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Top 10 Best Places To Have Public Sex

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Sex in public is a fantasy that a lot of people have, including both men and women. The thrill of doing it where people might see you, or the fear of getting caught is a huge aphrodisiac for many. Here are some outstanding places to get busy in public and satisfy your urge for voyeurism. Use these ideas to turn the heat up on your sex life, tonight!

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Public Sex Disclaimer

In most places in America (and around the world), having sex in public is illegal. If you get caught, you could get fined or even go to jail. In some countries, the punishment for engaging in sexual acts is much more severe. Be mindful of the laws in your area and act accordingly. Also, be respectful of the people around you. Getting caught by kids is not cool! Explore your sexual fantasies but remember to do so in a responsible way.

In A Wave Pool At A Water Park

Even the most daring couples will have fun in a wave pool at a water park because it’s actually very public. At most water parks, there are a ton of people in the wave pool at any given time. You’ll definitely be in the close proximity of others, but it is possible to have sex in a wave pool without getting caught. Be creative with your timing and go later in the evening, when there is less chance that there will be lots of parents and children around.

On A Virtual Roller Coaster Ride At An Amusement Park

You can’t safely have sex on a real roller coaster, but doing it on a virtual roller coaster ride can be a lot of fun too. You have the small, cozy enclosed space and the up and down motion of the ride to assist in your partner’s penetration and thrusting. It’s also pretty much impossible to get caught if you and your partner have snagged a ride by yourselves, unless there are cameras that monitor the activity inside the ride.

At A Dog Park

Shed your inhibitions and do it doggy style in a dog park like the real dogs do! Pick a bush or tree to hide behind as you and your lover get it on, but beware of getting caught by people and furry friends alike. Also, beware of dog poop. Most people in a dog park are respectful and clean up their pet’s feces with a bag and dispose of it properly, but some don’t and getting dog poop on your body will ruin your sexy fun instantly.

Skinny Dipping At The Lake

Instead having sex with your lover in your tent or car, cool off by stripping your clothes off and going skinny dipping in the lake. Pretty much everyone has sex in the lake, so getting caught is almost a non-issue here. Make sure you’re out of the way of any boats or anyone else and enjoy the weightless feeling the water gives you. This is a great time to try standing sex positions because the water will help hold your partner up!

In A Bed At The Emergency Room

Long wait times will ensure privacy here and if you’ve ever been to the emergency room, you know it could be hours before the doctor comes to see you or sends a nurse for testing and blood work. Take advantage of this time and get busy on the emergency room bed. Just make sure not to try this during a real emergency!

In A Public Park On A Swing Set

A great way to try different sex positions with ease is by using the swing set at a public park. Imagine using the swing to swing your partner in and out of you or swinging together and only using the motion of the equipment to aid your thrusting rather than thrusting with your muscles. This can be an incredible turn on, but try it late at night when there aren’t any kids around. Also, don’t strip down completely – it can be much harder to hide what you’re doing if you do get caught if you and your lover are completely naked.

Also, consider just using the swings for foreplay and head home for the main event. The great feeling of having sex in public will still be there even when you head home, and it’s a lot easier to hide what you’re doing and avoid getting caught if you’re just giving a handjob.

In Santa’s Big Chair At The Mall

This is a great place for a Christmas time romp in public. Malls usually stay open late, and the “Christmas Wonderland” scenes are usually shut down and roped off – meaning no people and no kids. Definitely don’t try this when there are kids around! Hop up in Santa’s chair and have some sensual but risqué sex. And don’t forget to tell Santa what you want for Christmas – and what your naughty fantasies are.

At A Public Gym In The Locker Room

After a great workout when you’re adrenaline is pumping and you’re hot and sweaty, get a little frisky with your lover in the locker room. You can easily get caught here without some planning, so make sure you’re at the gym when there aren’t very many people there. Most locker rooms have private showers in them, and you can sneak your partner in there and close the curtain for some private (yet still public) fun.

In A Phone Booth

This is also a great way to dabble with public sex in a private way. Phone booths are pretty tiny though, so make sure you and your partner can both fit in there to begin with. Also, consider bringing lube with you just to make things go more smoothly. In fact, lube is probably an essential component of public sex period – a little stage fright can definitely affect a woman’s ability to produce adequate sexual lubrication.

In The VIP Area Of A Swank Nightclub

If you can get into the VIP area of a nightclub, their swank sofas and sensual atmosphere is perfect for sex. A blowjob under the table probably won’t get you caught, but full on sex will. If you want to get really wild, consider finding a swinger nightclub that allows that kind of thing. Check out the rules before you go and feel it out before the pants come off.

Q&A: How To Deal With Rumors

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When dating, there is bound to be gossip between mutual friends, especially if you’re younger and in high school and college. While gossip initially doesn’t seem like a big deal, it can definitely get on your nerves and impact your friendships and relationships if there is gossip amongst your friends or family that isn’t true. Here’s how to nip it in the bud, before it gets out of control.

I have a question about dealing with rumors: I met a girl through mutual friends and we instantly hit it off. We’ve been hanging out a lot and now our mutual friends are starting to thing her and I are secretly dating. The problem is, both of us ONLY want to be friends and now these rumors are starting to impact our friendship. We’ve confronted our friends, but they’re not buying it. Any suggestions?

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People Love Good Gossip

People really enjoy a good rumor – to the point where some people may make them up just for their own entertainment. This usually causes drama, which most people enjoy watching – but of course, they don’t want to be involved. Consider the possibility that someone started the gossip intentionally to create drama. Also consider the possibility that it was simply your friends misinterpreting what is really going on in the situation.

Even if someone didn’t start the gossip about you and your friend supposedly dating on purpose, it can still affect you deeply. It can affect your relationships with others, including keeping people who might want to date you from actually asking you out because they heard you were dating someone else. It can also impact the friendship you have with this special person. You may be tempted to end the friendship just to get others to stop thinking you’re dating.

How Rumors Get Spread

Gossip is easy to spread, but difficult to get rid of. If your friend tells you something and you repeat that to someone else, you’ve participated in gossip right there. Because what will happen, is you will get the story twisted just a little bit. Even if you didn’t mean to, you’re going to leave the person you told with a slightly different impression of what your friend actually told you. Once that person tells someone and they tell someone and so on and so on, the idea of what happened is not even close to what actually happened.

Did Your Friends Pick Up On Your Chemistry?

Your friends may have not intended to start gossip at all – in fact, they may have simply noticed that you and your special friend have great chemistry together. Maybe they saw you flirting with each other or just having a great time hanging out together and saw it for what it really was – two great friends with the possibility of something more. Just because you weren’t dating this person at the time the gossip got started, doesn’t mean that there isn’t something there between you two that could evolve into something more. Consider the possibility that your friends picked up on a connection between you two that you have been in the dark about.

Jealousy Can Fuel Gossip

Jealousy is a huge instigator of gossip. People who are feeling jealous may start hearsay just to get under your skin. Perhaps your friends or their friends are jealous because you both have been neglecting your individual friends to hang out together. Another possibility is that a particular friend started the rumor because they wanted to date you – and are upset that you’re spending so much time with this new friend than them. The same applies to your new friend – perhaps one of their friends wanted to date them and are jealous of how much time they’re spending with you.

Let Go Of The Hearsay

Hearsay is just that – hearsay. There’s no reason to hold on to the gossip, because it’s not doing you any good. In fact, it’s probably doing more harm to obsess over what is being said about you and your new friend than it would be to let it go. So just let it go. Learn to disregard what people way about you and your new friendship with this person and just live your live the way you want to. Do what makes you happy and let people say whatever they’re going to say. Remember the saying, “This too shall pass.” The rumors about you dating your new friend will go away eventually and you’ll be left with a great friendship afterwards.

Decide Not To Let It Affect You

The only way that gossip like that will affect you and your new friendship is if you let it. If you let what the other people are saying affect you, it could possibly destroy the relationship. Communicate with your friend and decide together that you’re not going to let the rumors affect what you have together. Also, if you believe your friends are the start of the gossip, have the confidence to let them know that you don’t appreciate them. Let them know the truth and ask them to stop spreading rumors about you. If you’ve asked them once, ask them again. If they’re really your friends, they’ll respect you and stop talking about you behind your back.

10 Best Places To Have Sex And Feel One With Nature

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Sex can sometimes get boring when you’re doing it in the bedroom every time you and your lover want to get busy. Sure, you can do it on the couch or in the shower, but why not take it totally outside the house? Connect with your outdoor surroundings by having sex with your lover in these amazing places.

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In An Outdoor Hot Tub Overlooking The Ski Slopes

Having sex with your lover in a hot tub is incredible – but imagine doing it in a hot tub surrounded by mountains of beautiful, crisp snow. Not only is this a super hot place to have sex with your partner, but it’s also one of the best places if you’re looking for romance. If your hot tub isn’t private, you may have other couples joining you (which may or may not be a bad thing depending on how you look at it), but if you want some privacy, find a hotel with a Jacuzzi on the balcony.

On A Nude Beach (Or Any Beach) At Night

Sex on the beach is amazing – there’s a reason they named a drink after it. It’s a wonderful experience being intimate with your partner while being surrounded by frothy ocean waves and the sea salt in the air. The only downside to this? Sand! And of course, getting caught which is why choosing a nude beach may work in your favor. If your lover isn’t bothered by sand, choose sex positions where they are on the bottom, or try doggy style where only your knees are in the sand. Or, bring a blanket!

Inside A Butterfly House

This is a very romantic place to have sex and connect with nature. You’re surrounded by flowers and thousands of butterflies – girls love this! Aside from being careful not to get caught, you also want to be very mindful of what is around you. You don’t want to go destroying the habitat of the butterflies! Find a spot where you’re not likely to disturb anything and get it on. If you think you have time for foreplay before anyone heads your way, go for it! In fact, this may be a place where foreplay is better than actually doing it.

In A Canoe In The Middle Of The Lake Under The Stars At Night

Everyone has sex at the lake – that’s just what happens! But you can put a new spin on this by actually doing it in a canoe in the middle of the lake. The experience of the water rocking underneath you is wonderful! Finding different sex positions to use in a canoe can be a little difficult, so try using an air mattress instead if the canoe just isn’t your thing. Don’t tip it over and fall off, and remember to hug the shore so you don’t end up in the path of a large boat or jet ski.

In An Underground Cave

This place provides you with a private, dark and cozy place to connect with the Earth and your lover. One of the great things about an underground cave is that while it is outdoors, it is also very private and the risk of getting caught here is minimal at best. Avoid caverns that are known to have bears and make sure to dress warm or bring a nice, thick blanket because underground caves and caverns can get downright chilly!

In A Field Of Pure, White Snow

Find a large field of pure, white snow that has been undisturbed. You can usually find one just after it snows, in the early hours of the morning before anyone has bothered the area. Being in a field of snow really dampens the sound around you, so it’s a great place if you’re looking to have sex somewhere amazingly peaceful. Oral sex can be great here, because the experience of the cold snow in conjunction with your partner’s hot mouth is incredible.

In A Field Of Daisies

This is a very sweet, romantic place to have sex with your partner. Girls love flowers, so having sex in a field full of them is an experience she will never forget. However, if you or your partner have bad allergies or are allergic to daisies or bees, this probably isn’t the best place to go for really great sex. Who wants to sneeze ten times during a blowjob?

At The Top Of The Grand Canyon

While this isn’t as cozy as having sex at the bottom of the Grand Canyon, it does provide for some amazing views. This is even better at sunset, when the golden rays of the sun are caressing you and your lover’s sweat kissed skin as you enjoy making love in a place that is absolutely breathtaking.

In A Fragrant Flower Garden

Instead of giving your partner a bouquet of flowers, up the romance by taking her to a huge flower garden and laying her naked body across the soft, sweet smelling flower petals. She will never want it to end! Not only will the sex be amazing, you’ll also get big brownie points for the romance factor. Be careful of thorns though – don’t have sex in the rosebushes.

If you really like the idea of having sex on a bed of flower petals, prep the area first by laying out hundreds of petals in place that doesn’t have any thorns – or just do this in your bedroom. You can almost always get flower petals at a discount from florists – they bag up the ones that fall off the flowers and sell them for much less than they sell the actual flowers. Just use lots of petals – the effect is lost if there’s only a few.

Under A Natural Waterfall

This is a super sexy place to get it on with your lover because the sound and feel of the rushing water creates a feeling of power and lust that is unmatched by any other place. Since you pretty much won’t be able to hear anything besides the water, you’re going on feeling alone and that can be incredibly sensual.

Little Everyday Things that Keep Romance Alive

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Romance tends to fade in long term relationships and once you’ve been together for awhile, it can be easy to assume that your mate knows just how much you love them. As you settle into a more routine state of couple-hood, however, you may find that some of the romance and excitement has faded.

It’s important to make sure that you make an effort express your love and affection for your significant other on a regular basis. Keeping the passion of your early relationship going doesn’t require a big production, either. There are easy everyday gestures that you can make that will let your partner know just exactly how much you love them.

Love Is A Basic Human Need

As human beings, we all need to feel loved and cared for. The mere act of doing someone a favor without their having to ask can show just how much you feel for them. There are all sorts of simple favors you can perform on any given day. If your S.O. typically takes their lunch to work, wake up ten minutes early and make it for them every once and awhile.

Volunteer to take over their half of the chores when you know they’ve had a particularly bad week. If you don’t live together, offer to come over and make them dinner or clean their place, instead. These small gestures are thoughtful and truly helpful, and your girlfriend or boyfriend will find them incredibly sweet.

Little Things Make It Romantic

Doing things without any major motive is also a way to bring romance into your relationship. Bringing over flowers just for the heck of it, or serving up breakfast in bed on a Saturday morning, are two classic examples. There are other great random acts, too. There are lots of opportunities to surprise your partner with inexpensive but thoughtful little gifts.

While you’re out grocery shopping, pick up your mate’s favorite candy bar or snack. Bring over a bottle of champagne or sparkling wine to add an extra air of romance to a typical evening in. Did your S.O. recently mention in passing how much they loved eating chocolate chip cookies as a kid? Surprise them with a homemade batch courtesy of yours truly.

Don’t Forget Physical Intimacy

Of course, love also has its physical side. Making sure to kiss and hug everyday is very meaningful. Even if it’s just a quick peck goodbye in the morning, it helps to keep you physically connected. If you see your S.O. sitting around looking stressed out, walk over and give them a five minute shoulder rub and a kiss on the cheek. When you’re watching TV or a movie, sit side by side and hold hands or cuddle. If you feel like sneaking a kiss or two during the commercial break, and that leads to more, then more power to you. The important thing is to keep up regular physical contact. You’ll both be happier for it.

Saying, “I Love You”

There is another simple way to remind your partner of how much you love them. Just tell them. Say it every night before bed or every morning before you leave for work. Say it right before you hang up on the phone or type it at the end of your text. The phrase “I love you” can be reassuring, romantic—even sexy. No matter when or how you say it, make sure that you do. It’s important to put that little daily reminder across to your S.O., so they’ll always know how you feel about them. Combine these words with the other aforementioned thoughtful gestures, and everyday will have an air of romance about it.

I’m A Teenage Macrophile – What If It Gets Out?

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BDSM and sexual fetishes are things you might not want some people in your life (or anyone) knowing about you. This can be difficult if your fetish often involves using websites for art and interaction with other people – like with Macrophilia. Posting on BDSM and fetish forums can be fun, but protecting your identity is important. Here’s how to do that – and how to handle it if your secret gets out.

I am scared because I have been a macrophile all my young life. And I submit cute Macrophile pictures on a public art website. But more of my peers are joining the site and they know my user name. My close friends know and are fine with it, but some people I don’t trust also know! the teens at my school are evil in general and would go crazy if they found out! what should I do!?

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What Is Macrophilia?

Macrophilia is a sexual fetish involving big, giant things. Most often, this is in the form of giant women, however, macrophilia can also involve giant breasts or penises. This fetish is most often expressed through art and anime. While some people may consider this type of sexual interest “weird” or “strange,” there’s really nothing wrong with it as long as it involves consenting adults only and doesn’t hurt anyone.

Sharing Your Interests Makes You Vulnerable To Outside Judgement

While sharing your sexual interests with others who like the same things you do automatically makes you vulnerable to outside judgement. That’s the risk you take by opening yourself up to other people when it involves your fetishes. It doesn’t matter how old you are – whether you’re a young teenager or an older adult – if you put yourself out there like that, you risk getting judged by other people who are uncomfortable with your fetish. It also doesn’t matter what you like – even if it’s just enjoying sex toys – there is bound to be someone or somewhere that will disagree with your interests.

This means that it is often easier to be very discreet about who you share your personal interests with, especially interests of a sexual nature. Instead of subjecting yourself to public ridicule and judgement from other people who likely have interests of their own that other people would also call strange, being discreet and private in the online community will benefit you much, much more. If you stay anonymous, you are able to enjoy your fantasies rather than being worried someone you know will find you and make fun of you publicly.

Keeping your private life private doesn’t suggest what you’re doing is wrong. It just means that you’re aware that people aren’t always accepting of others and may not be understanding about what you like and find erotic. You’re simply just making things easier on yourself.

How To Be Discreet

In the online community – especially with BDSM and fetish forums – it is easy to be anonymous. Your username can be something totally unrelated to you and you can choose not to share your email address with others in the forum. This makes sure that no one from your real life persona can tie you to your online persona.

Be careful not to make references in your posts or anything that you do online to your real persona or your real life. Don’t talk about people you really know or things that happened to you. Keep your real life and your online personality completely, 100% separate. When you have a completely private profile, you can freely express your opinions and talk about what is important to you without fearing the backlash you would get if someone you know in real life found out.

What To Do If The Cat Gets Out Of The Bag

If someone you know in real life does find out about your secret fetish, it can get pretty complicated. Your first thought might be that you’re embarrassed and if you’re a teenager, you may be worried that someone in your school will start making fun of you publicly in front of your peers.

Talk to someone neutral, that has the ability to be objective about the situation and what your interests are, such as a guidance counselor, a therapist or a very trusted friend. If you’re in school, a guidance counselor or a teacher may be able to help keep you safe from bullying.

Remember that there’s nothing wrong with having sexual likes that are different from everyone else’s. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s nothing wrong with it at all. You may have to learn to let the fact that others aren’t going to accept your fetish or fantasy and just get on with your life!