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How To Have A Great Date Night With Your Partner

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Dating tips just aren’t for singles – they can help couples improve their relationship and make their sex life hot again. Try these killer date ideas.

Date night – we all know they’re important for anyone in a long term relationship. Date nights are crucial to the overall health and success of your relationship. But how do you have a really, really great one? What dating tips do you need to take your date nights from good to great?

What She Said:

Having a great date night takes effort. If you are in a long term relationship, you never want to get too predictable or too comfortable. To avoid boredom on your date you need to do something expected at an unexpected time. For example. if you always go out on Saturday, why not switch it up and go out on a date on a Tuesday. Or maybe you can surprise them at work and bring them lunch. Little changes will surprise and delight your other half. most importantly, you should do something you know your man would love to do but it ight not be your first choice.

Get tickets to his favorite sports team. Or instead of going to a restaurant you always go to, find a hole in the wall pub. If he always pays, why not pick up the check and take him out on a date! Tell him the time and pick him up. Drive him to the place and pay for everything. Its a super sweet gesture that will make your man feel loved! But if you do take him out, make sure he knows that he is required to put out at the end of the date.

What He Said:

The most important way to have a great date night is to have a date night in the first place. Pick a night of the week, or month or whatever and make that date night in your day planner. Set that date night in stone. Let nothing get in the way of it. Not friends, not family, not kids, nothing! You must ruthlessly protect date night from all threats, foreign and domestic. Yes, it may seem extreme, but it’s for a reason.

There are many legitimate reasons you may think you should cancel or reschedule your date night. But if you wait to the right time for date night, it’s never going to happen. Life happens so fast and before you know it, skipping one date night turns into skipping several and then you wonder why your relationship is in trouble.

Don’t let it get there. Have date night, no matter what.

After you’ve established your date night routine, it’s important to break it. The biggest threat to date night aside from not having it at all is allowing it to get stale and predictable. It could be something big like a weekend trip somewhere or something simple, like driving to the fancy pat of town and having coffee.

Another great way to spice up date night is to go back to the beginning. If you’re in the phase of your relationship where you’re having “date night” it’s safe to say you’re past the honeymoon phase. That’s natural, but that doesn’t have to mean the relationship gets stale and boring. Think back to your favorite memories from the early days of your relationship.

Recreate them whenever possible, and if you really want to add fireworks, try combining them (think sex in the backseat of a car in public while on vacation, for example). It’s worth the effort and even better, you’ll find yourself creating new, exciting memories and adding spark and sizzle to your relationship.

Date night is like the booster rocket attached to your relationship. It will help your relationship break the atmosphere and take things to the next level. You don’t just have one booster rocket attached to your space shuttle of love. You have several. They each burn for a while, then they run out of fuel and fall off.

This will keep happening until you are out of rockets. Then you go to the space station of love, get some more rockets, refuel, take some vitamin e and ginseng and then you go back out into space, ready to explore and go deeper and deeper inside of the galaxy.

That’s how it is. You can never stop having date nights, and if you’re going to have them, you might as well do it right. It’s much easier to keep your relationship going that it is to go out, filter out all the losers, perverts, sex offenders and douchebags while looking for a new relationship. Keep the one you’ve got. It’s worth it.

How To Tell If Your Man Is Lying

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Relationship advice is important to have if you suspect your significant other isn’t being honest with you. Here’s how to know if they’re lying.

Something’s fishy, and not in good way. You think your partner isn’t being truthful, but you’re not sure, and you want to be. How do you tell if you guy is on the up and up or a dirty no good dog?

What She Said:

Guys get such a bad reputation for being liars and they fit the stereotype. Lots of men lie, but those same men are really terrible at it. If you are quick and pay attention, you can totally tell if your guy is lying to you. When you ask your guy a question and before he answers he hesitates, he’s probably lying.

That hesitation is him figuring out what the right thing is to say, instead of telling you the truth. Also when a guy is lying about something, he’ll put too much emphasis on what he says, and he’ll add too much detail. Lets say you asked him what he did last Saturday night. If he answers with lots of details, time, place, who he was with, what they drank/ate and he repeats his same story over and over again, there is a good chance he is lying. Guys are simple and not detailed like women, they can usually answer your questions in 3-4 words. Don’t believe me? Look at any text message you have gotten from a guy, I bet his responses to you are short and few words.

Now, if he is lying and trying to cover his tracks, he will have taken time to iron out details and make sure you know those details so it seems like it was the truth. So pay attention to him, not the details but in how many details he is giving you. That’s a sure sign that he is trying to save his ass. A man with nothing to hide will be able to simply answer your questions and move on to something else, like sports or beer.

What He Said:

My apologies to Ms. Johnny Cochran over there, but I think she’s on smack. You can’t automatically say that just because he gives you details he’s lying. Some people are detail oriented. Some aren’t. Some may be visual and can remember things well, others not so much. If the story is consistent, that’s probably a good thing. It’s when you ask the questions and the story changes or if he struggles to explain inconsistencies, that’s probably not good. Too many details can be a problem, that’s true. He probably won’t remember everything, you should probably hear “I don’t know” once or twice.

You, if you’re getting the truth, should hear direct answers, yes or no. If the conversation starts to sound like an oil executive testifying at a congressional hearing, then well, that’s not good. Also, demeanor and body language are important. Is he relaxed? Breathing heavily? Showing signs of confusion, frustration or fatigue?

He’s not going to like the whole interrogation thing, but if he’s anything other than relaxed and calm, you might feel your spidey sense tingling. Unless of course, he’s an actor, attorney, serial killer, used car salesman or elected official. Those people are trained liars and get off on doing so. You shouldn’t be having sex with them anyway. What is wrong with you woman? Seriously? Have you no taste? No sense of self worth? Why are you letting them pet the kitty? Aren’t there other people who aren’t professional douchebags who want to get naughty with you? Can’t you be attracted to them? No? You want guys who treat you like crap? Oh, okay. Who am I to judge?

Anyways…

You probably know your man pretty well. Or at least you should. So you should have a feel right away for whether or not he’s telling the truth. And at the end of the day, you don’t have to wonder about it. He will reveal himself. A persons actions do not lie, even though they may. Just wait, be patient. In time you will have the answers, whether you want them or not is another story.

Do you really want to know what he’s thinking or where he was last night? What will finding out do for you? It’s always good to make sure you really want to know. Sometimes when you find out that you would really rather not know. But you can’t go back once you do, so don’t ask unless it’s something you are prepared for. Sounds ominous, doesn’t it?

How To Get It On When You Have Kids

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Sex tips often cover the “how to” but not necessarily the “how.” If you have little ones, having sex can be a challenge. Check out these ways to get busy!

Baby makes three(or more), but does it make for a happy sex life? Generally, couples have more difficulty maintaining a healthy sex life when they start hearing the pitter patter of little feet. But does having kids really have to mean the end of intercourse, or sex in general as you know it? No, no it doesn’t. But how do you keep the passion going? It’s easy when you know how.

What She Said:

I have no children (at least none that I know of) but I come from a family of 5 kids and I’ve been around enough couples with kids to know that it can be hard to find alone time. With kids around, you almost have to resort back to the ties you started dating and back to quickies. You might not have the time or energy for a whole night but you can always find 10 minutes for a quickie. Have sex in the shower! Or set the alarm a few minutes early you can have some mommy and daddy time.

When kids go down for a nap, you two should also head to bed but for other reasons. Get a lock on your door too, if kids ask, don’t lie but let them know you are just having some of your own nap time. True it might be awhile until you have hours of sex but having a quickie a few night a week is all you really need to keep the spark going and it should not interrupt kid time.

What He Said:

The most important thing is to simply accept the reality of the situation: your sex life has changed. For the next 20 years or so, you have a child and that child requires constant attention. Having a child will change your sex life forever, that is a fact. Whether or not that is a change for the better or worse is up to you and your partner. If your sex life goes in the toilet, don’t go blaming it on your kid. It’s not their fault.

Sex will be different. The biggest thing that is affected by kids is the spontaneity. You will never have that again. Yes, you should have date nights and staycations where you go to the hotel and screw like single people, but your sex life from now on will have to be scheduled. Budget it into your day planner, and don’t worry about whether or not you want to do it or not. Being in the mood is hard when you have kids, and if you wait till you are in the mood to do it, you might never have intercourse again.

The main way to get it on when you have kids is just to plain have sex. Period. Doesn’t matter how long it lasts or if it’s good or not. My philosophy is that sex is like pizza. There’s no such thing as bad pizza. There’s okay pizza, good pizza, great pizza, mind blowing pizza. But it’s never bad. It’s only bad when you don’t have it.

A funny thing will happen to you when you and your partner start screwing regularly after having kids: you’ll remember how much you love doing it. You’ll be happier, more relaxed, and the intercourse will begin to flow freely like beer at a frat party. Then, suddenly, before you know it, you’ll be in the mood again, and the sex will be awesome, if not in quality, certainly in quantity.

Again, the consistency factor is the main way to get it on when you have kids, but ownership is just as important. You’ll need to take ownership of your sex life like never before, and you’ll have to get it in all of your heads (get it?) that your sex life is going to be the best it’s ever been and nothing else will be entertained in the slightest. This may require a various array of tools in your sex kit: swinging, sex toys, vibrators, strap ons, tantra, sensual massage, porn, weekend getaways, whatever it takes. You two are a team and you should be committed to the goal of great sex, and not really care how it gets there.

Remember, above all else, that it is possible to have a healthy, regular, erotic and sensual sex life even after multiple children. It will take a bit of work, but it is totally doable (see what I did there?) And it’s a worthwhile goal. And yes, it takes practice, but isn’t that the fun of it?

How To Tell If He Really Loves You

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Love isn’t fickle – it’s strong and it’s obvious. But some girls just don’t get it. Here is how to tell if your man is in love with you or not.

You love him. But does he love you? It’s a simple question with a complicated answer. How do you know? What’s love as opposed to lust?

What She Said:

The phrase, “I love you” doesn’t have to be said to know your man loves you. And love is different for every couple but there will be a moment when he’ll do something or say something that knocks you in the gut and lets you know he truly loves you. This goes beyond buying you gifts or spending money on you.

This is all about him doing something small and showing you he really cares about you. He can show you by the way he treats you. If a man really cares about you, he’ll find everything you do or say to be adorable. Maybe you pronounce a word wrong, or are bad at telling jokes or sound funny when you sneeze. Whatever your quirk is, he will find it enduring and amazing. It’s the things about you that make you unique that he find charming and sexy.

When you realize he finds your habits and quirks adorable, you might just realize that this man truly loves you. Another sign that he loves you is in the way he talks about you in public. Do you have mutual friends that always tell you your guy was praising you or talking about your accomplishments? That’s a sign that he is proud of you, proud to date you and loves you. Another tip off is how he treats you when you are sick.

If a man will hold your hair while you toss your cookies in a toliet, or bring you tea or soup when you are bed ridden with Scarlett-Malaria-Mad-Cow Disease, that’s a sure sign he loves you. When a man loves a woman, he cherishes her and supports her and wants to help her. A man who loves a woman will think she is the most beautiful woman and he will always see her in the best light. Even when that light is early morning after a late night and you didn’t remove your makeup. If your guy finds you beautiful and irresistible in all your ways, he really loves you.

What He Said:

You have dealbreakers. We all do. Something about you is a deal breaker for someone else. Except someone in love with you. For him, nothing else matters. He can keep his hands off you, but neither of you want that. He’s as turned on by you when you’re naked as you aren’t. He shows you off to his friends. The relationship just works. No drama. He’s okay with you wearing comfortable underwear around him. He’s seen you with no makeup on and still thinks you’re hot. He’s met your family and hasn’t gone into the witness relocation program.

If he’s seen you naked, physically, it’s one thing. But seeing you naked emotionally, that’s huge. If he’s seen you stripped emotionally bare and is still there. That’s a big sign he loves you. He will kill spiders for you and sits through chick flicks. He wants to do this. Because you like them and he wants to make you happy.

It’s important to note that I’m talking about actions here. Many guys aren’t comfortable with emotions and many of their friends will give them shit if they express that. It’s okay to bitch about your wife, but not tell everyone how great she is and how much you love her, etc. That will get you cockpunched. Not fair, I admit, but it is what it is. More often than not a man will show his love to you. You have to pay attention.

It may not be expressed in flowers, but practical ways like buying you new tires. Why would he do that? Because he doesn’t want you to die in a car accident. Romantic? In his own way it is. Be patient, he will warm up to the verbal message you crave. Drop hints. Say “I love you” first. That may free him up to say it.

You probably already know if he loves you or not. Does he take care of you when you’re sick? Is he nice to you when he knows he’s not going to get laid? Things like this are important. No guy who’s just trying to get a blowjob from you or maybe a little anal sex will do that. If he’s just in it for the sex, then he’s probably going to treat you like crap when you’re not…well, having sex. He may avoid you, or ask to have sex all the time. If he really cares about you, he’s going to dig spending time with you no matter what you’re doing.

The Best Sex Tips You’ve Never Heard Of

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Sex tips are often things you see over and over again – the same ones, literally beat into your brain. But here are some incredible sex tips that are brand new!

Everyone could always use a really great sex tip, regardless of your skill level. From passionless missionary sex to oral sex that is more paint by numbers that porn star wild, you may need a few tricks of the trade to spice things up. Or maybe things are hot and you want to make them even hotter.

What She Said:

There are so many sex tips out there when it comes to pleasing your man, but what about you? Below, I offer some sex tips specifically for women to use on themselves.

Sex is a mental thing for women, we have to shut out the outside world and ignore our to-do list. You have to silence your inner critic and all those voices in your head. One way to help silence them is to prep your mind for sex. Think sexy thoughts throughout the day. Why not wear sexy lingerie under your normal work clothes. No one has to know what you are wearing under there and that makes it all the more sexy! Another tip is to watch a sexy movie or read some erotica before you get busy with your man. There is such a wide array of porn that is catered to women that you are bound to find something that helps light your fire.

Now that you have spent some extra time getting yourself into the mood, the next step is to get it on. My next tip and one of my favorites, is to TAKE CONTROL! Make the first move or show him what you like. In order for him to please you he needs to know what you like. So many women just go through the motions of sex without speaking up or showing their lover what they like. So get on top of him and use him as your own personal sex toy.

While you are on top, lean forward so your clitoris gets all the delicious contact it needs. While on top you can also control the pace and depth. Make it a game, tell him he can’t come until you have. A woman who can own her sexuality and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants in bed is the sexiest sex tip of all!

What He Said:

The best sex tip I can offer is to look good naked. Working out is great. It boosts your libido, your mood and when you look great naked, you want to be naked more often. It also can help you attract the hottest lovers of your life!

Any kind of exercise will do, at the end of the day it’s what works for you. Yoga is great, because it’s basically porn already. Don’t believe me? Go to a yoga class. There are strippers and porn stars who wear more clothing. And you’ll get all hot and sweaty with sexy people bending over, twisting like pretzels, it’s hot.

You have to own it too. Sex starts and ends in the mind. If it’s not there to begin with, it won’t happen in your naughty bits. Meditation is good, but also just stand naked in front of your mirror butt ass naked and really get comfortable in your skin. You are hot to someone and someone will want to have hot steamy intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, or whatever the hell else you’re into but first you have to feel good about you. That’s first.

Assuming you’ve got that taken care of, let’s get down to the brass tacks. Make your fantasies a reality. You may need to get creative. If you’ve always fantasized about a three way and you’re in a monogamous relationship, try getting a vibrator and using it in your backdoor while you have intercourse with your husband. If you want to be with a girl and you’re afraid or not ready (and you’re a woman) go to a strip club. Get a lap dance. If you’ve always wanted to be in control, buy handcuffs and handcuff your man to the bed. If you want to be dominant, be dominant. If you want to be submissive, be submissive.

I’m a big believe that the greatest sex tip is to find a way to have the vacation sex you love in your every day life. You may have to schedule it. Like married people with kids schedule sex or old people schedule their last glass of Ovaltine before the big Matlock Marathon. Just be consistent and be patient.