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How To Enhance Your Sex Life

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After a few years of being in a sexual relationship, sex may feel like a normal, everyday occurrence that you can take for granted. No one will admit that their sex life sucks, but the fact is that sex becomes boring if you don’t continue to find ways to spice things up. Choosing to enhance your sex life is great for improving your relationship in general.

Here are some erotic ways to make sure you and your partner can make sex feel more exciting and fun.

Sex Tools

Even if you haven’t seen or touched a vibrator before, you should know about these things that women use to masturbate. These sex toys aren’t just for solo pleasure. In fact, they can be used to enhance your love making if you know how to use your imagination. Not ready to join a swing club? No worries. You can use your girl’s vibrator to simulate a threesome.

Sex tools also include oil rubs that add heat to an otherwise ordinary erotic massage. There are some vibrators that don’t need manual manipulation (like a sybian). You can purchase sex ticklers, spiked massagers and tongue dildos that can make a difference as far as your girl’s pleasure is concerned.

Sex Fantasies

These sex fantasies can be a great way to add variety. Pretending to be someone else while having sex isn’t taboo if you keep your mind open and if your relationship is solid to begin with. You may want to stay away from sexual fantasies if your partner is the insecure type who can’t bear the thought of pretending to be something she’s not during love making.

However, even if your girl isn’t as outgoing or uninhibited as you would like her to be, there are certain things you can do to pull off a sexual fantasy. You can ask her to dress differently, wear costumes or talk dirty to you during sex. The important thing is that you find out what floats her boat so you can come up with a good roleplaying “script” for your next kinky adventure.

Experiment With Sex Positions

Look for new sex positions that allow you to experiment with your lips and hands. There are certain positions that allow deeper penetration, and there are those that allow you to touch a woman everywhere during penetration. There are even some sex positions that allow you to share an intimate kiss and look into each other’s eyes while you’re having sex. Who said being romantic during sex isn’t possible? It’s all in the position.

Even if you’re not the adventurous type, discovering new sex positions with your partner should come easy. You can try lifting your partner’s hips during Missionary, or you can hold her ankles up during doggy style sex. Not all sex positions have to be planned, some can be executed beautifully during sex, as long as you’re willing to experiment.

Take just a minute to check out ‘The Female Orgasm Black Book’: “How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms”

Who Doesn’t Want Better Sex?

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Sex is the most gratifying thing that a man and a woman can share. It’s supposed to be filled with excitement. Everyone has an idea of what great sex is, but there are times when sex isn’t as great as you want it to be. Maybe it’s because your partner is not in the mood and she was sort of just going with the flow because you wanted it so bad. Maybe it’s because you’re always thinking of ways to pleasure your girl but you end up failing every time. There are so many things that affect your performance in the bedroom. Read on to discover what these factors are and how you can make sex better for you and your girl.

Prepare Your Room

Lack of preparation will kill the mood.

Before you even go out on a date with the girl you want to have sex with, have a plan in mind. This will help you prepare for the eventuality that she will come back with you to your place. No girl will find pleasure in making love inside a pig sty so make sure you tidy up, buy some condoms, arrange the bed and clear the clutter. Ironically, doing these things will help you become more spontaneous. Imagine not having to worry about where you can go after your date.

Preparing your room, and yourself, for the inevitable will help with escalating from the normal date to a full-blown hook up.

Try Something Different

Great sex is almost always defined as “something different.”

To a woman, this means you should surprise her by doing something else other than the usual man-on-top position. Learn some kinky sex positions, or put a mirror near the bed. If you’ve never tried sex while still wearing clothes, this is the best time to try. You never know; you might even discover a hidden wild side just by trying something kinky like bringing out a sex toy or asking the girl to roleplay with you.

Dirty Talk

Verbal seduction is a great way to improve sex.

Dirty talking has always been a “feature” of kinky sex, but believe me, I know a lot of men who won’t go there because they think it’s disrespectful to women. However, if your girl enjoys it, you should try it out.

How do you know she’s into that? One way to know for sure whether the girl likes it or not is to ask her leading questions such as, “do you like it when I do this to you” and watching for signs that she likes it when you talk that way. A girl is very sensual, and erotic talk tops the list of “major turn ons in bed.”

If you want to be better in bed, here’s a final reminder for you. Whatever you do, don’t think about your past failures to perform in bed. Just relax and make it work by always keeping tabs on what the girl is feeling, and more importantly, how she is responding to your actions while you’re making out.

A Review Of Love Making Methods That Are Sure To Please Your Woman

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As silly as it may seem, a lot of men tend to forget the basics of lovemaking when the urge to release takes over. Imagine you’re with a girl and you’re really turned on. You start out slow then the desire to release takes over and you start focusing only on what would feel good to you. It happens to every man, so don’t think that you’re the only one who does this during sex. However, if you really want to be the girl’s best lover ever, you’d better not forget the basics of how to please a woman.

When you’re about to lose it, take a deep breath and recall all the fundamental methods of lovemaking that I’ll list here.

French Kissing

Every time you make out with a girl, you should never forget to kiss her lips. In fact, kiss her whenever you can, even when you’re already in the middle of sex. A kiss is more than just a physical gesture to get her aroused, it builds an emotional connection with the girl you’re having sex with.

Eye Contact

Not many women will admit this, but one secret fear that every woman thinks about during sex is that the guy could be thinking of another woman. Keeping eye contact will make her feel that you’re with her, you’re not just using her for your pleasure and that she’s the only one you’re thinking of during sex.

Fingering

I’m sure you know the basics of fingering, but it helps to remember that proper fingering technique involves imagination and sensitivity. Just remember that you can do more things with your fingers than you can do with your member. For starters, you can crook your finger, move it around more often and you can use it to reach every nook and cranny of your partner’s hot spots.

Oral Sex

Oral sex on a girl is not a thirty-second affair. Even if you’re not into it (because of the smell or because you’re just squeamish about going down on a woman), you’d better make it a point to stay there for at least 5 to 10 minutes. Remember, you don’t have the right to ask for a 30-minute blowjob if you can’t promise to return the favor.

Sex Positions

If you stick with the same old sex positions every time you make love, your lover will get bored quickly. Make sure you know at least 3 more sex positions besides the Missionary. Some girls are quicker to climax with certain positions, which means you need to experiment with a lot of them to find those that work for your girl.

Any man can stick it in and be done with it. It takes a certain type of guy to consistently create magic during sex. Be the guy who can rock a girl’s world every time by never forgetting the fundamental things that really get women off.

Falling In Love – How You Know She’s The One

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Falling in love is something that should come normally, but for some people it isn’t this simple. Loving someone requires a lot of perseverance and it’s not something you can do on a normal basis with just anyone. So how do you find the girl that’s best for you? First, you expose yourself to women by dating, attending parties and letting your friends introduce you to girls.

You don’t have to play the field, but you can be sociable enough so that you aren’t alone most of the time. Most guys buckle from pressure of being in a committed relationship, but only because they have not found the girl they will give up their independence for.

You Feel the Chemistry

Whether you’re just locking eyes or you’re exchanging a kiss, the atmosphere around you is explosive. Some men claim that they know they’ve found the woman they want to spend the rest of their life with after the first date, while some claim it took a while before they felt the magic. Regardless of how long you’ve known the girl, there will always be sparks when you exchange a kiss, a hug or you’re just talking on the phone. That’s called chemistry, or sexual tension, and that’s one indication that she’s the one.

She Likes The Whole Package

Have you ever felt the pressure to be someone you’re not when you’re out with a girl? Sometimes, it’s hardly your fault. You subconsciously know that the woman expects you to act like someone else, or her version of a Prince Charming. If this is the case with a girl, the relationship won’t progress. In fact, it might end abruptly when you can’t take the pressure anymore and act like your true self.

A girl who’s the right one for you can tolerate your brand of humor. She likes you even if you’re not trying your best to impress her.

She’s Looking At The Big Picture

One of the main indications that you’ve found a keeper is when she talks about the future with you comfortably and naturally. In the beginning of any relationship, it may seem like you mean the whole world to each other. You want so many things at once, that you feel like you’re rushing.

A girl who really loves you will look at the big picture and understand that you have your whole life together ahead of you. She won’t rush and push you into making haphazard decisions. She understands that you’re going through life at your own pace, and she’s ok with that.

It may seem difficult to find the “One” who can make you happy, but if you keep your hopes up and treat each date as special, you’re bound to find the girl of your dreams sooner than you think. Love is the sum total of different factors: her actions towards you and your reaction to her affection.

The Most Sensitive Part Of A Woman

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A woman sometimes fakes her excitement during sex for several reasons. You know about these times when she’s acting like she is enjoying herself but her whole body tells you that she isn’t aroused. She’s dry as a desert down there and she isn’t making an effort to touch you.

Well, there are several reasons why women just don’t feel like making love. First, the timing could be off. She hasn’t showered when you grabbed her, or she may be in a bad mood after a rough day at work. Second, she may be feeling desensitized because of some internal turmoil in your relationship (you haven’t been talking for a while, you’re in a fight, etc).

But here’s the thing. If you know where to touch her so that she instantly feels aroused, you won’t have to go out of your way to buy her jewelry or flowers to make her warm up to you again. There are certain places on a woman’s body where you can turn on her “sexual” switch just by touching.

The Neck and Ears

Just whispering softly will make a woman feel the heat of your breath on the sensitive areas of her neck, just behind the ears. Even the slightest touch of your lips on that sweet spot can turn her on. But you don’t have to stop with just letting your breath touch this sensitive spot. You can lick her ear lobes to increase her arousal, and you can take this chance to explore her body while she’s just starting to simmer.

The Chest Area

You already know about how sensitive a woman’s nipples are, but did you know that by kissing the area around her breasts, you can increase her arousal further? By kissing her chest region, you’re burning the sight into her brain so that her whole body knows that sex is starting. The trick is to caress the area with your hands and your lips leisurely, so that she can take in the sight frame by frame and increase her excitement only seconds after you start kissing her there.

Women are particularly vain about their chests, so doing this to her during sex will make her feel sexy. With this in mind, you also shouldn’t rush while you’re taking off her brassiere or her blouse. Romance her chest as slowly as you can.

Her Mound

Her most sensitive part isn’t the vaginal portal itself, but the areas surrounding it. Stroke the hairy area patiently, inch by inch, and you will be able to increase her arousal a hundred fold.

The clitoris region in particular houses a mother load of nerve endings. Even by just grazing the tiny nub during your exploration, you can create sensations she has never felt before. Be careful not to touch the nub directly, because the sensation may be painful or even shocking to her. The trick is to explore her vaginal area, wetting your fingers in the process, and “accidentally” touching her clitoris with your moving fingers.