A blowjob is something lots of girls don’t like to give – but with these orgasmic sex games, she won’t mind giving a blowjob (or two or three) to you at all!
“Do You Want Me To Do You?”
Step 1:
Set a timer for 5 minutes and have her lay on the bed.
Say to her “For the next 5 minutes I will do whatever you want me to do to you.” (Note: Some women will panic at being given control like that. Make some suggestions. “I can massage you. I can touch you all over. I can kiss you all over. I can finger you.”)
When my girlfriend and I play this game she usually asks me to spend time sucking her breasts or focusing on something that I (I’m a horny dude and have a tendency to want to get in there and get to business) don’t usually take the time to do long enough when we’re having sex.
Whatever she asks you to do DO IT. In fact, do it with GUSTO. Let her know you’re ENJOYING giving her pleasure.
The great thing about this game is that it takes all the pressure off of her to perform or to do anything to you. She can just relax and enjoy what you’re doing to her. It creates a great sense of gratitude and reciprocity. (Taking penetration off the table can actually do wonders for your sex life in general, by the way.)
Step 2:
SWITCH!
After the five minute timer is up, ask her if she enjoyed that. Look her in the eyes and kiss her. Then ask her if she wants to switch places. She’ll probably say yes, but if she doesn’t, just go with it. Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint.
If she does say yes (she probably will) DO NOT jump the gun and ask her to give you head. In fact, don’t ask her to do anything overtly “sexual” at all.
Whatever it is, make it something SENSUAL instead of sexual. Bringing her mouth into things is a GOOD idea at this point, but you need to make sure you’re not rushing to oral sex.
By telling her NOT to touch her cock (do it with a smile, not a bark. She needs to know she won’t be punished if she does) you free her up to make the DECISION to touch your cock or give you blowjob on her own. Expectations suck. Remove them and great things happen.
OK, that note wasn’t quick at all, but it was really important.)
“Do You Want Me To Do You? – REVERSE”
Reverse the rules.
Game two is essentially the same thing with reversed rules. Have her lay down on the bed. Say, “OK, now I’m going to spend 5 minutes doing whatever I want to do to you.”
It’s important not to act predatory or weird here. If you have some fetish she’s NOT into, this isn’t the time to bring it up. This isn’t a dom/slave thing or anything like that. Instead pick something you really DO want to do to her for 5 minutes, tell her what it is and stick to it.
The first time you do this you probably want to keep it pretty basic. Touch her all over. Give her a massage. Feed her your fingers. Massage her butt. (Butt massages turn women into jello, by the way.)
WORSHIP HER BODY. Make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. Show her how much you adore her and even TELL her how much you adore her while you’re doing it. If she gives you signals that she really wants you to touch her clitoris while you’re doing this, go ahead and do it. But make sure it’s her idea.
NOTE: SHE GETS VETO POWER. If she stops you from doing something RESPECT HER. After you’ve worked on her for 5 minutes (the timer is important) reverse things again. Lay down and say, OK, now you get to do whatever you want to me for five minutes.
Ask her what she wants to do and let her TAKE CHARGE and be in control. Your only job is to LAY there. Keep your damn hands at your side. Only move if she tells you to move. She’s in charge and you’re there for her to do what she pleases to.
From experience I can tell you that if you’ve seeded the idea of a blowjob being a positive thing in her mind she may well take the initiative here.