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6 Things You DIDN’T Know About Semen

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Sex and semen go hand in hand – you usually can’t have one without the other. It IS possible for men to have an orgasm without ejaculation (that’s another topic entirely), but most of the time, men release semen when they reach climax. If you have sex, you’re going to have to deal with semen and if you dealing with semen, it’s usually because you had sex first. A lot of women are grossed out by a man’s ejaculate, while other women – namely in porn videos – seem to absolutely love it (or they could just be getting paid to love it). Semen has bad rap for a nasty taste and a weird texture, but there are actually some benefits that sperm have to offer that you probably didn’t know about!

Women Can Be Allergic To Semen

Yes, you read that right. About 5% of women are actually allergic to semen, making having sex (and possibly getting pregnant) a little bit more difficult for them than the average woman. Fortunately though, the allergic reactions aren’t usually severe and may just be more uncomfortable for the woman than anything else.

Women who are allergic to sperm can avoid reactions by using a condom during intercourse. Even women with latex allergies can use polyurethane condoms. Since an allergic reaction to sperm probably isn’t going to be that severe, precautions that are taken are more for the woman’s comfort than anything else.

Giving Head Can Make A Woman’s Pregnancy Easier

Believe it or not, if a woman gives her partner oral sex (and presumably swallows) regularly before getting pregnant by her partner, she will have an easier pregnancy and less problems with high blood pressure, pre-eclampsia and eclampsia. This is because her body has been given plenty of time to get used to the foreign DNA in the man’s sperm, so the mother’s body is less likely to reject the pregnancy!

It Can Make A Woman Feel Happier

There’s a reason that women feel elated after having sex with their partners, and it’s not always because he gave her an incredible, earth shaking orgasm. In fact, just the simple deposit of semen into her vaginal canal can boost a girl’s mood and make her feel happier and have a greater sense of well being.

This is due to the variety of hormones that are present in ejaculatory fluid, including testosterone, estrogen, prolactin and lots of different prostaglandins. A study at the University Of New York showed that women in relationships where condoms were always used were more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety than women in relationships where condoms were never used. Notably, women in abstinent relationships scored the highest on the scale as being the most likely to suffer from mood problems.

Of course, make sure that you are with a monogamous partner and you’ve both been tested for and are clear of STD’s before deciding to go condom-free!

A Man Will Never Run Out Of Ejaculatory Fluid

No matter how often a man has sex or masturbates, he will never run out of ejaculatory fluid. Studies have shown that a man only requires fifteen minutes (and in some cases less) to completely re-up his supply of sperm after ejaculating. This further proves that men are able to experience multiple orgasms! Men are less likely to ejaculate again during the second orgasm, however, it is possible since a man can completely replenish his ejaculatory fluid in very little time.

Semen Can Promote Tooth Decay

There are components in ejaculatory fluid that attract acid-loving bacteria and after fellatio, these bacteria can hang out in your mouth and go to work on your gums and teeth. This can promote cavities, tooth decay and gum disease, but don’t stress out too much about it. Giving your man head isn’t going to cause you to have dentures anytime soon. Just simply make sure you brush your teeth or rinse your mouth with a good mouthwash after you’re finished. But let’s face it – that’s probably already something you do after fellatio anyways.

Ejaculatory Fluid Is Nutritious

You might have heard that ejaculatory fluid has a lot of protein in it, but it also packs quite a punch with other vitamins as well. Here’s a breakdown of how just one teaspoon of semen can be considered a super food.

  • It’s low in fat at only 5-7 calories per serving!
  • Has about as much Vitamin C as an entire orange
  • Contains calcium, magnesium, potassium, vitamin B12 and zinc

So should you just start giving your partner more oral sex instead of taking your vitamins? Probably not – unless you want to start drinking it by the glass.

6 Lingerie Items He REALLY Wants To See You Wear

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Lingerie isn’t for girls – it’s for guys. Men enjoy seeing women in lingerie, no matter what size or shape she is. Instead of picking out lingerie YOU like, get what YOUR MAN likes. Here are six lingerie items that top almost every man’s fantasy list, so you can wow him with a surprise underneath your clothes next time you and your partner get frisky.

A Garter Belt

A garter belt is a piece of lingerie (the fabric is usually lace or satin but can be other materials such as leather) that slips over the hips. On each leg, there are two clips that hold up a pair of thigh high pantyhose. A garter belt doesn’t function as panties – it is only worn to hold up thigh high stockings. They can be adorned with ribbons, lace, bells, leather, fringe and more for added erotic appeal. This is a much sexier way to do pantyhose!

The reason that men find garter belts so sexy is because they just look sexy. You can turn a normal bra and panty set into a titillating outfit by just throwing on a matching garter belt and a set of thigh highs. Garter belts can also be worn under a woman’s clothes during the day, such as with a pair of slacks or a dress. This gives her man a super sexy surprise when she gets home and lets him see what is underneath! Garter belts are also a lot of fun to use during sex. Your guy will like feeling the straps on your hips and legs as his body thrusts into you!

Crotchless Panties (Or No Panties)

Crotchless panties qualify as lingerie, but are pretty much pointless to have if you’re trying to use them as functional underwear. That’s why men enjoy them so much – they know if you’re wearing them, you’re already thinking about sex and want them to have easy access to your genitals. Oral sex over a pair of crotchless panties is incredibly hot (for you and him) and can be a super hot surprise for him at the dinner table or in the movie theater.

You can also go commando and forgo wearing panties or lingerie all together for the same effect. Lean over and whisper to your lover at dinner (or in some other public place) that you’re not wearing any panties. If you’re wearing a dress, let him slip his hand underneath and look for himself. You’ll give him an instant erection right then and there.

Cheekies

G-strings are great for showing off your butt and they’re a great way to provide your partner with easy access for anal sex, but they leave little to the imagination. Your man appreciates nudity in any form, so he’s not going to tell you that the g-string is played out and it would be great to have you wear something a little different. Of course, granny panties are off the list, so what do you do when your g-string collection gets old?

Cheekies are panties that look normal in the front, but are curved up slightly in the back to let the bottoms of a woman’s butt cheeks show. You may wonder why a guy only likes to look at the bottom of your cheeks when you can see the whole thing in a g-string, but that’s what makes cheekies so sexy – they turn guys on by highlighting your best assets while still leaving something to the imagination. Seduction is rarely about full on nudity anyways.

A Corset Or Bustier

Corsets can be considered the beginning of lingerie, and were worn under dresses hundreds and hundreds years ago before the bra was ever invented. The idea behind a corset or bustier is to lift the breasts and create cleavage, as well as to hug the waist and bring it in to make a woman appear thinner yet more curvy. This is done with wire shaping in the corset and ties in the back that are laced as tightly as is comfortable for the woman. Corsets and bustiers are still very popular, especially in the world of burlesque.

A corset or bustier instantly says to your man, “I’m an old fashioned kind of sexy.” Your man will enjoy seeing your body all tied up in a corset and you’ll like the way it shapes you and makes you look really good. Let your man slowly untie your corset or bustier while you stand in front of a mirror – and watch his face as the corset drops to the floor after it’s untied. Your partner won’t be able to keep his hands off you for long!

A Shelf Bra

Like crotchless panties, a shelf bra is lingerie that is basically pointless to have underneath your clothes because it actually doesn’t cover up your breasts at all. A shelf bra is designed to go underneath the breasts, almost as though an underwire bra were cut in half. Your breasts will come up and over the top of the shelf bra, showing pretty much everything, including your nipples. Some half bras do cover up the nipples (but not much else), but that’s not what a true shelf bra is. A true shelf bra is designed to hold the breasts up, but show them completely.

Your man will really like the idea of this item of lingerie because of the fact that it is, indeed pointless to have. If you put one on, it’s purely for his viewing pleasure. It’s to make your breasts look amazing so they can be ogled. Your partner will love that you donned something like that just for him.

Platform Stilettos

While platform stilettos aren’t actually lingerie, they make pretty much any combination of lingerie – even your most basic black bra and panties set – look absolutely amazing. There’s a reason that strippers always have platform heels when they’re dancing, even when they’re completely naked. They make your legs look a thousand miles long and your body will instantly look leaner and more seductive.

Invest in a basic pair of platform stilettos (yes, platform – the scary looking ones that strippers actually use) and get used to walking around in them and wearing them when your partner isn’t home. Next time you don one of your lingerie outfits, slip the heels on too and watch your lover’s reaction when you strut your stuff.

What Your Man Is Really Thinking When You’re Between The Sheets

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Sex is super fun for both guys and gals, but have you ever wondered what is actually going on up in that man-brain of his? Have you ever wondered just what he’s thinking about when you’re giving him a blowjob or riding him all night long? Here’s sex from his point of view.

You’re Hot

Your guy thinks you’re hot. Period. He wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t find you attractive – period! Men are visual and need visual stimulation to be turned on – it’s against his genetic code for him to be with someone he doesn’t think is physically beautiful or good looking.

You’re probably thinking “Well, that’s because I take care to hide my cellulite” or “We never have sex with the lights on, so he doesn’t have the chance to actually see me.” Forget that crap. He likes you with your cellulite. Fact is, he was probably so mesmerized by your jiggling ass that he didn’t notice the cellulite. See the difference? You may think your jiggly ass is ugly – he thinks it’s jiggly, fun to play with and sexy. So forget your flaws and embrace yourself!

You Should Be More Into It

Even if you’re really into it, he probably still thinks you should be more into it. Enthusiasm is like, 50% of sex, at least. Think about it this way – guys are used to watching porn, where women scream, pant, beg and LOVE sex. Yeah, that’s their job and they’re getting paid pretty damn well to do it – but being into sex with your lover is actually YOUR job.

Make an effort to step up your involvement during sex. Talk dirty, make more noise and whisper his name. Act like the only thing in the world you want to be doing is HIM – and nothing else. Be totally in the moment and he’ll love it! Being in the moment and allowing yourself to become consumed with pleasure is also a great way to enhance sex for you too!

You’re Still Hot

Yes, he really thinks you’re hot. Really, really. Especially during sex. Believe it. But don’t ask your guy – he’ll think it’s a trap and be afraid to answer with anything but “yes.” Of course, the truthful answer IS “yes,” but it will still scare the crap out of him.

You Should Be More Naked

If it hasn’t sunk in that guys are visual when it comes to sex, go watch a porno flick. They’re designed to cater to a man’s need to see things that are sexual – and most films do a pretty good job of that. Unless you’re wearing nothing but your birthday suit, he’s probably thinking that you should be more naked. When you get dressed for work in the morning, it pains him to see you put clothes on, because he’s thinking you should be more naked.

If you’re wearing clothes, he’s thinking about taking them off. If you’re wearing lingerie, he’s still considering taking it off. Get more naked and he won’t complain. Ever.

Can’t Wait For You To Orgasm

Your fella LOVES it when you reach climax. As much as he loves sex and his own orgasm, he loves to see you orgasm even more. (The guys that seemingly only care about their own pleasure lack only one thing – the knowledge of how to give YOU the big O). He loves everything about your orgasm, from the heavy breathing to your eyes rolling back in your head to the sounds you make. He loves it even more when you totally lose control!

He craves seeing that primal side of you, so don’t downplay your orgasm or stay quiet. Feel free to let loose completely and let your body do whatever it’s going to do – moan, thrash, grind and gasp for air. He will drink up every bit of it.

You Should Try New Things

Variety is the spice of sex, but that doesn’t mean that you have to go nuts and start trying really weird stuff. While some guys have some freaky sex fantasies, many men have fantasies that are totally tame. He just wants you to mix it up a little so he doesn’t get bored.

So try getting your freak on and give him an impromptu handjob the next time you are on a date at the movie theater. Whisper something in his ear at dinner that makes him think of sex. Don’t wear panties under your skirt and slide his hand underneath to let him feel your wetness. Use your creativity and imagination and always be doing something different. You want to keep him on his toes!

9 Smokin’ Hot Handjob Techniques

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A great handjob or blowjob has three elements. Its WET, its WARM and it has good suction/friction.

When beginning a genital massage it is typically best to start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. Do a wide variety to touches and strokes early on. Be quite playful. As you go further and further into the genital massage, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys but do mix them up until you are ready for the big finale.

Eventually you will want to develop a good rhythm that your partner can get into – that is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage. When your partner is arriving at an orgasm, it is very important that you don’t vary your technique at all! Moving even slightly into a different hand position can bring your partner back down from the brink and cause you to have to start bringing him back up again. If your partner is close to having an orgasm, the same stroke over and over will push him over the edge! You know how it works with rubbing your clitoris! Not much difference here.

1. Use More Lube Than You Think You Need

Use an excessive amount of lube if you know he can get cleaned up afterwards. If you are at his office in the high rise you can’t be quite as liberal with the slick stuff. Lots of lube will give him a super-sexy, ultra-slippery feeling all over his scrotum, penis and perineum. You can probably never use too much lube, the slicker the better.

2. Tickle Him First

Begin by just using the tips of your fingers. Let them float all around your partner’s penis, pressing lightly and then moving into a firmer press.

3. Use Your Palms

Roll the shaft of his penis in between your palms. You can do this lightly or harder if your partner likes more stimulation. Some guys like it if you shake his member gently and then toss it back and forth between your hands (open-palmed). Obviously you do that more when it is still a bit soft.

4. Stroke With Both Hands

Take one hand and wrap it around his shaft, pulling towards the head. As you’re finishing the stroke with that hand, begin a new stroke with the other hand. Be careful not to pull too hard, however, because anything more than a gentle to a medium pull can give your partner the uncomfortable sensation that he is being “milked” or that you are rubbing his skin raw.

5. The Big “O”

Do a reverse of the technique above. Make an “O” with your hand and put it on the top of his penis and push it down so the head pokes through. As you are moving your hand down take your other hand and do that same. Then take the bottom hand and move it on top. Do this in smooth succession like he is entering an endless vagina.

6. Stimulate His Head

Hold the base of the shaft firmly with one hand while rubbing your palm on the head. This traps blood at the head, making it more sensitive to whatever you’re stroke you’re using on the head.

7. Twist It Up

Give a long stroke from the base all the way to the tip of the head in a twisting motion. You can twist up the entire penis or save the twisting until you reach the head for a varied effect. Put both hands on your partner’s member, one at the base and the other at the head. Use the above technique, but twist with both hands at the same time. You can also twist in different directions to spice up the move.

8. Different Strokes For Different Folks

Try using different strokes with your partner’s shaft pointed in different directions. This causes blood to flow in different areas, making him more sensitive to your movements.

9. Give Him A Ring

Make your thumb and forefinger form a ring around the base of your partner’s penis. Move this ring up and down the shaft in long strokes. You can do this gently or in a more firm fashion depending on the stage of genital massage your partner is in.

7 Places To Have Sex In The Office

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Sex in the office can be incredibly hot – whether your partner is a co-worker or your current flame just stopping by. There’s something super sexy about having sex at work – even if it’s just a little foreplay before you head home for the real deal. Here’s how to get it on in the workplace.

On A Desk

Of course, having sex on a desk at the office is cliche – but it’s really fun! If you’re having sex with the boss, doing it on the boss’s desk is even naughtier. If not, any desk will suffice. Find a desk hidden away in a conference room or in a cubicle in the corner of the room to avoid getting caught. Bonus points if you actually throw all of the stuff off the desk first in one sweep of your arm!

Best Sex Position: Missionary or woman on top if you both are lying on the desk. You can also have the woman sit on the desk and the man enter her standing.

Against The Filing Cabinet

This can actually be a great way to hide from your co-workers if you can find a little nook created by a few filing cabinets. Doing it up against a filing cabinet is super sexy because it’s impromptu – and has an air of naughtiness to it. Just make sure you’re not having sex up against the side of the filing cabinet that has the handles. Ouch!

Best Sex Position: Standing, of course. Depending on how tall the cabinet is, the girl could sit on the top of the cabinet while her man lifts her skirt up and per forms oral sex on her.

In The Elevator

Most of the time, you only have enough time for passionate kissing in an elevator until the doors open. However, you can extend the time you have if you’re alone by pushing the emergency stop button. This may or may not set off an alarm, so you may want to find out beforehand from the building maintenance staff if you’re going to need to make a run for it afterwards.

Best Sex Position: Standing, without removing your clothes. This is so you can high tail it out of there if you have to!

On The Stairwell

A stairwell in an office is a pretty decent place to get it on if you’re not into getting caught, because few people actually travel the stairways, especially if it’s a large building. Most people take the elevator, so why not capitalize on the laziness of your co-workers by having a quickie on the stairwell?

Best Sex Position: Doggy style. You can vary the angle of penetration by having the girl facing up the stairs or down the stairs. Also, you can use the handrail for stability!

In The Supply Closet

Having sex in the supply closet is a great way to escape during the day without getting caught. Slip away on your lunch break when no one is paying attention to where you are and have a quickie in the closet. The other benefit of doing it on your lunch break? Most of your co-workers are probably at lunch too – and not looking for supplies in the closet.

Best Sex Position: Any position that you can manage. Depending on what supplies are in the closet, you may have a lot of sex position options, or you may have very few.

In An Office Chair

This is a good option if you want to try some sitting sex positions – and this is one you can do at home if you have a home office. Have the man sit in the chair and the woman straddle him. She can move up and down to bring her vagina closer to his face if she wants a little bit of oral, or lower it down onto his shaft for deep penetration. Women, wear a loose skirt on the day you plan on doing this – you’ll be grateful that you did!

Best Sex Position: Sitting, with the woman on top. You can also do another version of oral sex here – have the receiving partner sit in the chair and the giving partner kneel with their hands and knees on the floor.

In The Bathroom Stall

Use this one of you’re desperate or if you just don’t have anywhere else to go. It’s not so bad if the bathroom is pretty clean though. It can also be kind of fun if both of you are able to stand on the toilet and aren’t tall enough to tower over the top of the stall. If you can manage this, no one will know you’re in the stall (if you can stay quiet, that is) and you can get a little voyeuristic when people come in to use the restroom. Although, if you get stuck with someone who went to the Mexican restaurant for lunch, it’s going to be far, far from sexy.

Best Sex Position: Any position that doesn’t involve touching the toilet seat with any part of your body!