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How To Tell If YOU Need A New Sex Toy!

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Sex toys can burn out over time, or you can get tired of them. Sometimes, you just want something you’ve never tried before! From time to time, you’re going to have to replace your sex toys or buy new ones, but it can be hard to part with a favorite. Here are five things to look for to tell if you need to chuck your current vibrator and go shopping for sex toys!

It Runs On Batteries

There are a lot of great sex toys that run on batteries, but there are far, far better ones that are rechargeable! They cost a little more, but in the long run, you’re paying for that in batteries anyways. Rabbit style vibrators use a LOT of juice, and if you own one, you’re probably at the store buying batteries every other week.

If your favorite sex toy runs on batteries, consider replacing it with a version that is rechargeable. If you’re looking for a Rabbit style vibrator, try the LELO Ina. Smaller bullet style vibrators also come rechargeable.

It Contains Phthalates

While jelly sex toys look really pretty, they can contain dangerous chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer. If your sex toy contains phthalates, you could be unknowingly increasing your risk for developing cervical cancer. Ditch the cheap jelly materials and get something made from body safe silicone, wood or hard plastic. If you absolutely have to have sex toys made from jelly material or any material containing phthalates, protect yourself by slipping a condom over it before insertion.

The Vibrations Aren’t As Strong As They Used To Be

When you first got your vibrator, it was perfect. The vibrations were exquisite and catapulted you to orgasm land in no time flat. But a few months later, you notice that it takes a little longer to reach orgasm, and you have to press a little harder each time to feel the vibrations. Are the vibrations getting weaker? Probably. Sex toys aren’t made to last forever. If yours constantly sounds like it’s running out of power (even if you just put fresh batteries in), it may be time for an upgrade.

It Looks Dingy Or Has An Odor

Unfortunately, not all sex toys are non-porous. When shopping for one, try to get a body safe toy that IS non-porous (like glass), but you may not have known that going into purchasing your current one. If any of the sex toys you’re currently using don’t look as clear or shiny as they used to, or they’ve picked up an odor, it’s time to throw them away. Sex toys made from porous materials like jelly can pick up bacteria during use, and body fluids can begin to soak in. When you really think about it, you don’t want that hanging around in your nightstand!

You Want A New One

Every girl should have her own sex toy – or more than one! Couples should also have plenty of sex toys to play with! If you simply want a brand spanking new toy (whether it is an exact replica of your very favorite or something you’ve never tried before), you have every right to get yourself what you want! Even if you just bought one and you’re not happy with it or want something to accompany it, go out and get another one! Get whatever you want, provided you’ve got the funds.

Get A Good One!

You also have the right to invest in a good sex toy. Go for quality materials from a reputable manufacturer. Be choosy. Consider where you want to use it and what you want it to do. Do you want to travel with it, or do you want one that is ultra discreet? Try the LELO Mia – it’s rechargeable via USB port and looks like a tube of lipstick. Do you want a clitoral vibrator that is completely waterproof and you can use in the tub or shower? Get the We-Vibe Touch.

Look for the sex toys that meet both your needs and your desires. If you really would benefit from having a vibrator that you can take with you anywhere (for example, if you travel a lot for work), or the only peace and quiet you get in a crazy household is in the shower, then spending the extra money on a vibrator that meets your needs and gives you what you want is well worth it.

Dirty Talk Ideas That Will Make Your Girl BEG For More!

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Dirty talk can make a woman absolutely ecstatic with pleasure – here are some great ways to get started with dirty talk!

Making Erotic Noises

Most everyone is comfortable with erotic noises and it is a very good place to start. They are as natural as making a deep exhaled sigh as you relax down into a hot bubble bath or when you are getting a massage. Moaning, groaning, sighs and breathy exhales are normal and instinctive when something feels so very, very good.

“Nice” Phrases

Nice phrases are simple, yet effective, and step two to the process. They are an easy way to dip your toes in the water of dirty talk and will add a little excitement to your romp.

  • “Yes, right there!”
  • “Oh yeah, that’s nice.”
  • “You smell wonderful.”
  • “That feels soooooo good!”
  • “I am so happy to be wrapped up here with you.”
  • “Your mouth feels amazing.”
  • “I have been thinking about doing this to you all day long.”

HOT, HOT, HOT Phrases!

Once you have mastered some erotic sounds you will feel a little more comfortable vocalizing with your mate. Try adding some of these hotter phrases, but feel free to change up the ‘body part’ words with what you are most comfortable with. Below are some examples:

  • “My panties get wet just thinking about what you are going to do to me.”
  • “I want your ____!”
  • “I love your breasts!”
  • “Oh baby, I want to come all over you.”
  • “Who makes that cock so hard, cowboy?”
  • “Let me suck on those nipples.”
  • I want to ___ you all night long!”
  • “Mmmmm, harder… don’t stop!!”
  • “Can you feel how wet you get me?”
  • “Oh yeah, that’s it, don’t you dare stop _____ me.”
  • “You like banging this slick ____, don’t you?”
  • “Put me on my knees and bang me until I come all over you!”
  • “You are so tight!”

Hardcore Phrases

Edgy, raw and being totally frank about what it is that you want, hard core phrases convey just that. Not for the timid and not the first thing you should throw at your partner during your first ever encounter with dirty talk. Consider this the ultimate walk on the wild side compared to the basic ‘tamer’ talk we just read.

Many couples will never make it to this level. And that’s okay. It is not some video game where the higher you go, the better. It is really all about your partner. If you find that hardcore phrases turn both of you on, then go for it. But if it ruins the lovemaking experience for your beloved, don’t go there. Take it down a notch or two. We are all a little bit different in what rocks our world.

Here are some examples of hardcore dirty talk phrases:

  • “I want your fat cock to spew all up inside me!”
  • “Whip it out and come all over my ____.”
  • “Watch me while I’m sucking your ____.”
  • Get on your knees and suck my _____ dry!”
  • “Do you want to spank my ass while you’re grinding me from behind?”
  • “Tell me you want to swallow my load!!”
  • “Do you want me to deep throat that cock of yours, baby?”
  • “I want you to sit on my face!”
  • “I’m going to ____ that dripping wet ___ all night!”

“Play By Play” Dirty Talk

If you are at a loss for words, you can do “play by play” dirty talk. Simply describe what’s taking place as you are doing it:

  • “Oh yeah, you’re sucking on my nipples and it’s getting me so wet!”
  • “I’m fingering your dripping, wet ____.”
  • “I’m going to climb on top of you and ride you, cowboy.”
  • “I’m going to lift my legs so you can watch yourself _____ me!”
  • “I can see your dripping cock sliding in and out of me from this position and it’s getting me even wetter!!”
  • “I’m going to explode!”

Asking Questions

Asking questions works also, because you can often get a response out of your partner that way and engage them in dirty talk, even if they’ve never done it before or are nervous about doing it.

  • “How hard does my cock feel inside of you?”
  • “Do you like the way my tongue feels on your clitoris?”
  • “How sloppy do you want it to sound when I’m giving you a blowjob?”
  • “Can you feel my cock getting harder inside of you?”
  • “Do you like the way my breasts bounce around when you’re giving it to me like that?”

Use Your Imagination

With dirty talk comes creativity. Use your imagination and speak whatever comes to mind. If you’re really in the moment, what comes out of your mouth is going to be as hot as what you’re doing!

How To Train Yourself To Have Multiple Orgasms

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Multiple orgasms are incredible – or so you’ve heard. If you’ve never had more than one big O during a sex or masturbation session, you’re seriously missing out. The way a woman’s orgasm works leaves her halfway to her next orgasm after she’s had the first – so every girl is capable of reaching a second, third or fourth peak. But can you actually “train” your body to have multiple orgasms?

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It’s Easier For Women Than Men

Everyone is “capable” of having multiple orgasms, however, it’s a lot more difficult for a man to reach climax more than once during a sex or masturbation session than it is for women. This is because men tend to put a lot of focus on their orgasm being tied to ejaculation, when in fact, it isn’t. Women, however, are designed a little differently. Once they reach climax once, they only come back down about halfway, instead of returning to their normal, unaroused status right away like a guy does.

Learn Your Body

Many women have not fully explored their body and all of their sensitive spots – namely because female masturbation has been labeled “taboo” for so long. Many girls have never even had one orgasm, let alone multiple orgasms! If this happens to be the category you fall into, take some time to learn your body and explore what feels good and what doesn’t.

Try Masturbation By Yourself First

If you try to experiment with multiple orgasms for the first time with your partner, it’s likely not going to happen right away or at all. There’s a lot of pressure trying something for the first time, and you’re going to feel pressure to perform and your partner is going to feel pressure to give you a climax. Instead, experiment with your body during masturbation alone. There’s going to be less pressure, and you’re going to be able to really find what you like and what you don’t like without worrying about anyone else but yourself and your own pleasure.

Use Whatever You Need To

While there are tons of sex toys and vibrators out there for women, a lot of girls are too nervous or scared to buy their own and use it. A lot of girls also avoid erotica and pornography, simply because “watching porn” is how men masturbate. But don’t be afraid to use whatever you need to get yourself turned on enough to make it possible for you to want to continue having multiple orgasms!

This is also another reason why it is essential that you try by yourself for the first few times. If you’re really turned on by watching a certain porn or reading erotic and you know that’s what will take you over the top again and again, you may be nervous doing it around your partner. So if you’re alone, you don’t have to worry about getting caught or watching or reading what you want. If you only need a tiny clitoris vibrator, go for it. If you need a larger Rabbit style vibrator, use that. Do whatever you need to give yourself that intense pleasure.

Allow Yourself To Come Back Down First

If you experience the first climax, allow yourself to come back down a little bit to the halfway point. If you try for multiple orgasms right away, your clitoris is going to be too sensitive and you’re not going to want to continue. Allow yourself a few minutes to breathe and enjoy the afterglow before you get back to it.

Also, you can try stimulating different areas – for example, if you’ve just had a clitoral orgasm, try stimulating your g-spot. This can help you get over the top again in a different way.

Relax, Have Fun And Keep Trying

You may not experience multiple orgasms the first time you try, or even the first few times. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to perform. Remember that this is about your pleasure, so just do what feels good! Relax and have fun! Continue to try if it doesn’t happen, but release any negative feelings you have about not having multiple orgasms right away. If you have negative feelings about not being able to “get there” instead of just enjoying the ride, you never will “get there.”

As you continue to try new things, different sex toys and different masturbation techniques, you’re going to become more in tune with your body and you’ll be able to figure out what you need to do to bring yourself to that multiple orgasm phase.

Oral Sex – Safety First (And How To Talk To Your Partner About It)

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Oral sex is commonly engaged in without thought to safety – but you should take precautions. Here’s how to have safer oral sex, and how to bring it up.

Why You Need To Consider Safer Oral Sex

It’s relatively common for people, especially with younger couples, to engage in oral sex without talking about safety first. As the Guide to HIV at About.com reports in an article called: The Risk of Oral Sex, many believe that oral sex is a low-risk activity because of its inability to get someone pregnant. Unfortunately STD’s are still a concern, even if they aren’t as prevalent as with penis-vagina intercourse.

Oral sex also increases the risk of other STDs, such as Herpes, Human Papillomavirus (HPV), Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Hepatitis C. These nasty bugs are transmitted by saliva, skin-to-skin contact, genital lubrication, and/or ejaculate, and can then be passed along to someone else via more oral sex, kissing, or other forms of skin-to-skin contact.

Barrier Methods

You may be familiar already with dental dams; they are what dentists use to keep any bits and pieces during a root canal or other mouth surgery from falling down your throat. These simple pieces of latex are slowly becoming well known in lesbian and bisexual circles, and men are now following suit.

Most, but not all dental dams are made out of latex. They stretch and are flexible, but hold their shape and are much firmer than say, Saran Wrap. They are square and come in several different colors, translucency and tastes. Almost all of them are powdered, and it isn’t terribly difficult to find ones that are flavored, scented, or both.

If the taste or smell of an cunnilingus encounter isn’t your favorite part of the occasion, dental dams are a very welcome addition to your arsenal. The only issue with them however is that latex takes a bit of getting used to in the taste department as well, so it’s highly recommended that with your first few attempts, you purchase a package that offers a variety of flavors or scents to get you through those first few moments of uncertainty.

Latex Allergies

For those with allergies to latex, there are a few options to consider. The easiest is to buy some Saran Wrap that isn’t made to be used in the microwave; there are extra additives in the special stuff that isn’t vagina-friendly. A step up from Saran Wrap (which can be difficult to keep in place) is to buy some non-latex condoms, like polyurethane condoms, and then cut a slit up one side of them to make it into a longer, flatter piece.

What A Dental Dam Feels Like

‘Feeling’ a woman while using a dental dam takes a bit of getting used to – just like using a condom. You won’t feel the squishiness of your partner’s excitement, and it’ll be more difficult to tell how she’s reacting to your hard work. Getting your tongue in the right place can also be trickier, because you’re having to feel her with your tongue through the barrier. Yes, these are definite drawbacks, but no more so than using a condom – and as already discussed, their drawbacks are more than worth the knowledge that you’re having protected sex.

Getting The Dental Dam Ready To Use

Choose the side that you want to lick and the side that you want pressed up against your partner. Dab some lube on the side that is going on your partner – it will feel MUCH better to her. Also, make sure to keep the same side on her each time, or else you’ve defeated the purpose of using a dental dam. If you can’t remember which side you were licking, discard it and grab another one. An easy way to ensure you don’t get mixed up in the heat of the moment is to take a magic marker prior to your sexual encounter, and write on one side, “Lick here!”

Broaching The Subject

Never used a dental dam? That okay. Most women haven’t either. That doesn’t mean she’ll be adverse to using one though she’ll just need a bit of information is all, so she knows what you’re up to, and why. Learn as much as you can before, so that when you do whip one out, you can easily answer all of her questions and alleviate her fears of the unknown.

Do however make a point of letting your partner know that you plan on using a dental dam, especially if it’s the first time that you’re together intimately. Worst case scenario? You don’t tell her and she stops the whole flow of the moment with a, “What on earth is that?!” or something even more jarring, and you’re left crouched between her legs looking sheepish and trying to explain yourself. Trust me: if you take a bit of time to explain what a dental is, and why you’re using one, you’ll save yourself tons of embarrassment and heartache, and might even earn a few brownie points for ensuring you’re both safe sexually.

How To Use a Dental Dam

Let’s first begin with keeping the slip of latex in place. There are only three ways: you hold it, your partner holds it, or you use something to hold it in place. Of the three, having something else hold it in place is by far the most desirable. In the throes of orgasm she’ll struggle with keeping it in place, and you’ll want the extra hand for other activities as we move through this process.

Therefore, when purchasing dental dams, look for the ones that have an adhesive tip along the top, so that it sticks to wherever you put it in this case, along the top of her Mons Pubis. If the woman you are giving oral sex to is clean shaven however, you can use double sided tape or spirit gum instead, just make sure that you don’t get any near her vulva or vagina.

When first using a dental dam on your partner, try and do what you’d normally do without one. See how she reacts, and if she asks for more or less stimulation. Check her sexual response as well, and if she’s not getting aroused as you’d expect, increase the pressure to her clitoris or add a bit more lube to see if that makes a difference.

How To Give Your Dating Strategy A Total Makeover

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Dating tips can improve your game, but if your game is a little shabby to begin with, they’re only going to do so much. If you haven’t gotten a girl’s number or have gone on a date in awhile, it may be time to throw your old dating tips out the window and give your entire dating strategy an overhaul? Here’s how!

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Improving Your Lifestyle

One of the best dating tips is to work on improving your lifestyle before you actively try to meet and date women. The reason for this is if you have a poor lifestyle, you’re not going to attract any women! Start by looking at all the different areas of your life and finding ways to improve them. This in and of itself will attract women!

Have a lifestyle that puts you into contact with people on a daily basis, especially girls. If you never go out or you’re not very social, find some fun places to go or things to do that puts you into contact with new people all the time. Go places, make friends and have fun!

You also want to make sure that your lifestyle is attractive to women – and we’re talking the overall package here.

Build Your Social Circle

Work on making friends and building your social circle. If you’re meeting new people, make an effort to become friends with them. Become happier and more social overall. Develop a passion for meeting and talking to people, and don’t be afraid to show attraction for a woman. Be confident enough to flirt with a girl and create a little bit of sexual tension. This is one of the dating tips that can directly improve your love life! If you’re not at all confident and don’t approach any women or flirt with them in any way, you can hardly expect to get a date.

How To Get Confidence

There’s never going to be a magical moment where you suddenly feel confident and completely comfortable with approaching women. You’re just going to have to get out there and do it! However, after you do it (and continue to do it over and over), each time you’re going to be a little more confident and a little more smooth when you walk up to that next girl.

Things You Don’t Want To Do

  • Being too one-dimensionally focused on just picking up girls. You want to keep them too!
  • Not caring about making friends or improving yourself
  • Being demotivated. Nobody wants to be around a downer.
  • Not taking action – you’ve got to get up, get out there and start making this stuff happen! It’s not going to magically happen for you if you’re just sitting around hoping a girl will approach you.
  • Not taking risks. You’re not going to get anywhere if you’re not brave enough to take a risk now and then.

Know On The Inside That YOU Are Worth It!

One of the best dating tips of them all (if not THE best) is to know inside that you have a lot to offer. Confidence is everything when it comes to dating and if you don’t believe in yourself and that you have a lot to offer a girl, no one else will either. You’ve got to believe it inside you first, before anyone else will.

Know that you deserve to be with the right girl, and you deserve to have a great relationship. You also deserve to date around and have fun if you like – have enough confidence in yourself to know that the right girl is out there and you will meet her. If you truly believe it inside, that will be all the motivation you need to go out and make this stuff happen for you!

Enjoy The Journey

Sometimes it’s not all about the end result and that goes for dating as well. Life is a journey and you need to enjoy it – every step of the way. Don’t just become a better person so you can get a date, become a better person for yourself. Enjoy the process.

Remember to relax and have fun. Nothing is going to happen right away, or in an instant. But as you improve yourself, you improve what you have to offer a girl. As you do that, more and more women are going to be interested in you! It’s a gradual process, but if you’re enjoying each step of getting there, before you know it, you’re going to be having a great time dating girls or in a blissful, happy long term relationship.