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Great Sex Positions – Warning! These 4 Moves Will Leave Her Shaking!

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Lots of guys use the same sex positions over and over. The trouble with these guys when it comes to having sex is that they are boring and stick to the same old routines and positions that get them off quickly. Sadly this leaves little room for a woman’s sexual fulfillment. But if you are willing to add a little excitement and variety to your sex positions, you could accelerate and accentuate a woman’s ability to enjoy sex and even have an orgasm. And I have not even talked about how much that would do to your confidence in bed!

The “C.A.T.” Technique

The Coital Alignment Technique is a surprisingly easy variation of the conventional missionary position. The only difference is that instead of direct penetration, the man’s pubic mound is pressed and rubbed against the woman’s. So instead of penetrating in and out, the thrusting movements are more akin to grinding or gyrating. Such rhythmic grinding will stimulate the clitoris and build up your lover’s arousal much faster. This means she will enjoy an orgasm earlier as well!

Female Dominance

Whoever said the missionary position is a woman’s favorite? Instead let your lover get on top of you and give her control during intercourse. By allowing your partner to control the thrusts and intensity of penetration, you can make sure that she derives maximum pleasure for herself! The added bonus is that while she is sitting on top of you, you can simultaneously stimulate your lover’s breasts and clitoris to build up the arousal very quickly.

For a variation of this position, have your lover face away from you. This allows you to have a greater chance of stimulating your partner’s G-spot with your male anatomy. (Hint: the woman-on-top position is also great for guys suffering from premature ejaculation)

Titillating Doggy Style

Doggy style is one of the best positions for both men and women. Many women experience powerful orgasms in this position because it allows deeper penetration and G-spot stimulation. Furthermore, when a woman is on all fours, you have more control with the thrusts and can go harder and faster than you could in the missionary position.

Alternatively, you can also vary this position by having your lover lay flat on the tummy and allow your partner to raise the buttocks during penetration.

Enchanting Embrace

Let your partner lie on her back, lift your lover’s legs up so that they embrace your shoulders and then enter the vagina. This allows you to penetrate deeply and hit the G-spot, especially if you have a penis that bends slightly upwards when erect.

For a variation of this position, have your lover lay somewhere with the legs up (on a table, for example) so that you can enter your partner without having to kneel down. This gives you more leverage and also let you have easier access to the clitoris. Hint: Give simultaneous clitoral stimulation using your thumb when you are penetrating your lover. This will double your partner’s delight and prime your partner for a truly fulfilling orgasm… only faster!

4 Tricks To Avoid Premature Ejaculation And Last Longer In Bed

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Premature ejaculation happens to many men. Are you unable to last as long as you want during sex? Has your wife or partner hinted that she wished you could last longer? When it comes to intercourse, there is a huge disparity in the time it takes for men and women to come to an orgasm.

For the average man, 2 to 4 minutes is all it takes from start to finish. For the majority of women, anything less than 10 minutes of constant stimulation is unlikely to see her enjoy the orgasm she deserves. Thus it is easy to understand why among all the men’s health issues, the ability to last longer is the number ONE topic that most men would like more information about.

While most guys are not naturally endowed with sensational stamina, there are specific strategies you can use to avoid premature ejaculation and give your endurance a healthy boost. If you want to surprise your lover with sex that lasts much longer, these tips will help you.

Tip #1: “Muscular Conquest”

All of us have a pubococcygeus or PC muscle. Use that as a leverage to enhance your stamina. This belongs to a specific group of muscles located within your pelvic floor (between your testicles and anus). Most men are not aware of this, but you have probably noticed that prior to an ejaculation, the area between your anus and testes actually contract involuntarily.

That area is where your pelvic floor muscles are located, and are responsible for ejaculatory control. To prevent involuntary contractions from taking place (or even to delay them), these muscles need to be strong.

The good news is, there are specific exercises that guys can practice to strengthen these core muscles and keep them in tip-top condition so that they can last as long as they desire during sex. There are different variations and permutations of these exercises (called kegels), and the most basic ones involve simple contraction and relaxation techniques while more advanced routines involve more rhythmic and protracted contractions.

Tip #2: “Perineum Convergence”

This technique works really well when you are close to the point of ejaculation. Simply use your fingers to apply targeted pressure against your perineum – the soft spot between your scrotum and anus. Alternatively you can ask your partner to apply the pressure. Just make sure you give her the right signal at the right time; otherwise she may just miss the moment.

The basis behind this technique is this: When an orgasm is imminent, the prostate gland (also known as the male G-spot) will expand and contract rhythmically, before expelling semen through the urethra tube. Applying firm pressure against the perineum will suppress the impending flow.

Tip #3: “Anchor Your Breathing”

Sex can be a very exhilarating experience. As a result, in the throes of pleasure, many men end up holding their breath or breathe rapidly. Doing either one of these things will likely compel your body to ejaculate quickly. You should instead anchor the way you breathe. Allow yourself to take in slow, deep, purposeful breaths. It may seem counter-intuitive at first, but it will eventually become second nature to you. Try adding some sound to your breathing too. Some women get very aroused by this.

Here’s one specific breathing technique you can practice for enhanced stamina. When you are having intercourse, inhale slowly and count to 5. Hold your breath for another count of 5 and then exhale slowly for another 5 beats. Whenever you feel your arousal rising too quickly, repeat this breathing pattern. Such focused breathing will quickly calm your sexual nerves and help you last a lot longer.

Tip #4: “Purposeful Disengagement”

This is a tried-and-tested method of lasting longer. Pioneered by renowned sexual therapists, Masters and Johnson, this technique requires you to interrupt sex at appropriate stages to allow the intense sensations to subside. The key is to become familiar with your body and your sexual responses. You have to learn how to prevent yourself from coming too close to the “point of no return” (PNOR) – which is the stage where ejaculation becomes inevitable.

To achieve this, you have to be aware of the sensations during sex and the feelings leading up to a climax. Even as you withdraw your penis as a stop-gap measure, you should continue to rev up your partner’s arousal – for instance, by giving her oral sex or using your fingers to tease her pleasure spots. Not only does this technique help delay an orgasm, it will boost your ejaculation volume too!

7 Titillating Tips To Unleash The Sexual Desires In Her

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Even the best sex advice in the world doesn’t shine a candle to this amazing suggestions on how to get a “good girl” to shed her own inhibitions and become a wild, sexy and sex-obsessed woman in bed. This is something that probably every guy would love an answer to. The simple truth is that most women have this dual “good girl/bad girl” characteristic in them.

You see, a normal woman, even one who appears prim, proper and pristine, will experience moments in her life when she is more or less sexually expressive. The truth is that you hold the amazing power to quickly shift a woman’s feelings and emotions about her own sexuality and sexual ability. You can make her suddenly feel a sexual connection with you and become wild and sexually adventurous. The key lies in YOU achieving a balance with your own sexuality and sexual desires.

Don’t Be Afraid To Reveal Your Own Desires To Her

By the law of reciprocity, your willingness to open up to her holds the key to bring out the more adventurous and wild streak in her. For example, if she’s a little apprehensive, try revealing your own sexual fantasies first. Tease her out of her sexual shell and heighten her anticipation of what’s to come next.

When You Are Making Love To Her, Touch Her With Confidence

Increase her desire by exercising self-restraint. For instance, refrain from heading straight for her clitoris during sex. Instead, tease her playfully. Kiss her gently, allowing your tongue to work its magic on all her sensual spots, from her ears, to her neck, down her navel (skip her vagina) and traverse down her inner thighs to her toes.

Revel In Her Sexuality

Learning to genuinely appreciate her body is extremely powerful in getting her to totally relax and be ready for your advances. Most women feel insecure about their bodies and how they look, so compliment parts of her body and make her feel hot and sensuous about herself. Women respond very well to positive reinforcement. So let her know that you appreciate her body for all its splendor and how you enjoy the things that she does to you in bed.

Know What You Are Doing In Bed

Understand the facts about female sexuality and how to give her an orgasm. Sex is not just about using tricks, tips and techniques, although these are important aspects of sensational lovemaking. It is also equally important to pay attention how you can connect with her emotionally before and during sex.

Give Her The Right Kind Of Foreplay

Talking about foreplay, you should know that women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of pre-intercourse stimulation before they are ready. Contrary to what most men believe, touching and caressing her private parts and engaging in oral sex are not really considered proper foreplay. These are really sexual acts on their own, and not the sexual prelude that woman generally needs. Foreplay should involve mental activities that will heighten her arousal (such as talking dirty) as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual erogenous areas (e.g. massaging her back).

Address Any Performance Issues Immediately

If there are issues that hamper your performance or ability in bed, address these as soon as possible. For instance, if you find yourself ejaculating prematurely during sex or if you have problems with erectile dysfunction, make sure you get the right help and deal with these without delay. There are many effective self-help programs that improves a man’s performance and their overall sexual confidence.

Never Force Yourself On Her

Don’t pressure her to have sex when she is not in the mood. You can still connect with her in a different manner – give her a sensuous massage or cuddle together in front of the fireplace, for instance. If you get her in the right frame of mind before sex, making her climax suddenly becomes ten times easier for you. A woman’s mind is her most powerful sex organ… it is THE focal point of her orgasm. If you can make her feel completely comfortable in your presence and make out with you with total abandon, giving her a powerful climax is in most cases, just a clitoral rub away!

Believe it or not, by simply demonstrating these characteristics, you will bring about powerful and lasting changes in the way your woman views her ability to indulge in wild, adventurous and wanton sex!

How To Make A Woman Enjoy An EXPLOSIVE Orgasm!

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An orgasm is something every guy wants to learn how to give their partners. If you are anything like the other men reading this article, you probably yearn to be the best lover your woman has ever had, right? But if you have been reading any of the gossip columns in women’s magazines, or been checking out any of the sex surveys in recent years, you would be WELL aware that the vast majority of women are NOT satisfied in bed!

So how do you give your woman a phenomenal time in bed? Simple! Read on and learn about these 5 sexy strategies to light up her orgasmic passions tonight!

Deep Connection Dynamics

By focusing all your attention entirely on her, you can give her what she wants. If you are thinking of other things while you are making love to her or performing oral sex on her, she will sense it. Put all of your attention on her as if she is the most beautiful and desirable woman in the world. She will bask in this type of attention and begin to glow. Once you connect with her emotionally in this manner, you will set the stage for her to respond in a way you would have never imagined!

Play The Voyeur

Many women never reach orgasm with their partners because they are too shy to tell them what they want. Yet the vast majority of women can achieve an orgasm through masturbation. So, encourage her to pleasure herself and OBSERVE the moves she make so that you can do the same to her.

Every woman has specific areas on her body that she loves to be touched. Learn where these “hot spots” are, and give them you undivided attention. Many women can come to an orgasm within ten minutes of sensuous foreplay from their partners, making this an easy way for you to please her without too much effort (or time)!

Practice “Tongue Gymnastics”

Kissing. It is the one thing that makes or breaks a man’s ability to be a great, sensuous lover. Make sure that you do not hold back on the kissing. It is one of the most important aspects of your lovemaking, if not the most important. Start with her mouth and then move to other parts of her body. Her bodily reactions and breathing patterns tell you and show you the sensitive parts of her body. Work on them, slowly tantalizing her senses and turning on the faucet to her orgasmic potential.

Exert Oral Influence

Most women cannot get enough of oral sex, simply because it is a very POWERFUL (and deceptively easy) way for them to reach an orgasm. Use your fingers and tongue to stimulate her clitoris. One great way to give AND receive oral sex simultaneously is in the “69” position, giving you the best of both worlds! Oral sex alone can potentially bring a woman to multiple, mind-tingling orgasms that will only intensify when you proceed to intercourse.

If you need a little more “help” to maximize her pleasure, why not bring along something that can help you in bed, like a sex toy? I would recommend choosing a toy that is intended for anal stimulation. This is one of the most pleasurable sexual acts if done in a proper manner. Anal stimulation, together with clitoral stimulation with your tongue, can provide a deadly “combo” and trigger an intense female orgasm.

Movement Modulation

Instead of just starting intercourse and pumping away, enter her slowly. Modulate your movements and pay attention to her reactions. For instance, start off with shallow penetration, pull out and then tease her a bit, rubbing your manhood against her clitoris. Then enter her again. Gradually build up your thrusts so that it heightens her sexual anticipation and primes her for powerful orgasms when she is ready.

Give Her A Squirting Orgasm In 60 Seconds – 4 Tips For A Lightning Fast Orgasm!

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A squirting orgasm is like the holy grail of all female orgasms. It doesn’t have to take forever to learn how to give her an amazing orgasm (and get her squirting too) – here are four great suggestions to give her an orgasm – quickly!

There are certain things you can do to make sure she starts squirting when having sex with you. Men who are able to give their women squirting orgasms hold a very special place in their partners’ heart. This is because it takes special skills and strategies to tug at both the emotional and sexual hot buttons within a woman so that she completely releases her inhibitions to enjoy the “gushing” experience.

If you want to get your wife or girlfriend squirting, keep reading for these four tips that will get her emotionally and physically aroused enough to enjoy a incredible squirting orgasm.

Get Her Into A Sexual Landscape

Simply put, find out what she likes in between the sheets! If you know where and how she likes to be touched, don’t you think that will greatly amplify her sexual anticipation? You bet she would! All you need to do is ASK and OBSERVE. Sounds easy enough, but unfortunately many men fail to do these two simple things.

Pay close attention to her sexual needs. Learn where her hot buttons are, and stimulate her tenderly at those areas… using the manner she would caress herself when she’s masturbating alone. Believe me, this will set her up for some very intense orgasms QUICKLY when the real action begins.

Indulge Her Fantasies

Any man can fulfill the sexual desires of a woman if he starts by knowing what type of men she fantasizes about. Most women fantasize about men who are in positions of power. If you have always been hesitant in the bedroom, now is the time to be strong and assertive. While some women have sex fantasies about cowboys, pirates or sheiks, all of them usually are the same type of man – one who is in control.

The “Dynamic Duo”

It is no secret that a woman’s clitoris is the key female orgasm center. And that is why most guys head straight for the clitoris in their attempts to get their partners to reach an orgasm. But here’s a powerful trick to double her pleasure, and massively reduce the amount of time she takes to climax: touch, caress, tease and stimulate another part on her body.

Once you learn where her sensual hot spots are (hint: her ears, back of her neck, her inner thighs), gently arouse her at one of these areas while you simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.

Use this technique with caution though: Her sexual arousal will escalate rapidly and you won’t be able to turn her off for a while, even if you wanted too!

The Clitoral/G-Spot Orgasm Combo

Learn how she responds and what makes her have an orgasm. Locate her clitoris and rub it in the way that she likes. You can tell this from her reactions. Put her hand over yours and get her to show you just how to do it – you cannot go wrong with this move. Once she is sufficiently lubricated, insert your index or middle finger to locate and stimulate her G-spot (which is usually within 2 to 3 inches inside the front wall of the vagina).

Proper stimulation to these two extremely sensitive areas can bring her to very powerful squirting orgasms that will have her panting for more!