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Sexting: Secret Conversation While In The Same Room

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Sexting is a super hot way to stay in touch with your girl when you’re not together, but can you use it to entice your lover while you’re in the very same place together? You bet! Having a private talk with your partner when you’re just a few feet away from them (especially if you’re doing something else entirely) is incredibly hot and will have your girl melting in minutes. Here’s how to do it:

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Sexting – A Secret Conversation Between You And Your Lover

Having a special talk between you and your partner that no one else knows about is an incredible way to turn your partner on. If you’ve used sexting before to get her hot and had success with it, it will make this technique even better. She’ll be least expecting a naughty message from you describing how you would give her oral sex (in detail) while she’s sitting across from you. This is an excellent way to make a boring meeting suddenly hot and steamy.

Sexting In Inappropriate Places

The best way to use this technique is to do it while you and your partner are together in a place where PDA or public sex would be completely and utterly inappropriate. If you’re sitting across from each other in an area where nobody else is around, you’re not going to be able to have very much fun with it. But if you’re somewhere that being a little risqué would be considered taboo, the heat is on. For example, if you are together at a meeting, at a party or during dinner with friends. You can make this technique even steamier by doing it while you and your partner are engaged in a conversation with other people.

Why This Is So Hot

The fact that you’re near her while having this secret chat but can’t act on what you’re saying or how you feel is what is so powerful about sexting while you’re in the same vicinity together. There are lots of different things you can say to your lover to create an amazing level of heat between the two of you, and the right texts will get her imagination going and keep it going all day – or at least until she can get her hands on you and start ripping your clothes off!

What To Say

The use of sensual language while you’re sexting your partner is probably the most important aspect of this technique (and any sexting technique, really). Sensual language is what is going to unlock her sexual desire and get her imagining doing very, very naughty things with you. For example, if you simply say “I want to do you,” you’re not going to evoke a response from her in the least. However, if you change your language a little bit and say, “You look so incredibly sexy over there, my erection is straining against my jeans just looking at you. I can’t wait to get home and do you,” you’re going to get her turned on pretty much instantly. A secret sexting chat in the same vicinity might go something like this:

Example 1:

You say: “Stop it….” or “Stop it ;)”

She says: “Stop what? ”

You say: “Stop distracting me…I keep getting fixated on the curve of your neck and the way your ass looks in that dress.”

She responds: “Really?”

You say: “If I could right now, I would…”

She says: “Would what?”

You say: “Push you down on that table over there…kiss my way down your back…drag your panties down your legs and take you right here in front of everyone.”

She says: “Hmmm…would you really?”

You respond: “Do you have any idea how sexy you are?”

She says: “I’m starting to….”

You can really build on this and change it up to suit where you are with your lover or what you’re doing at that point in time. Having a chat like this with your lover is almost like a personalized, live and interactive erotic novel or a porn that your partner can participate in and that is completely private and just between the two of you!

Dirty Talk

Dirty talk can be incorporated into sexting very easily and is part of using exciting, sexual language to evoke your lover’s emotions. Use words like, “hot, wet, clitoris, need, desire, sexy, lick, touch, etc.” The right kind of language will have your lover melting before you can even get her home and take her clothes off!

How To Avoid The Biggest Mistake Almost All Men Make In Bed

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You can read hundreds of sex tips a day and still make this blunder – almost all guys do. No matter how great a guy may think he is in the sack, he’s probably still making this incredibly simple to avoid but still common mistake. Are you guilty? Here’s what every guy should avoid in bed if he wants to have amazing sex and why.

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Almost All Men Trying To Be Good In Bed Make This Simple Mistake

There is one simple slipup that almost all men make in the sack, and they don’t even really know what it is or why they do it! Most guys are completely oblivious to this blunder, because very few technique books talk about it. Even guys that are seasoned in the sex department will get caught doing this, and they’ll do it over and over again because they’re just not seeing it as a problem – because it doesn’t easily point itself out. Both men that are new to having sex and those who consider themselves Casanovas in the sack can be guilty of doing this, without realizing that they’re actually sabotaging themselves:

Problem: Trying Too Hard To Put On A Good “Performance” And Forgetting To Enjoy It

The problem that a lot of guys have when they get down and dirty with a woman is focusing too hard on putting on a good performance. Many men start looking to advice books and websites that give them pointers on how to pleasure a girl, but sometimes this can actually do more harm than good. Guys can become so focused on technique – like exactly how to perform oral sex or what sex positions are the best for g-spot penetration – that they forget to actually enjoy the simple act of having sex!

Why Is This Bad?

When you struggle to put on a good show when you’re in bed with your partner, you’re forgetting to enjoy it and you’re also forgetting to make sure that your partner enjoys it too. Being too focused on technique can cause you to become more withdrawn from the emotional aspect of having sex, which is pretty much the exact opposite of what women want their guy to do. Almost all women want to become more emotionally involved in sex, rather than less.

Remember when you and your current flame first started having sex, weay back at the beginning of your relationship? Remember how great it was? This was because you were less focused on the “how to” aspect of doing it and completely absorbed in the experience of having it with someone new.

How To Fix It

There’s an easy way to fix this problem and make you and your partner feel more connected to each other during sex. Commit to using no “techniques” for a month straight, and focus only on enjoying the experience of having sex. This is much like first time sex, when you nor your partner really know what you’re doing and you’re just going with the flow. You can re-create that by going with the flow now, and forgoing trying to perform certain techniques or use certain sex positions.

Instead, just do what feels good and encourage your partner to do the same. After you’ve spent a month just enjoying the experience of having sex with your lover, then you can bring back in the techniques and use them to make it better. You’ll be more apt to know which technique to use at what time, because you’ll be more in tune and connected with your lover. Even the best sex tips just won’t work until you’ve built that foundation of learning to have sex and enjoy the experience with your partner without all the fancy stuff.

Use This Anytime You Need To Spice Up Your Sex Life

If making love with your partner starts to get boring again, repeat the above steps to bring the fire back into your sex life. Going a month without using any kind of special sex tips isn’t something that will just benefit your sexual relationship with your partner once, it can be used again and again to add a “fresh” feeling to it when it gets boring or mundane over time.

You can also try taking a break from sex all together for a few weeks or even a month. That saying that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” also works with your groins too! Watch how just taking a break from using special techniques or from it all together will make your sex life explode!

Dating Tips: How To Keep A Group Date From Becoming A Total Disaster

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While dating is typically only about you and your significant other, there are times when you’ll end up heading out with other couples. Group dates can be highly enjoyable, especially when you’re with a group of mutual friends and have fun plans. They can also go horribly awry—the more people involved, the higher the chance that someone’s not having a good time. Before you and your S.O. accept an invitation to a group date, make sure to think over a few important points.

Who To Invite

First and foremost, you need to consider who all is going to be heading out together on the date. How well do you know everyone? Is there a person whom you or your partner find particularly difficult to spend time with? If you learn that someone you really don’t enjoy being around will be there, you may want to skip this particular group date. If you don’t know one or two of the people who are coming along, you should try to find out more about them from your other friends.

It’s best to go into a group date situation knowing at least a little about everyone involved. It will make conversations easier and rule out the element of the unknown. It’s important to avoid group dates with another couple that’s volatile—you don’t want someone else’s fighting to cause drama in your own relationship. Plus, even if their fighting doesn’t spread to you, they’ll make your whole date a downer. It’s also important to consider how many couples should go out together on the date.

The more people you add to the mix, the higher the odds of someone having a bad time and bringing the rest of the group down. You may have a lot more fun having dinner with one other couple that you both like than two or three other couples you don’t know very well.

What To Do

Once you know that you’ve got a fun group lined up to hang out, you’ll need to consider what kind of activity works well for a group date. Sporty activities like bowling, a game of softball, or a round of mini golf can be fun with a group. However, if one or two of your friends is hyper-competitive, or you know a few people really don’t like sports, it’s worth planning something else.

It’s key to make sure that you find something everyone will enjoy, otherwise you might find one or two people in the group are moping around. If not everyone in the group already knows each other, you might want to do something that will provide you with a talking point. Go to a movie or show and then have drinks afterward, that way you’ll all have something to discuss. That also lets everyone relax for the first part of the night, since you can’t really talk during a film or performance.

Group dates can also be a good way for you to introduce your significant other to your friends, or vice versa. If everyone’s having a great time, your friends will probably appreciate your new boyfriend or girlfriend even more. That’s part of why it’s important to pick out an activity that will be fun for everyone involved.

Why Group Dates Can Be Fun

While you should still spend most of your dating time one-on-one with your significant other, having a group date every now and again is a great idea. It helps you connect with your friends and your boyfriend or girlfriend at the same time, and it adds some variety to your dating plans. It can be a really good way to get out of a rut. Even if a group date goes horribly wrong, you might still get something good out of it. Sometimes just seeing another couple have a meltdown can make you realize just how good you’ve got it in your own relationship!

How To Have Amazing Sex – Tonight!

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The best sex advice is that sex doesn’t have to be boring – but it’s easy to get in a rut, especially when you’ve been in a relationship with someone for quite some time. But it doesn’t have to be blase – in fact, it can be completely and utterly amazing by doing just a few simple things to change up your routine a little. Check out these suggestions and start getting busy – right now!

Stop Waiting For The Right Time

Couples who have been together for awhile are no stranger to the quickie. However, when one or both partners start becoming disenchanted with sex, they may start waiting for the “perfect” time to have sex – you know, the moment when everything just clicks, you and your partner are both horny as hell and you’re both super into it.

While the “right time” may have happened more during the beginning of your relationship, it’s natural for this to taper off as day to day life gets in the way. Who’s going to be horny and want it at 9:00 at night after working all day, cooking dinner and doing homework and baths for the kids?

Instead of waiting for the “right time” to do it with your partner, just do it. Commit to sex one night, even if you’re both tired or you’d both rather be watching a movie or sleeping. You may even need to schedule it like you would schedule a date. By doing this, you’re actually giving yourself the opportunity for sex that is great because chances are, you and your partner will both get into it after things get started. If you just wait for it to happen the right way, you’ll never get busy.

Set Up A Date For Sex – During “That” Time Of The Month

Actually, not the time of the month you’re probably thinking about. Studies show that women are most receptive to sex during their ovulation time – about fourteen days after the first day of a woman’s period. During this time, women feel super sexy and confident, and may start masturbating more or making advances on their partner. In fact, studies also show that women double their chances of having an orgasm when they’re ovulating as well.

Set up a date for sex during your ovulation period. Plan for a babysitter, buy some candles and head out for a romantic dinner. Do whatever you need to do to make that night special. Planning for time in between the sheets with your partner when you’re at your sexual peak means that you’re pretty much guaranteed an incredible night with sex that is out of this world.

Just remember that you’re also more fertile during your ovulation period – so use condoms or birth control if you’re not planning to get pregnant.

Get Emotionally Close To Your Partner

One reason that couples who are in a relationship stop having great sex together because they’re arguing often, or they feel like they’re just not that emotionally close with their lover anymore. If a woman doesn’t feel emotionally and spiritually connected to her partner, she’s not going to be able to let go of her inhibitions and enjoy sex.

Plan a date where you and your partner can get away from it all and just reconnect. This doesn’t mean going to the movies or sitting in a loud, crowded bar. Plan a date that allows you and your lover to really talk – like going hiking together or having a picnic in the park. Heck, you can even have a picnic in your backyard. Ask each other the basic questions all over again (like what your favorite food or color is) because you’d be surprised at how even couples who have been together for years can forget the basic stuff that makes their lover who they are.

Get Kinky

Having plain, vanilla sex? Exchange it for trying a few new moves in the bedroom. Add a little kink by trying out some light bondage or blindfolding, or simply try a couple new sex positions next time you get busy. When couples start to know exactly what to expect during sex (because it’s been the same thing the last twenty times), it can get pretty boring.

Instead, try new things that are just a little outside of your box. You don’t have to get super crazy and try things that make you uncomfortable, but changing your routine up just a little bit can make all the difference in the world when it comes to having better sex. Tonight, try doing something just a little different like doing it on the couch or fingering her g-spot while you go down on her.

Top 10 Extreme Viewer Questions

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As sex gurus, we get asked tons of questions about sex, oral sex and everything in between. Some of the inquiries are pretty basic how-to stuff, like how to give a great blowjob or the best way to have anal sex. However, we do get a lot that are pretty interesting! Since sex pretty much comes in every flavor, you can imagine we’ve gotten some that lean more towards dark chocolate than vanilla. Here’s the ten most extreme things we’ve been asked by our audience.

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10. I’m Attracted To Girls – How Can I Share A Threesome With My Husband?

She’s attracted to girls – but she’s married? Can she share a threesome with her husband, or would it destroy their marriage? We weighed in on this one, and her fears are legitimate – she’s afraid she’ll never be able to live up to a threesome when she has sex with her man by herself. We recommended starting slow with talking about it first and then possibly moving on pictures or videos of women having sex together, then working their way up to a threesome. Our advice is that a threesome is never all or nothing. You can do as much or as little as you like!

9. Q&A: What Is Your Opinion On Fetishes And Bestiality?

We get asked what our opinion is on a lot of stuff when it comes to sex – but this is definitely the most interesting so far. There are lots of fetishes out there that many people might think are “weird” or strange, but don’t actually hurt anyone. Then, there are other fetishes that absolutely cross the line. Bestiality, for example, is one of those. We’ve always said that the golden rule is this: As long as whatever you’re doing involves only consenting adults (and animals definitely don’t fall into that category) and it doesn’t hurt anyone, you’re good to go.

8. What Are Crabs And How Do You Get Them? Dangerous Sex Toys?

This question came from a virgin girl who got crabs – but couldn’t figure out where she got them. She was sharing a vibrator with her sister, but her sister doesn’t have crabs either. What happened? Crabs can be transmitted a number of ways – through sex or even through the sharing of unwashed underwear. Regardless of where the crabs come from, it requires a trip to the doctor. Our recommendation here? To get individual sex toys – or at least clean them thoroughly with hot, soapy water or a special toy cleaner.

7. Is Cross Dressing A Turn Off To Women?

Like we said, everyone has their fetishes. This guy enjoys cross dressing, but he’s not sure if women will actually go for it or not. While the majority of women probably wouldn’t consider cross dressing a turn on, there are some out there who could really get into it. Our advice her was to look online – either at fetish or online dating websites – so he can find out up front whether a girl is interested in cross dressing or not.

6. MILF Fantasy – Should I Have Sex With My Ex’s Mom?

A guy with a MILF fantasy broke up with his ex girlfriend and had now has a clear window to her single, beautiful mother. He offers her a massage, she says yes – and thanks him with a passionate kiss. However, he may have missed the golden opportunity by not acting on the kiss right away. He wants to have sex with her, but can he get her back in the same mood or has she already had too much time to think about it? Our advice was to re-create the opportunity and see if she reacts the same. Unfortunately, this doesn’t always end well and he may have missed out on his chance for good.

5. Cuckold Fantasy: My Wife With Another Man – Why Do I Like It?

This guy wants to see his wife having sex with another man – but isn’t sure if his fantasy is too weird. We give this guy props – most guys would turn green with jealousy if they saw their wife even flirting with another man, let alone getting it on with him. He wants to see his wife enjoy herself and have a great orgasm, whether he’s the one giving it or not. Our advice on this one? We told this guy to relax and have fun.

4. Q&A: My Girlfriend Wants To Do Me With A Strap On

Lots of girls (and guys) want to bring sex toys into the bedroom, but this girl wants to do her guy with a strap on dildo! If he’s into it, that’s one thing – but he wasn’t, and the idea of anal sex (on him!) downright gave him the creeps. We recommended that he communicate with his partner and let her know that he just wasn’t feeling it. If she doesn’t respect him (it’s his body after all), he might need to move on to someone who does.

3. Help! My Husband Is Forcing Me To Make A Porn Video!

We’re all down for making amateur porn if both partners are interested, but this wasn’t the case here. This woman’s husband threatened to leave her if she didn’t let him film her having sex with other men. She’d done it before, but decided it just wasn’t for her. They constantly fought about it and he said that if she loved him, she would do it. On this one, the advice was really easy to give – it’s time for her to get out of there! If someone is trying to manipulate you into doing something you don’t want to do (especially when it comes to sex), you’re better off moving on. Period.

2. Desperate Housewife – Husband REFUSES Oral Sex!

Most guys love getting a blowjob – but this guy doesn’t. Problem is, she’d really like to give it! We suggested that she talk to her husband openly about how much she’d love to give him head. Communication really goes a long way with situations like this. However, if he just won’t buy into it, she may need to learn to accept his sexual preferences – especially if it’s his religion or moral beliefs that is involved in his decision making process.

1. My Husband Wants Me To Have Sex With A Donkey

There’s a few things that are just outside of our box and this is one of them. This woman’s husband wants her to have sex with a donkey – on film – and he’s threatening to leave her if she doesn’t comply. Not only is her husband manipulating her to try to get her to do something she doesn’t want to do, he’s also putting himself and her into possible legal trouble by participating in bestiality. This woman needs to get out and fast!