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5 Ways Exercise Can Improve Your Sex Life

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Sex is a very physical activity – there’s no doubt about that. Great sex will leave the sheets soaked with sweat, and even mediocre sex will leave you and your partner both out of breath if you’re not healthy and fit. If you’re not in shape, sex can definitely become lackluster and not just because you don’t feel confident about the way you look naked. Being physically ready for great sex will help you have sex that rocks your world. Check out these moves that will get your body ready for amazing sex.

Abdominal Workouts

Some of the most used muscles during sex are the abdominal muscles. They’re used for penetration and thrusting, they’re used for hip gyrating and strong abs can be extremely helpful when it comes to trying some of the more awkward sex positions. Strengthen your ab muscles by doing simple sit ups – as long as you’re doing them the right way.

Sit ups don’t have to involve you actually sitting all the way up. In fact, you can strengthen your abs by just lifting your shoulders off the floor – enough to tighten those muscles. Hold for a few seconds before resting your shoulders back on the floor and repeat. Do three sets of 10-15 sit ups three times a week for stronger ab muscles.

Another move for the lower abs involves assuming the same position as you would if you were doing a sit up and lifting your legs instead, using your lower ab muscles only. It might take a few tries to learn how to isolate the muscles you’re wanting to use (you want to feel the “burn” in your lower stomach, not your thighs), but these are the muscles that are going to be responsible for the majority of your hip movements.

Thigh Workouts

Both men and women can benefit from doing thigh workouts to enhance sexual stamina and performance. The thighs are used primarily during thrusting, and people with poor muscle tone in their thighs won’t be able to thrust for very long in bed, making sex shorter. A lot of men may mistake having a reduced libido with simply not being in good enough physical shape to continue thrusting for extended periods of time.

Simple squats can take care of this. Start without weight, and then add small amounts of weight as you get stronger. You don’t have to do this in a gym either – squats at home will work too. You can add weight by using cans of vegetables for the lighter weights and bags of sugar or flour for heavier weights. Just use your imagination! Three sets of 8-10 to start out with a few times a week is sufficient, but when you’re ready to step up your game, you can add repetitions.

Flexibility Training

Of course, to get into some of the more interesting sex positions, you need to be flexible. Flexibility is something that people have a lot of when they’re younger, and then they lose it as they get older. You can get your flexibility back, however, by doing stretching and training your body to stretch further and further each time.

Women can begin by practicing stretching their legs upwards while lying down, bringing the tops of their thighs and knees towards their shoulders. This helps stretch the tendons in the back of the thighs, allowing a woman to get her legs up farther when she’s beneath her man during sex or when he’s performing oral sex on her. Another great stretching move is actually simply learning to touch your toes in a sitting position. This helps a woman’s legs become even more flexible, allowing her to use them differently with different sex positions.

When stretching, simply practice a little each day, pushing yourself as far as you can go without experiencing a lot of pain (a little burn is normal). After several stretching sessions, you’ll notice that you can stretch a little farther each time.

Cardio Exercises

Cardio training is probably the cornerstone of getting your body ready for sex. Many people who don’t have a lot of stamina will get out of breath easily when having sex, especially if it involves more vigorous thrusting. If you want to last longer in bed, practice getting your heart rate up and keeping it there for a short period of time. You can do this with fast walking or jogging, or you can use a treadmill or elliptical machine at the gym.

Start small, with five to ten minute bursts of heart-racing activity. When you stop getting out of breath as much and your heart doesn’t beat quite as hard, it’s time to add another minute or two. After just a week or two of cardio a few times a week, you’ll notice a huge difference in your ability to have sex longer with your partner.

Safety

Of course, before beginning any fitness program (for better sex or otherwise), it’s important to consult your doctor first, especially if you have muscle or joint problems or any kind of heart condition. When doing these moves, make sure to listen to your body and stop if you become extremely uncomfortable, dizzy or are too out of breath.

How To Make Her Fantasize About You In 3 Easy Steps

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Sex of all kinds is fun, but it takes some fantasizing to really get into truly great, awesome sex. To have the kind of sex that will make your toes curl and your knees go weak (for both you and your partner), you have to get your girl to start thinking about you sexually. Instead of fantasizing about guys that aren’t you, you need to get your girl to create a fantasy with you in it by being your woman’s ultimate dream guy. Here’s how.

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Fantasy Is Crucial To Great Sex

The physical aspect of sex certainly feels fantastic, but that’s not all there is when it comes to getting busy with your lover. Fantasies are incredibly important to sex that is out of this world, especially from a woman’s perspective. A guy can simply have intercourse and completely enjoy it for what it is, while a woman’s mind must be involved for your partner to even become sexually aroused in the first place.

By getting your lover to start having fantasies with you as the main subject, you’re getting the mind and imagination working. Stimulating your lover’s imagination is crucial to getting your partner to enjoy sex (and to really let go of inhibitions so YOU can enjoy it too) and it’s extremely difficult to get a woman turned on without getting the imagination involved first. If she’s using you to fuel sex fantasies, she’s halfway turned on before you ever hit the sheets.

Foreplay Isn’t Just Physical

Foreplay isn’t just about giving your partner oral sex or kissing them passionately. A huge part of foreplay before sex is the anticipation, the excitement and the fantasies about what is going to happen. That’s actually what makes having sex with someone new so awesome – you’re excited about it and the anticipation is sometimes better than the actual sex itself.

Step 1: Become Your Partner’s Fantasy

Start by finding out what kind of guy really trips your lover’s trigger. Does she love the idea of a police officer, who can assert his authority? Or does she like the idea of a different kind of man in uniform, such as a mechanic or a handyman? Find out whatever your girl’s fantasy is and develop a separate sexual persona that involves some kind of role play with the type of man that really gets your partner off.

Doing this will make it much easier for your girl to think of you sexually if she can see you in the role that she’s already attracted to. Essentially, you are becoming the man of your woman’s fantasies.

Step 2: Get A Great Body

A lot of people may think that focusing too much on physical appearance is shallow, but having a great body is actually incredibly important if you want your girl to think about having sex with you. The reality is, you care about how you look, she cares about how she looks and you both care about how you look to each other.

Having a great body will also make you feel much more confident about the way you look. You’ll be able to let go of your inhibitions more easily, and feel more confident when your partner looks at you in all of your naked glory. Being in great physical shape also gives you more energy and stamina to last longer in bed! Feeling great about the way you look and feeling strong and healthy on the inside will make sex that much more pleasurable and it’s simply just a better quality of life.

Step 3: Master The Skill Of Dirty Talk

Understanding how to get your partner aroused is an important part of getting her to think of you. Since a woman gets aroused with the mind first, work on mastering the skill of dirty talk. Dirty talk is like an “on” switch to the part of your woman’s brain that processes sex and even a few simple phrases such as, “I can’t wait until you get home tonight” or “You’ll never guess what I’m going to do to you as soon as I get my hands on you.”

What you’re doing here is turning the switch on and then leaving your partner to imagine what you’re going to do until you actually get to do it. You’ll also want to master the skill of emotional talk, such as telling your lover how she steals your breath when she walks into the room or how much you love the fact that she’s yours and only yours…to do with what you please. Be creative and come up with phrases that will really get your girl thinking – of YOU!

6 Sex Misconceptions – Rules That Were Meant To Be Broken

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Sex includes many unspoken guidelines that supposedly dictate what can or can’t be done in or outside the bedroom. However, sex can get boring fast that way. There are many myths about sex – in fact, some of these “guidelines” for sex can definitely go to the wayside. Break these so-called guidelines and spice up your sex life tonight!

Myth #1 – Men Don’t Like Giving Oral Sex

It’s a common myth that men enjoy getting a blowjob, but they don’t exactly like to return the favor. This myth originates from the “I don’t feel so fresh” ads from long ago, where women got a bad rap for having a smell – of any kind – down there. The truth is, some guys don’t like going down on a girl – but most of them actually do. Women are terrified they don’t smell right, even if it’s just the natural scent of their bodies. Don’t worry about it and let your man blow your mind with his tongue.

Myth #2 – You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date

Sex on the first date has long been a “faux pas.” You’re supposed to wait until at least the third date, right? This is an old rule that should definitely be broken – that is, if you have the opportunity to be on a date with someone who so totally rocks your world that you can’t wait to get your hands on his clothes and rip them off. In that case, why not? If you and your date are both consenting adults and have discussed safe sex, seriously – why not?

Myth #3 – Sex Should Be Serious

Yes, all the sex scenes in the movies make us feel as though our sex lives are nowhere near as enthralling, but come on – who hasn’t passed gas on accident while getting it on after burritos and margaritas for dinner? Come on! Sex is fun, and it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. If you accidentally make an idiot out of yourself, get stuck in a not-so-flattering sex position, or get interrupted by a call from the in-laws, laugh it off and go back to doing whatever you were doing before. Your mate will love your good sense of humor and the ability to roll with the punches.

Myth #4 – You Have To Have An Orgasm Every Time

Pretty much every woman has been in the situation where she’s not in the mood, but he can’t keep his hands off her. Many women will give in and give their guy some lovin’, but they’ll end up faking their orgasm so he thinks she’s satisfied. Hold up – it’s totally okay not to have an orgasm every time you have sex with your man. It’s okay to put out just for him, because he’ll get yours next time. What isn’t okay is letting your guy believe that whatever he did to give you the big “O” is what he needs to do every time…and the only person that suffers in that situation is you.

Myth #5 – If You’re Great In Bed, You’re Great With Everyone

A lot of people believe that if you’re really great in bed, you can rock anyone’s world. But everyone has a different idea of what great sex is and what it isn’t. Everyone likes something different between the sheets, and you can’t please everyone. Truth is, you can be really great at sex with one person and give them multiple orgasms in a single sex session, and the next person you sleep with, you can totally bomb out and wonder what the hell happened to your mad skills. If you’re in a relationship, focus on being the best for that person. If you’re single, just have fun!

Myth #6 – If He Cheated, He Doesn’t Care About You

Men have gotten a bad rap for being notorious cheaters. In fact, rumor has it that most men who cheat on their partners do it because they just don’t love them anymore. Right? Wrong! If your man cheats on you, chances are, he didn’t mean to. Ask him. He may have been drunk and in a compromising situation, where a woman was all over him and wouldn’t leave him alone. Or he may have thought he wanted something and then realized it was a very, very big mistake. Cheating is not the end of the road ladies, unless you’re absolutely sure that’s what you want. He may still love you and want to be with you – talk it through and ask him why. You might be surprised at what you hear.

Crazy Things Women Do For Adult Films

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Porn actresses have great bodies and have squeaky clean anal sex – but how do they get it? Are their vaginas just naturally the perfect shade of pink, with tiny, delicate looking labia? Truth is, women in the porn industry do a lot to their bodies to get them looking just right, especially for close ups. Check out the intense things porn stars do to get ready for the camera.

Anal Bleaching

Yes, you heard that right. Many adult film actresses have been known to have their anuses bleached, particularly right before a big anal sex or analingus scene. This is so the puckered skin around the anus appears lighter and less “brown,” making the anus look cleaner and more appealing on camera. Women can have this done at salons who offer this service, or a special cream can be purchased and applied in the privacy of the home. Anal bleaching is relatively safe, however, creams and bleaches should not be used if the anal area is inflamed or irritated in any way.

Brazilian Waxing

Women that you see in porn flicks are almost always perfectly smooth and hairless down there. If you’ve ever shaved your pubic region before, you know that you rarely – if ever – get a shave that close. The truth is, most porn stars get their privates waxed. This is called a Brazilian wax and usually involves taking off all the hair in the groin area, in between and around the labia and around the anus. This gives a silky smooth appearance, but can be quite painful.

Nipple Tinting

While photo and video editing software can be used to give the nipples that “rosy pink flush” that looks so great on film after the fact, many actresses in porn still use lip and cheek tints to give their nipples a more pink appearance in the flesh. This makes it look as though the woman is much more aroused than she really is. For this same reason, ice is often used on the nipples in between takes to make them pucker up and stand erect.

Labia Tinting

Lip and cheek tints can also be used on the labia area to make them look more pink and flushed, as though the woman is incredibly turned on and her genitals are swollen with arousal. Special tints for the vaginal area also exist, but are generally more expensive. If you’ve ever wondered why a porn star’s labia are so pink and fresh looking, it’s most likely because they’ve applied some kind of labia tint before the camera started rolling.

Enemas And Laxatives

Those anal sex scenes can be tough, because unless it’s a fetish video, fecal matter is a “no-no” on set. Most porn actresses will give themselves an enema beforehand, rinsing their colons completely clear of any matter whatsoever. Others will use laxatives to clean themselves out so they don’t have any accidents on screen. This gives couples engaging in anal sex on their own think that it’s going to be a perfectly clean activity – when in reality, if the woman hasn’t prepared herself beforehand, it can actually get pretty messy.

Extreme Dieting

Many girls in the adult film industry will end up dieting to the extreme just to make their bodies appear thinner on screen, but extreme dieting is also used when an anal sex scene is to be filmed, in conjunction with enemas or laxatives. Women in porn have been known to starve themselves up to twenty four hours to prepare for a scene, just to make sure that the anal play ends up squeaky clean. On the other hand, women in “golden shower” fetish videos will take in an excess of liquids to make sure she has enough urine for the many different takes that will be filmed.

Labiaplasty And Breast Augmentation

It’s pretty obvious that a large number of women in the adult film industry have gotten a boob job. You can tell by the way their breasts barely move as they’re getting pounded on screen, and the way the skin of their breasts look stretched tight over their too large implants. However, you might not be able to tell that many women in the industry have also gotten labiaplasties.

These surgeries involve shortening the labia so they look smaller and more dainty, giving the vagina an overall tinier and tighter appearance. This gives the illusion and creates the misconception that vaginas should look perfect to be considered attractive, when in reality, vaginas are all shapes, sizes and colors!

How To Cope With Unrequited Love

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Love – the unrequited kind – is something most of us have experienced at some point in our lives. You fall in love with someone, they don’t return your feelings, and you just can’t seem to let go. Logic would dictate that you shouldn’t care for someone who doesn’t care for you, but you’re so lovesick that logic no longer matters.

So how can you get over your heart break and your lingering feelings? You owe it to yourself to move forward. It’s important, not least of all because you might miss out on the person you should really be with while you’re mooning over the wrong guy or girl.

People You Can’t Pursue A Relationship With

It can be pretty difficult to see the forest for the trees when you’re head over hills for someone. When that individual doesn’t love you back, however, you need to have a reality check with yourself. Sometimes there are obvious reasons why you shouldn’t pursue a relationship with someone. No matter how attracted you are to them, if the object of your affection is married or in a happy relationship, you need to back down and look elsewhere.

If the person is your boss, your direct report, your current teacher or student, it’s inappropriate to pursue them until you no longer work together directly. When there are overt roadblocks like these, it can be easier to convince yourself to move on. But sometimes the only reason to move forward is because your crush just wants to be friends. Worse, maybe they don’t want anything to do with you at all. In either case, it’s in your best interest to spend a decent amount of time away from this person while focusing on your own happiness.

How To Deal With Rejection

You need to harness optimism in this situation, but it needs to be the healthy and not harmful kind. Move away from wishful thinking regarding the guy or girl who rejected you. There’s no point daydreaming that your married flame will suddenly leave their spouse for you, or that they’ll wake up one morning and realize they actually are in love with you.

Harness that source of hope inside yourself and direct it toward better things. Don’t sit at home and sulk night after night. Instead, enlist the help of your friends to make sure you get out of the house and have some fun. Don’t waste your time looking forward to an impossible relationship. Look forward to your fun weekend plans, to your morning run, or to completing that big project at work. Relegate thinking about love to the background for now, and you’ll find you’re able to take a step or two forward.

Moving On

The most important reason to move on is that there truly are other fish in the sea to date. If you’re busy fixating on one person, you’re missing all the other people out there who could easily be a better fit for you. If you’re out in the world enjoying yourself, you just might bump into Mr. or Ms. Right, and then you won’t give a flip about Mr. or Ms. Rejection anymore. So don’t close yourself off to the world, and don’t cling to false hope.

Instead, embrace the knowledge that there could be someone else out there a thousand times more perfect for you. Go out and live your life to the fullest, and you just might find them when you least expect it. There is no point in puppy dogging around after a lost cause. If they don’t see the value in being with you, they’re not worth it anyway.