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Hitachi Magic Wand Review

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The Hitachi Magic Wand is a classic, very strong vibrator that is marketed as a “back massager.” Women love this toy because the vibrations are incredibly intense – you’re almost guaranteed a clitoral orgasm, even if you’ve never had one before. It has a soft, flexible head that is easy to remove and clean (although since it is an external massager, you may only need to wipe it clean) and a large handle that makes it simple to hold in just the right spot.

The Good

At 6000 rpm, this incredibly powerful vibrator will bring you to orgasm quickly, without you having to do a lot of work to get there. It also lives up to its reputation as a good back massager – it can really work out some of the kinks in your muscles from sitting at a computer all day or even sex related injuries like pulled muscles. There’s a reason this vibrator has been around for over thirty years – it WORKS!

The Bad

The Hitachi Magic Wand is pretty large and heavy, so you really can’t slip it in your purse for an orgasm “on the go.” It’s also not waterproof – there are small holes in the handle that would allow water or body fluids to get in, so it’s also not good for insertion into the vagina. If you do your best masturbating in the shower, select another sex toy that is waterproof or splash proof. It’s also corded, but that may or may not be a “con,” depending on the way you look at it. Most modern sex toys are battery operated or cordless, but a cord does ensure that if it’s plugged in, it’s not going to go dead seconds before you climax.

The Bottom Line

It’s a very powerful clitoris vibrator and although it’s basic – it offers only high and low settings – it REALLY gets the job done. Every girl should keep one of these in her bottom drawer for multi-purpose use, whether you want to relieve tension in your neck or if you want to relax through masturbation.

The Full Hitachi Magic Wand Review

The Hitachi Magic Wand is an extremely powerful vibrator that has been around for over thirty years – that’s right, this vibrator existed well before masturbation went mainstream and a variety of sex toys became available. It’s actually marketed as a powerful “back and muscle massager,” because at the time of its creation, sex toys weren’t acceptable at all and masturbation certainly wasn’t either.

Some great things you can do with the Hitachi Magic Wand are:

  • Actually use it as a back massager! It works!
  • Use it as part of an erotic massage before sex. Guys can massage her back with it to get her relaxed, then slide it down to her clitoris to give her a powerful buzz that will turn her on immediately. Tease her with the high and low settings until she’s begging for release!
  • Place on the clitoris during sex to let both partners enjoy strong vibrations.
  • Use it as your go-to vibrator when you want an easy orgasm in just minutes.

This is also a great toy for women who have never masturbated before or women who have trouble reaching orgasm. Because the Hitachi Magic Wand is so powerful, you can trust this vibrator because you KNOW it works. You can be confident that even if you’re not at all “in the mood,” you will be soon. You’ll climax quickly, without having to work terribly hard at reaching the finish line.

Quick Facts About The Hitachi Magic Wand

  • 6000 rpm!
  • Can be a little loud because it’s so powerful!
  • Multi-use for both masturbation and massage
  • Men may enjoy the vibrations too!
  • Durable and long lasting
  • Flexible, removable head
  • Must be plugged in to operate

The Hitachi Magic Wand not the smallest vibrator out there – with good reason – so it’s not well made for discreet travel. However, it’s also not a large, penis shaped dildo – so if you do get busted with it, you really can say that it’s a back massager. The box even says so!

500 Intimate Questions For Couples Review

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500 Intimate Questions For Couples shows you the questions about sex that need to be answered. Here’s how to get to know your partner intimately before getting naked.

The Good

Want to know more about your partner, their past sexual experiences and how they feel and think about sex? Want to know those things about yourself? Michael Webb’s 500 Intimate Questions For Couples will help you explore these things before ever having sex. It’s a great guide for couples entering a relationship who want to wait for sex until marriage, but it’s also enlightening for couples who have been together quite some time.

The Bad

There’s no shortage of questions here! Don’t tackle them all at once – that would be one really intense game of “20 Questions.” Instead, ask a few here and there in a relaxed setting, when you and your partner are comfortable. Some of the questions will open up an entire conversation about the topic, and prompt you and your partner to share stories with each other and connect with each other emotionally. This is the point! Only plan to ask a few at a time and really savor the answers.

The Bottom Line

Some of the questions are pretty obvious, and may have been ones that you asked your partner before. Some questions are inappropriate for couples that have been together for a while, while others are strings of questions that follow the question that came before it. Some questions are pretty loaded and may very well get you in trouble – not many people want to really discuss how many sexual partners they had before and what kind of birth control they used with those partners.

The Full 500 Intimate Questions For Couples

500 Intimate Questions For Couples definitely has some take-aways. There are plenty of questions that will get you and your partner thinking about sex, how to make it better for each other, how you think alike about sex and how you think differently about sex. Many of the questions are going to help you and your partner connect with each other emotionally on the topic of sex. However, there are definitely going to be questions that you want to (and should) skip, depending on where your relationship is.

500 Intimate Questions For Couples is similar to Michael Webb’s popular book 1000 Questions For Couples, but focuses solely on topics that have to do with sex. This book also has the potential to bring two people closer together emotionally, but some of the questions are a little less creative than the ones in 1000 Questions For Couples.

Be Careful What You Ask

A short introduction leads into the questions, which are listed one right after the other. You won’t have to wade through paragraphs of text just to figure out which ones to ask – they’re all right there. They supposedly start off “light” and progress to “heavier” material, however, you may find that some of the ones in the beginning, such as “How many sexual partners have you had” and “What kind of birth control did you use with those partners” aren’t fare for relationships that are just beginning to blossom. In fact, some may never be appropriate for your relationship.

Also, be careful not to ask strings of questions all at once. For example, you may ask your partner if they’ve ever looked at pornography, but if you keep going with the ones in 500 Intimate Questions For Couples, you’re going to be asking what kind of pornography it was, when they last looked at it and if they masturbated to it. This will most definitely make your partner feel like they are being grilled and you’re probably not going to get a very good response out of them.

Great Questions You CAN Ask

There are, however, plenty of questions that will get you and your mate thinking about sex and about each other. You’ll learn more about yourself and your partner than you ever thought you could, which will definitely bring you and your lover closer together. Use them wisely though, and be aware of which ones you’re choosing to ask at what stage in your relationship.

Some of the really great questions in this book include:

  • “What has been the most romantic experience of your life so far? Could we recreate it?”
  • “Have you ever seen a picture or painting that you considered erotic? Why?”
  • “Where is one place you would like to make love but never would? Why not?”
  • “If you could eat one food off your spouse’s body, what would it be?”
  • “Would you ever consider joining the ‘mile high club’?”

There are plenty of excellent questions in 500 Intimate Questions For Couples that will get you and your lover thinking about different things you can do during sex, and new things you could try if you get the opportunity. They will also help you understand more about your own likes and dislikes during sex as well as your partner’s. Take the great ones and use them to get to know your lover better, and leave the ones that aren’t appropriate in the book.

What To Do When Your Parents Hate Your Partner

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Here’s a seemingly simple scenario. You love your parents and you love your significant other. It’s finally time for your mate and your family to meet. They get together and they absolutely love each other. Why shouldn’t they? You’re their common bond, and if you love all of them, why wouldn’t they love each other? Unfortunately, life isn’t always so simple.

Oftentimes the people that we love don’t get along together. If you’ve recently learned that your parents are incredibly displeased with your choice of a partner, you may very well be reeling. Do they see some horrible quality in your S.O. that you’ve been blind to? Or are they just being ridiculous in their own expectations for you?

Consider Major Negative Feedback

If they give you majorly negative feedback on your S.O., it’s worth considering it. They may have a really good reason for not liking your boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe they know that he or she has cheated on you. You might be okay with that, but they aren’t. Maybe he/she was really rude to them and openly disrespectful of you in front of them. If these are the sort of complaints they’ve made to you, you should think really hard about why you’re with your mate.

They know you pretty well, and they may be right in thinking your S.O. is wrong for you. If their reasons for disliking your partner are miniscule or unfounded, however, don’t even bother considering a breakup. Instead, start thinking about how you’ll smooth things over between your parents and mate.

How To Get Them To Reconsider

The first step in getting them to reconsider their stance is to give them a great sales pitch on your S.O. Give them evidence to negate their fears, however irrational. Talk about all of the wonderful things that your partner does for you. Show your parents just how truly in love you are with this person. Prove to them that your significant other is a great source of happiness for you. It can even help to point out all the ways that they’re different from and better than past boyfriends or girlfriends that also met with your parent’s disapproval.

Once you’ve convinced them to give your partner a second chance, come up with a good way to get them together again. Make sure it’s in a setting that they will likely feel comfortable and happy in. Better still, work in a way for your S.O. to show off some of their better qualities. If they’re a great cook, the two of you can make dinner for your parents. If they are baseball nuts and so is your mate, go to a game together so they can talk shop and bond over a mutual interest. They may see your partner in a new, brighter light.

When The Issue Is More Serious

What if the problem is more irreparable, though? What if your parents are showing an ugly side to their personalities? Perhaps they’ve decided that they don’t like your partner because he or she is of a different race or religion from you. Maybe they think he or she is too poor or from the wrong class standing. You’re going to have to fight an uphill battle here, and you may not be able to win.

This is when you might have to make the hard choice to cut your parents out of your life, at least until they can be more accepting. It could be really difficult to do, but if you’re deeply in love with your S.O.—if they’re someone you may very well marry and/or have children with—you can’t give them up because they are being ridiculous. It’s a hard but important decision that you must make.

Hopefully, it won’t come to that. Remind them that if they love you and want you to be happy, they’ll respect your choice in a partner. Be patient and help them learn to accept your S.O. Sometimes time is the best bandage for a situation such as this.

Q&A: What Is The U-Spot?

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Sex tips can get boring – there’s only so many things you can do. If you feel like you and your partner have tried them all and are ready for something new, it can be difficult to discover another technique that you haven’t already done before. But what if you found a new trigger? An actual area of the female anatomy that has never been focused on before and will give her amazing orgasms? Meet the U-spot.

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The U-Spot

Generally, when you’re referring to the U-spot, you’re actually referring to the Skene’s gland. This gland sits very close to a woman’s urethra and when stimulated, it produces copious amounts of female ejaculate – also known as squirting. This area is above the vaginal opening, but below the clitoris and slightly below the urethra.

The U-spot is extremely sensitive. Most of the time, it is indirectly stimulated during sex or oral sex, and rightly so – it’s so sensitive that the wrong touch could really be uncomfortable and turn a woman completely off. It’s really easy to go overboard when touching this area, so make sure your partner is well lubed and your touch is very, very gentle.

Stimulating The U-Spot With Fingering

You can touch and rub this area with your fingers, provided that your partner is already aroused and very lubed up. If she’s not wet enough for you to use her vaginal secretions to wet your fingers, make sure you have a good, water or silicone based lube on hand. Touching this area without lube is going to be terribly uncomfortable or painful for her!

Slide your finger down past your lover’s clitoris, stopping just underneath it. Your finger should be resting just above the opening to the vagina. Move the tip of your finger in small, circular motions, being very careful not to rub or press too hard.

Accessing This Area During Oral Sex

You can also stimulate the U-spot with your tongue during oral sex, which is actually a lot more comfortable and pleasurable for a woman. The tongue is wet and soft, so there’s less of a chance that you’ll rub her the wrong way. Again, slide your tongue past her clitoris and let it rest above the vaginal opening, moving it in small circles or back and forth. Switch between doing this and licking her clitoris to drive her absolutely wild!

Communication Is Essential

As with trying anything new during sex, it’s important to communicate with your partner and read their body language to tell if something that you’re doing is pleasurable to them or if you’re actually making them uncomfortable. While your lover might just tell you out loud that you’re doing it the wrong way, some women aren’t that outspoken about what they like and what they don’t like.

That’s why learning to read your lover’s body language is so important! If she doesn’t like what you’re doing, she’s going to pull away or avoid making any pleasurable sounds. If you’re in the dark though and you’re just not sure if she’s liking your moves, don’t be afraid to ask her if it’s good for her. If she seems like she’s not into it or if she tells you so, move on to a different technique.

She May Feel The Urge To Urinate

When you’re stimulating the U-spot the right way, your lover may feel the need to urinate. This is actually a good precursor to female ejaculation, so this may tell you that you’re on the right track. However, it’s always a good idea to make sure your partner uses the bathroom before getting started, so she can be reasonably confident that the sensation of having to pee is actually a pleasurable sensation of being on the verge of squirting.

Help Her Relax And Have Fun With It

Your lover isn’t going to find having her U-spot touched and fondled very pleasurable if she’s not relaxed first. It may be helpful to draw her a warm bath first, or take a shower together. Help her do whatever she needs to relax and get her mind off of the stresses of the day. Also, remember to have fun with it. Trying something new is supposed to be fun – so don’t get bent out of shape if it doesn’t work the first time or you’re unable to give your partner an orgasm this way. You can always try again later, in a slightly different way. Experiment with different techniques and enjoy the process!

How To Get Girls To Chase YOU

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Dating means looking high and low for a woman to ask out – right? Wrong! What if you could get into the dating scheme by having women go after YOU? Instead of being desperate for a date, you’ll actually have women coming your way, wanting to go out with you!

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Give Her Space

For a girl to actually want to go after you, she has to actually have room to go after you. If smothering her with attention and asking her out on dates all the time, she’s going to get sick of you being in her space and she’s going to start running. A girl who feels smothered or trapped isn’t going to want to go after you at all – she’ll be wanting to get away from you at every possible turn. At first, this is just because she needs to “breathe” – it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you anymore. However, if you continue to smother her and stay in her space without giving her a chance to recoup, she’s going to try to get away – and stay away.

Let her develop her own life. In fact, encourage it! Make sure she spends time with her friends and you spend time with yours. Have a life outside of your friendship or relationship and make sure she does too. By giving her space, you’re ensuring that she has time to think about you and miss you – after which, she’ll start to go after you!

Let The Attraction Unfold Naturally

This is perhaps one of the most important parts of dating and getting a woman to want to go after you instead of the other way around. Far too many guys “try” too hard to win a woman’s attention and affection, which really has the opposite effect. She’s not going to be very attracted when you’re constantly in her space.

Attraction doesn’t often happen instantly – it’s something that needs to grow over time. When a man tries too hard, he stifles that natural process. The woman he’s interested in is so busy trying to get away that there’s no time for that attraction and sexual tension to develop. Enjoy being together, but don’t start out with high expectations of where the friendship is going to go or if you’re going to get into a monogamous, serious relationship any time soon. Instead, learn to enjoy the moments you have together and let nature take it’s course!

Dating Isn’t The Same As It Used To Be

Women aren’t sitting around anymore waiting for a guy to ask them out. In fact, it’s quite a bit different from the “days of old.” Women hold a lot of power in the dating scene and they’re often the ones who call the shots. The ratio of available guys to women are a bit skewed these days – about 5% of the single male population are the ones getting all the girls, and the other 95% is wondering what happened!

How To Be In The 5%

Look around and take note of all the guys out there that are getting women. What are they doing? How do they dress? How do they act? What are they saying? Chances are, they’re not offering up some cheesy pick up lines. What you’ll notice is that these guys appear strong, confident and independent to the women around them.

They have a life of their own, they have passions and they carry themselves with an aura of confidence and high self esteem. Does that mean you have to be cocky to get women to want to go out with you? Not hardly. But if you’re a wimp who is always asking “permission” for things or apologizing for things, you’re not going to get very far at all.

Learn to be that strong, confident guy. Learn to like yourself for who you are and be yourself when you go into the dating scene. You have something of value to offer – now you just have to believe it.

Develop A Magnetic Personality

For women to approach you, you’ve got to put yourself out there. Be someone who is magnetic, flirtatious, charming and really fun to be around. Have that core inner strength and happiness that radiates outward to other people. This is probably the number one piece of dating advice – if you don’t do anything else, do this. Having a personality that people want to be around is the first step to attracting friends and getting women to go after you – instead of you always having to ask them out!