless it’s licking chocolate sauce off her nipples) during sex is just plain nasty.

Vaseline/Petroleum Jelly

These are oil based products. Read the label.

Lube is a great item to have on hand and it can be found almost everywhere, including your local supermarkets and drugstores. It’s inexpensive and you don’t have to be a certain age to buy it. Try several different brands, types and consistencies to find out what works for you and your partner! Sampler packs are great for this because it allows you to try different brands without spending money and wasting an entire bottle of lube if you find that you don’t like something. Above all, have fun with it because that’s what it’s all about!

6 Hot New Sex Tips To Try Tonight!

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Sex tips are a great way to keep your sex life inspired. Whether you’re getting tired of the same old missionary style, or you’re looking to expand your already amazing sex life, sex tips can take you over the hump. If you and your partner are looking for a way to increase the amount of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship, these sex tips can easily help you out. Here are 5 hot new sex tips to try tonight.

1. Roleplay With Your Partner

Role play isn’t for everybody. There are of men and women that get embarrassed over putting on a costume or having to improv sexy talk. If you and your partner are comfortable with it, role playing can be a great way to put some new kink into your sex life. Some of the most common forms of roleplay involve one partner being dominant and the other being submissive.

Before you start to role play, you should always determine who is going to be dominant and who is going to be submissive. If you want to switch it up in the middle of the role playing then this is fine too. The key is to find a healthy balance so the both of you are satisfied in the end.

2. Set Up Barriers

This is something that is commonly found in the pick up artist community, but it works well with couples also. Barriers are basically used to increase sexual tension. Pick up artists use this to increase sexual tension in an environment that cannot be used for sex. For instance, talking dirty to a girl in a restaurant or getting a her turned on in a nightclub.

You can’t have sex in a nightclub or in a restaurant, so the girl feels safe and more likely to respond in a positive manner. Go out to dinner with your partner and use the barriers to your advantage. Get the sexual tension so high that you can’t wait to get home.

3. Switch Up The Dominance

There are a lot of guys and girls that love to be either dominant or submissive in the bedroom. One of the best ways that you can get out of your comfort zone and experience something different is to switch up the dominance. Instead of always having your boyfriend or girlfriend being the dominant one, take control.

If you’re the one who always takes control, be submissive. In the middle of sex, switch roles so that you are either dominant or submissive. This will not only increase the sexual tension and create a really fun environment for experimentation, it can also expose you to new and creative ways of taking or letting go of control.

4. Use Sex Toys

There are too many couples who rely on their bodies for sexual pleasure. If you haven’t tried sex toys yet, do it. Take a trip to the adult store together and pick out a small vibrator or dildo for your girlfriend. You also might want to try out a cock ring or a vibrating condom. Sex toys are there to enhance your sex life, not replace it.

So many couples think that sex toys are a form of “cheating” or “copping out.” Just because you have a really intense orgasm with a vibrator doesn’t mean that your guy isn’t a good lover. Try out some sex toys to get things rolling or to take your orgasms to the next level.

5. Remove Anxieties

With kids, work, housework or whatever else you have in your life, the last thing that you or your partner wants to do is have sex. Sex is about having fun and it can be an escape from life, however, there are things that your sexual urges can’t overcome. Remove the anxieties from life so you can focus on your sex life. Try to help your partner out on a daily basis so you both have less stress and anxiety in your lives. This will go a long way with your sex life.

6. Double Down On Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for having great sex. While this is not secret, so many men and women tend to forget it when they are in a long-term relationship. It’s way to easy to get to the big show immediately. Take the time that you normally spend on foreplay and double it. If you normally spend about 5 minutes on foreplay, extend it to 10 minutes.

Mix up what you normally do so your partner is surprised. Going from kissing to oral sex is a staple. Mix it up so you are kissing and then giving oral sex and then back to kissing or just fingering. This will make a big difference in the way that your partner gets turned on.

The Right Way To Give Her A Sex Toy

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Sex toys can make an excellent gift for special occasions like anniversaries or for Valentine’s Day, but getting the right thing can be trickier than you originally anticipated. It’s easy to select something that your girl wouldn’t like, or even something that would upset her or offend her. This is even easier to do if you and your lover don’t communicate regularly about what she does and doesn’t like during sex.

However, you needn’t shy away from gifting your girl a sex toy all together, because if you choose something she really likes, it can be key to jump starting your sex life! Here’s how to choose a sex toy that your girl will like, and how to give it to her as a gift without upsetting her.

Pay Attention To What She Likes During Sex

Think about what your girl likes when you have sex with her. Think about what brings her to orgasm the fastest, or makes her go completely wild! Does she like a lot of clitoral stimulation to take her over the edge? Does she like a “full” feeling in her vagina? Does she like both clitoral and g-spot stimulation at the same time? Decoding what she wants during sex is going to be your biggest clue to selecting a sex toy that meets her needs and satisfies her desires. It will also let you know what to stay away from.

If she doesn’t reach orgasm very well with vaginal stimulation alone, getting her a sex toy that doesn’t stimulate the clitoris (and only stimulates the vagina) is a bad idea. This will tell her that you a) don’t pay attention to what she likes during sex and b) that all you really want to do is shove stuff inside her. So think about what she really, really enjoys during sex and go for a sex toy that stimulates that area of her body. If she totally digs nipple stimulation when she’s ready to climax, gift her with a sweet pair of nipple clamps or nipple vibrators – but don’t go for the crazy, BDSM looking ones.

Go For High Quality, “Luxury” Toys

When giving a sex toy as a gift, a cheap rubber toy from that one store in the mall is just going to disappoint her. That’s honestly something she could have gotten herself if she wanted it. Many of those toys are cheaply made and can actually cause allergic reactions and can even increase the risk of cervical cancer due to the materials the toys are made out of. Many of those toys are also designed as “gag gifts” – so giving her a toy like this can only be bad news.

Instead, shop for a high end, quality luxury toy either online or in your local adult store. This is one of those times that name brand actually matters – most “name brand” sex toy manufacturers (for example, LELO or Jimmy Jane) make their toys out of body safe silicone or hard plastic, and they not only feel great, they look incredible. They’re sleek, chic and totally high end – which will impress any woman. Take the time to select something really nice and damn the cost. She’s worth it!

No Dildos, Period

No matter how close you are with your partner, gifting her a dildo in the shape of another man’s penis is just awkward. Besides, dildos don’t do much of anything for a woman who likes clitoral stimulation (which is just about every woman to be perfectly frank). You might consider the solution to that is one of those clone-your-own-penis kits, where you make a rubber dildo using a mold of your own penis. This can be a fun novelty activity for both of you to do together, but it does not make a nice gift. No dildo makes a nice gift. So stay away from those, period!

Skip Anal Toys Unless You KNOW She Digs Anal Stimulation

Gifting a woman an anal sex toy without knowing for sure whether she’s into the anal action or not is a huge mistake. She’ll assume all you’re trying to do is get busy with her back door and she’ll be offended. It’s almost like if you give her a fishing pole for her birthday – she knows it’s not for her, it’s really for you. And that’s just plain insulting. To be safe, steer clear of any anal stimulation toys unless you’re totally sure she likes it and you’ve had success with it before.

If you do decide to get her something for her bum, make sure it’s something very pretty and very nice. A gorgeous glass plug (on the smaller side, thank you!) is okay, but a huge black thing is totally not okay. Think demure, sweet and sensual. Not nasty and hardcore. This should help lead you in the right direction if you’re sure an anal toy is the right way to go. If you’re not sure, don’t do it.

A Clitoral Vibe Is Almost Always Safe

If you’re not really sure what she likes during sex and you’re nervous about getting her something she’ll like, go for a clitoral vibrator. This type of sex toy is designed only to stimulate the clitoris and doesn’t go in the vagina – it’s a safe bet for almost any woman. The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s anatomy, and it often doesn’t get enough love during sex. Many women can only reach orgasm with clitoral stimulation! Giving her a clitoral vibrator as a gift says “I care about your pleasure more than my own. I really want you to feel good!” This is a toy she can use during sex with you, or on her own.

Select something high end and discreet, that looks nice. An excellent choice is the LELO Nea! You pretty much can’t mess up if you select a gorgeous, luxury clitoral vibrator. She’s almost guaranteed to love it.

Get Her Another Gift Also

Even if you’ve chosen a really nice, high quality sex toy to give to her as a gift, consider getting her another gift as well. While a super luxury sex toy is nice enough to be the gift, if you’re not sure how she’ll react, give her another gift as well. Don’t make the sex toy her only gift. Get her something that isn’t sex related, such as jewelry. You really can’t go wrong with jewelry. Chocolates (of the high end variety) are an excellent choice as well, as are gift certificates to her favorite restaurant, or a gift certificate for a full body massage or a pedicure.

Giving her something that you know she’ll like in addition to the sex toy gives you a buffer if she ends up being disappointed. If she likes the toy – and you’ve gotten her something else she’s ecstatic about – she’ll be more inclined to feel like having sex with you (and using her new toy in your presence!)