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How To Give Her Mind Numbing, Leg Shaking Orgasms…

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To All Men Who Are Frustrated With Their Sex Lives…

I have a simple question for you…

Do you get enough sex to REALLY make you feel like a man? Are you satisfied with how often you get it?

I mean, you work all damn day taking care of the things you need to do and all you want is a little “R & R” to ease the frustration, if you know what I mean. I bet you’ve gone for weeks and maybe even months without having sex with your wife or girlfriend.

It’s harmful to your well-being and could put a serious strain on your relationship. Before you know it, you’ll be looking for someone else or she will.

You can prevent it from ever happening!

Look, if you simply want to learn how to give your girl an orgasm, there’s plenty of information out there. But if you want to learn how to get her to have sex more often, then this may be the most important thing you’ll ever read.

So Where Did You Say You Got Your Sex Education Again?

If you think sex is just insert, repeat and complete, you’re shamelessly wrong. Truth of the matter is, most guys don’t have a clue about having sex, because most men simply aren’t getting a quality sexual education.

If you wanted to be a plumber, you simply go to a trade school, graduate, and *POOF* – you’re a plumber! Why can’t it be that simple when it comes to becoming an excellent, satisfying lover?

Unfortunately, most of us learn about sex as we go and never really know the true ways of satisfying a woman.

So This Makes Me Wonder… Is Your Lady Getting What She Needs?

I know it sucks not to be able to give your woman an orgasm. But that’s only half the story!

I mean, it’s easy for guys to get sexual pleasure when we’re with a woman.  Whether it’s through oral sex, a hand job, or straight-up intercourse, it’s easy for women to give men orgasms.

But when it comes time for us to return the favor and try to give her an orgasm, that’s where most men fail…and you know what? It’s no surprise…

Check out these startling facts, and see if any of these apply to you:

  • 70% of women have NEVER had an orgasm with a man.
  • 60% of married women will cheat on their husbands.  Why? There are many reasons, but I bet one of them is because they’re looking for sexual satisfaction that you can’t provide.
  • 25% of men will get turned down by their own lovers over half the time.  These men have women who think sex is a chore.
  • Nearly 50% of men have partners that will NEVER ask for sex (would you ask for something that doesn’t give you any pleasure?)
  • 92% of women will FAKE ORGASMS just to “get it over with”.  It’s obvious that what most men are doing simply isn’t working.

And, over time, after many “failed attempts” at trying to give your woman an orgasm, you’ll probably even hear her saying things like:

  • “I’m too tired”
  • “Not right now”
  • “I’ve had a long day”
  • “Not tonight… I have a headache” or…
  • “I just don’t want to have sex”

Have you experienced any of the above in your lifetime? Have you been turned down by your girlfriend or wife, because you wanted to have sex and she didn’t? Has she ever told you any of the excuses, cheated on you, or even faked an orgasm just to get it over with?

There are a lot of men out there who are frustrated with their sex lives.  But it’s not like we’re special; women are frustrated with their sex lives too (you can probably remember that most women go through their entire life without experiencing one single orgasm).

And you know what?

It’s not right for women to go through life without experiencing an orgasm… And it’s up to us men to do something about it! So, for all the men and women in the world who are frustrated with their sex lives…

The Solution To Your Sex-Deprived Problem

An easy to read, step-by-step system on how to give an orgasm to any woman and bring her coming back for more and more!

The Female Orgasm Black Book

The Female Orgasm Black Book is for men and women, but it is especially valuable for caring boyfriends and husbands who want a no-nonsense, step-by-step plan for bringing explosive sexual pleasures to their partners so they can get more for themselves (what a sacrifice, right?).

The “Black Book” explains the female orgasm, A-to-Z, with sex tips, checklists and examples of “orgasm routines” you can use to bring your partner to an orgasm (or multiple orgasms).

In doing so, you are placing a bookmark into her mind to come back soon and continue with the never-ending novel of joy, passion and love.

That IS what you want, right?

This guide alone could save you hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars in untold frustrations that you (and your partner) could never measure, and that you could never forget.

You obviously care about your relationship, but think about how much it is worth to you to keep her from leaving you because you couldn’t keep her sexually satisfied and given her an orgasm? And if you’re reading this, none of those dates and gifts has gotten you to a point where… You can give her the gift of an orgasm!

She might think you’re a good “boyfriend” or “husband”, but is she having orgasms like you are, and thinking about having sex with you all the time? For less than the price of a decent movie and dinner date, you can have The Female Orgasm Black Book.

Download The Female Orgasm Black Book

Plus with the Black Book, you’ll also get some pretty cool bonuses…

 Female Orgasm Black Book: Quick Start Guide – This guide is specifically designed to ensure that you avoid the “deer in the headlights” stage. Yes, the Female Orgasm Black Book is big and meaty. but this Quick Start Guide will give you the solid plan that will move you through the course quickly and efficiently.
Special Report #1: Oral Sex Secrets – This is a manual filled with oral sex techniques.  Licking, grinds, and other oral sex tricks!
Special Report #2: Advance Fingering Techniques – I describe some fingering techniques in the Female Orgasm Black Book, but once you get the hang of those, you can move onto the ADVANCE fingering techniques described in this report!
Sex Frenzy Bonus #1 – Covers the best sex positions that
can release a woman’s orgasms!
Sex Frenzy Bonus #2 – Tips for men and women on increasing the probability of female orgasms!
Sex Frenzy Bonus #3 – A complete “Blueprint” to Female Orgasms! This little-known “orgasm blueprint” (discovered by world renowned sex doctors)… that… when followed… can take a woman from not wanting to have sex with you, to having frequent orgasms and constantly craving the next time she can be with you again!

If you’re frustrated with your sex-deprived life right now, and you want to have more of it more often, then get this book before she decides to look for another man who can fulfill her sexual needs.

In fact, you’ve got nothing to lose except for a woman who wants to spend more time with YOU wanting to have more sex *if* you don’t get The Female Orgasm Black Book.

If you’re already in a relationship, you probably have (or will) spend tens of thousands ($10,000+) on YOUR relationship already (and, if you stick with her, you’ll probably spend a lot more). But at the end of the day, is she loving the relationship with you, having orgasms because of you and begging you for more sex?

You can go ahead and leave this page without making an investment in your relationship, or you can get this manual now and be able to give your partner an orgasm tonight.  The choice is yours.

Download The Female Orgasm Black Book

10 Creative Ways To Say I Love You Without Saying A Word

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For some people, saying the three little words “I love you” is very difficult. Others have no problem with it at all (and sometimes even say it when they don’t mean it). If you struggle to express the way you feel to your partner through words, there are lots of ways to let your partner know that they are important to you and you enjoy having them in your life without using a single word at all! Here are 10 creative ideas to let your partner know that they are a big part of your life and you love having them in it.

Write A Quick Letter Or Card

Instead of saying “I love you” to your partner, instead, write them a quick love letter or jot it down in a sweet card that you picked up from the store. It is a quick and easy way to let your partner know just how much they mean to you without saying a word.

Send A Text

In the age of technology, almost everyone has texting capabilities on their cell phones. Instead of sending her a text to please pick up milk after work, send her a text that lets her know you’ve been thinking about her all day. You can do this in a romantic way to let her know that you love her, or you can make a racy text – called sexting – to tell her what you want to do to her when you both get home after work. Texting is so easy and cheap you can do it often just to add a little bit of love to her day.

Put It On A Cookie

On your next trip to the mall, visit the cookie store and have them write “I Love You” on one of those giant chocolate chip cookies. The best part is that you two can enjoy the cookie together later that night!

Draw It On The Sidewalk With Chalk

This is a great idea if your partner is away for business often or if you get home from work several minutes before your partner does. Draw a sweet message on the driveway or sidewalk with sidewalk chalk and they’ll see it as soon as they pull in the driveway from work.

Write It On The Bathroom Mirror

Write “I love you” on the bathroom mirror with an old lipstick that you don’t use anymore, or do it in soap so that when the mirror fogs up when your partner is taking a shower, the message becomes clear. The latter is so much fun because they won’t see the message when they step in the shower, but they’ll see it when they come out!

Use An Entire Pad Of Post It Notes

You can really show your love by using an entire pad of Post-It notes to write sweet messages and stick them all over the house. You can write a different message on each note, or you can simply write “I love you” over and over on each note. Make sure you use brightly colored Post-Its for maximum impact!

Place An Ad In A Newspaper Or Magazine They Read

Surprise your partner by placing a sweet message in an ad in a newspaper or magazine that they read. Make sure it’s a magazine or newspaper that they actually read though, or else they won’t get your special message!

Draw It On Their Car Windshield

You can use a wax pen or special car window chalk (you know, the kind they use for those “Just Married” signs when people tie the knot) and write “I love you” all over your partner’s car windows. Do this either in the morning before they leave for work or drop by their place of employment while they’re inside so they don’t catch you. If you’re lucky enough, you’ll be around to see the look on their face when they discover your surprise!

Use Glow In The Dark Stars

Get some of those glow in the dark stars (usually in the kids toy section) and write a sweet message on the wall or ceiling for your partner to discover when they turn off the lights. You can also use this as a seduction tactic and suggest that you two have sex “under the stars!”

Create Your Very Own LoveBook

Create an inexpensive but romantic LoveBook that contains reasons why you love your partner and enjoy having them in your life. A LoveBook truly is a keepsake that they will have forever!

5 Sex Fantasies She’s Dying To Try (But Will Never Tell You)

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Fantasies are fantasies for a reason – Especially “sex fantasies”. Everybody has them, whether they want to admit it or not, but they stay bottled up because they put you in a vulnerable place. This vulnerability is the reason that she’s never going to tell you her sex fantasies.

We as a people are programmed to hate rejection and this fear is what drives her to clam up when you ask about her fantasies. Out of the crazy sex fantasies out there, there are 5 that are the most common among women. While she may never flat out tell you that it turns her on, doing it in the bedroom, in the heat of the moment, will bring her out of her shell.

Here are 5 sex fantasies she’s dying to try, but will never tell you.

1. Submission

There are a lot of women that are submissive by nature. She might be the cute, sweet, friendly girl that smiles all the time, but she probably has a very naughty side stashed away. Submission means that she is submissive to your dominance in the bedroom. This means that she will do everything that you tell her to do without question.

Obviously this doesn’t encompass the entire sexual realm. She’s not going to break the law or perform anything weird, but she will not obstruct your dominance when it comes to changing positions. Women love a guy that his dominant in the bedroom because it shows that he can take charge.

2. Domination

The antithesis of submission, domination puts her in control of everything in the bedroom. There are a lot of women that have a sex fantasy about taking control and turning their guy into their own sex slave. When the girl takes control, she is living out the fantasy of empowerment.

Making a guy bend to her will can be extremely sexy and most women will at least give this one a try before they realize whether or not they like it. The problem with this fantasy is that most men try to take control out of sheer natural instinct. If your girlfriend is trying to take control in the bedroom, let her. It might be something that she has wanted for a very long time.

3. Roleplaying

Roleplay sex fantasies are the most common among women. As stated before, most women keep their sexual fantasies hidden from their partners because they do not want to be seen as weird or strange. They don’t want to be rejected. However, when a couple engages in roleplaying, they have the ability to be someone else.

She might have a fantasy about being a sexy schoolteacher and her partner is the guy that does not do his homework. Whatever her fantasy is, roleplaying is a great way to take some of the boredom out of the same old sex. Women want to feel sexy and a great way to boost this is through roleplaying.

She can be as slutty or as sexy as she wants within the confines of a committed relationship. Ask your partner if this is something she has ever wanted to try. You may be surprised by the answer.

4. Lesbian Sex Fantasies

Another major fantasy for women is to be with another woman. Don’t get your hopes up just yet though. The majority of the time, this fantasy does not include men. Have you ever wondered why women get turned on so much by lesbian porn, but can’t stand watching porn with a guy and a girl?

Women are sexy. It doesn’t mean that she’s a lesbian just because she secretly wants to make out with or even have sex with another woman. These are fantasies because they will probably never come true. She might not even have the guts to admit that she finds women attractive. If you want to indulge her in this, the best way to do it is through lesbian porn.

5. The Stranger Fantasy

Most women have had one-night stands. One of the reasons that some many women have had a one-nighter is because of the stranger fantasy. This basically gets your girl turned on by the mystery of the stranger. She wonders how he makes love to women and the fact that she might not have to see this guy every again turns her on even more. If you want to help her live out this fantasy, meet her on the street or in a bar and pretend that you’re going to have a one-night stand with her.

This can also be a roleplaying fantasy, but it works well by just sticking this scenario by itself.

How To REALLY Impress A Guy

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Dating tips for women aren’t something girls automatically “know.” Don’t bomb your next date – check out these tricks to really make an impression!

Knowing how to really impress a guy is one of the most important aspects of being a woman. When you meet a guy that you want, it’s fairly easy to fall into the trap of playing coy or hard to get. While these methods can work on some men, it’s not foul proof. Impressing a guy doesn’t take games or seduction methods. In fact, it’s really not that hard.

There are a several qualities that men find very impressive in all women, no matter what you look like. Here are some of the most desired qualities that will really impress a guy.

1. Have A Great Outlook On Life

Your outlook on life should always be positive. It doesn’t matter if you’re a liberal or a conservative, a positive outlook on life can a very long way with men. Even if you’re not the bubbly type that is always smiling, being content with yourself and where you going over the next 4-5 years can be enough to impress him.

Nobody wants to date a downer. Keep this in mind the next time that you meet a guy that you really like. He wants to be inspired by you and the only he can do that is if you have positivity and know what you would like out of your time on the planet.

2. Look Great (Yes, This Is One Of The Essential Dating Tips!)

No, you don’t have to look like a supermodel to impress a guy. The typical girl goes out of her way to look her best all times. This usually does not work. Guys that see a girl dressed to the 9s every time they step out of the house assume they are high maintenance. While there is a time and a place for getting dressed up, guys generally want a girl that can toss on a pair of jeans and still look great. This may take some shopping.

No girl is going to look sexy in a pair of ragged Wranglers, but you also don’t want to use your $200 jeans for yard work. Find clothing that is not very fancy or expensive, but still accentuates your best attributes. Once this is accomplished he’s going to wonder why you’re the only one that can turn him on by dusting.

3. Be Honest

Have you ever watched a TV show and wondered, “Why didn’t she just tell him that from the start?” Lies have a way of surfacing. No matter how small or how big, there will come a time and place when your honesty is going to be tested. No guy wants to be with a girl that he can’t trust.

Open up to the guy from the moment that you meet him and he will appreciate it. A relationship built on trust and transparency can always be mended. One of the biggest fears of a guy is that the girl he is seeing isn’t being honest with him. Good or bad, always tell the truth and he will be extremely impressed right from the start.

4. Handle Stress Well

There are a lot of women that curl up into the fetal position every time they get stressed out. Guys love a strong woman that is good at problem solving and won’t freak out every time there is a bump in the road. Guys notice how the girls they are with handle stress. Whether you avoid it or tackle it head on, be sure that he’s watching.

He wants to make sure that you’re not going to have a total mental breakdown the next time that a restaurant forgets your reservation. Being easy going is one of the best qualities that you can have when dating. While you don’t want to float through the relationship, you also don’t want to be dram queen.

5. Be Independent

Being independent is a quality that every guy wants from a girl. Yes, traditionally it is the man’s job to bring home the bacon. However, we’re living in revolutionary times. Women are CEO’s, business owners and are even running as the president. We can’t have it both ways. We either want to be taken care of, which releases our power over the relationship or leads to guilt, or we have to be considered an equal. You never want the guy calling all the shots.

If you have plans with your girlfriends, stick to them. Never cancel plans because a guy wants you to. If you would rather hang out with him over your friends, then make that clear, but don’t do it just because he wants you to. Being independent shows that you’re not going to cater to his every whim and allows you to be your own woman.

How To Find The G-Spot

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Just about everyone has heard of the g-spot. It’s supposedly the “holy grail” of all female sexual stimulation – so why can’t anyone find it? If you do get lucky and find a woman’s g-spot, how to heck are you supposed to stimulate it? Here’s a quick and easy guide to simple, g-spot stimulation that works flawlessly each time and every time.

It’s amazing how many men and women don’t know how to find the g-spot! Read on to find out exactly what the g-spot is and how to find it!

What Is The G-Spot?

The g-spot is a ball of nerve endings inside a woman’s vagina. Similar to a clitoris, these nerve endings pick up sexual stimulation and allow women to have orgasms. The g-spot is important, because most of the inner vagina doesn’t have nerve endings – which is why most women can’t feel a tampon if it’s inserted properly. So to truly stimulate your partner’s vagina, it’s important to find the g-spot and learn how to stimulate it to give your partner a great internal orgasm. It also allows you to vary the types of orgasms you can give your partner, instead of relying only on clitoral orgasms.

How To Find The G-Spot

Contrary to popular belief, the g-spot isn’t terribly hard to find. It’s located just inside a woman’s vagina, on the top, right behind the pubic bone. To find the g-spot, all you have to do is insert one or two fingers inside your partner’s vagina, with your palm up. The g-spot is about finger length away from the opening of the vagina, so once your fingers are in, feel along the top of her vagina and behind the pubic bone for a spongy, bumpy spot. Most of the vagina is smooth, so you’ll probably be able to distinguish the g-spot from the rest of her vaginal tissue. If your partner is turned on, however, the g-spot will be swollen and a little easier to find. Many men who couldn’t find the g-spot probably tried to do so when their partner wasn’t turned on mentally or physically, so the g-spot was much smaller and more hidden. If you want success the first time, make sure you kiss your partner, fondle her, stimulate her nipples and turn her on before you start searching for her “holy grail.”

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Stimulating the g-spot is actually quite easy too – after you’ve located it with your fingers along the top wall of her vagina, simply move your fingers towards you and back in a continuing “come here” motion. You can also tap the g-spot, or move your fingers from side to side for additional stimulation. If you really want to get your partner going, try giving her a blended orgasm by combining g-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation. This is most successful if you can provide her with oral sex while you finger her g-spot, but you can use your other hand or even a toy if you want to give her unexpected sensations.

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