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How To Kiss A Girl Without Fear Of Rejection

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Flirting with a woman and making the move to kiss her is incredibly intimidating. In fact, most guys clam up before making the move to kiss her for the first time because they’re so afraid of rejection. There’s a lot of pressure for a guy to make the first kiss perfect, because many girls will judge the guy or even the whole relationship just based on how “good” the first kiss is. Being rejected by a woman definitely stings and can keep a lot of guys from even asking a woman out. To lean in and kiss someone for the first time takes confidence – here’s how you can do it and not have the fear of rejection!

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Kissing Mistakes Almost Every Guy Makes

There are two types of kisses that will send a lady running for the hills. Many guys get so nervous and worked up when flirting with a woman that they talk almost non-stop and rush into a kiss before she even has a chance to figure out what is going on. This can make her recoil quickly, which is definitely not the desired reaction to a first kiss. Men will also try their hardest to put a “romantic movie finish” on the end of a date, which may not feel like the right thing to do at the time. He’ll go in for the “movie star” style kiss, which often ends up being awkward or jerky because it’s not the right thing for that particular moment.

Set The Mood

The environment and the mood surrounding a kiss is an essential part in making the atmosphere “feel right” for what is about to happen. Make sure you and your girl are both comfortable and relaxed. You should be sitting close together, perhaps with your hand on her leg or touching each other in some way. Jumping in and kissing her after sitting across the room for ten minutes is just going to be awkward – especially if it’s the first time with a new date! Choose an intimate, romantic spot and spend some time just talking to each other, flirting and building that emotional intimacy. A great first kiss is something that happens naturally, because it’s the “natural” next step to take with each other in that moment. A bad kiss is one that is forced and uncomfortable or awkward and jerky.

Is She Ready To Be Kissed?

Part of making sure you’re kissing your woman at the right time is reading and interpreting her body language. Believe it or not, she’s using her body language to let you know that she’s wanting you to make the next move – you just have to pick up on it. Here are some things she’ll do if she’s showing you she wants you to move on in for a soft peck – or more.

  • Is she leaning towards you or getting closer to you?
  • Is she making an effort to touch you in some way?
  • Does she seem to really want to be in your space?
  • When you touch her, does she pull away or lean in for more?
  • Is she watching your mouth or watching your lips move when you speak?
  • Is she licking her lips?
  • Is she flirting back?

Use Your Own Body Language

Practice flirting with your date and get her primed for a kiss by using your own body language to signal to her what you want to happen next. Here are some great ways you can signal to your lady that you want to move on to the next step and start kissing or making out with her.

  • Lick your lips or watch her lips as she speaks
  • Switch from looking her in the eyes to watching her mouth
  • Lean in close to gauge her reaction to your flirting
  • Touch her in some way, by leaning up against her or laying your hand on her leg as you talk to each other

Making The Move

If she seems like she’s wanting to be kissed, don’t hesitate to make the first move. Don’t wait – if your gut is telling you that now is the right time, it’s important that you take advantage of it. A common way that guys turn a perfect moment into an awkward one is waiting too long after the time is “right” to make a move and flirting with her when she’s really ready for you to put your mouth on hers. If she’s showing you that she’s wanting to kiss, but it doesn’t seem like she wants to rush into it, don’t be afraid to take it slow and make baby steps. You don’t have to go into a full on make out session right away – a soft peck or sweet kiss is just fine for the first time. Use your instinct to judge what feels right and when.

How To Make Porn With Your Girlfriend – And Have Her Love It

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Porn is something just about every guy enjoys. While most men watch their porn in secret, they secretly want to make a porn with themselves and their girlfriend or wife. If you want to make an adult movie with your significant other but aren’t sure how to bring the topic up, you need to make it fun, and make her feel great about herself and how she’ll look on film. Check out these tips to get your girl to do a movie with you – and even get into it herself!

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Introducing Porn Into Your Relationship

If you’ve never introduced a porn into your relationship to watch with your significant other, now is the time to do it. Rather than jumping feet first into asking your girl to do a porn with you, try to find something you and she can watch and enjoy together first. Grab a skin flick that showcases something you know she really enjoys – for example, if she really loves oral sex, make sure to get a video that has a lot of that particular activity in it. Talk to your partner about what she likes and doesn’t like before you go out and buy anything, so you can make sure you’re getting something she won’t be offended by.

Bringing The Subject Up

Dragging out the camera and tripod one night before you get busy is not the way to bring up the subject of making a porn. Instead, make sure to bring up how hot you’d think she’d be on film and how you’d love to make a tape of you both making love. Telling your love how much the idea of watching you both making love on camera turns you on (without putting too much pressure on) is the best way to get your lady to warm up to the idea. Don’t suggest doing something she’s never tried before for the first time on camera – for example, if she’s never tried anal sex, being recorded the first time isn’t going to make your partner love it. In fact, she’ll probably hate it and never do it again!

Don’t Push Too Hard

If your sweetheart isn’t receptive to the idea of having sex with you on film, don’t push the issue too far. It may be tempting to try to “convince” your lover that it’s a great idea, but if she’s already said no and you keep pushing the issue, she’s not going to appreciate you for it. This may lead to fighting and arguing, or it may turn your sweetheart off the idea altogether. If she doesn’t want to do it, let it go and think about bringing it up another time.

Making Her Feel Good About It

Making your significant other feel good about being on camera is one of the biggest obstacles you face when making an adult movie with them. Buy a new outfit for your woman to wear (something she feels great in) and give her time to do hair and makeup before the camera starts rolling. Tell your girlfriend or wife how sexy you think she looks and continue to offer a compliment here and there while you are filming. Self esteem (next to the fear of the movie getting out) is most likely your woman’s biggest issue with being a “porn star.”

Making It Fun

You don’t have to start out with having sex on film right away. Why not experiment a little with a digital camera or even your webcam and take fun pictures of you and your girl kissing, or even giving a blowjob with all (or most) of your clothes on? Starting off slowly and taking baby steps rather than starting out being fully naked in a porn film might help your partner warm up to the idea rather than shunning it completely.

The Trust Issue

Besides being self concious, your girl is probably afraid that the porn will get out somehow and someone she doesn’t want to see it will end up getting a peek. Assure your partner that you’re going to delete the video right after, and make a point to delete it together. Don’t break your woman’s trust by secretly uploading it onto your computer or letting your friends watch it – even if you are just trying to prove that your girl is smokin’ hot and great in bed. Let her know that she can trust you completely with a sexy videotape and that you’re not going to compromise her integrity by allowing a thing like that to get out. Don’t just say it – show your woman you mean it!

Online Dating: Taking It Offline – Meeting For The First Time

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Online dating seems easier than traditional dating at first, but that’s before you realize that at some point you’re going to have to take the relationship offline and into real life. You can’t have a relationship solely online – people crave intimacy and touch, whether it’s a hug, a face to face conversation or something more. If you’re really into someone you met through an online dating website, consider getting to know them in person. However, there are some safety tips to keep in mind for your first date! Here are 5 tips to help your first date go smoothly!

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Safety First!

When it comes to dating, it’s easy to let your hormones and emotions get in the way of making rational decisions. However, it’s important to remember that you really don’t know someone until you’ve had the first date and have hung out with them a few times. You may think you know them from the conversations that you’ve had through the online dating website, but your imagination will never fail to fill in the gaps and convince you that you know someone when you really don’t. Always keep safety in mind during online dating and hooking up with someone for the first time.

1. Meet In A Public Place. Always make your first date with someone you’ve met on the Internet in a public place during the day, where there are lots of other people around. This ensures that if your date was planning something sly, they definitely won’t try to pull it off in a public place during the day. If you meet someone online and they only want to meet up with you at night or in a place where not a lot of people go, you know what to do – kick them to the curb and look for someone else a little less shady.

2. Plan For A 30 Minute First Date. When making plans for your first time with someone in person, make it a short introduction at first to meet them and get acquainted with them. This isn’t where you’re going to really get to know them or learn all of their deep, dark secrets. You can still have a great relationship later on with someone, even if you didn’t spend hours talking to them on a magical first date. Set a time up to meet your date right before you have “something else you need to get to” and leave it at that. If the first date went poorly and you didn’t connect well with them, you’ll be glad you gave yourself the out ahead of time. If you do end up connecting with them, schedule another time to hook up when you have more time.

3. Tell A Friend. When going on a date for the first time with someone that you met through online dating, make sure you let a trusted friend know what is going on. Always tell your friend where you’re going, who you’ll be with, how long you’ll be gone and how to reach you while you’re there. If you turn up MIA, your friend will be able to contact the authorities right away before something really bad happens. While abductions and date rape during first dates are somewhat uncommon, don’t ever assume that it’s not going to happen to you. By taking a few simple precautions, you can be sure you won’t end up one of the statistics.

4. Check In With Your Friend. After your first date is over, make sure you check in with your friend. Let them know you’re safe and sound so they won’t worry about you – or worse, contact the authorities when it is completely uneccessary. Always take these two steps the first few times you go somewhere with someone that you met online dating.

5. Never Meet Alone. It may seem harmless, but you never want to meet someone for the first date at their home, a hotel or motel room or anywhere at night. This can be very dangerous! Again, if someone only wants to meet you at these places, they’ve probably got something up their sleeve.

When To Practice Online Dating Safety Tips

It may be difficult, but you always want to take these precautions for the first three or four dates, or longer if you’re not completely comfortable with someone yet. You’ll generally get an idea of whether someone is “for real” or not over the first few dates. If they’re making stuff up or being shady, it’s not going to take you very long to figure it out and move on to someone who isn’t wasting your time. Don’t ever go on a first date with someone you met online without taking a few safety precautions because you think nothing bad will happen to you. If something bad goes down, you’ll really wish you had. The best way to have fun is to stay safe!

Sex Toys: What Is Your Favorite Cock Ring?

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One of the most popular sex toys out there are cock rings and many couples use them during sex – and some men even use them during masturbation. Cock rings are designed to keep blood in the penis during an erection, instead of allowing the blood to flow out. This can help men with erectile dysfunction get and maintain an erection, and it can also help enhance and magnify sensations during sex. There are so many different styles, colors, shapes and sizes of cock rings that are available – so which one is the best one to try?

Question:  Please tell us all about your favorite cock rings! My boyfriend and i use them all the time, and we’re always up for trying different ones out!

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Decide What Sex Toys You Are Looking For

Since there are so many different sex toys out there, it’s important to decide what you are looking for ahead of time. For example, if you are looking for a vibrator, start thinking about what you want it to do. Do you want it to have multiple speeds, be waterproof, or have attachments for anal penetration? The same goes for cock rings – decide what you want the ring to achieve before you go out and get one. Do you want one that vibrates so you can enjoy it as much as your partner? Or do you want something textured, or just a simple, metal ring? What size do you need? Thinking about the details first before you make a purchase will help keep you from being overwhelmed at all the choices that are available to you and help you narrow it down to what you actually want.

Safety Tips To Keep In Mind

When it comes to using sex toys, there are always safety tips that make things safer and therefore, more fun. While using a cock ring seems pretty straightforward, there are some things to keep in mind so you and your partner can both have fun in a safe way. Always use a good water or silicone based lube to slide the cock ring on. Trying to put one on without lube will either be very uncomfortable for your partner or you won’t be able to get it on at all. Never use a cock ring for more than thirty minutes. It is possible for the penis to swell beyond the point where you can actually get the ring off afterwards, which would require an emergency call to your doctor. Thirty minutes is about the maximum amount of time a man can safely wear a cock ring. Always use a good toy cleaner after use to keep your toys clean, and avoid putting jelly or silicone style cock rings together – they can actually adhere to each other!

Different Sex Toys To Try

Cock rings come in all different shapes, sizes and textures. There are many more options available than just your simple ring-style toy. Here are some different ones you can try:

His And Hers Rabbits Cockring: Two vibrating rabbits are attached to a silicone ring that slides over the penis. The rabbits’ ears are designed to stimulate her clitoris and his testicles at the same time!

Bong O Cock Ring: A silicone vibrating ring that has a weighted gold ball attachement that is designed to bounce over a man’s testicles and perineum for added stimulation for him.

Double Penetrator Cockring: A silicone toy with a dildo attached to the base of the ring to allow for double penetration. Use this to have vaginal penetration and anal sex at the same time!

 If you’ve never tried a cock ring before, start basic and work your way up to the more adventerous styles of sex toys. If you’re using one simply to help your erection last longer, a simple, metal style ring will work just as well – if not better – than some of the softer, silicone varieties. The soft, silicone toys are great for men and couples that are just having fun, but may lack enough substance to really keep your erection going strong. If you’ve already experimented with this type of stimulation before, don’t be afraid to try new ones and check out some different styles. While the actual ring is designed to make an erection stronger, the attachements that come on different styles are geared towards so many different things from amazing clitoral stimulation to anal sex and more. The great thing about this type of sex toy is that the different sensations that you can experience are never ending!

Date Ideas: Inexpensive Yet Impressive

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It’s difficult to come up with date ideas that don’t put a hurt on your wallet, especially in today’s economy. If you’ve checked out a news website, turned on the TV, or picked up a paper, you’re probably aware that the economy isn’t doing so great at the moment. Whether you’ve lost your job or are just trying to save some extra money, you shouldn’t let your dating world crumble just to pinch a few pennies. In fact, it’s possible to woo your significant other on a budget, as long as you’re willing to get creative and plan ahead. You may even find that your date is more impressed with your clever plans than he or she would be with a pricey restaurant dinner.

Planning Ahead

You can make up for what you’re financially lacking, if you’re willing to put some thought into your dating plans. If you’re looking to get out of the house, start combing the internet for ideas. You’d be surprised at how many discounted and free events there are out there. If you live near a major city, publications like Time Out (either on the web or in magazine form) can be a great reference point. If you don’t, there are plenty of other similar publications and websites out there that can help. Your local newspaper probably has a nightlife or upcoming events section.

You can also go straight to the source. Try searching the internet for nearby places of interest to see if they have any discounts or special events listed on their websites. Taking your partner to half price night at your local museum or zoo for a first date is a lot more interesting than dinner and a movie. If you and your significant other are sports fans, look to see if there’s a minor league team near you. Tickets are often much more affordable, and you can enjoy discovering a new team together.

Search bars and venues for free or cheap music performances by local acts. You can still enjoy the feel of catching live music without paying the big bucks for tickets to a major artist’s concert. Some bars and restaurants also host free tasting nights or have special brunch, lunch or dinner deals well worth investigating. Sign up for email newsletters from all of these places, and you’ll always be in the loop on their discounts and freebies.

Head Outdoors

Heading out into the great outdoors can be another low or no cost alternative to traditional date ideas. Go for a walk in your local park or take a picnic there. Better yet, find a nearby place for a hike and make a day of it. You’ll get to enjoy nature, each other’s company, and a little exercise. If you and your date are sporty types, meet up for a game of one-on-one basketball when it’s warm out or go ice skating when it’s cold (save even more if you both own your own skates).

If you’re a pair of do-gooders, try volunteering together. A lot of parks and/or beaches need people to help with seasonal gardening and clean up. If you’re not outdoorsy, try volunteering for another cause you both believe in. Animal lovers can spend an afternoon helping out at a shelter or pet adoption fair. If you’re both bookworms, consider volunteering to read stories to kids at your local library or hospital. Doing good while flirting and chatting with your partner will let your sweetie see you in a whole new light while putting you both in a great mood.

A Date Doesn’t Have To Be Expensive To Be Fun

As you can see, there are so many options out there for fun but affordable dates. A little research can save you big bucks and win you lots of points with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Plus, if all else fails, you can always fall back on an old dating standby—dinner at your place, cooked with love by you.