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5 Tips For Kinky Sex On Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day and kinky sex are a perfect match for each other. On a day full of romance, love and sexy fun, just about anything goes. Whether you’re into vanilla sex or you like something a little darker, this is the time to really let your inhibitions go and have mind blowing sex! If you’ve never tried kinky sex – or have but want to try something new and different, February 14th is definitely the day to do it.  Here are 5 tips that will help get you started!

1. Invest In A Good Bondage Rope

Tying your partner up and having your way with them (or vice versa) is a great way to experiment with kinky sex on Valentine’s Day. However, if you’re tempted to just scare up some rope out of the garage, you’re in for a disappointment – or worse – severe rope burns. If you want to experiment with bondage, it is definitely in your best interest to invest in some good rope that is made for bondage. There are lots of different styles of rope available, ranging from synthetic materials in a variety of braid patterns to all natural hemp rope. Japanese bondage rope is a favorite among BDSM fans because of its softness, durability and comfort.

2. Try Anal Sex

If you’re open to the idea of anal sex, Valentine’s Day is a great day to try it for the first time. Lots of people – both men and women – enjoy the feeling of anal sex not only because it stimulates nerves and pleasure points that vaginal intercourse can’t reach, but also because it’s considered “naughty” or “taboo.” If you’re a first-timer, start small and work your way up. Don’t jump right into kinky sex through the back door without having experimented with either fingers or small sex toys first – if you do, you’ll be sorry. If you use sex toys for anal play, make sure they have a wide, flared base at the bottom (or a ring). This will prevent the object from getting lost inside (yes, that can happen). Don’t forget to use lots and lots of good, water based lube and never a desensitizing lube.

3. Dirty Talk

For vanilla sex lovers who just aren’t into kinky sex but want to try something a little on the wild side, dirty talk is right up your alley for Valentine’s Day. Dirty talk is a great way to let your inhibitions go with your partner – and also let them know what you want and what you like sexually! If you’re shy, practice talking dirty before you actually hop in the bed with your lover. You can practice dirty talk in front of a mirror to yourself, or simply imagine what you might say and how you might say it. If you lock up during sex and can’t seem to get a word out, simply try describing what your partner is doing (and how much you like it) or tell them what you’re going to do (and how much you like it). You get the idea.

4. Watch Porn Together

Porn comes in just about every flavor – whether you like it soft, hard, vanilla or straight up dark chocolate. If you’re too shy to try kinky sex for real this Valentine’s Day, watch a porn with your partner that showcases what you think is hot and what you might like to try. You never know, you just might get in the mood to do something a little freaky after the movie is over! Communicate with your partner beforehand about what they like and don’t like, so you can make sure you get something that is acceptable for both of you. If you’re not sure what you want to try, visit a free porn site like YouPorn and watch a few different videos until you and your partner find something that entices both of you.

5. Adding Sex Toys Into The Mix

If the bottom drawer in your bedroom nightstand is pretty empty, consider filling it with a few choice sex toys this Valentine’s Day. Sex toys are a great way to enter the foray of kinky sex, and most women are familiar with at least the standard vibrator. Choose a sex toy that just slightly outside your own personal box for something new and exciting. Love anal sex? Try anal beads or a prostate massager. Like getting your nipples pinched during oral sex? Try vibrating nipple clamps for some hands free fun. Use your creativity and choose a few sex toys that you’ve been thinking about trying but haven’t had the guts to do it yet.

Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea – Gettin’ Kinky

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Make this Valentine’s Day hotter than ever by doing something totally exciting and unexpected in the bedroom! Instead of doing the same old, boring thing that you do every Valentine’s Day, try something new and fun. This is the perfect time to get a little kinky, and spice things up for both you and your partner. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

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Vibrators

Instead of your traditional vibrator, try wearing some vibrating boy shorts all day to get you hot and ready for the big night! Put them on while your partner pleasures you in different ways, to increase y0ur orgasmic potential. Also, boy shorts with a larger sized remote control vibrator puts your pleasure in your partner’s hands! Give him total control over your body, even from another room. Wear them all day and let him surprise you with pleasure again and again.

Bondage

If you’re into bondage with a willing prisoner, splurge a little on some inexpensive japanese bondage rope or handcuffs specifically designed for the bedroom. Scarves work well too, but rope from the boat, car or garage just won’t do. You want something soft, stretchy and made for bondage to do the job. Japanese bondage rope is an easy to use, soft “rope” that actually tightens a little when you try to resist. Another great toy is an under the bed restraint – this restraint actually “threads” under your bed and provides you with soft, velcro cuffs at all four corners of the bed for each of your willing prisoner’s arms and legs.  The under the bed restraint also features adjustable straps that you can tighten or loosen at your discretion. Take some turns trying out your new toys and being prisoner and prison warden for a kinky Valentine’s night that you’ll never forget!

Kinky Valentine’s Day Treasure Chest

A great way to spice up your Valentine’s night with some fun new toys is to get a “grab bag” with lots of stuff inside. The Fetish Fantasy Series bondage gear box is like a treasure chest full of fun things to use on Valentine’s Day – and afterwards! A red, fuzzy, heart shaped paddle, velcro cuffs with heart chain links and warming massage oil are among the many suprises in this fun treasure chest. You and your partner will have a blast seeing what’s inside! Take your toys to a hotel for an even hotter Valentine’s night, or simply stay at home and lock the door. Just remember, Valentine’s Day is about trying something new and different to spice up your sex life. Keep an open mind and a great attitude!

Check out Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Sexy Games For Couples and Sexy Valentine’s Day Ideas – Fun In The Tub for more great ideas on how to make this Valentine’s Day rock!

3 Scorching Hot Valentine’s Day Ideas

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Valentine’s Day is here and it’s time to heat things up! While your girl probably wants things to be ultra romantic, you’re ready to set your sex life on fire. Here are some excellent sexy suggestions to get you started spicing things up!

Blindfold, Restrain And Feed Her

This is a great sex game to play on Valentine’s Day because you can do it so many different ways and you really don’t need a lot of “props” – most of what you’ll use is stuff you already have or can get easily, say at the grocery store. You can also get as kinky as you want with this fantasy! If you and your lover are into BDSM and kink, feel free to take the bondage aspect a little farther with more hardcore restraints. If you’re just a beginner, a tame blindfold and silk ties are just as effective.

Grab some sensual foods such as wine, cheese and rich desserts and take your time slowly feeding them to her. Chocolate dipped strawberries and other berries work well too. Whatever you choose, select something with a lot of flavor. You’ll really wow her this way because when she’s blindfolded, her other senses automatically heighten. So her sense of smell and taste will be at a much higher level than when she has her eyes open. Be creative and have fun with it!

Get Out Of The House!

This Valentine’s Day, don’t just do the same old thing in the bedroom like you do every time you and your lover have sex. Instead, venture outside the house (or at least outside the bedroom doors if you never do it in your kitchen or living room) and change up your location. Even if you use the same moves and techniques as you always do, the new location will provide new sights, smells and sensations that enhance the experience.

You can be creative with this also. Do you have an exhibitionist fantasy? Try having sex in a public place and try not to get caught! Going on a road trip? Pull over and get it on in the back seat. Shopping for some Valentine’s Day lingerie? See how quiet you can be when you have sex in the lingerie store dressing room. If you’re very quiet and very quick, you probably won’t get caught – and you’ll get to test drive the lingerie  too! (Note: If you do “test drive” the lingerie, buy it afterwards. Don’t hang it back up. Just don’t.)

Do Something You Don’t Normally Do

Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to break out some techniques or activities that you don’t normally engage in. Your partner is expecting some really good sexy time, so use this to your advantage and try something that you’ve been really dying to try or do something that you’ve never done before. Never tried kink or bondage? Splurge on a beginner’s bondage kit and see if you and your lover like tying each other up and doing naughty things to each other.

Another great way to do something you don’t normally do without stepping too far outside your (or your partner’s) comfort zones is to put a new twist on something you and your partner really enjoy doing. For example, if you both really get off on oral sex, try the sixty nine oral sex position so you both can receive pleasure at the same time. What makes this such an excellent idea is that you get more intimacy because both of you are receiving pleasure simultaneously and it feels new and exciting while comforting at the same time because it’s not something totally weird and freaky that you’ve never tried.

Whatever you choose to do this Valentine’s Day, just make sure to get creative, use your imagination and go a little bit outside the box. Don’t just do flowers and jewelry with no personal touch. If you get jewelry, make sure it’s a stone that has sentimental value to her. If you get flowers, make sure they’re her favorites. If you buy her dinner, do it at the new restaurant she’s been aching to try.

When you have sex on Valentine’s Day, make sure to take it to the next level. If you’ve never given her an orgasm before, take the time to learn how to do it and REALLY surprise her this evening! If you allow yourself to get really creative, there’s no limit to how special you can make this Valentine’s Day!

How To Choose The Perfect Sex Toy As A Valentine’s Day Gift

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Your Valentine’s Day gift should be a great one! You want to show your partner that she’s important to you and that you care for her – but you wouldn’t mind if you could also let her know that she’s super sexy and you love getting it on with her. If you want to get your girl a toy, here’s how to make sure you’re getting one she’ll really love.

Pay Attention To What She Likes

If you want to successfully give your girl a sex toy as a Valentine’s Day gift, you really need to know her. You need to pay attention to what she likes in bed! Think about it – does she like it when you stimulate her nipples? What about when you play with or suck on her clitoris? Does she really get off on deep penetration, or does she like anal play? Really think about what she seems to respond to the most during intercourse.

This will help you understand what toy is best to get her. For example, if she prefers nipple stimulation, try gifting her with a high end pair of nipple clamps or nipple vibrators. If she likes clitoral stimulation the best, why not get her a cute little clitoris vibrator that she can use discreetly? If she likes spanking, get a soft but kinky paddle to use when you do it with her. Whatever it is that seems to float her boat, that is what you want to stick to when purchasing a toy for her.

Go For Quality

Don’t expect your lover to open a box with a $20 vibrator in it and be very excited – she won’t be. She’s seen better stuff at novelty shops in the mall. If you’re going to really get her a toy for Valentine’s Day and you really want her to like it (and not throw you out in the dog house for the night), then be prepared to spend a few bucks. While you can spend over $100 on a vibrator, you don’t have to.

Make sure you’re purchasing something that is made from quality, high end materials. Get her something phthalate free and easy to clean – hard plastic or soft silicone are excellent sex toy materials. If you get her a jelly dildo that stinks like toxic plastic, she’s not going to be very appreciative and she’s certainly not going to want to get it near her nether regions. Most high end sex toys will come in a nice enough package to gift, but if yours doesn’t, either have it gift wrapped or do it yourself. Don’t just slap a bow on a box with a naked chick on the front demonstrating the toy.

Get Another Gift Too

It may sound like you’re racking up the Valentine’s Day gift bill here (and you are), but don’t make a sex toy her only present this year – and don’t give it to her over dinner. If you don’t want to spend enough money to do gifting a sex toy successful, then find something else to do! Sure, sex toys are fun and all, but only giving her a sex toy for her (or one that you can use together) is pretty lame. It will peg you as being only interested in her for the sex!

Instead, give her another gift over dinner, such as jewelry or chocolates – or another well thought out present – and save the sex toy for a more private place such as your house or hers. She’ll be smitten by your earlier gift already, and when you are both in a more intimate setting, she can really look at and enjoy the sex toy without worrying about stuffing it in her bag right away so no one at the restaurant sees what you gave her. Just be classy about it!

A Note On Lingerie

Don’t give your girl lingerie as a Valentine’s Day gift for her. While this is perfectly acceptable to give her on Valentine’s Day, realize that this really is a gift for you. She’s not going to get off on it at all, unless it’s really nice and comfortable lingerie that she can wear around the house or under her clothes. A bustier and garter belt set is not an acceptable gift for her on its own. Get her something else you know she’ll love, and then enjoy the lingerie as a gift for you. 

3 Role Play Sex Games That Will Make Your Valentine’s Day UNFORGETTABLE!

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Valentine’s Day is an excellent time to have some out of the ordinary fun. Most couples like to try something new and a little different when February 14th rolls around, so if you want to spice things up, here are some exciting role play sex games that will make this year absolutely memorable.

Lonely Man On A Business Trip

This is an excellent role play for Valentine’s Day because it is a fantasy that allows you to get really creative if you want. Just imagine your partner is a lonely business man out on work related travel. He’s depressed and all by himself on Valentine’s Day with no one to talk to.

You can play this scenario out a lot of ways. Have an “affair” while he is out of town on business and his wife is at home. Be the sexy maid that stops by his room to give it a clean, only to find him undressed and alone. Use your imagination! Here are some great ways to give this fantasy a sexy spin.

  • Book a hotel room
  • Wear an outfit that works for the part you’re playing (for example, a sexy maid’s costume)
  • Nice champagne over ice

Sexy Stripper

You really can’t go wrong by playing the part of a stripper on Valentine’s Day and giving your lover a sexy striptease to get him turned on. Even if this idea seems played out to you, it most certainly is NOT played out to your man. Men can watch the same girl do the same striptease over and over again and STILL get excited. Why do you think strip clubs are so popular? Here are some things to consider if you want to make your striptease as fun and exciting as it can be.

  • Pick a good song that you’re comfortable with
  • Practice! You’ll be no good if the first time you dance is on him
  • Consider taking lessons
  • Get an outfit that he’s never seen before – one that not only looks great, but feels great on
  • Have confidence! He’s going to love it no matter what you do or how good you are

Teacher/Student

This is another super fun sex game you and your partner can play on Valentine’s Day. Even if you’ve done this one before, the subject is so broad that you can literally do teacher/student ten times and never do it the same way twice. So don’t count this one out!

This is a fun fantasy to play out, no matter which way you do it – whether you’re the teacher and he’s the student, or the other way around. If you decide to go with playing the part of the teacher while your partner plays the part of the student, you can really take it to a whole new level.

If you’re the teacher, use this as an opportunity to get your lover to try a few things that they wouldn’t normally try. Now you don’t want to go too far out of the box here, but make sure you do teach them a few new things. Because it’s a game, they’ll be more inclined to try some activities that they ordinarily wouldn’t go for, as long as they’re only slightly outside your partner’s comfort zone and not way out there in bestiality and whatnot. Here are some ways to make the teacher/student sex fantasy even more fun!

  • Dress the part. Again, costumes are a great way to really up the immersion factor when doing a role play.
  • If you’re into domination or submission, you can also consider “punishing” the naughty student. This can be exceptionally fun if you’re teaching your lover how to do something very, very naughty.

When experimenting with role play for Valentine’s Day, whether you’ve done it before or are just trying it out for the first time, remember that the most important thing is creativity. Even if you can’t afford to book a hotel room or splurge on costumes, it’s your attitude that is the most important thing of all.

While it’s nice to keep a sense of humor about the whole thing, you’re not going to enjoy it as much if you and your partner think it’s so silly you’re laughing your asses off. So use your imagination and be creative as you can, but make sure you’re taking it seriously enough that you and your partner actually get into it. Remember to relax and have fun, because that’s what it’s all about! Having fun!