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The Top 7 SEXIEST Valentine’s Day Ideas Ever!

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Valentine’s Day is all about romance, but you should inject a healthy dose of sex in there too for a great night. While she’ll love the romance, you’ll both dig the sex, so here are the very best unique and SEXY Valentine’s Day suggestions!

1. Paint Her Body

Your woman wants you to spend some time on her this Valentine’s Day. What better way to do that than to lick and kiss all over her body, from head to toe? You can do this on your own, or you can gift your partner a delicious tub of edible body paint (or just use regular chocolate sauce) and tell her you’re going to enjoy her all night.

Draw hearts and words on her body and lick off the paint slowly, letting her savor every sensation! Just remember not to put anything with sugar on her genitals – this will give her an uncomfortable yeast infection later! That is not a Valentine’s Day gift you want to leave your lover with!

2. Steamy Sex Games

Why not break out a sexy board game for Valentine’s Day? Go with something tame like Battle Of The Sexes if you want to get competitive but not naked, or play something fun like strip poker if you don’t have anything around but cards.

If you’ve planned for it, you have some time to get a sex game that you can give as a gift. Cosmo’s Steamy Sex Games is an inventive card game, while there are many sexy board games that will get you and your lover exploring brand new things. Even something as simple as dirty dice can be hotter on Valentine’s Day!

3. The Honey Game

This is an excellent foreplay sex game if you and your partner want to have some fun this Valentine’s Day but can’t or don’t want to spend a lot of money. Simply take a dab of honey, smear it in a small area on your body, blindfold your partner and let them try to find the dab of honey with their mouth!

This is incredibly sensual, because you’ll get to feel your lover’s hot mouth all over your body! They’ll really enjoy it as well, because you’re going to give them something super special (and sexy) when they find the prize.

4. A Striptease

Ladies, don’t underestimate the value of a striptease for your lover on Valentine’s Day. The idea itself may seem played out, but unless you give your man a striptease every single day of his life (which we’re willing to bet that you don’t) then it’s an incredible gift and you should definitely do it!

Guys love to look at women. They love to look at naked women (or women in lingerie) even more. They like to look at naked women dancing the most! Surprise your partner with a well put together striptease (because a crappy one that shows you haven’t practiced or put any effort into it at all is just insulting) and he’ll really enjoy it! Plus, it’s free!

5. Really Good Wine And A Babysitter

Again, this is one of those things that seem played out, or the go-to if you can’t think of anything better. However, this is honestly one of the best Valentine’s Day gifts out there! You really don’t want to underestimate how great really good wine (and a babysitter if you have little ones) is for Valentine’s Day!

Life is hectic, especially with jobs, kids, grocery shopping, paying bills and other day to day stuff that seems to suck the life out of you and your partner. So plan a quiet evening at home and enjoy some really, really good wine. Go ahead, splurge on your favorite. Relax. You’ll enjoy this Valentine’s Day gift as much as your partner, because once she’s relaxed and the kids aren’t in the house, it’s game on. 

6. A Fantasy Box

Explore your sexual fantasies in a non-threatening way this Valentine’s Day with a simple fantasy box. Decorate an empty tissue box with all kinds of Valentine’s Day themed paper, glitter and cutouts and proceed to write your sexiest fantasies on paper and drop them in the box.

Have your lover do the same! After dinner when you’re getting started with foreplay, take turns pulling out the slips and acting out what is written down. You’ll probably get a few surprises this way, and you’ll definitely be having fun.

7. A Hot Video

Ladies, buckle down and make an amateur porn for your lover. If you can’t manage that, at least give him some sexy photos to look at. Yes, your man looks at naked women. Yes, he’d rather be looking at you naked, but he certainly can’t do that if you don’t give him any material to look at! Give him the gift of you for Valentine’s Day!

Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea – Gettin’ Kinky

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Make this Valentine’s Day hotter than ever by doing something totally exciting and unexpected in the bedroom! Instead of doing the same old, boring thing that you do every Valentine’s Day, try something new and fun. This is the perfect time to get a little kinky, and spice things up for both you and your partner. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

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Vibrators

Instead of your traditional vibrator, try wearing some vibrating boy shorts all day to get you hot and ready for the big night! Put them on while your partner pleasures you in different ways, to increase y0ur orgasmic potential. Also, boy shorts with a larger sized remote control vibrator puts your pleasure in your partner’s hands! Give him total control over your body, even from another room. Wear them all day and let him surprise you with pleasure again and again.

Bondage

If you’re into bondage with a willing prisoner, splurge a little on some inexpensive japanese bondage rope or handcuffs specifically designed for the bedroom. Scarves work well too, but rope from the boat, car or garage just won’t do. You want something soft, stretchy and made for bondage to do the job. Japanese bondage rope is an easy to use, soft “rope” that actually tightens a little when you try to resist. Another great toy is an under the bed restraint – this restraint actually “threads” under your bed and provides you with soft, velcro cuffs at all four corners of the bed for each of your willing prisoner’s arms and legs.  The under the bed restraint also features adjustable straps that you can tighten or loosen at your discretion. Take some turns trying out your new toys and being prisoner and prison warden for a kinky Valentine’s night that you’ll never forget!

Kinky Valentine’s Day Treasure Chest

A great way to spice up your Valentine’s night with some fun new toys is to get a “grab bag” with lots of stuff inside. The Fetish Fantasy Series bondage gear box is like a treasure chest full of fun things to use on Valentine’s Day – and afterwards! A red, fuzzy, heart shaped paddle, velcro cuffs with heart chain links and warming massage oil are among the many suprises in this fun treasure chest. You and your partner will have a blast seeing what’s inside! Take your toys to a hotel for an even hotter Valentine’s night, or simply stay at home and lock the door. Just remember, Valentine’s Day is about trying something new and different to spice up your sex life. Keep an open mind and a great attitude!

Check out Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Sexy Games For Couples and Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Fun In The Tub for more great ideas on how to make this Valentine’s Day rock!

3 Scorching Hot Valentine’s Day Ideas

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Valentine’s Day is here and it’s time to heat things up! While your girl probably wants things to be ultra romantic, you’re ready to set your sex life on fire. Here are some excellent sexy suggestions to get you started spicing things up!

Blindfold, Restrain And Feed Her

This is a great sex game to play on Valentine’s Day because you can do it so many different ways and you really don’t need a lot of “props” – most of what you’ll use is stuff you already have or can get easily, say at the grocery store. You can also get as kinky as you want with this fantasy! If you and your lover are into BDSM and kink, feel free to take the bondage aspect a little farther with more hardcore restraints. If you’re just a beginner, a tame blindfold and silk ties are just as effective.

Grab some sensual foods such as wine, cheese and rich desserts and take your time slowly feeding them to her. Chocolate dipped strawberries and other berries work well too. Whatever you choose, select something with a lot of flavor. You’ll really wow her this way because when she’s blindfolded, her other senses automatically heighten. So her sense of smell and taste will be at a much higher level than when she has her eyes open. Be creative and have fun with it!

Get Out Of The House!

This Valentine’s Day, don’t just do the same old thing in the bedroom like you do every time you and your lover have sex. Instead, venture outside the house (or at least outside the bedroom doors if you never do it in your kitchen or living room) and change up your location. Even if you use the same moves and techniques as you always do, the new location will provide new sights, smells and sensations that enhance the experience.

You can be creative with this also. Do you have an exhibitionist fantasy? Try having sex in a public place and try not to get caught! Going on a road trip? Pull over and get it on in the back seat. Shopping for some Valentine’s Day lingerie? See how quiet you can be when you have sex in the lingerie store dressing room. If you’re very quiet and very quick, you probably won’t get caught – and you’ll get to test drive the lingerie  too! (Note: If you do “test drive” the lingerie, buy it afterwards. Don’t hang it back up. Just don’t.)

Do Something You Don’t Normally Do

Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to break out some techniques or activities that you don’t normally engage in. Your partner is expecting some really good sexy time, so use this to your advantage and try something that you’ve been really dying to try or do something that you’ve never done before. Never tried kink or bondage? Splurge on a beginner’s bondage kit and see if you and your lover like tying each other up and doing naughty things to each other.

Another great way to do something you don’t normally do without stepping too far outside your (or your partner’s) comfort zones is to put a new twist on something you and your partner really enjoy doing. For example, if you both really get off on oral sex, try the sixty nine oral sex position so you both can receive pleasure at the same time. What makes this such an excellent idea is that you get more intimacy because both of you are receiving pleasure simultaneously and it feels new and exciting while comforting at the same time because it’s not something totally weird and freaky that you’ve never tried.

Whatever you choose to do this Valentine’s Day, just make sure to get creative, use your imagination and go a little bit outside the box. Don’t just do flowers and jewelry with no personal touch. If you get jewelry, make sure it’s a stone that has sentimental value to her. If you get flowers, make sure they’re her favorites. If you buy her dinner, do it at the new restaurant she’s been aching to try.

When you have sex on Valentine’s Day, make sure to take it to the next level. If you’ve never given her an orgasm before, take the time to learn how to do it and REALLY surprise her this evening! If you allow yourself to get really creative, there’s no limit to how special you can make this Valentine’s Day!

Why Male Sex Toys Are The Perfect Valentine’s Day Gift For Him!

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Valentine’s Day is not just about gifts for “Her!” Although it’s awesome if you get some pretty great gifts from your guy, you shouldn’t leave him out of the gift giving equation just because Valentine’s Day is marketed so heavily towards women. But look at it this way – what does your guy want the most? Food? Maybe. Sex? You bet! So this year, you can surprise your man with his very own sex toy – and here’s the reason you should!

He Never Gets Sex Toys

It’s true – many guys don’t go to sex toy stores for themselves, nor do they order online. They’ve always done just fine with their hand, and frankly, for a long time, sex toys for “boys” just weren’t all that great. Things have come a long way since then, baby! Sex toys for men have much better materials, are higher quality and just feel better than they ever did before. But chances are, your guy is still stuck back in the stone age, thinking his hand is enough to get the job done. It is – but there are much better alternatives out there!

Your guy may also be incredibly embarrassed to order from a sex toy store, so perhaps he’s thought about it, but never made that jump. Either way, the fact of the matter is, while you may go shopping for this vibrator or that dildo, he’s never really had a thing.

Masturbation Gets Boring Sometimes

Even though guys look at porn way more than girls do when masturbating, it still gets boring sometimes. His hand just doesn’t feel as good as your vagina, but he makes do because let’s face it – guys masturbate. They just do. They do it when they have great sex lives, they do it when they have bad sex lives. They’ll do it if they had sex an hour ago, if nothing more than to help themselves fall asleep later. But just because your guy has a habit doesn’t mean he should have to do it really fast, in the dark, by himself, with no toys, just-to-get-it-over-with.

Think about how much you love your trusty vibrator. It gets you off every single time, doesn’t it? You know just how to use it and just how to move it to give yourself the best climaxes. But your guy probably doesn’t know that pleasure! Getting him his very own masturbation sleeve for Valentine’s Day ensures that masturbation will be fun and exciting for him again – and you’ll reap the benefits of his improved mood, guaranteed.

He Wants To Know You’re Okay With His Masturbation Habits

Many guys grow up believing masturbation is wrong or taboo. They’ve learned to masturbate quickly and in secret, and to hide their habits well. But he knows deep down that you know he masturbates. And while he’ll probably never discuss his masturbation habits with you (unless you guys are really, really close – like married for many years close), he secretly desires to know that you’re fine with him masturbating and aren’t bothered or threatened by it at all.

He might even have had a girlfriend or two that caught him masturbating or found his porn stash and made him feel bad or guilty about doing it. He may be terrified you’ll find out he jacks off! For him to get a solo sex toy from you for Valentine’s Day (along with an uber cool and casual attitude about it) will say to him that you’re confident and you don’t care that he masturbates. In fact, you encourage it. Make sure he has privacy, always knock if the door is closed and never make snide comments about it, and he may very well just think you’re the coolest chick ever.

He Would Love It If You Played With The Toy Together

Along with the idea that you are cool with him masturbating is the idea that you could watch him masturbate and help by giving him a handjob. When you give him the gift of his very own sex toy this Valentine’s Day, a scene of you, him, and the sex toy being very, very naughty is going to immediately pop into his head. This is a good thing!

While you definitely want to give him some time to learn how to use the thing on his own, after he’s had it a few weeks, you might suggest using it with him while you’re giving him a blowjob or kissing all over his body. Once you use a male masturbator to give your lover a handjob, you’ll never, ever go back to doing it with just your hands. Say goodbye to hand and arm cramps, ladies!

How To Write Sultry Valentine’s Day Poems (And Get Her In Your Bed)

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Valentine’s Day poems don’t have to be sweet all the time! While a poem full of romance is perfect for the 14th, sometimes that’s just not where you want to go with it. If you want to write something for your lover’s gift, but you also want to have some great sex, here’s how you can make it so hot, you’ll get laid (and she’ll still think it’s romantic!)

Write What You Mean And Mean What You Write

Don’t write something just to write it. Don’t do it because you think you should, or because you think love poems have to be a certain way. Start with your feelings. Write what you mean. If you write it, mean it. Don’t inject fake emotions into the poem because you think they should be there or because you think it sounds better if you do.

Your girl will easily be able to tell if you’re just giving her lines, so writing a super fancy love poem with words she knows you don’t fully understand (and using language that you would never use in a hundred years) isn’t going to get you very far. In fact, you’ll put a lot more effort into it than you’ll get out.

Here’s a hint: When you stay true to yourself and your feelings, it doesn’t feel like it takes much effort at all and the rewards are great.

Go “Sensual,” Not “Sexual”

This Valentine’s Day, you want to have incredible sex. You also want to try your hand at seducing your lover with poetry. If this is your goal, you don’t want to go with anything “sexual.” Talking about how hot she is, how hard she makes you or how horny you are isn’t going to do much in the way of getting her to go to bed with you. This is not what is going to get her to respond.

Instead, go “sensual.” Talk about her curves, how supple her skin looks in the moonlight and how you love kissing her soft lips. Compare parts of her to things you can find in nature – eyes the precise color of a sparkling river, lips like rose petals, etc. Use words like “wet, hard, delicious, supple, dirty, etc.” but not to describe her. She’ll get the underlying meaning. If you think of something sexual to write, just stop and think of how a woman might right that same thing. Would she say, “Your hot body makes me so hard,” or would she say, “Your sensuous curves set me on fire!” Think about it!

Don’t Be Afraid To “Get Inspired”

Guys look at porn. Women read romance and erotic novels. So if you’re going to try to seduce your lover on Valentine’s Day with poetry, why not go to the source of all women’s desire? Yes, it means you’ll have to read. Girly stuff. But it will be well worth it to understand a sexual situation from a woman’s perspective. Romance and erotic novels are nothing but situations in which a woman’s perfect scenario with someone is acted out word for word, play by play.

Google some short erotic stories – you’ll get to the good stuff a lot sooner than if you try to crack open a Harlequin. Take note of what the main woman in the story is seeing, feeling and thinking. Use this to inspire you to write your own story of sorts. Notice the slow buildup before anything erotic is introduced – this is definitely something you want your own poetry to reflect!

Play On Her Fantasies

Again, this is where either knowing your partner really well or knowing how women think about sexual situations well. Don’t think you’ll be able to write excellent Valentine’s Day poems without doing a little homework first. Think about what your lover likes in bed. Has she expressed to you what her desires or fantasies are? If so, you’re lucky! If you’re not quite sure, just write your poetry based on what you know she likes.

So to sum it all up, you want to be genuine when you write, get an idea of what to write from erotic or romance novels and choose topics that reflect your lover’s hidden desires. Be sensual and put some personality into it and you’re golden! Even if you’re not a brilliant author, your partner will know that you spent time and effort on her this Valentine’s Day. For a woman, that’s the best gift of all!