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How Do I Know If I’m Bisexual?

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In sex ed, they don’t tell you how to figure out your sexual orientation. And when you’re a teenager, there are tons of sexual hormones that are taking over your body – one minute you can be feeling one way and the next minute you can be feeling the exact opposite. It can be hard to tell what your true sexual orientation is when so many emotions are going through you. How do you know if you’re really and truly gay, straight, bisexual or anything in between?

For about two years, I’ve contimplated weather or not I’m bi-sexual, and I’ve been feeling like I am a lot more now than I have in the past. I’m sort of freaked out by all this and I was wondering if you could explain some of this stuff. I’m fifteen and living with two old school catholics – so let’s just say I can’t go to the parents on this one, thanks!

–YouTube Viewer

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What Is Bisexuality?

Bisexuality is simply the recognition that one can be physically and emotionally to more than one gender. Many people assume that if you have sex with a member of the same gender that it automatically makes you gay or bisexual, but this isn’t true. You don’t have to have had sex at all – with anyone – or you can have had sex with both genders.

You can also be gay but have only had sex with members of the opposite sex, and vice versa. On the other hand, having a sexual encounter with someone of the same gender doesn’t make you gay or bisexual. Your sexual orientation doesn’t depend at all on who you’ve been to bed with!

What Do You Really Fantasize About?

What does determine your sexual orientation is what governs your sexual fantasies. Are you a guy who is sleeping with with women but keeps dreaming about giving a great blowjob to a guy? Are you a girl who is having sex with guys but secretly wish you were with a girl instead? If this is the case, you might want to consider that possibility that you are gay or bisexual.

Leaning One Way Or The Other

If you’re bisexual, it doesn’t mean that you have to be attracted physically and emotionally to men and women equally. Lots of people lean one way or the other – a man who is bisexual may prefer women but sometimes enjoy men, or a woman may really enjoy being with another women but think being with a man sexually is okay too.

Questions To Ask Yourself

If you’re unsure about what your sexual orientation really is, you can ask yourself some questions to dig deeper within yourself and find out what really defines your sexuality.

  • Do you feel attracted to both genders?
  • Are you attracted to men and to women sexually and emotionally?
  • Do you think about having sex with a woman when you’re with a man or vice versa?
  • Do you enjoy looking at both men and women sexually?
  • Do you believe that either gender could fulfill you emotionally in a relationship?

All In All, It’s Just A Label

What sex ed definitely won’t teach you is that bisexuality, gay, straight, transgender, etc. are all just labels that people put on themselves or put on others. Humans have to label everything – it comes naturally to them to place a label on people, things, ideas, and pretty much everything else they come into contact with.

You don’t have to label yourself at all if you don’t want to. If you don’t want to consider yourself bisexual or gay or straight, then don’t! There are lots of people out there that don’t meet the criteria for gay, straight or even bisexual and are somewhere in the middle – but that’s okay because when it comes to sexuality and sexual orientation, it’s all shades of gray anyways. By labeling everything, we try to make our world black and white, but it just doesn’t happen that way.

You are who you are and you don’t need a label to give yourself permission to be a certain way or enjoy certain things. You don’t have to consider yourself into BDSM just because you like the occasional spanking, or think of yourself as having a urine fetish if you enjoy a golden shower every now and again. When it comes to sex – and anything else – you don’t have to define yourself unless you want to, and it’s not up to anyone else to define you either. The most important thing is to be honest and true to yourself, and live the way you want to live.

How To Revive A Sexless Marriage In 3 Easy Steps

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More sex with their wives is something every husband wants – especially when the fire has died. After a man and a woman have been married for a long period of time, they naturally grow apart sexually. This can be extremely frustrating, because you’re wondering why the sex just isn’t as good (or why you’re not having it as often) as when you and your partner were younger. Getting back into the swing of things just takes a little work though use these three easy tips to get more nookie with your spouse!

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Stop Putting Pressure On Her To Have Sex

You’ve done it before – you’re in the mood and you really want to do it with your partner. However, she really doesn’t feel like doing it at all. She may have had a rough day at work, or she may be worrying about other things. She may even use the classic “headache” excuse to let you know that it’s just not something she’s into right now. However, you’re very into it, so you start pressuring her to have sex with you. Sometimes this works, but it usually only gets you a quickie – if you pressure her to do it and she does, she’s basically getting busy with you just to shut you up.

There’s another problem with this though. If she was even the least little bit turned on before you started pressuring her, it went away as soon as you opened your mouth. Even with the best foreplay and the best techniques, if you pressure her, she’s just not going to get or stay very aroused at all. People face enough pressure in their day to day lives with work, school, bills and children that there’s just no reason to bring it into the bedroom too. Give her a break and don’t pressure her or guilt trip her next time you want to have sex. Just resign yourself to a great masturbation session instead.

Learn How To Tease Her To Build Arousal

Instead of making your lover feel obligated to get it on with you, it’s important to make her want it. She does want it, but her libido is buried underneath layers of stress, worry and items on the to-do list. It’s up to you to tease her and peel those layers away to expose the sexual side within her. A quickie can be a good thing, but women don’t always want to “just go do it real quick right now.” Since women take a while to warm up and become aroused, a quickie is just going to be all about you.

Instead, learn to tease your woman and build her arousal. How do you do that?

Flirting. Flirt with her over the phone, in text messages, in emails and in person. This helps you build her anticipation to see you and to be close to you.

Have Fun. Learn to stop taking life so seriously. If you learn to have fun and let go, your partner is generally going to want to be around you more and spend more time with you because your happiness is infectious.

Touch Her. Start touching her all the time, whether you’re sitting next to each other in the car or just having dinner together after work. Place your hand on her leg, brush up against her. This teasing and touching will get her brain in an aroused mode as she begins to anticipate more and more touching later.

Don’t Expect Sex

If you do all of these things with the expectation that she’s going to do it with you at the end of the day, you’ve already blown it. The whole idea here is to do these things just for the sake of doing them, because you enjoy flirting with your partner, touching her and spending time with her. Let her desire for it develop naturally, without her feeling expected or obligated to. She will come to you for sex when she feels ready.

Be Willing To Walk Away

If you’re doing everything possible to build a sexual relationship between you and your spouse, but she doesn’t seem to want to meet you halfway, you may have to realize that this marriage isn’t for you. Give marriage counseling a good, solid try first before you make a final decision to end it with your spouse but everyone deserves to be happy in a relationship and to feel sexually satisfied. If you can’t get fulfillment with your current partner, it may be time to find someone new.

10 Best Places To Have Wild Sex And Really Let Go

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Is your sex life getting lukewarm? If so, you might be wondering how to heat it up – especially if you’ve been in a long term relationship for awhile and things have gotten boring between you and your lover. Instead of doing the same old same old, try moving out of the bedroom and start getting it on in places that allow you to be a little freaky and really let go of you inhibitions. Here are some great locations to get out and about and let it all hang out!

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While Blindfolded In A Room Full Of People

If the idea of being watched by others really turns you on, consider having sex in a room full of your closest friends (if they’re open-minded to the idea). However, this is definitely something that you have to be completely okay with before you actually do it – if it really makes you nervous but you still want to try it, don a blindfold before you get it on. You’ll know people are watching you have sex, but you won’t actually have to look at their faces while you’re doing it.

In Front Of Your Hotel Room Window With The Curtains Open

This is another way to indulge in your voyeurism fantasy, but without the stress of having sex in front of a lot of people. Next time you and your lover get a hotel room for the night, throw open the curtains before you get it on. Bonus points if you’re high up enough to get a great view – and let others get a great view of you. Double bonus points if you actually do it up against the window.

A Public Beach In The Middle Of The Day

Having sex on the beach is ultra romantic (except for the sand), but most people who enjoy this choose to do it at night or in the evening, when there are less people on the beach and they are less likely to get caught. Put a new twist on this classic location by finding a public beach to have sex on during the day. Of course, you’re very likely to get caught, but for many people, that’s half the fun! Just make sure you’re not getting busy around any youngsters. A nude beach is more likely to be free of children.

In A Porno Theater Booth

Porn is a great turn on for both men and women, and just watching porn at home with your lover can really give your sex life a boost. However, you can mix it up a little by finding a porno theater booth – found in many sex toy stores around the globe – and getting it on with your lover in there. Don’t be ashamed to bring the Clorox wipes though, because there’s definitely the possibility of coming into contact with other people’s bodily fluids. Enough said.

Fantasy Or Virtual Reality Sex

If you’re the shy type but really like the idea of having kinky sex and getting rid of your inhibitions, use your computer to your advantage. There are tons of websites that offer fantasy or virtual reality sex, where you can create a sexy avatar of yourself and engage in virtual sexual acts with others – including your partner. This is a great way to explore your fantasies and try things you’ve never tried before without actually having to go outside your comfort zone.

In A Room Full Of Mirrors

If you’ve ever wanted to see what you and your lover look like when having sex, the best way to do that is to find a room full of mirrors (sometimes hotels will have this, or you can install mirrors into your own home) and get it on in front of the glass. This allows you and your lover to feel exposed and voyeuristic in a private way. The best sex position to watch yourself in is often doggy style, since it allows you and your partner both to get an eyeful of the action.

In A Public Jacuzzi With Other People

Finding a public jacuzzi to have sex in is a great place to do it in front of other people, without actually letting anyone know what you’re really doing. While you may not actually be able to have intercourse this way, a nice handjob can easily be achieved without anyone knowing what is actually going on!

Oral Sex At A Restaurant Underneath A Table With A Long Tablecloth

Again, if you’re into having public sex but don’t really want to get caught (or if you just want to keep it a sexy secret between you and your lover), try slipping under the table when having dinner at a restaurant to give your partner oral sex. This can actually be very easy to do if the table you’re sitting at has a long tablecloth, and your date can easily use the excuse that you’ve left  the table to use the restroom – that is, if they can manage to get the words out.

While Being Photographed Or Filmed By An Open-Minded Professional

If you’re going to do it in front of someone, why not get a keepsake afterwards? If you’ve ever wanted nice, erotic pictures or a sexy video of you and your partner together, find an open-minded professional that wouldn’t mind helping you out. The finished products are a lot better than what you’ll get if you do it yourself.

At A Swinger Club

If you really want to get wild (and possibly have a threesome or foursome), a swinger club is the place to go. Swinger clubs sound intimidating, but lots of places allow you to do whatever is comfortable for you – whether it’s watching others only, having others watch you or getting a little more frisky. If you have a swinger club in your area, try it out!

Q&A: Sex Positions For Plus Sizes

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Finding the right sex positions that not only feel great but also work with the body type of both you and your partner can be frustrating. If you or your partner are plus size, you may not get good penetration in some sex positions and others may just be downright impossible. Here are some sex positions that work well for big boned couples, because everyone deserves a satisfying sex life!

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a while now, and we just cant seem to get it to “work,” meaning we can’t quite get a good flow going. With me being a girl, I have trouble getting it to feel really good for an extended period of time. The problem is he is very overweight and I am a mere 120 pounds.

We are only physically capable of doing the girl on top positions, and I have trouble keeping his penis in and when it stays, I have a hard time keeping thrusts going because I have to keep his belly out of the way. Please help us we really want to improve our sexual connection with one another.

–YouTube Viewer

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Doggy Style

Doggy style is a great sex position to try if one or both partners are big boned. If only he is larger, it works well because he can lay his belly on her butt to keep it out of the way and allow for deeper thrusting. If she is also larger than average, it allows her to keep her own belly out of the way during sex. Traditional missionary style sex may be difficult if both partners are larger than average because their genitals don’t always touch when facing each other chest to chest. Doggy style makes penetration and thrusting much, much easier for big boned couples.

Spooning

Spooning is also a great way to overcome difficulty having sex when you’re overweight. The woman will lie in a fetal position, with the knees bent. A pillow can be put under the woman’s hips if it is comfortable. The man will kneel facing the woman and enter her, and for variety, the woman can lift her leg and place it over his shoulder.

T-Square Position

In this sex position, the woman lies on her back with legs spread apart and raised. The man lies with his hips under the arch formed by her raised legs. This allows both partners’ abdomens to be out of the way, allowing the genitals to touch without difficulty.

Try A Love Swing

A love swing – also sometimes called a sex swing – can enable you and your partner to try sex positions you never could before. Because the sex swing holds one partner up, it is easier to do more things than you can if you’re having sex on a surface like a bed or couch. Most sex swings have straps that can suspend one or both legs in different ways, allowing lots of variety for penetration and thrusting. Couples that have larger than average body types will find that g-spot orgasms are easier to achieve using a sex swing, because it holds the body at a variety of angles.

Love Swing Safety

If you do decide to invest in a sex swing, make sure they hold you and your partner’s separate weight limits, and make sure to install it correctly according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Find a sturdy place in the ceiling from which to hang the swing, such as a beam or stud – not sheet rock or drywall.

It’s Not All About Penetration

Sex isn’t all about penetration – if you and your partner have difficulty finding sex positions that are comfortable, learn to please each other in different ways. Oral sex is a great option for big boned couples that have a hard time with intercourse and thrusting. Also, try experimenting with sex toys. You can give your partner pleasure and connect with them sexually in ways other than intercourse. Don’t stress out too much about it if you and your partner can’t have sex easily. You can still have fun together!

Fun Facts

Did you know that overweight men last longer in bed? Researchers in Turkey have finished a year long study which correlates body mass index with male sexual performance. Heavier men were able to make love for an average of 7.3 minutes, while smaller men lasted only an average of 108 seconds. The study showed that overweight men had higher levels of the female hormone estradiol, which blocks male hormones and delays the climax.

Is It Safe For A Pregnant Woman To Have Sex?

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Sex during pregnancy is something lots of men and women wonder about after they have found out they’re going to have a baby. Is intercourse during pregnancy always safe, never safe or sometimes safe? Here’s what you need to know about sex for pregnant women and how to cope if your doctor has instructed you to abstain from sex until the baby is born.

I’d like to say once again that I love your channel and what you guys are trying to do. Well, my friend has gotten his girlfriend pregnant and he feels awkward asking for sex from her. He asked me because I was always that go-to guy for advice, but now I’m stumped. So is it safe for pregnant women to have sex?

–YouTube Viewer

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During The First Trimester

The first trimester of pregnancy – that is, the first three months – the baby is very, very small. In fact, it’s too small to be harmed by even the most wild, vigorous sex. The first month or two, the baby is microscopic and even in the third month, it is only an inch or two long. Sex during this stage of pregnancy is almost always safe, unless your doctor has said otherwise.

However, this is the stage you should be more worried about what goes into the pregnant woman’s body – such as drugs and alcohol. Consuming drugs or alcohol (even smoking cigarettes) during the first trimester can do a lot of damage. Even not getting the proper nutrients during this stage of development can hinder growth and cause problems such as spinal bifida and other malformations.

Too Tired For Sex?

During the first trimester, a lot of women aren’t interested in having sex. The hormones being produced by their bodies make them feel tired and stressed, not to mention that morning sickness usually occurs during this time. And don’t assume that morning sickness happens only in the morning – some women don’t have nausea at all and some feel queasy all day. Don’t pressure your partner if she’s not feeling like having sex – there are plenty of good reasons why.

The Second Trimester

After the first trimester of pregnancy, the nausea begins to subside and a woman may feel like she’s got her “second wind.” She’s probably feeling more like having sex, and may even initiate it with foreplay. This is the part of the pregnancy that you find out the gender of the baby and when she starts to show. But is it still safe even though the baby is getting bigger?

Unless a doctor has told you otherwise, it is perfectly safe to have sex during the second trimester. She may even find it more enjoyable during this time in her life than she ever has before – after all, her genitals are becoming very sensitive now. However, the sex positions that you always use might be more difficult now that the baby is starting to get bigger.

Even though the baby is starting to show, penetration still won’t hurt it because it is surrounded by protective amniotic fluid, the uterus and muscles.

The Third Trimester

This is the trimester in which the baby really starts to put on weight. You’ll notice that your partner is getting bigger and bigger each week, and finding comfortable sex positions is becoming even more difficult. Doggy style is a popular sex position during this stage of pregnancy because it allows the belly to stay out of the way.

As a woman progresses into pregnancy and her body gets ready to give birth, getting busy may actually speed the process along. Once a baby has become “full term,” usually around the 40th week of pregnancy, the hormones in a man’s semen (and the vigorous motion created during penetration) can actually induce labor. It’s also not uncommon for this to happen during the 38th or 39th week of pregnancy.

When Sex During Pregnancy Isn’t Safe

There are going to be times when engaging in sexual activity during pregnancy isn’t safe for the woman or the baby. Usually, this is in the case of very high risk pregnancies. Ask a doctor whether the pregnancy is considered high risk and if it is okay to have sex. Don’t be afraid to get specific and ask which activities and sex positions are safe and which aren’t.

If intercourse becomes painful for a woman during the pregnancy, let the doctor know immediately. Intercourse during pregnancy may be uncomfortable at times, but it shouldn’t be painful. Many guys (and girls) are embarrassed to talk to their doctors about things of a sexual nature, but her obstetrician is going to have the best answers for you on what is safe and what isn’t.

What To Do If You Can’t Have Sex

If your girl is up to it, consider being intimate with each other in ways that don’t include penetration if your doctor has suggested you abstain from intercourse. Many guys are afraid they’re going to be left out if their pregnant partners can’t have sex, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Oral sex is a great way to satisfy her sexually and vice versa. Very rarely, if ever, is oral sex dangerous to a developing fetus.

You can also experiment with sex toys for her that don’t involve penetration, such as vibrators for the clitoris. Anal play can also be an option if she’s into it and her doctor has given the green light on it. Be creative and explore different ways to please each other sexually without engaging in actual intercourse.

If She Doesn’t Want – Or Can’t Do – Anything

If intercourse is out and she just doesn’t want to (or can’t for some reason) try oral sex or any other type of sexual activity, you’re just going to have to bite the bullet on this one. A masturbation sleeve can be your best friend during this time, because you might just have to resort to it more often than you actually get to do it with your partner.

Don’t pressure her for intercourse if she can’t or doesn’t want to. Her body is going through many changes and there’s lots of good reasons that she might not want to engage in any kind of sexual activity at all. Just grab a bottle of lube and take a few minutes to take care of things yourself. Your partner will appreciate not being hounded about having sex when she just doesn’t feel like it.