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How To Be A Pro At Cunnilingus

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Oral sex is an incredible gift to give to a woman – but not so much if you don’t know your way around down there. Here’s how to get good at cunnilingus.

Cunnilingus: The Pro vs. The Joe

Cunnilingus – it can be a daunting task for an amateur. So how can you go from being Average Joe to an oral Pro? Learn what separates the two.

What “Joe” Does

First, Joe makes a bee line for the clitoris. He either just learned what it is and can’t wait to try it out, or he is trying to get her going as fast as he can so he can get up in there. It may get her off, but there’s no real wow factor.

However, Joe takes some risks if he tries to impress. He has heard that teasing a woman makes her orgasm harder, but that’s as well versed as he is in the female orgasm. Level 2 Joe makes the worst mistake a man can make – he quits right as she is on the brink of getting off. This does not make her cum harder; this makes her stop cumming all together. It takes a lot of work for a woman to reach orgasm, so if you send her back to Go without letting her collect the proverbial $200, it’s doghouse-city for you, buddy.

What The “Pro” Does

The Pro takes his time, making it about the sensual experience in its entirety, not just the cunnilingus. He spends time with her breasts, licking and sucking her nipples. Women have varying degrees of sensitivity in their nipples. Some have next to none, while others have reported orgasms simply through breast feeding. For the most part, stimulation of the nipples is like a direct line to the clitoris.

Next the Pro will move to the belly, kissing around her navel. He moves to the inner thighs, brushing his lips across the highly sensitive skin. If the nipples were properly stimulated before, the breath near that area, or the accidental brush with his nose, can get her almost overwhelmingly hot before his tongue even grazes the clitoris.

The Pro not only knows where the clitoris is located, but he knows how to work it. It is important to move the vaginal lips aside in order to properly access the clitoris. The clitoris is oblong and smooth, and it looks like it sort of opens up into the vulva. The part where it opens up is the money spot. More specifically, the upper left-hand part of this money spot is the jackpot spot. There is a highly concentrated grouping of nerve endings that, when properly stimulated will send her to orgasm land in under two minutes.

The most important thing the Pro knows is when to tease and when to please. He knows his partner well enough to know at which point he needs to stop beating around the bush, so to speak, and just finish her off. Until you master this – and it varies with each woman, so it requires getting to know her specifically – don’t stray from the clitoris once you’re there. Otherwise, you better hope she’s not wearing stilettos when she kicks you in the kidney.

Is Orgasm Trouble Getting In The Way Of Your Relationship?

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Orgasm trouble can definitely cause problems in a relationship. Here’s how to deal with climax issues up front.

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. It’s a fact that men and women are different and that extends to achieving sexual pleasure as well. Take for instance the topic of orgasms; men reach their climax sooner than women. Period.

Unfortunately, since the reasons WHY a woman does not reach an orgasm as fast as a man are not explored, what happens is that the sexual relationship generally develops into one where reaching her orgasm is not even an objective!

Society has a lot to do with this. It seems that women, in general, have been raised with the mentality that when it comes to sex, his orgasm is the goal. As for her, it’s okay; it’s natural that she doesn’t reach an orgasm. And while couples easily accept this, what most people don’t realize is that a woman not reaching her orgasm is actually the root of MANY relationship problems.

Relationship Problems Caused By Your Partner Not Reaching Orgasm

Sexual Frustration

Imagine if you have sex with your partner and you’re never given the chance to reach your climax. That’s a dreadful thought, isn’t it? You probably wouldn’t even call it ‘having sex’ at all. Think of all that frustration inside you that just grows after each time you have sex. Well, it’s the same for women!

Even though it would take longer for women to reach the point of ‘sexual frustration’, they will reach it one way or the other. And this frustration will manifest itself in many different areas in your relationship.

Resentment

You can’t blame women for wanting what they see as an obviously great and pleasurable experience for you. If you don’t take the time to learn how to bring her to climax, then she will soon begin to resent your ‘selfishness’ in bed. After all, why should you have all the fun?

Again, this resentment may start small but sooner or later, it will grow and reveal itself in other areas of your relationship. For instance, she may become short-tempered with you, and you will see this as simply her being annoying or a nag. Do you see how this can easily become a big problem in your relationship?

Decrease In Sexual Intimacy

For many women, instead of discussing the topic of female orgasm with their partners, they deal with their sexual frustration by turning to other things such as using sex toys or engaging in self-pleasure or masturbation. While using pleasure toys and pleasuring one’s self is not bad at all, using it as a permanent substitute to reach an orgasm is!

Pretty soon, the act of making love itself will look less and less thrilling for her. After all, she knows she can get greater pleasure from her sex toys and through masturbation than by making love with you. As a result, she will be less and less inclined to engage in sex.

And now the tables have turned. As she loses interest in sex, now YOU are the one who’s going to start to feel sexually frustrated. Find new ways to recover sexual creativity here.

Relationship Withdrawal

When physical intimacy decreases, overall relationship closeness begins to decline as well. You see, if you don’t make love, you also don’t reach that magical moment called ‘afterglow’, when a couple truly bonds after having sex.

Think about it this way: each day that you don’t make love, is a day that brings the two of your further and further apart.

Infidelity

If a woman gets to experience sexual pleasure only through sex toys and by the use of her own hand, and if this makes her lose interest in the sexual act itself with you, then imagine how ‘easy’ it can be for her to fall for another man!

If a woman meets a person who can bring her tremendous physical pleasure that no one has ever given her before, isn’t it logical that she would fall head over heels over this person? After all, in her eyes, it’s this person who truly cares about her. Otherwise, why would he go to such great lengths to pleasure her?

Female orgasms are not often talked about but in reality, a lot of relationships suffer the consequences of women not reaching their climax. So if you want a great relationship, one that’s also characterized by great sex, then the best thing you can do is to ENSURE you know how to make her reach her climax.

5 Porn Star Blowjob Secrets EXPOSED!

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A blowjob is an amazing gift you can give to your partner – even better than sex. Every guy loves getting head – there’s nothing that compares to the feeling of a hot, wet mouth on his penis. However, there are far too many girls that don’t know how to give a good blowjob, leaving their men to watch porn and wish their girlfriends and wives could suck them like that. Make his fantasies come true by learning a blowjob like a porn star! Here are five porn star blowjob secrets that turn boring, run of the mill oral sex into something incredible!

Play With It First

All good porn stars know that you can’t just put your mouth on a guy’s cock and expect fireworks to happen. Guys need a little warm up time too, although they need far less than girls. So warm your guy up by playing with his penis a little first, before you start sucking on it. Rub it lightly over his underwear or over the sheet while you’re lying in bed. Rub it against your cheek, your lips and your face. Give yourself a little smack with it! Your enthusiasm and obvious love for his member will turn him on more than anything else.

Make Eye Contact & Smile

A guy really wants to see that you’re enjoying giving him head. You can let him know that you love what you’re doing by looking him in the eye and smiling when you’re going down on him. If you ask almost any man what his favorite thing about his partner is, he will likely either say her eyes or her smile – or both. When you make deep, soulful eye contact with your lover and smile while giving him a blowjob, you’ll not only make his knees weak with pleasure but you’ll also get him involved emotionally.

Deep Throat

Deep throating is hard work. It’s easy to gag and in some cases, women have vomited because their lover’s penis aggravated their gag reflex so much. (It wasn’t their fault). Men love to have women deep throat them though – in fact, many guys feel like it’s the “holy grail” of getting oral sex. Fortunately, you can still deep throat – without vomiting – even if you have a strong gag reflex. It’s a learned skill that takes practice (and breathing through your nose). Practice deep throating each time you give your lover a blowjob, and you’ll get better and better at it.

Don’t Be Afraid To Swallow

Most porn stars aren’t afraid to swallow their partner’s semen. Some seem to really, really love it! Sure, it’s an acquired taste and all, but the truth is, if you can learn to stomach it (or learn to love it), your man will LOVE his blowjob. There’s just something super sexy – and ultra naughty – about a woman who swallows her man’s spunk like it’s the most delicious thing she’s ever tasted. If you can’t manage to bring yourself to swallow, have a towel nearby that you can discreetly spit his semen in when he’s finished. If you’re acting like you can’t get enough, he’s not going to notice or care if you spit in a towel while he’s not looking.

Bring The Variety

Some girls get in a “rut” when it comes to giving a blowjob. They find a few techniques that work well and use them over and over again. Worse yet are the women that thing simply moving their mouth up and down their lover’s penis is a good blowjob. If you want to give head like a porn star and make your guy get down on his knees and beg for more, you want to learn several great techniques that you can mix and match when going down on him.

When going down on your lover, take note of his reactions each time you use a new technique. Play with it a little – this is part of the fun of giving excellent head! Try a technique and judge his reaction. Does he love it? Does he moan, grunt or thrust his pelvis towards your face? Or does he just kind of sit back, waiting for you to do something else? When you pay attention to his cues and body language, you’ll learn what he likes and doesn’t like. Then, take a mental note of what works (forget about what doesn’t) and use the best techniques in a different order and at different times to keep things fresh.

How To Feel Her Breasts – The RIGHT Way

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Foreplay leads to great orgasms – and you definitely don’t want to neglect the breasts when it comes to foreplay. Here’s how to touch her the way she wants.

Whether you’re a leg man or an ass man, every man is a breast man. Breasts have more nicknames than anything else on the planet. Gossip blogs are constantly reporting on celebrity “nipple slips.” The mere hint of Janet Jackson’s bear breast during the Super Bowl Half-Time Show caused one of the largest controversies in media history. So what is this crazy obsession we have with breasts? Is it just because men don’t have them? Is it some Oedipal reaction to having been breast-fed? Whatever it is, men like breasts, and they like them a lot.

Self Control Is Key

One of the most common complaints women have about their partners is that he won’t stop touching her boobs. Everything they do together, he must somehow incorporate the titty-grab. When he’s watching TV, he’s playing with her nipples. While she’s doing the dishes, he’s massaging her mammories.

I know, I know, they’re there, they’re awesome, and you just gotta touch them. In the long run, this could end up hindering your rack rights. So unless you’re up for a booby-free existence, let’s go for quality over quantity when it comes to funbag fondling. If you’re willing to practice a little self control, she will actually love to have you all over her chest.

Don’t Pull Down

The cardinal rule of breast handling is never pull down! Women spend billions of dollars every year on bras that lift them up and surgeries to add perk. If you’re yanking downward on them, it feels like you’re undoing all that work. She will actually get the heebie-jeebies, which is not the sensation you’re going for if you’re trying to warm her up for sex. Concentrate instead on upward motions. Stroke, cup, and fondle, but never in a downward motion.

How To Tease Her

So now you know in which direction to touch her, but now you need to know how. Do not just nose dive for the nipples. Yes, nipple stimulation works, but it’s much more effective to tease around them first. Grab one and give it soft bites along the underside. Repeat on the opposite breast. If you give one attention, don’t forget to give the other one the same amount.

Just like you don’t want her to play favorites with your testicles, she doesn’t like it if you over-indulge one of her boobs. You can kiss, suck, lick, and caress your way up to the nipple. Once you get there, she will be so riled up that the feeling of her nipple between your teeth will bring her to near orgasm.

There you have it. With proper attention paid to both breasts and avoidance of the nipple until prime time; you’ll go from simply being a breast man to becoming a breast master.

How To Make Sex Decadently Sinful With Chocolate!

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Sex games can bring the zing back into the bedroom – but forget about naked Twister! Try introducing chocolate during your sex games to make it sinfully good.

I love chocolates—and I know it’s not only me who has a passion for Hershey’s Kisses and M&Ms. These sweets are believed to be aphrodisiacs and let me say now that I believe it 100%! After all, romance, passion, foreplay and sex are all heavily affected by your mind right? And if you believe that chocolates can help bring out the ‘wild woman’ out of your partner, then so be it!

Chocolate Is Actually Good For You!

Chocolates can do wonderful effects on our body. Since they are made from plants, they inherently contain natural components that promote good health. In fact, it is said that dark chocolates reduce high blood pressure. A small bar is enough to also lower bad cholesterol in the body. Eating chocolates gives an immediate boost of energy and vigor. Moreover—and also very fortunately—chocolates have also been found to have a certain effect on one’s desire for sexual activity.

They are said to strengthen a woman’s libido, resulting in an increased interest and desire for sex. As for men, chocolates stimulate passion and vitality and a remarkable increase in sexual desire can be noted. No wonder men always resort to chocolates when they date women!

A History On Chocolate

According to aphrodisiac history, the belief started with the Mayans, who drank chocolate for fertility. They would even use a chocolate drink concoction during marriage ceremonies. In very recent studies though, chocolates have been discovered to have phenylethylamine, a chemical that’s detected when one falls in love. And get this: the same chemical rises up to the brain during an orgasm!

Serotonin is also known to be present in chocolates. This chemical gives one a feeling of pleasure. These two substances are mildly addictive. But women are known to be more susceptible to the effects of phenylethylamine, thus making women more ‘chocoholic.’

If you’re still not convinced, then maybe results of a study (by Italian researchers no less!) published in The Times in 2004 will. According to that research, “Women who have a daily intake of chocolate showed higher levels of desire than women who did not have this habit. Chocolate can have a positive physiological impact on a woman’s sexuality.”

Chocolate As A Sex Tool

Now, if feeding your woman chocolates does not give you a hard-on or if she just ends up eating the whole box without even giving you a second glance, then there’s something wrong with your delivery.

That’s right. Chocolates are so common now that they don’t really conjure up images of sex right away so don’t just buy the average chocolate bonbon. Why not try Kama Sutra chocolates! That’s right; there are chocolate bars being sold online now that are shaped specifically to match Kama Sutra sex positions!

If you want to take this a step further, cook up your own Kama Sutra-shaped chocolates and incorporate them into your sex games. But this time, add some chili flakes to increase the aphrodisiac factor. Now what can be better than vanilla ice cream topped with warmed chocolate? That would be vanilla ice cream and warm chocolate eaten off your lover’s body!

Put some melted vanilla ice cream on your lover’s naked breasts and lap it up! Now, immediately follow this up with some warm chocolate sauce and suck off all of that too! Other areas you can try this are her neck (yes, her neck!) and of course her vagina!

Here’s another idea. Why not buy edible chocolate undies? Present this to your woman; urge her to try it on with one promise – that SHE will be your dessert tonight! You can also turn the tables around of course. Put on a chocolate-flavored condom and ask her to give you a blowjob. Incorporate these into your sex games and you’ll both be performing oral sex with gusto!

Another great option is edible body chocolate paint that should be applied with a very soft and tender paint brush. Imagine how she would feel as you glide that tickly, feathery, chocolate-laden brush all over her body. By the time you reach her groin, she’ll be panting like crazy!

There is truly no end to the wonders of chocolate as an aphrodisiac! In fact, I dare say that of all the aphrodisiacs that are popularly known, chocolates are the most readily available, are some of the most inexpensive to buy, are a joy to be eaten by both men and women, and are actually believed by scientists to increase sexual appetite!

So what are you waiting for? If I were you, I’d be running out the door to get some chocolates now!