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Homemade Porn – 9 Things You HAVE To Film!

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Homemade porn can be a lot of fun to make – and a lot of fun to watch! There’s nothing like watching your partner get you off, or checking out your style when you’re giving your partner pleasure. Not only will homemade porn turn you on like no other naughty flick can, it’s also an incredible learning experience. Check out these nine smokin’ hot moves you’ll want to get on camera.

A Point Of View Blowjob

“Point of view” is a video in which one of the participants holds the camera and films the activities, but you never get to see their face. This gives the viewer of the video the illusion that they are actually the one in the movie and that everything that is happening is happening to them. The point of view concept is great homemade porn fodder, because they ARE the one who is in the film! They can watch it later and remember just how amazing it was!

Ladies, have your partner hold a camera while you give him a blowjob. Make sure there is plenty of lighting! Look up at the camera often and don’t be afraid to let it all out. Mimic what you see women do in porn videos so the movie actually looks great – and mix it up with actual great blowjob techniques so it feels great too.

Close Up Cunnilingus

Men, chances are your special ladies have never gotten to see you lick their lady bits up close and personal. Almost all women love oral sex, because it’s an incredibly erotic experience for them. Make it even that much more incredible by taping it and letting her watch afterwards!

Set up the camera on a tripod and zoom in. You’ll have to work a little to find the right angle, but when you do, it will be well worth it. You can also hire a trusted friend that you’re comfortable with to tape it for you – that way, you’ll get every view. Cock your head a little to the side and stick your tongue out a little more so you can actually see the licking action. It’s not going to be very fun for her if all she can see is your head in between her legs.

Night Vision

Mimic a celebrity sex tape and make a homemade porn with a night vision camera. What’s great about night vision is that you won’t see as many body flaws as you would if you were taping yourselves having sex in the broad daylight. Night vision covers up even more bodily imperfections than candlelight does, but you can still see all the action. You can even pick your favorite celebrity sex tape and re-enact the whole thing!

The Money Shot

A lot of adult videos feature the “money shot” – that is, where the man pulls his penis out at the point of orgasm and ejaculates somewhere on his partner. If they’re doing it doggy style, it is usually on the lower back or buttocks, if they’re doing it in the missionary position, he will usually ejaculate on her stomach. He can also ejaculate on her breasts or her face, depending on what turns him on the most (and what his partner agrees to).

In your homemade porn, you’ll definitely want to get a money shot. Men, talk to your partner about where it’s okay to ejaculate. If you’ve always dreamed of giving your lover a facial, let her know. She may not be opposed to it if you agree to make it a one time deal for the camera only. That way, if she does decide to let you indulge in your fantasy, you’ve got visual evidence that you can watch over and over again!

Your Favorite Fetish

If you and your partner have a particular fetish that you like to indulge in, you’ll definitely want to get it on tape in your homemade porn. No matter what your fetish is – whether it’s BDSM, bondage, a diaper fetish or whatever else really pushes your hot buttons – getting it on tape and watching it later can be incredibly erotic. This is especially true if it’s a fetish that you and your lover don’t get to indulge in very often due to money, time constraints or other reasons.

Female Ejaculation

Ladies, unless you’re really, really good at female ejaculation, chances are, you’re not going to be able to do it very often. Learning to do it well is half the fun though! If you want to be able to ejaculate, practice makes perfect. Keep trying, and keep videotaping it so that when you do ejaculate, you’ve already got it on tape! Your partner will love watching a homemade porn of you ejaculating, especially if he was the one that made you do it.

Don’t be afraid to let go – if you are, chances are, you’re not going to ejaculate at all. The best adult videos that feature female ejaculation show women letting it all out! They’re grunting, screaming, and doing whatever is necessary to make themselves orgasm – and orgasm hard. Take on that mentality and your movie will be just as hot – if not hotter.

Your Favorite Role Play

If you and your lover like to role play, this can be super fun to include in your homemade porn. Getting it on video is also a great option if you don’t get to do it very often, or if you end up springing for some really great costumes and props. A camera in the room can also help you and your partner feel a little bit like you’re performing, which can actually help you to come out of your shells a little more.

Before turning the camera on, have a few drinks first. Relax, loosen up and let whatever happens happen. You won’t believe how hot things got when you finally play the video back later!

Masturbation

Men, you may want to film your partners masturbating themselves so you have something to watch later when you’re alone. Chances are, your girl is going to be more into the idea of you watching homemade porn when you masturbate than watching a movie with some random naked chick in it.

Set up the camera in a corner of the room where you don’t notice it as much. Light some candles, take a hot bath to relax and then lay on the bed with your genitals exposed to the camera. You can zoom in as much or as little as you like – whatever turns you on most. Men, this is the part where you leave the room! Sure, you want to check out all the action, but she’s not going to be able to really let go if you’re standing there watching her. And that’s what you want – for her to really let go and throw all her inhibitions out the window.

Intense Foreplay

Sometimes, sex is not all you want to capture on camera. Foreplay can be just as much fun as sex, and incredibly erotic. Promise your partner a night of intense foreplay and teasing, and make sure to get it all on camera for your homemade porn. Men, tease your lover by licking her nipples, licking her clitoris and kissing her deeply, all without ever doing enough to actually get her off. Women, do the same thing to your men.

Watching your partner beg for pleasure can be an incredible turn on when you play your video back!

Dating Advice: Tips For The First Night Together

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Dating will inevitably lead to sex. Here’s how you can make your dating efforts worthwhile and not send your lover running as soon as they walk in the door.

The First Sleepover

You’ve been on a few dates and things are going well, and then your date invites you over for dinner at their place. This can only mean one thing—tonight’s the night you’ll be sleeping over. Whether your place or your partner’s place will be the setting for the main event, there are ways to be better prepared for your romantic sleepover. Just a little advance planning will go a long way toward making sure your overnight experience is a great one.

Stock The Kitchen

Whether you’re hosting the night or your S.O. is, the key to a great sleep over is making sure that you don’t need to leave the apartment or house for anything. If things will be taking place at your apartment or house, you need to make sure that you’ve got food and drink covered for both dinner and breakfast. Get whatever you need for the meals you intend to make, plus some fruit and a snack like nuts or popcorn to have on hand.

Having at least one bottle of wine and a six pack of beer is a good idea, too—that way you have a couple of options in case you don’t like drinking the same thing on the date as your lover. You get extra points if you stock your kitchen with a snack or drink that you know he/she is a big fan of.

Clean The Place Up

If you don’t have time to truly clean your place, at least pick up any clutter and clean the bathroom. Slobs, take note—most people will be grossed out if your bathroom hasn’t been cleaned in over a week. Also be sure to have plenty of toothpaste and hand soap available, along with clean towels. Your date probably won’t be bringing an overnight bag, so it helps to think of what they might need and have it handy.

Throw a new toothbrush in the drawer so they can use it. Just tell them you always keep an extra on hand so they don’t think you thought that sex would be a sure thing. Make sure to make the bed, too, preferably with clean or fairly clean (no more than a couple of days old) sheets. Since you’ll hopefully be heading there sooner in the night rather than later, you want to make sure your bedroom looks nice and inviting. You can go all out with candles and flowers and music, but that isn’t necessary. Some people might even be intimidated by that. As long as the bedroom looks cozy and clean, you’ll be fine.

Pack Appropriately

If you’re the person heading over to your significant other’s place, try to think ahead for what you’ll need to sleep over. Since it’s your first time spending the night together, you can’t really bring over a backpack full of clothes and toiletries. That would look too presumptuous, and if you don’t end up staying the night, you’ll feel silly.

Girls are luckier here, because they usually have a purse on them. If you’re a guy and you’re coming straight from work, you can bring your briefcase or bag and hide some necessities in there. Otherwise, stick with what will fit in your pockets. If you can fit a toothbrush and floss in your bag or pocket, do so. Better still, pack a spare pair of underwear, too.

Since you’ll have to change into your same clothes the following day, having those clean undies will make you feel at least a little fresher. Another thing that always helps is deodorant. You could just sneak some of your date’s, but unless they use unscented or you’re both the same gender, you’ll come out smelling like the opposite sex. Better to bring your own if possible.

You should also consider bringing over a bottle of wine or something else to drink. Even if your mate already has beverages at his or her place, it can’t hurt to have a little more. That means there’s no risk that you’ll run out and have to make a late night wine and liquor store run. Plus, it makes for a nice host or hostess gift to thank them for having you over and cooking for you. Flowers never hurt, either.

Practice Safe Sex

There is one more thing that you need to stock up on, whether you’re the host or the invitee—birth control. Never, ever assume that your date will be supplying proper protection. Better that you both show up with a handful condoms than neither of you do. Nothing ruins the moment faster than realizing that one of you is going to have to go pick something up from the drug store. Plus, you don’t want to be tempted to forego using birth control out of convenience.

If you’re a girl and on the pill, make sure you put your pill pack in your purse. Whether you also use condoms or not, you wouldn’t want to miss your regular dose and throw yourself off. Being prepared with birth control is as important, if not more, as prepping all of the other aforementioned things. It takes the pressure off and lets you enjoy your first night together to the fullest.

5 Reasons Hardcore Anal Sex Isn’t A Good Idea

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Hardcore anal sex may seem fun for folks into BDSM, but is the backdoor really the best place to get your freak on? The rear entrance isn’t built like a vagina – it’s not meant to stretch very far and it’s definitely not meant to take the kind of abuse that fetishists can deliver. Here’s why hardcore anal sex can hurt – and why you’re better off using the front entrance!

Tearing And Bleeding

This is probably one you’ve heard before. Tearing and bleeding of the rectum can happen at any time, but you are much more at risk for it when engaging in hardcore anal sex and even more so if you’re not using an adequate amount of lubrication.

If enough lube is used and both partners go slow and take their time, allowing the anus to stretch, it is unlikely that tearing or bleeding will occur. However, this is usually not the case with hardcore anal sex. Sometimes partners won’t use enough lube, or may use objects that are too large. Objects that aren’t designed for anal insertion are also often used during hardcore anal sex, which can increase the risk for tears and cuts.

Depends, Anyone?

There are horror stories abound of incontinence after getting busy with the backdoor, but this typically is very rare – that is, if you’re going slow, using lube and allowing ample time for the rectum to stretch and accommodate whatever small sized object you’re trying to insert. Any fan of hardcore anal sex knows that the words “slow” and “small sized” aren’t part of the deal.

Hardcore anal sex puts you at more risk for incontinence because the activity typically involves using very large objects (many of which aren’t designed for this type of use) and insertion and penetration is usually hard and fast. This type of activity really puts a strain on the anus, which after time, can become damaged due to all the rough sex back there. After a certain amount of damage, the rectum just isn’t going to work like it used to.

Which means, you’re not going to be able to control your bowels like you used to. Depends, anyone?

Two Words: Emergency Surgery

A variety of objects are often used during hardcore anal sex, including ones that are not designed for anal insertion. Sex toys that have a wide base on the end are really all you should use for anal penetration, because it prevents the object from getting lost inside the anus. The anus isn’t at all like the vagina – there’s no stopping point. You can’t lose something in a vagina, but you can inside the anus.

If an object gets lost inside the rectum, it usually has to be removed surgically. If the object is sharp at all, is made from glass and might break, contains chemicals, or poses harm to the body in any other way, it must be removed immediately. If a dangerous object is lost inside the colon and is not removed immediately, it can cut the inside of the bowel and cause a lot more problems than you originally bargained for.

Extreme Pain

Pain is often associated with anal insertion, but with enough lube and time to allow the anus to stretch, the discomfort is usually minimal and passes quickly. Not so with hardcore anal sex. Masochists may enjoy the pain associated with hardcore anal sex, but the pain can be quite intense. When large objects are used, or objects that aren’t designed for insertion into the rectum, it can be extremely painful.

Many couples who enjoy hardcore anal sex use a desensitizing lube so they don’t feel as much discomfort. This is actually very dangerous, because you need to feel pain during anal penetration – if not, how will you know when to stop? The pain is your indicator that you’re taking things too far. If you can’t feel the pain because you’ve used a desensitizing lube, you may very well damage your rectum. You won’t feel it until the lube wears off, but you will later. And you’ll regret it!

Hemorrhoids And Anal Prolapse

Hemorrhoids and anal prolapse is very uncommon when you’re talking about normal anal penetration. However, the chances of getting hemorrhoids or having the anus prolapse outside the body increases when you start having hardcore anal sex. When the rectum takes a lot of damage, hemorrhoids will form. These can be simply annoying, or they can be downright painful.

In very rare cases, the bowels can actually begin to prolapse outside of the anus, because the rectum has become too loose to hold them in. This is perhaps the number one deterrent to having hardcore anal sex – do you really want your intestines hanging outside your body? All to get your jollies?

Stick to the front door for rough sex – the vagina can handle it.

How To Cook For A Woman And Win Her Heart

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Girls love coming home from work and not having to fix a meal – so surprise her with your skills as a chef – and follow it up with an evening full of romance. If you play your cards right, you could definitely make your girl swoon, and you might just get a little nookie out of the deal too! Here’s how to plan a super special evening where you’re in control and all she has to do is sit back and relax!

Preparation Is Important

Preparation is important here! Make sure your home is neat, tidy and most of all, comfortable. If you have kids, make sure you have organized a babysitter who can watch the children in their home. If this isn’t feasible, arrange to have a babysitter on standby at your home. Make sure that whoever is watching your kids is prepared for “overtime” if you and your lover end up getting a little frisky after dinner.

Set a flirty mood by sending the invitation to dinner to her office, leave it on her bed, in her briefcase or even send a romantic electronic invite. The fact that you actually took the time to “formally” invite her to dinner at your home will intrigue her enough that you’re almost guaranteed a “yes!”

Planning The Menu

Make sure you plan the menu well ahead of time and shop for the ingredients that you need a few days before your date. This way, if there’s anything that you’ve missed or that you run out of, you still have plenty of time to run to the store without things turning into a giant mess.

Figuring out what to make can be difficult, because you want something that is quick enough that it leaves you time for seduction at the end of the meal but you also want something nice enough that it will impress your gal. Furthermore, you don’t want something so complicated that you’re bound to screw it up and you also want to make sure it’s something she’ll actually like too! What a list! Make sure you know about any food allergies your partner may or may not have before you go shopping.

Time For Fun!

Now’s the time for “dress up” or should we call it “dress down.” Choose a masculine apron and strip naked, leaving your front covered with just your butt cheeks showing. Obviously, you would have ensured that you are freshly showered, wearing your best aftershave and have removed any unwanted hair she might have an aversion to (be it back or butt hair for that matter!).

Make a slightly exaggerated but “cheeky” effort in transforming your lounge/dining room into a sensual, romantic setting. Bend over catching her eye as you lay out the scented candles; carefully chosen mood music and table settings. Adjust the suitable temperature heating (comfortable enough to disrobe in) and check the working CD/IPOD.

Getting Down To Business

Now it’s time for the “main course.” Act the part of the gentleman and tell her you are going to “dress for dinner,” and come out in your TUX (or as fancy as you have). If she objects, saying that she would rather you stay as you are – then obey the lady, after all, the intention is to get naked anyway.

Surprise her by playing a little scene out of the movie (9½ weeks) by blindfolding her; feeding her little portions from the plate and making her guess what food it is. If she gets it wrong, she has to pay a forfeit and what forfeit is entirely up to you – use your imagination and choose one that she would feel comfortable with. Reverse the roles and allow her to do the same to you. Feeding one another is a highly erotic aspect of foreplay that bodes extremely well in building up anticipation.

Following Up With Romance

Last but not least, make sure you have scattered red rose petals all over the area you plan to use to make love, whether it is the bedroom, fireplace or next to the hot tub! You will have planned this before you started cooking, so that you and your lover have a romantic, sensual place to go when things get too hot in the kitchen!

Dirty Talk Secrets Review

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Dirty Talk Secrets is a complete guide to learning how to talk dirty in the bedroom. Dirty talk is a great way to spice up your sex life! Unfortunately, many people are uncomfortable with dirty talk or aren’t sure how to get started. Dirty Talk Secrets is a comprehensive guide on how to get started with talking dirty in the bedroom and also has tips on how to take it to the next level once you’ve passed the beginning stages.

The Good

Michael Webb, author of Dirty Talk Secrets, gives us yet another amazing guide to add satisfaction and sexiness to sex lives that are lacking heat. Not only does Michael tell us why dirty talk can be incredibly exciting in the bedroom, he gives us specific examples of what kinds of things to say to get started. This book is great for both couples that are new to dirty talk or couples who already love talking dirty to each other in the bedroom and want to take it up a notch or two.

The Bad

The introduction is a bit long, and those who want to get straight to the “dirty talk” may be tempted to skip ahead. Don’t, however, because the introduction contains a few jewels of knowledge, especially for couples who consider dirty talk to be “sinful” or wrong. While the beginning of the book is definitely worth reading, you may want to go back and read it after you’ve sunk your teeth into a few dirty talk tips. Don’t jump into bed without reading the intro though! The section on trust and communication is a must read before employing any of Michael’s dirty talk secrets.

The Bottom Line

Dirty Talk Secrets is a complete guide to learning how to talk dirty in the bedroom, why dirty talk can enhance your sex life and how to watch out for the ways that dirty talk can actually hurt you or your partner. If you want to start learning how to talk dirty in the bedroom, Dirty Talk Secrets is most likely the only guide you’ll really need.

The Full Dirty Talk Secrets Review

Michael opens the book with information on why dirty talk can really enhance your sex life, but he also gives a word of warning as well. Dirty talk, when not used properly, can actually offend and hurt your partner. Dirty Talk Secrets encourages you to explore the realm of salacious words in the bedroom, but with open communication and trust between you and your partner. While all couples and even singles can get quite a bit out of this book, it is definitely intended for married couples or those who have been in a long term relationship with each other for some time.

Included in the book are a few “case studies” or stories about couples who have used dirty talk to their advantage and have taken their sex life from boring to fun almost immediately. While these stories may not be absolutely necessary in a “how to” guide like this, it certainly is interesting and even endearing to read about other couples that are very similar to the rest of us in their sexual needs, likes and dislikes.

Probably one of the most powerful things about Dirty Talk Secrets is that Michael not only tells you why talking dirty can be such a turn on for you and your partner, he also tells you WHAT to say and HOW to say it. Couples who are very shy and have a difficult time thinking up what to say in the bedroom by themselves will appreciate Michael’s efforts here. While you may not want to call your partner’s member a “mushroom of immortality” as suggested in the Asian/Poetic section, there are plenty of other excellent examples on what you can say to get started.

Of course, Dirty Talk Secrets wouldn’t be complete without a section on hardcore dirty talking and Michael certainly doesn’t disappoint here. You’ll learn tons of phrases so sexy, so dirty and so naughty that we can’t even put them in the review! Of course, these tips are definitely for more advanced dirty talkers, so start small if you’ve never done it before and work your way up.

Not only does Michael give lots of phrases that can be used in the bedroom, he lists hundreds of different words that you can mix and match to create your own dirty talk phrases. Some of the words you may not want to use (Man-Ranch Dressing, anyone?) however, the majority of these words will give you excellent ideas on what next to say to your partner in the bedroom. Also included is a list of sexy songs that you can play to get your partner in the mood!

Of course, what download wouldn’t be complete without bonus materials? Michael doesn’t let us down here either, and gives us three amazing bonus manuals that are almost as good as Dirty Talk Secrets itself!

53 Sexy Coupons

Enhance your sex life even further by giving your partner sexy coupons for anniversaries, birthdays or just because. Some of the coupons are very romantic, and others are so sexy they’ll blow your partner away. It’s the perfect complement to dirty talk in the bedroom. Also, once the coupons are gone, you’ll have introduced tons of new ideas into your sex life that you can try again and again.

101 Romantic Ideas

Being romantic with your partner both in and out of the bedroom is just as important as learning how to talk dirty and turn them on. Michael includes his amazing manual of romantic ideas, with fun yet inexpensive (or totally free) ways to let your partner know they’re special to you. Forget buying flowers or taking them out to dinner. 101 Romantic Ideas gives you new and better ideas to make your partner feel like they’re your number one – because they are!

How To Give Your Partner Great Massages

Everyone knows that a massage is a great prelude to sex, especially for a woman. Instead of giving your partner what you think is a great massage, use this book to actually learn how to give a great massage! Before you start talking dirty in the bedroom, give your partner a sexy, titillating massage to help them relax and open up to pleasure.