Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to tell your partner you love them. But if it’s the first time, it can be nerve wracking! Here’s how to break the ice.
So you’ve been dating a girl for a couple of months and everything is going great. Now it’s time those three words that make every guy quiver. “I love you.” Telling a girl that you love her can be one of the most nerve wracking moments in any relationship. Naturally, the relationship has to move forward in order to sustain itself, but this is the moment when it’s truly fight or flight.
Many guys fear this situation because they don’t know if the girl is going to say it back. This anxiety can be overcome when you truly know that a girl loves you. If you are at that point and you want to say it, Valentine’s Day could be a great occasion.
Decide If This Is What You Want
Telling a girl that you’re in love on Valentine’s Day is a huge step. When it feels right, you should go for it. If it doesn’t feel right then you might want to hold off. Never say “I love you” because you think that it will fix something in the relationship or that you “should.” This can be very powerful and the last thing that you want is to give a girl the wrong idea, especially on Valentine’s Day. If you feel like you are in love with her and you think that she’s in love with you then go for it! If not, reevaluate whether or not you want to say I love you to your girlfriend.
Setting The Environment
Saying “I love you” for the first time has to be special. This doesn’t mean that you have to do some Hollywood rom-com reenactment, but it also doesn’t mean that you should say it in sweatpants. Make reservations at a restaurant for Valentine’s Day. Make sure that the restaurant is a little nicer than you would normally go to. Nobody wants to be told “I love you” for the first time at Applebee’s.
Be Gentlemanly
Before you pick her up, clean out your car. Make sure that the car smells good, is vacuumed and dusted. The last thing that you want is her smelling old gym clothes or rummaging through coffee cups. When you pick her up, open the car door for her. Help her out of the car and open the door to the restaurant for her. When you get inside the restaurant, allow her to follow the hostess to the table and then pull her chair for her. Being a gentleman is essential to making her feel like she’s special. If you’re going to your house, make sure the cleanliness extends there as well.
Make Good Conversation
Making good conversation is the best way to keep the mood light and romantic. Asking about how her day was and how work is going for her will allow her to vent if needed. This is good because it helps you get into the frame of mind that you need to be in for the infamous three words. This helps you to hold back from it out at the wrong time also. Stick to topics that you both have an interest in. There is a time and place for conflict in every relationship; however, this is not one of those times. Keep the conversation humorous and fun to set the tone for the rest of the evening.
Pay The Bill
Are you really going to split the bill on Valentine’s Day and then tell her that you love her? That’s ridiculous. Make sure that you have enough money to pay the entire check. For guys, this kind of comes with the territory. It’s a little more classy to put the bill on a credit card or debit card than to flop a wad of mangled cash out of your pocket, so take this into consideration.
Saying It
All right, so now it’s time for the big show. You have paid the bill, you’ve had a nice evening and now it’s time say it. After you leave the restaurant, make sure that you have nice breath. Pop a small mint. This is easier than grinding your teeth together on a piece of gum. Walk her back to your car and then open the door for her. Before she gets in give her a kiss and say it. More than likely she will say it back. After you say it she will know what the evening has been about and she will appreciate all of the effort that you put into making it special for her.