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Low Female Sex Drive In The 20’s

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If you are in your twenties and you have a low sex drive, you are not alone. So many women are struggling to keep up with their man when it comes to getting intimate. Men are complaining all the time about having to make do with their hands or having to wait until she runs out of alibis to make an aggressive move.

There are so many reasons why women experience this phenomenon in their twenties. They are a few decades away from menopause and they shouldn’t have trouble with hormones yet. However, the reality is that women avoid sex and are quite happy to never have sex during an ordinary work week.

I’m not a psychologist or a doctor, but I have a few ideas on why female sex drive plummets in the 20’s.

Unsatisfactory First Experiences

This applies particularly when the woman experienced sex early in life. Think of how many high school seniors have done it at the back of a pickup truck or under the stars in the park. A woman’s first sexual experience lingers in her head, and could affect the way she views sex.

Oftentimes, you will hear women say “sex is overrated.” You have to wonder when that idea came about. Maybe her first few sexual encounters left her bored or in pain. Maybe she has never experienced this so-called orgasm.

This doesn’t just apply to women who were sexually abused. Even girls who led a perfectly normal sex life often say “no” because they think there’s nothing to really look forward to.

Priorities

A twenty-something woman has many other things to focus on besides sex. First is her career. She wants to go as far as she can at work before she settles down. So what if she has to sacrifice a few nights with her husband or boyfriend to finish work? Some women spend the whole decade of their 20’s to improve their career.

Next is her looks. When she’s not thinking of ways to get a promotion, she is worrying about her looks. If she has to sacrifice sex for a whole night with her bright blue, anti-aging facial mask on, so be it. Some girls also worry that their hair will look limp and lifeless if they don’t sleep with curlers on.

Negative Body Image

In addition to skin care, a woman might be too concerned about her “worsening” figure during her 20’s. Metabolism is slowing down, and she realizes she cannot pig out like she used to do during high school. Even if the weight gain isn’t drastic, a woman’s sexual self-esteem could plummet.

It is no secret that a woman’s sex drive suffers if she thinks her body looks hideous when she is naked. Some men never notice, but women who often want the lights closed during sex have a growing suspicion that their body is a turn-off.

The New Sex Rules For Women

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Women who enjoy sex are much happier than those who don’t. Sex can make you smile all day and make you bloom like a flower. If you have an active sex life, you feel sexier and more alive.

Some women claim that it’s the constructive and romantic relationship that is making the sex awesome. Some say the sex is great that’s why the relationship keeps getting better. From any angle, it’s unmistakeable that sex plays a huge role in making any loving relationship a success.

But what if your relationship with your partner continues to flourish even if your sex life has started to falter? You are still living together, you’re talking like old buddies and you enjoy watching movies and television shows together. You do not share a long French kiss but you peck each other on the cheek before you leave for work. Is that enough to keep your relationship going?

Some women might say yes, it’s enough. But a sizable majority would probably disagree. Sexual intimacy is something that a relationship must have or it’s going to hit the skids anytime soon.

So, what can you do if you want a better sex life and you want to share intimate moments with your partner again? You lay down some ground rules…

Share Sexual Fantasies

You should never feel ashamed about your fetishes. Everyone has some kinky thoughts every now and then, and yours should not make you feel embarrassed. One way to improve sexual intimacy with your partner is to tell him about your sex fantasies, no matter what they are. Doing this will give him an idea of what you like, and he can think of some ways to please you more in the bedroom.

Encourage Intimate Touching

Remind your partner that touching is essential to make a woman feel secure and safe. Touching often does not have to lead to sex, but if it does, you both should go with the flow. Some men feel pressured when their partner touches them intimately. They feel pressured to perform.

Female Masturbation

I know a lot of women who try to keep the fact that they masturbate a secret from their partner. Some women feel like they are cheating on their partner. A woman should not feel ashamed of the fact that she pleasures herself. In fact, the next time you have sex, you must be able to show your partner how you do it.

Having sex daily might be impossible if you have chores at home and you have to deal with stress in the workplace. However, you should never assume that the intimacy requirement could only be met with actual penetration. You can strengthen the sexual tension between you and your partner by acting sexual towards each other whenever you can.

What Is The Perineum – Ways To Please A Man Sexually

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The perineum is one of the most sensual sex zones of the human anatomy. It is the bit of skin between the anus and sex organs. It is a hot spot for sexual sensations for both males and females, so you had better learn more about it if you want to learn the best way to please your man.

Slight stroking of the perineum area can stimulate your man even if you have not touched his member yet. This area is so rich in nerve endings that simply stroking it rhythmically to complement a blowjob can make a man climax in minutes.

How To Touch The Male Perineum

The best time to touch the male perineum is when you are going down on your man and you have reached the sensitive area below the balls. You will notice that the skin around this region is thinner than the rest, so even light touching can send electric waves of pleasure through your man. Be careful not to pinch or scratch this area, but you can caress and fondle all you want.

The ABC Technique

When you are going down on your man but you’re squeamish about rimming him (i.e. licking the general area of his anal hole), you can try writing out the alphabet on his perineum with your tongue. This can be done while your hands are moving over his shaft, or while you are giving him a hand job.

Different Sensations

Experiment with tongue movements. Try horizontal lines, vertical lines and parallel lines. You can stiffen your tongue or keep it lax as you lick his sensitive skin. Always remember to keep on going whenever he expresses pleasure at something you tried. The more you lick and kiss him there, the closer you bring him to orgasm.

For best results, bring a cold drink or a hot drink with you in the bedroom. Take a sip of either one before you go down on your man to vary the sensations you create with your tongue. You can alternate between hot and cold sensations, or you can go for “slightly warm.”

Give Him A Perineum Massage

An erotic massage on the perineum can result in the stiffest hard-on ever. Wouldn’t you want to see that happen? Here’s how…

Make sure your hands are well lubricated before you start stroking any part of your man’s gonad area. Wet hands and fingers glide smoothly with minimum friction, and the lack of friction is one of the main things that make a hand job so pleasurable for him.

A water-based lubricant is the best for giving a hand job, particularly if you’re using latex gloves. A water-based lubricant is also the best choice for penetrative action, like when you insert one finger inside his anus.

Why Anal Sex Can Hurt

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Anal sex is not just about penetration of the anus. It encompasses other activities like analingus (licking of the anal region) or fingering the anal hole of your partner. But admittedly, when we say “anal sex” the first thing that comes to mind is penetration.

Do heterosexual couples engage in anal sex? Yes, absolutely. It may surprise some people but there are many straight couples that love anal sex. First of all, anal sex is a popular taboo and the thrill of doing something that’s not supposed to be done adds to the excitement of trying it out. Couples who have tried it often feel a lot closer afterwards.

Trust level is an important factor to consider if you are thinking of trying anal sex. I will not lie to you; the first time you do it, it will hurt. Even after you have been doing it for a while, there is still a certain amount of physical discomfort.

Here are some reasons why anal sex can hurt, and why you need to stock up on lube if you want to try it.

Anal Sex Can Hurt If You Aren’t Expecting It

There is such a thing as a “surprise anal” sex move, but this is so emotionally damaging that I do not recommend it. A man should always ask you nicely if he wants to put it in your ass. At the very least, he should give you the chance to prepare yourself. If a guy dares pull off this stunt, the shock combined with the sense of betrayal that you feel can contribute to the overwhelming physical pain.

Anal Sex Can Hurt If You Are Being Forced To Try It

Even if your boyfriend or husband asks for permission, if you really don’t want to try it, it will hurt. You have to be completely relaxed to enjoy anal sex. Moreover, you have to trust your partner enough to believe that he will stop when you ask him to. The muscle outside the rectum tightens when stimulated, and it will tighten even more when you’re tense or scared. Forcing entry when this muscle is too tight to allow entry can contribute to the hurt.

Anal Sex Can Hurt If You Are Not Lubricated Enough

Relaxing will help ease the initial pain of anal sex, but no amount of relaxation will ease the discomfort if the sphincter muscle isn’t lubricated enough. Spread some lube on your partner’s member or your anal sex toy and a huge dollop on your anal region to make anal sex more pleasurable.

If you’re intent on going for it, ask your partner to gradually loosen the sphincter muscle with gentle stimulation and fondling. He must never touch your sphincter without applying lubricant first. Also, remember to wash well after anal sex.

One major appeal of anal sex for me is the fact that it can be your dirty little secret. It’s extremely exciting to know that you’re both acting like a prim-and-proper, lovey-dovey couple in public, while you’re doing something “taboo” in private.

Working On Frustration With Sex

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If you are struggling with the issue of sexual give and take, and you think every woman but you is lucky enough to have a man who wants to please them sexually, you might be one of the women who are dealing with sexual frustration. What is sexual frustration exactly? It’s that feeling of being left out, being used and being disregarded as soon as the sex is “over” (which means he has reached orgasm).

Sexual frustration also means you are struggling to hold onto your relationship, even if you just do not enjoy the sex anymore. If you cannot believe you are in this situation now when it used to be so romantic and good, here are some tips for you…

Start Demanding, But Mind The Mood

There is a way to demand something in bed that sounds sexy to a man. I’m not talking about laying down ‘ground rules’ or giving him an ultimatum during sex. Being a demanding vixen can be sexy if you feel sexy. That’s where it all starts.

Why not start dressing sexier? Wear a kinky outfit that doubles as a sexual suggestion. You have seen silk body stockings with buttons down the crotch right? Wearing something like that while you’re demanding to get eaten out will make your demands sound more like a sexy suggestion than an actual order.

Start Roleplaying

When the sexual tension is up (he knows you’re going to do it and you’re doing all things that indicate “sex is coming”), you can start talking like you would inside your sexual fantasies. If you plan on wearing a French maid costume and acting like his sex slave (because that is a fantasy of yours), start calling him “monsieur” the moment he comes out of the shower. This will set the mood and will get him excited enough to do anything you want him to do.

“Me” Time

Here’s the scenario. Your man thinks he is the best, and he is blissfully unaware that you have not had an orgasm during sex for a year now. It won’t help to rub this in his face during a fight (when you could be rubbing something else on his face!). Suggest a “me” time for the two of you, instead.

This means that he gets Friday nights and you get Saturday nights. During this “me” time, one partner becomes the other’s love slave, and he has to do what the other wants unquestioningly. I’ll leave it up to you to decide whether you want to go first or if you want to let him go first. Remember, the one who gets Saturday as “me” time can demand payback for what happened the night before.

Men are pretty easy to manipulate in bed, if you know what to do. Increasing sexual romance is a healing salve to your ailing relationship, and these three techniques I taught you today would definitely help with sexual frustration.