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How To Choose The Right Dildo For You

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Sex toys are great fun, but there are so many to select from, it’s hard to pick! Use these tips to find the perfect one to meet your needs – and desires!

A dildo is one of the most implemented sex toys in the lives of couples and singles around the world. If you are ready to buy your first dildo there are few things you must know beforehand. Choosing the wrong one could be a waste of money. Buying one that is too small or too big for you is not going to give you the satisfaction that you’re the looking for. Choosing the right kind is essential to staying happy in your sex life. If you are unsure about the kind that you need, do not fret. Here is a very quick guide to get you started.

Consider Size

The size of your dildo is going to determine the kind of model that you want. Do you want a 7-inch or a 10-inch length? Do you want a double-dong or are you going more for a model that has a lot of girth? All of these issues will come into play when you are searching for the right one. Are you really tight? What was the size of the best penis that you’ve ever had? The best dildos are going to be slightly bigger than the best penis you have ever had. Most of the one on the market are going to measure from about 4 inches or more. You can even find them up to a foot and a half.

Consider Shape

The shape is extremely important. They come in a wide variety of shapes and can accommodate any woman. You can choose from a shape that is a replica of a real man’s penis, or you can go for something with a more manufactured look. The main thing they need to remember whenever you were buying a dildo is that it is going to be inside of you. They can come curved or straight. Curved dildos are typically used to hit the g-spot on track.

Consider The Materials

The material that your sex toy  is made out of is another issue. Typically, dildos are made out of silicone; however, they can also be made out of different materials. Jelly is another material that you can find in the markets. Jelly looks a lot like silicone, however, jelly is more porous and will have to be cleaned on a regular basis. If you are going to be sharing yours with a partner, it’s best to stay away from jelly.

Pyrex glass is a very popular choice because it is extremely hard and can be cleaned very easily. Glass dildos can be heated or cooled with water to give you even more excitement. These tend to be more expensive. If you want to ride it, you might want to go with silicone. If you’re looking for something to use more like a vibrator for continuous hand propelled penetration, you can go with glass.

Vibrating Dildos

So you want to kill two birds with one stone? A vibrating one is the perfect solution for you if you want a vibrator and a dildo all in one. These work the same way as a vibrator and you’re going to get the same experience as you would from any other once it’s turned off. Some come with a suction cup on the bottom so you can ride it. These need batteries so be sure that you have some around. These typically take AAA or AA’s. The problem with these is that they usually don’t come with a clitoris massager. You will only be able to use it for vaginal insertion or you will have to pull it out to use it on your clitoris.

The Cost

The cost can vary depending on the materials, the size and the quality. When you’re looking, always buy a product that is going to last you a long time. This is one of the reasons that so many people buy silicone and glass. They are typically more durable than jelly or the new “cyberskin” models. They can cost anywhere from $5-120 depending on what you’re looking at. It’s better to spend a good amount of money right now and have it for years than to have to replace the dildo in a couple of months because the material is being worn out. Your dildo should come with cleaning suggestions. Follow these, as they will help you keep the materials clean and long-lasting.

Best Sex Toys & Vibrators Of 2011

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Sex toys and vibrators make getting it on so much more fun!

Using a vibrator or a g-spot stimulator can help a woman to discover new things about her body and have orgasms like she’s never had before, while masturbating with a soft jelly or silicone sleeve can feel way better than his hand.

Items specifically designed for sexual pleasure are becoming more and more popular, with less and less taboo surrounding them. Many people are choosing to take sexual pleasure into their own hands and investing in sex toys for the very first time. Also, more and more couples are venturing into the sex toy arena in an effort to spice up their sex life. Using sex toys as a couple, either on each other or as an addition to oral sex or fingering, can make sex with your partner hotter than it ever has been before!

Check out our favorite sex toys articles and reviews of the year here!

Also, don’t forget to check out the all-time best sex toy articles!

Here are some our favorite sex toys that we’ve tried this year – don’t forget to get yours!

Oral Sex: Bring On The Sex Toys Too!

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Oral sex can be even more fun when you put sex toys in the mix also. Here’s how you can vamp up oral sex with vibrators, dildos and more!

If You Already Have Sex Toys

If your partner already has a vibrator, by all means use it. But if you need to go shopping for one, do it together so that you can both enjoy the myriad of shapes, sizes and specialties. Plus, you’ll get a better idea as to what she likes and is used to, while still interjecting your needs into the picture as well.

If You’re New To Sex Toys

So what kind of vibrator to choose? Foremost, you want one that performs well for the service you require, rather than one that merely looks good. As well, you want something that isn’t meant to penetrate or be inserted like a penis would be, but rather one with a long handle that makes getting it in between your bodies easier. Variable speeds are also important, as is something that offers a firm softness, much like your fingers or tongue would. You could also go for a G-Spot toy if you want to as it can serve other purposes as well. But no matter what you choose, find a vibrator that is easy to hold for long periods, doesn’t turn either of you off, and is simple and straightforward to use.

How To Use Sex Toys During Oral Sex

To use the toy, introduce it anytime after you’ve made first contact with your tongue. Having said that, you’ll both probably enjoy its use more if you wait until she’s heading towards pre-orgasm. Use it in place of your fingers until then, and make sure it’s on it’s lowest setting for starters; all you want to do is build tension and offer her rhythmic pulses for now.

Then, take the vibrator and place it just inside her vagina. If it doesn’t go in smoothly, put some lubricant on the toy and try again. Don’t delve too far into her vagina, as most of her nerve endings are right around the opening.

Gently pulse the vibrator in small, defined motions in and out of her vagina. You aren’t looking to treat the toy like a penis, but rather are trying to massage the first inch or so inside the vaginal opening. Use the tip of the toy for the most part, and allow it to rest at times so that her pelvic muscles can build tension and stiffen around it.

After a few minutes, try putting your finger inside of her while the vibrator is still moving too. Push the toy up towards her belly button to really get at her g-spot.

4 Sex Toys For More Adventurous Couples

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Sex toys range from tame to totally crazy – and everything in between. If you and your partner want to visit the wild side, these sex toys are a must have!a

The Accomodator Dual Penetrator

This little dildo is actually worn by the man during sex. It functions as a cock ring too, because one of the “straps” slides around the man’s shaft to hold the dildo in place. The second “strap” wraps around the scrotum, holding the dildo in place just below a man’s actual penis.

What is incredible about this sex toy is that it’s one of the first of it’s kind. Sure, a guy can use a dildo or a vibrator on his girl, but almost never while he is penetrating her himself. This toy changes all of that – for the first time, a man can have double penetration with his girl with only him! He can enjoy the feeling of doing her in both holes at once! A woman can also enjoy the feeling of double penetration without having to use something on herself and without having to engage in a threesome.

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Waterproof Prostate Massager

Many women love giving their men pleasure. Often, the greatest pleasure a woman can give her partner is with a blowjob. Give a man a killer blowjob and you’ll leave him weak in the knees! For some fellas, a blowjob is even better than actual sex. But what if a woman could intensify the orgasm she gives a guy, even on TOP of her best oral sex skills?

She can, if she massages his prostate at the same time. The prostate gland is often referred to as a man’s “g-spot,” and when stimulated, it can give a guy the most powerful, load shooting orgasms he’s ever had in his life. Try using a prostate massager next time you give your lover a blowjob. Yes, you have to put it up his bum, but the title of the article does say that these sex toys are for kinkier partners. Make sure you’re using plenty of lube and that you get him fully aroused. In fact, start with your finger. It never hurts to “start small” and work your way up.

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The Rhino

The Rhino is a penis extension that has lots of other uses also. Place it over your penis for a much longer, thicker cock (use the sizing core if your penis is too short), or use it as a masturbation sleeve, a dildo all by itself or even a vibrator sleeve! While it’s primary use is the best, this thing is pretty versatile if you want to use your imagination.

The thing that makes The Rhino such a “kinky” toy for partners is that it’s really, really huge! It’s extremely long (about 8″) and very thick. This makes it an excellent sex toy to use if you’re role playing different fantasies or if you and your partner want to experiment with a really huge schlong!

Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers

These vibrating nipple clamps were made with smaller nippled women in mind, so make sure you’re aware of what you’re getting (and what you’re packing in your bra) before you go making a purchase. However, if you do have small nipples (or your partner does) and you want to experiment with some extreme nipple action, these are the ones you want to get.

The clamps are comfortable if you’re small enough and can be worn by both men and women. They tiny vibrating bullets actually cause the clamps to heat up somewhat, so they’re even more fun once you get going. You can also use them as clitoris or labia clamps, which can actually feel better than using them on the nipples. The vibrations and heat are intense, so these really are for kinkier lovers! Use them during sex with your lover or during masturbation for a totally new, orgasmic experience.

Read the full review for the Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers here!

No matter what sex toys you choose for your bedroom fun, how kinky and wild you get all depends on your attitude. Sex toys and other props can help, but you can also have tons of naughty fun without a single prop – just use your creativity!

5 Signs YOUR Sex Toy Is Potentially Hazardous To Your Health!

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Sex toys touch the most sensitive parts of your body, so safety is top priority! Most people don’t know they can be dangerous. Is it time for YOU to upgrade?

Sex toys are wonderful things and can enhance any sexual experience whether it’s just you, you and your partner or you and a bunch of people! But not all sex toys are created equal. Some are low quality and won’t last very long but some are actually harmful to your body. Cigarettes come with a warning label now but sex toys don’t. Consider this your warning label! Here are 5 signs that your sex toy is potentially hazardous.

It Smells Funny

Have you ever had a sex toy that smelled bad? Whether it smells like old tires, old gym socks or just plain stinks, it’s a sure sign that all may not be right with that toy. Materials such as Jelly, rubber, PVC, vinyl, cyber/real-skin varieties and even some TPR/TPE can leach out any one of the many plastic softening chemicals used to create the material. These chemicals carry a strong odor. Other causes of odd smells can be something as simple as an error in the manufacturing process – maybe they didn’t let the glue cure long enough before packaging it up; maybe they used too much cleaner during the end stages and the smell is trapped inside the packaging. If the sex toy is made from a porous material it will likely “soak up” these odors and hang on to them. Not everyone has a reaction to these chemicals; but at any given time any sex toy can contain various levels of these chemicals and there are no regulations. You could be fine with one jelly toy and then have another one leave you with a burning/itching feeling inside.

You Feel All Tingly Inside

And I don’t mean from an orgasm. If you’ve not used a lubricant, or have switched to a “sensitive” formula lubricant and still get a tingling/burning/itching feeling or visible inflammation then the culprit is the sex toy. As mentioned above, some sex toys contain plastic softening chemicals or other chemicals that can be an irritant for some people. The reaction you get might range from a vague, short-lived tingle or itch to a full-blown low-grade chemical burn that takes a week or more to heal.

There Is A Crack Or Tear In The Material

Always examine your sex toys before you use them. Any sex toy can get damaged for any number of reasons. A crack in plastic or a gash in soft material means that it is time to ditch the toy. Bacteria can harbor in those cracks and tears. Do you own a wooden dildo? They’re wonderful (and no splinters, I promise!) but if you ever notice that the varnish/shiny coating is missing in a spot or looks like old, crackly paint then the dildo needs to go. It’s the coating that keeps a wooden dildo non-porous.

It’s Made From Porous Material

A lot of the less expensive sex toys are made from materials that can be porous. The same materials that can harbor foul-smelling chemicals are also usually porous. Porous means that it can never be disinfected or sanitized from bacteria. Anyone who uses a toy anally that is porous should trade up for something made of silicone (or glass, or metal!) to keep bacteria in check. If you won’t get rid of the toy and it doesn’t have a smell, you should at least cover it with a condom for added safety.

You Have No Idea What Material It’s Made From

So you purchased the sex toy from an online reseller that didn’t list all the properties and specs of the toy. Or you went to your local “adult bookstore” and purchased a vibrator where the packaging is merely a blisterpack with a photo of a hot girl or guy and some marketing words that promise orgasmic nirvana. It’s ok, we’ve all probably done this at some point in our lives. If you don’t know what the material is then don’t buy it or stop using it.

Silicone Is The Way To Go!

Now that you’re looking at your sex toys with a suspicious eye and wondering if you should just give up on sex toys altogether let me give you some advice: Silicone. Purchased from a reputable manufacturer, silicone (as long as it’s 100% pure medical grade silicone) is the perfect sex toy material. Non-porous, it never stinks, and lasts a long time (just don’t use a silicone-based lubricant on it, that will ruin it). Silicone can be sanitized/disinfected; so can glass, hard plastic, ceramic and metal. Are you still dubious? It’s understandable since there are no regulations and manufacturers can say what they want.

A simple test to be sure that your silicone toy is truly medical-grade 100% silicone is called the “flame test.” Using a lighter, apply the flame carefully to a small spot on the toy for 5 seconds. Silicone can withstand temperatures past 500 degrees Fahrenheit, so if it melted, it is not silicone. If there is a black scorch mark that doesn’t rub off, then it’s not pure silicone. Glass and metal are also favorites of mine but can be a little scary for the uninitiated. Just be sure to keep the size down since hard materials are less forgiving.