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The Art Of Compromise In A Relationship

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In a relationship, learning how to compromise is one of the most important things you can do.. Though humans are meant to be in the company of other humans, we’re all individuals with our own specific needs and desires. That means we’re not always on the same page as our significant other, no matter how much we love them. If you and your partner can find ways to compromise on issues large and small, your relationship will be able to go the distance.

Communication – The 1st Step

The best way to reach successful agreements is to discuss open issues during calm moments. In the heat of an argument, you and your partner are likely more focused on your anger than reaching a solution with love. That means you should try to talk about your shared conundrums during happier times, like over a nice dinner or on a relaxed Saturday afternoon. Once you’ve established exactly what your issue is, try for a collective brainstorm.

For example, let’s say your mate was offered a job in another city which would force you to move and give up your job. Sit down together with the following ground rules in mind: you will each state your case, without interruption from the other party, and then you’ll both suggest possible solutions. Thus, your S.O. will explain why he/she thinks the move is a good idea, and then you will explain why you’d like to stay. This isn’t a situation where both of you will be able to get what you want, so you have to weigh all of the evidence at hand as you work to come up with partial solutions.

Perhaps you’ve been at your company long enough to request that they let you work from home if you have to move away. Maybe you make more money, so it makes financial sense to stay for your job, but you’ll help your partner keep hunting for something nearby. You may even have to decide that your S.O. can have their way, but you’ll get to have your way on the next big decision. As long as you both make an effort to meet each other part way, less relationship problems will come of it.

Learning To Make Tradeoffs

For smaller issues there are often tradeoffs to be made. You’ll clean the bathroom every week if your boyfriend or girlfriend will regularly vacuum the apartment. If he or she does the grocery shopping, you will do the cooking. Small, everyday compromises like these make both you and your partner feel equally important. It may seem silly, but splitting the chores or trading off which person’s friends you hang out with can make your relationship much healthier than most. Knowing that both of your opinions are heard makes each of you feel more valued and loved.

Avoiding the one-sidedness that preys on many relationships can go a long way toward the prevention of arguments and unhappiness. The best thing about a compromise is that everyone feels better in the end, even if they didn’t get exactly what they wanted. When there are clear winners and losers, relationships can suffer. That’s especially true if the same person regularly ends up on the losing end of the equation.

You have to make sure that you’re taking turns coming out ahead, or resentment starts to boil. Romantic relationships are ultimately partnerships, and that means you need to work together to seek the best possible outcomes. Things won’t work out perfectly every time, but making that effort together strengthens your bond. Ask any married couple out there, and you’ll find that compromises played a huge part in their romance success.

How To Approach Women Without Fear Of Rejection

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When playing the dating scene, it can be difficult and even intimidating to approach a woman to ask her out on a date. Many guys are afraid of getting rejected by the woman they ask out, so they rarely approach a woman at all. Instead of being afraid of rejection next time you want to ask a girl out, try using these tips to confidently let her know that you’re into her – and get her to go on a date with you!

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Pay Attention To Your Body Language

When dating, most guys try to play it “cool” and avoid looking like they’re desperately looking to score a date. However, this often ends up backfiring in their face, because they start playing it “too cool” and the women they’re interested in have no idea that they’re actually interested! This usually happens subconsciously, because a man’s body language will give everything away if he’s not careful to pay attention to it and make sure his body language is giving the same message that he’s trying to put across. If a guy wants to score a date but is trying to play it cool, his body language may make a girl think he’s not interested in her when he really is. The wrong body language will also make a guy look arrogant, cocky and aloof, preventing any girls from coming up to him and asking him out too! When you’re dating, it’s important that you pay extra attention to your body language so you can give the right message to any lovely lady that you might be interested in.

Be Yourself And Be Honest

Instead of trying to be the guy you think will get all the girls, try being yourself when you’re dating. Be honest about who you are, what you like and don’t like and what is important to you. Stick to your guns and what you believe is right and wrong. There are lots of girls out there that you will hit it off with and will appreciate you for who you are and will appreciate the fact that you’ve been honest about it instead of lying and putting on a fake face like a lot of guys who play the dating scene. If you’re looking for sex only, be honest about it. Let girls know up front what you’re looking for. You may be afraid of doing that because you’re afraid that girls won’t want to have sex with you if you don’t pretend that you’re interested in more, but there are girls out there who are also looking for one night stands too. If you’re dating but interested in a relationship, be honest about that too.

How To Use Compliments

There’s not a woman alive who doesn’t like hearing compliments, but most guys use the wrong ones when they’re dating. Sure, it’s easy to comment a girl on the way she looks, especially if she’s a good looking woman. However, good looking women are used to hearing about how pretty or hot they are so you’re not going to score points for being original. However, if you really want to let a girl know that you’re interested in her, you want to compliment something that is more important to her than just her looks or her hot body. Compliment her about something she’s done or something that she’s achieved that she’s worked hard for. This will mean much more to her than just a canned compliment that she hears often.

Have A Goal In Mind

Most guys approach the dating scene with a goal of talking to a girl, getting her number or asking her out. While this is a good ultimate goal, you should have a smaller goal in mind when you first meet a girl. Your goal is to get her moving with you. Whether it is just a simple walk to the bar or to go get coffee down the street, your goal is to get her away from her friends and walking and talking with you. This will give her a chance to be in your space and you in hers, without the awkwardness of a face to face confrontation right away. Getting her moving is also a great first date idea too. Instead of asking her out for drinks or coffee where you’re both worried about what to say to each other, go out and do something together that you both enjoy such as bowling or taking an art or music class together!

Going To A Sex Party – 5 Things You Need To Know

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So you’re interested in checking out a sex party, but aren’t quite sure how to get started. Fortunately for you, there are underground sex parties just about everywhere, especially in larger cities. Because of health codes, laws and regulations, most sex parties are “roaming” and move from place to place – often from someone’s posh pad to another. If you want to attend a sex party but aren’t sure how to get to one – and what to do once you’re there – check out these simple but essential rules that will help get you started.

Scoring An Invite

An invitation to a swinging get together or sex party isn’t something you’re going to get in the mail. Since most of these groups meet secretly, they’re considered “underground” and usually invites are given simply by word of mouth. Therefore, to get into a sex party – especially a top notch, elite one – you’re going to have to be connected. Invites to the sex party are given by the hosts to certain people, and they in turn invite people that they think would be a good addition. However, not everyone that hears about the get together are able to invite people. Since it only takes one jackass to ruin a great sex party, invitations are issued discerningly. Score your invite by getting out there and befriending people that are likely to be into that scene.

Condoms Are A Must

At a sex party, condoms are an absolute must. Of course if you and your partner are “watching only” and simply participating in sex with each other, that’s a different story. However, if you plan to be having sex with anyone else at the shindig, bring your own protection. A good host will have a “grab bag” of latex and polyurethane goodies that can be passed around, but depending on the type of get together you’re going to, they may not. It’s better to be safe than sorry, so slip a few condoms in your purse before you leave. Don’t expect to have sex with anyone else there without the proper protection.

Alcohol Is At The Discretion Of The Host

Depending on the type of sex party you’re going to and the preferences of the host, there may or may not be alcohol available. Hosts that have been jaded in the past by a drunk that ruined the shindig (because it only takes one) will most likely keep it alcohol free. Some hosts will provide alcohol for a steeper cover charge, or they will allow guests to bring their own and have a bartender there to serve it. Make sure you’re fully aware of the alcohol policy before you go, lest you bring a bottle of wine to an alcohol free party or end up alcohol-less when everyone else has something to ease their jitters.

Everything Must Be Consensual

Remember the golden rule about sex – anything that goes on between consenting adults is all in good fun as long as no one gets hurt. While there may be some questionably painful BDSM going on at your chosen shindig, it is usually okay as long as everyone involved in the activity consents to what is going on. If you’re not into something in particular, like anal sex, make sure you gravitate more towards others who are taking part in activities that you are more comfortable with. Don’t judge, because nobody at a sex party wants someone around who will look down on them for what they’re doing. On the same token, remember that anything you want to do with someone else must be agreed upon beforehand – even if it’s something as simple as giving them a slap on the rear.

Single Guys Are Usually Not Allowed

Many sex parties and sex clubs require that men come accompanied by women and single guys looking to hook up just aren’t welcome. Single guys who want to get into the sex party scene can come with a friend of theirs that is a girl, as long as they appear to be a couple and are comfortable with having sex with each other and other people. Guys, of course, must be on their best behavior and any guy that is being lewd or rude is going to get the boot – and his girl will end up outside with him. Single women, however, are almost always welcomed at these kinds of get togethers, because many couples are looking for a single woman to join the fun. Just remember that the cardinal rule of all sex parties is this: be safe, polite and have fun.

How To Know If A Girl Likes You

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When dating around and looking for the right person, it’s easy to make lots of friends and get to know lots of different people – but how do you know if a girl really likes you in a romantic way? Reading into signals and body language isn’t always easy, so here are three great ways to tell if someone you’re thinking about dating really likes you, or would rather be washing her hair on Friday night than go out on a date with you.

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Frequency Of Contact

When you’re dating and trying to figure out if a girl likes you or not, one of the first things you want to look at is who is contacting who and how often. Step back and take a look at your phone and find out if you’re calling or texting her more or if she’s always calling or texting you. If you’re always making the effort to contact her and she rarely (if ever) picks up the phone and makes the effort to contact you, the affection may be a little one sided. She may not be as interested in you as you are in her. However, if she’s calling or texting you back about the same amount that you are with her, then it’s a pretty safe bet that she likes you too and there’s a definite chance for a relationship there. Keep in mind though, if she’s always the one to call you or she’s doing it way too much, she may be a little obsessed with you and that’s not a way you want to start a healthy relationship. If she’s blowing up your phone, she most certainly likes you – but perhaps a little too much.

Does She Take Your Calls?

Another way to find out if a woman you’re considering dating shares romantic feelings for you too is to look at how she responds to your calls. Does she answer the phone within the first few rings when you call no matter what she’s doing? Or does she let it roll to voicemail and get back to you later when it is more convenient for her and she’s not around other people? A girl that likes you is going to answer the phone almost every time you call (with a few exceptions like something really important that is going on at work, etc.), even if she is with her family or friends. If she really digs you, she’s not going to try to hide the fact that you’re calling while she’s spending time with the people that are really important to her in her life. She’s going to pick up the phone and say hello, even if it’s just to tell you she’s up to her ears in work or family and will get back to you later. On the other hand, if she’s often letting your calls roll to voicemail and calling or texting you back later, you can safely assume that she considers whatever she’s doing at the moment you call more important than talking to you.

Ask Her To Do A Favor For You

The litmus test to really find out if the girl you’d like to be dating shares the same feelings as you is to ask her to do a favor for you. This is a big one! Ask her to do a small favor for you (something that doesn’t cost a lot of money or doesn’t take up too much of her time or causes her to go well out of her way) while you’re at work or busy at a family function. Does she do it with no questions asked? Does she seem to be happy to get to do something for you and show you that you’re important to her? Or does she put it off or refuse to do it at all? Does she make excuses as to why she can’t do it, or even flat out tell you she’s too busy? Her willingness to do something for you is a great indication of her interest level and can tell you whether she’d like to be dating you or whether you’re more in the friend zone to her. This can also help a girl that isn’t sure whether she likes you or not realize that she does – because naturally, her brain will ask her why she just did something for you and subconsciously she will realize that it is because she cares for you. It can also help her to like you even more, as she gains satisfaction from seeing you happy with her that she’s done something to help you!

7 Unforgettable Sex Tips

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Having sex with your partner can be “blah” or it can be absolutely incredible. Problem is, it’s easy to slip into a rut and not so easy to dig yourself out. With a little patience, some effort and reinventing your outlook on sex, you can turn the tables on your life and make it better than it ever has been before. Check out these seven amazing tips that will knock your socks off!

Roleplay

Turn the heat in the bedroom up a notch with a little roleplay action. Ever get off on the teacher/student fantasy or the french maid costume? Tell your partner about your dress up fantasies and have them play along. You can both dress up for each other, or have one partner dress up and the other enjoy the show. Just make sure that both you and your lover get to express your fantasies to each other and act them out so you are both turned on!

Lower Your Expectations

Many guys – and girls – have high expectations of what it should be and how it will turn out. Some girls expect their man to give them an orgasm (without any help at all) and if he doesn’t blow her mind immediately, the game is over for her. On the other hand, some guys expect not to have to give a woman an orgasm at all – that she will be more focused on getting him off than her own pleasure. If you want to have better sex, lower your expectations a little bit. It doesn’t always end in orgasm (but good for you if it does) and it’s all about having fun with your partner and enjoying each other’s bodies.

Take Turns Taking Control

If you and your lover are used to having “blah” sex where one or both of you says, “Ok, we’ll do whatever you want to do” or “I guess we could do that if you want to,” it’s time to either grab the reins or give them up and take turns taking control in the bedroom. Let your partner decide what you’re going to do that night, whether it’s oral sex, anal sex or a new position, and then let him do whatever he wants that night while you play along. Make sure you get to be in control another night, where everything goes your way!

Set Up The Perfect Atmosphere

Believe it or not, the atmosphere of the bedroom (or living room, or wherever else you’re doing it) plays a big part in how great it really is that night. For example, shower sex is super hot, but try doing it with your kids’ soaking wet Barbie dolls at your feet or stuck in other less desirable parts of your body. The mood instantly dissipated, didn’t it? Instead, try setting up some candles, soft music and incense or scented oil in your partner’s favorite scent. It may sound cliche, but it will make a big difference, guaranteed.

Break Your Boundaries

Tired of doing the same old thing every time you and your lover get it on? Try breaking your boundaries and doing something new that neither you nor your partner have ever done before. You don’t have to go crazy and try something that is totally out there – like BDSM – but you can and probably should go a little bit outside your comfort zone. Try a new position or incorporate a toy. Start small and introduce something that is a little different from what you normally do but not something that is going to freak you or your partner out.

Don’t Put On The Pressure

Pressuring your partner to have an orgasm will likely backfire in your face. Even if you’re giving her oral, licking her clitoris, fingering her and doing everything you can to bring her to climax, if it’s not happening then it’s not happening. The same goes for you. If you’re realizing that it’s going to take you an hour or more to have an orgasm, move on to something else and just have fun with it! The chances are, an orgasm will come much more easily later and will most likely be better than if you forced it!

Flirt A Little – With Someone Else

You wouldn’t believe at how much a little harmless flirting – with someone else – can spice up your life with your partner. When someone who isn’t your partner flirts with you, even if it doesn’t go anywhere, your ego is boosted and you instantly feel more attractive. Channel these awesome feelings into sex with your partner and watch it go from “blah” to explosive!