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5 Bondage Sex Toys That Will Make This Valentine’s Day RED HOT!

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Valentine’s Day is great for trying new, risque things in the bedroom. It is a time when one or both partners are more open to trying new things, and are more into introducing sex toys, new activities, sex games and the like. If you want to experiment with bondage this Valentine’s Day, these sex toys are awesome for you to introduce to your lover on the 14th!

1. Candy Ball Gag

If you’ve never experimented with gagging before (either yourself or your partner) you don’t want to introduce heavy headgear to start out with. While this may indeed sound like a no brainer, you wouldn’t believe how many people who have never tried bondage or BDSM before bring home whips and chains for the first time.

A candy ball gag is a perfect Valentine’s Day treat. It will inspire you and your partner to get a little more frisky in during sex, without going over the top. If your lover is a little weary about trying any type of gagging or submission, this can be just the thing to help ease them into the BDSM world without scaring them away. It’s just “innocent” enough to pass off as a fun toy, while allowing you and your lover to explore your sexual boundaries a little more.

2. Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap

Take doggy style to a whole new level with the Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap. You’ve never tried anything like this before! This unique sex toy is designed to be used only by couples during sex, so it’s an excellent Valentine’s Day gift. If you’re going to give your lover a sex toy as a Valentine’s Day gift, selecting something that can be used by both you and your partner is most definitely the way to go. It’s much less offensive than getting your partner a giant dildo or vibrator, and you’ll get to enjoy it too!

Simply slip the doggy strap around your partner’s hips, with one handle on each side. The “strap” part should be resting against the lower abdomen. Use the handles to help with your thrusting – you’ll get harder and faster penetration, and you’ll both feel extra naughty doing it!

3. LELO Sensua Suede Whip

The LELO Sensua Suede Whip is an excellent choice for Valentine’s Day BDSM fun. While this toy is probably better off being used with someone who has had some experience with mixing pain with pleasure, it can still be used lightly by beginners. However, if your an experienced player, this is great addition to your toy box for Valentine’s Day!

If you’re just starting out with pain and pleasure, gently use the suede whip to tickle and tease your lover into a foreplay frenzy, then turn them over and give them a few light whips on the rear. You don’t want to go leaving any huge welts or anything, but a few light red patches on the supple skin of their hind end can be super sexy!

4. Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit

Take no prisoners this Valentine’s Day! Actually, you can make your partner your sexy prisoner with the Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit. This is an excellent bondage introductory kit that includes a light rubber tickler, a blindfold and Velcro cuffs. It’s totally not intimidating, which makes it a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for the lover that hasn’t had a lot of experience with domination, submission or bondage.

Blindfold your partner and restrain their hands with the soft cuffs, and use the feather tickler to get them hot and ready. Play a game where your partner guesses where you’re going to tickle next, or mix the sensations of the feathers with the sensation of your hot mouth and tongue all over their body.

5. Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint

If you really want to get a unique and exciting bondage toy for Valentine’s Day, the Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint is right up your alley! This fun restraint slips over your bed in a “spider web” like fashion, allowing both you and your lover to restrain yourselves to the bed and to each other in different ways. This is almost like the “Twister” of bondage toys, so expect to have a good time when you use this! Use your imagination to find fun new sex positions to try, or restrain yourself or your partner during oral sex for a brand new, exciting Valentine’s Day experience.

Why Male Sex Toys Are The Perfect Valentine’s Day Gift For Him!

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Valentine’s Day is not just about gifts for “Her!” Although it’s awesome if you get some pretty great gifts from your guy, you shouldn’t leave him out of the gift giving equation just because Valentine’s Day is marketed so heavily towards women. But look at it this way – what does your guy want the most? Food? Maybe. Sex? You bet! So this year, you can surprise your man with his very own sex toy – and here’s the reason you should!

He Never Gets Sex Toys

It’s true – many guys don’t go to sex toy stores for themselves, nor do they order online. They’ve always done just fine with their hand, and frankly, for a long time, sex toys for “boys” just weren’t all that great. Things have come a long way since then, baby! Sex toys for men have much better materials, are higher quality and just feel better than they ever did before. But chances are, your guy is still stuck back in the stone age, thinking his hand is enough to get the job done. It is – but there are much better alternatives out there!

Your guy may also be incredibly embarrassed to order from a sex toy store, so perhaps he’s thought about it, but never made that jump. Either way, the fact of the matter is, while you may go shopping for this vibrator or that dildo, he’s never really had a thing.

Masturbation Gets Boring Sometimes

Even though guys look at porn way more than girls do when masturbating, it still gets boring sometimes. His hand just doesn’t feel as good as your vagina, but he makes do because let’s face it – guys masturbate. They just do. They do it when they have great sex lives, they do it when they have bad sex lives. They’ll do it if they had sex an hour ago, if nothing more than to help themselves fall asleep later. But just because your guy has a habit doesn’t mean he should have to do it really fast, in the dark, by himself, with no toys, just-to-get-it-over-with.

Think about how much you love your trusty vibrator. It gets you off every single time, doesn’t it? You know just how to use it and just how to move it to give yourself the best climaxes. But your guy probably doesn’t know that pleasure! Getting him his very own masturbation sleeve for Valentine’s Day ensures that masturbation will be fun and exciting for him again – and you’ll reap the benefits of his improved mood, guaranteed.

He Wants To Know You’re Okay With His Masturbation Habits

Many guys grow up believing masturbation is wrong or taboo. They’ve learned to masturbate quickly and in secret, and to hide their habits well. But he knows deep down that you know he masturbates. And while he’ll probably never discuss his masturbation habits with you (unless you guys are really, really close – like married for many years close), he secretly desires to know that you’re fine with him masturbating and aren’t bothered or threatened by it at all.

He might even have had a girlfriend or two that caught him masturbating or found his porn stash and made him feel bad or guilty about doing it. He may be terrified you’ll find out he jacks off! For him to get a solo sex toy from you for Valentine’s Day (along with an uber cool and casual attitude about it) will say to him that you’re confident and you don’t care that he masturbates. In fact, you encourage it. Make sure he has privacy, always knock if the door is closed and never make snide comments about it, and he may very well just think you’re the coolest chick ever.

He Would Love It If You Played With The Toy Together

Along with the idea that you are cool with him masturbating is the idea that you could watch him masturbate and help by giving him a handjob. When you give him the gift of his very own sex toy this Valentine’s Day, a scene of you, him, and the sex toy being very, very naughty is going to immediately pop into his head. This is a good thing!

While you definitely want to give him some time to learn how to use the thing on his own, after he’s had it a few weeks, you might suggest using it with him while you’re giving him a blowjob or kissing all over his body. Once you use a male masturbator to give your lover a handjob, you’ll never, ever go back to doing it with just your hands. Say goodbye to hand and arm cramps, ladies!

How To Write Sultry Valentine’s Day Poems (And Get Her In Your Bed)

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Valentine’s Day poems don’t have to be sweet all the time! While a poem full of romance is perfect for the 14th, sometimes that’s just not where you want to go with it. If you want to write something for your lover’s gift, but you also want to have some great sex, here’s how you can make it so hot, you’ll get laid (and she’ll still think it’s romantic!)

Write What You Mean And Mean What You Write

Don’t write something just to write it. Don’t do it because you think you should, or because you think love poems have to be a certain way. Start with your feelings. Write what you mean. If you write it, mean it. Don’t inject fake emotions into the poem because you think they should be there or because you think it sounds better if you do.

Your girl will easily be able to tell if you’re just giving her lines, so writing a super fancy love poem with words she knows you don’t fully understand (and using language that you would never use in a hundred years) isn’t going to get you very far. In fact, you’ll put a lot more effort into it than you’ll get out.

Here’s a hint: When you stay true to yourself and your feelings, it doesn’t feel like it takes much effort at all and the rewards are great.

Go “Sensual,” Not “Sexual”

This Valentine’s Day, you want to have incredible sex. You also want to try your hand at seducing your lover with poetry. If this is your goal, you don’t want to go with anything “sexual.” Talking about how hot she is, how hard she makes you or how horny you are isn’t going to do much in the way of getting her to go to bed with you. This is not what is going to get her to respond.

Instead, go “sensual.” Talk about her curves, how supple her skin looks in the moonlight and how you love kissing her soft lips. Compare parts of her to things you can find in nature – eyes the precise color of a sparkling river, lips like rose petals, etc. Use words like “wet, hard, delicious, supple, dirty, etc.” but not to describe her. She’ll get the underlying meaning. If you think of something sexual to write, just stop and think of how a woman might right that same thing. Would she say, “Your hot body makes me so hard,” or would she say, “Your sensuous curves set me on fire!” Think about it!

Don’t Be Afraid To “Get Inspired”

Guys look at porn. Women read romance and erotic novels. So if you’re going to try to seduce your lover on Valentine’s Day with poetry, why not go to the source of all women’s desire? Yes, it means you’ll have to read. Girly stuff. But it will be well worth it to understand a sexual situation from a woman’s perspective. Romance and erotic novels are nothing but situations in which a woman’s perfect scenario with someone is acted out word for word, play by play.

Google some short erotic stories – you’ll get to the good stuff a lot sooner than if you try to crack open a Harlequin. Take note of what the main woman in the story is seeing, feeling and thinking. Use this to inspire you to write your own story of sorts. Notice the slow buildup before anything erotic is introduced – this is definitely something you want your own poetry to reflect!

Play On Her Fantasies

Again, this is where either knowing your partner really well or knowing how women think about sexual situations well. Don’t think you’ll be able to write excellent Valentine’s Day poems without doing a little homework first. Think about what your lover likes in bed. Has she expressed to you what her desires or fantasies are? If so, you’re lucky! If you’re not quite sure, just write your poetry based on what you know she likes.

So to sum it all up, you want to be genuine when you write, get an idea of what to write from erotic or romance novels and choose topics that reflect your lover’s hidden desires. Be sensual and put some personality into it and you’re golden! Even if you’re not a brilliant author, your partner will know that you spent time and effort on her this Valentine’s Day. For a woman, that’s the best gift of all!

How To Ask A Girl Out For Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day sucks if you’re single. You definitely don’t want to be alone, hanging out at your house like you normally do every other day, while everyone else goes out and has fun with their significant other (or just an “other”) This year, commit to going out! Ask out the woman you’ve had your eye on for Valentine’s Day and you won’t be alone! Here’s how to do it.

Leave Roses And A Note In Her Car

Grab a bouquet of roses and write a simple note with your phone number on it. Plainly state, “I would love to take you out for Valentine’s Day. Give me a call!” Don’t be too lovey dovey or pushy in your note, because the flowers add enough intensity to this scenario – too much and you’ll scare her off.

Also, meeting her at her car, say when she gets off work, with flowers and asking her out in person is also very sweet and acceptable. If you don’t want to get rejected in person and you think there’s a possibility of that, the note works well for that.

Send Flowers To Her Work

Flowers are an excellent way to get a lady to warm up to you, as long as they’re not too extravagant and obviously expensive. Bigger is not better here – however, taking note of her personal style and taste and selecting flowers that you genuinely believe she’ll like is. Take some time to select a nice bouquet with her favorite flowers and colors and have it delivered to her workplace.

You can put “from your secret admirer” if you like (this is almost always exciting for a woman, because in all honesty, it rarely ever happens for real) but make sure to include your phone number so she can get back to you. The great thing about sending it to work is that you’ll be making certain that all her work friends (and frienemies) see it. This will make her feel intensely special, and they’ll also put some good natured pressure on her to accept your offer.

Text Her To Meet You Somewhere Romantic

If you already have her phone number, this is an excellent way to meet her to ask her out in person. Send her a text asking her to meet you somewhere romantic – but not too romantic if you think it might scare her off. Meet at the park under your favorite tree, by a lake or river, or anywhere else nature can help you out a little.

If your local grocery store has a large Valentine’s Day section – may of them inflate balloons and let them float up to the ceiling, creating an entire section of surreal pink and red floating ribbon – you can meet there (this really only works if the atmosphere is super appealing).

In A Scavenger Hunt

Send your potential date on a scavenger hunt, with lots of little notes that lead either to another note with a big reveal or you, holding flowers. Make sure the “gold at the end of the rainbow” is fun and exciting enough to have made it worth the hunt. Just use your creativity for this one!

Use the notes to write fun clues as to where to find the next clues. With each note, include something small, like a rose petal (to indicate that the big reveal might include roses) or candy. When she reaches the reveal, either use a note to ask her out for Valentine’s Day, or do it in person. Again, don’t put too much pressure on her to respond. Have a card in your pocket with your phone number on it that you can pull out and say, “Think about it and call me if you’re interested” if she chokes.

Remember, if she seems uncomfortable or reluctant at all, you want to use the card. You may still get turned down, but there’s a good chance she was just nervous or didn’t know what to say or do when put on the spot like that. If you slip her your number and allow her some time to calm down and think about what happened, you give her a reprieve.

If you don’t, she is much more likely to turn you down because she felt uncomfortable. If you do, you’ll increase your chances of her calling you and letting you know that she really loved what you did, but was really nervous and shy while it was happening.

6 Creative Ideas For Valentine’s Day Gifts

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Valentine’s Day is approaching, and you need to get busy! Planning something great takes time, and you don’t want to wait until the last minute. If you’re stuck on Valentine’s Day gift ideas and don’t want to re-visit last year’s dinner-and-a-movie theme, take a few minutes to check out these fun and fresh ideas!

Valentine’s Day Breakfast

Surprise your partner with a Valentine’s Day breakfast. If you can, call in for your sweetie (or arrange the day off beforehand without your partner’s knowledge) and wake them up with your special breakfast in bed. If they absolutely can’t get out of work, make the effort to have it ready about a half hour earlier than they typically wake up.

Some great suggestions for a breakfast would be red and food colored anything, but why not whip up a batch of heart shaped pancakes? These are super simple – just pour your normal pancake batter into a heart shape (you don’t need a special pan or anything) and flip. Voila! Top with whipped cream and strawberries.

Homemade Fortune Cookies

These are a super sweet and personalized Valentine’s Day idea that is incredibly inexpensive! You may have to spend a few bucks if you don’t have a pantry stocked with the normal baking goods, but this is still by far one of the most creative yet inexpensive Valentine’s Day gift ideas that ever existed. Search for videos on how to make them (many people have posted video walk throughs of how to make fortune cookies on popular video sharing websites) and have a crack at it while your partner is out of town.

Type out some personal fortunes and print them out, cutting them to the size of a normal fortune. If you need bigger, just fold it in half when you put it in the cookie. Another special touch would be tinting the batter with pink or red food coloring, or dipping them in chocolate and Valentine’s Day sprinkles after the cookies are cooked and firm. Wrap them up in a nice box and tissue paper and you’ve got a really special gift that didn’t cost hardly anything!

Love Coupons

Don’t underestimate the power of love coupons! These again, are really ridiculously inexpensive, but are worth their weight in gold if you actually follow through with them. Read: you absolutely have to follow through with them. Love coupons are worthless if you’ve done it before and either complained or didn’t do what you had promised to do when your partner “cashed in” their coupon.

If you’re into graphic design at all (heck, even if you aren’t, there are tons of free clip art pictures and fonts you can use), create something really visually intriguing and personalized. Put your lover’s name on them. Sign your name. Be creative! Just make sure that when your partner does cash in their coupons, that you do what it says on the coupon with a smile on your face!

Handmade Chocolates

If you’re going to do chocolates for Valentine’s Day, do them right. Don’t buy a box of Russell Stover from your local Walgreens and expect it to go over well. It won’t. Why not try your hand at making homemade chocolates?

This is actually quite easy to do and you can find a ton of recipes online. While you might think that making truffles and caramels are out of your reach, they’re really not. And making them yourself will be so much more special than buying a box – and they’ll be more delicious! You can personalize them by piping your love’s initials on the chocolates, or using her favorite flavors. If you’re really into it, try creating some decadent confections such as champagne truffles or tuxedo strawberries.

Re-Do The Bedroom

If sex is going to be the big thing on Valentine’s Day, try re-doing the bedroom to give it a great Valentine’s Day look and feel. Buy some red or pink sheets and bedding and re-do the bed. Have bouquets all around, or rose petals covering as many surfaces as possible. Many florists will sell bags of petals that have fallen off the buds for a discounted price.

You can also have a bag of balloons inflated and tie really long, curly ribbon to them. The balloons will float up to the ceiling and the curly ribbon will hang down, making your lover feel like they’re in a Valentine’s Day wonderland. Pair all these ideas together and you’ve got a bedroom makeover that will make your lover’s jaw drop!

Valentine’s Day Gift Basket

A pre-made gift basket is not where you want to go on this one. This is another homemade Valentine’s Day gift idea, but it’s actually really easy to put together. Figure out a “theme” for your gift basket. If you’re going sexy, make a gift basket out of sex toys, lubes, candies and lingerie! If you’ve got a “lovey-dovey” theme going, fill your basket with chocolates, strawberries, champagne and photos of you and your honey.

A gift basket can be anything you want it to be! Just use your imagination. Some things to keep in mind though to keep it from being lackluster are:

  • Get a big basket. A rinky dinky one just won’t do.
  • Do not underestimate the power of tissue paper and paper crinkles as a filler.
  • Color coordinate. Yeah, it’s lame. But they’ll love it.
  • Make sure to wrap the outside with gift basket wrap and a big Valentine’s Day bow to complete the look! Better yet, attach a bouquet of balloons to the top.