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Q&A: How Can I Get My Wife To Have Sex Every Day?

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Having sex more often is a big issue among guys of every age, both married and unmarried. Many guys wish they were having sex more often with their wives, girlfriends or lovers and aren’t sure exactly how to make that happen. Here’s how you can get your wife to have sex with you every day – and get her to enjoy it.

Question: How can I get my wife to have sex every day?

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Does Her Sex Drive Match Yours?

It’s not at all uncommon for two people to have mismatching sex drives and for one person in the relationship to want or need more sex than the other. Usually, this is not an issue but when you and your partner differ greatly on how often you want to have sex, it can pose a problem in the relationship. For example, if you want sex daily or every other day and your spouse or partner is content having sex weekly or even every couple of weeks, it’s easy to become frustrated with your partner. When starting a relationship with someone, it’s important to find out if you and your partner have at least somewhat similar sex drives because it’s all part of being sexually compatible and having a future of sexual satisfaction with your partner or spouse.

Make Sure She’s Enjoying It

If you want to make your partner want sex with you more often, the most important thing you can do is make sure you are pleasing your partner and she’s enjoying it. Often, the reason behind women not needing sex as often as a man does in a relationship is because she’s just not getting as much pleasure from it as you are. Focus on your partner’s pleasure and make sure she has enough time to relax and warm up. If your partner is stressed out or under a lot of pressure, she won’t be able to receive pleasure no matter how hard you try. Focus on giving her awesome orgasms, because if your partner or spouse consistently gets great orgasms every time you have sex with her, she’ll naturally start to want and crave sex with you more.

Female Orgasm Tips

Start brushing up on your knowledge about female orgasms by checking out some of the best female orgasm tips out there. Watch as many videos and read as many articles as you can to learn how to give your girlfriend or wife absolutely mind blowing orgasms. Learning some new techniques to use in the bedroom that your partner has never experienced before with you is well worth the time it takes to study up. Without something more to offer your partner in the bedrom, there’s no reason to expect her to have sex with you many more than she already does. Making sure you’re pleasing her and giving her great orgasms is your ticket to better sex and sex more often. In fact, when you start really giving her what she wants in the bedroom don’t be surprised if she starts initiating sex with you more often than you originally wanted to!

Q&A: How Is A Vibrator Different From A Dildo?

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There are so many different sex toys on the market today that it can be difficult to not only tell the difference between them and what they can be used for, but also which one you’ll like the best. Is there a difference between a vibrator and a dildo, or are they actually the same thing? Here’s how you can tell.

Question: How is a vibrator different than a dildo? Some of my friends say it is the same thing.

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What Is A Dildo?

Typically, a dildo is used for insertion only. The most common type of dildos are the ones that are molded to look like real penises, but any sex toy that is used for insertion in either the vagina or the anus is a considered a dildo. Dildos can come in a variety of shapes, sizes, colors and textures and range from the very small and discreet to the very large and kinky. Anal dildos have a wide, flared base at the bottom to prevent the toy from going too far inside the anal cavity, and some dildos have attachments for both anal and vaginal insertion at the same time. There are double dildos for use by two people, or dildos with strap on attachments that can be worn hands free.

What Is A Vibrator?

Dildos can also be vibrators, but not all vibrators are considered dildos. Vibrating dildos are used for insertion, but other types of vibrators exist as well. Clitoral vibrators are among the most popular type of vibrators for women, and are made to simply be placed on the clitoris. These types of vibrators are typically small, but some of them can be quite large, especially wand vibrators that are also sold as back and shoulder massagers. Other vibrators include anal vibrators and vibrating beads, bullets and ben-wa balls. G-spot vibrators are also popular for women, as they’re made for insertion into the vagina but include a special curve that allows them to reach and stimulate the g-spot.

How To Choose The Best Toy For You

There are so many different sex toys to choose from, it is sometimes hard to figure out which one you’ll like best. First, decide whether you want a toy that vibrates or not. If you don’t want anything that vibrates, you’re going to be looking mostly at dildos and can simply decide which size and texture you’d like to try. If you do want some type of vibrating toy, decide whether you want one for clitoral stimulation, vaginal insertion or both. Many vibrators come with clitoral vibrating attachements, giving you both types of pleasure at once. If you’re looking for clitoral stimulation only, try a small vibrating bullet or even a strap-on vibrator that you can wear both during sex and under your clothes that can give you hands free vibration. If you’re looking for both clitoral vibration and vaginal vibration or simply vaginal vibration, look for a Rabbit vibrator or a slim and sleek, easy to use vibrator. You may want to have more than one sex toy in your dresser drawer, because you may be in the mood for something a little different now and then!

How To Open Your Relationship

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Would you ever be open to swinging or having an open relationship? While the common reaction to this question is “hell no!” what if you are open to the idea? How do you tell your partner? Most importantly, how do you keep it from ruining your relationship? First and foremost, it doesn’t have to ruin your relationship (although many swear it will). You must be open-minded, trusting of your partner, and ready for lots of honest communication. Opening your relationship is not something to be entered into lightly.

Broaching The Subject

If you think your partner might be open to swinging, just be honest. Tell him or her that you might want to talk about doing it someday. Feel out the reaction. You don’t have to make a decision right away, and it may take several conversations before you decide if you want to proceed.

Getting Started

Talk it out, talk a little more…and then talk again. Talk about why you trust each other and how a situation like this could damage that trust. Talk about your concerns and expectations. Lay down ground rules to get past first time swinger fears. It cannot be stressed enough that communication is key. Choose if you’re looking for a swap or individual situation. If you’re going to meet someone one-on-one, decide if you will tell each other the dirty details afterward. Establish what kind of check-ins you’re going to have (checking in before and after a meeting makes your partner feel respected and lets them know you’re okay). Decide which acts you’re allowed to perform with others.

Seeking Partners

There are plenty of places on the internet to find people for sex. Your local CraigsList.com is free, but there are a lot of scams and prostitutes to sift through. Sites like AdultFriendFinder.com have a small fee, but eliminate the shady people who just want your money. This can be fun but tedious. Together, you can browse through the myriad of people. Discuss the type of (as well as what turns you on or off about) the people you’re interested in meeting. If you find someone you’re interested in, send a message. Ask about their habits and hobbies and why they’re in an open relationship (or looking for a couple). Tell them about your own expectations and agreements.

Getting Down To Business

Many people choose to meet in a public place for a first meeting. A hotel bar is usually a good location, since you can get a room if the meeting leads to sex. Now, this goes without saying, but I’m going to say it anyway: Protect yourself and practice safe sex. Use condoms, dental dams, a safe word, and make sure someone knows where you are. Tell your significant other about your plans; if you’re going out together, leave a note at home or inform a (very open-minded) friend.

In The Afterglow

Time for more communication! Talk about the things that you felt good or uncomfortable about, as well as whether you want to continue pursuing a swinger relationship. Finally, remind your partner of how important they are to you and of just how much you love them.

Q&A: Losing My Erection – Am I Gay?

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Losing your erection can be frightening, especially if you’re not sure why. There are lots of reasons that men lose their erections, whether they’re young, old, gay or straight. If you find yourself unexpectedly losing your erection, you’re probably wondering what it’s all about – and how to fix it. Here’s what to do when you start going soft.

Question: I have a problem with sex. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 months now. We’ve had sex for couple times. If we make out I get an erection, but if i want to have sex with her, my erection just goes away. If I masturbate with my friends together, I will get a really hard and long-lasting erection. Do you think I am gay?

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Pressure To Perform

Very few men are able to get it on when they’re under intense pressure to perform. If you’re in a new relationship and you feel like your partner is really scrutinizing your every move and sizing you up (literally and figuratively) you’ll probably be a bit nervous when it’s time for the lights to go out. It is not at all uncommon for this type of sexual pressure to cause men to lose their erection or to make it difficult to achieve an erection at all.

What Do You Fantasize About?

If you’re wondering if losing your erection around a woman makes you gay, you’re not the first and you won’t be the last. Going soft when you’re with a woman doesn’t make you gay and it’s not at all an indicator of whether you might be gay or bisexual at all. What you fantasize about when you’re masturbating or having sex is the best way to tell if you’re truly gay or not. If you’re with a woman and wish you were with a man or fantasize about having sex with a man, you might be gay or bisexual. Otherwise, don’t stress if you’re just having some erection issues. It doesn’t have anything to do with your sexual orientation.

Sexual Comfort

Many men experience erectile problems when they’re not in their comfort zone. If you’re with a new partner and in a new relationship, you’re not going to be as comfortable sexually than if you’re with your friends or with someone you’ve been with before and are comfortable with. Even if you’re masturbating with your friends and your friends are guys, it doesn’t mean you’re gay if you consistently achieve a long lasting erection when you’re with them. It may be solely that you’re in a comfortable situation where you’re not feeling pressured to perform and you can relax enough to focus on your own pleasure. Try getting to know your partner outside of sex. Get to know them as a person and as a friend. When you do have sex with your partner, find a place that is comfortable for you, such as your home or your bed. Going to her home or even having sex in the car may make you uncomfortable enough to lose your erection. Give your relationship time. You may find that your problem resolves itself when you get to know your partner and your relationship becomes more solid.

Dating In The Bread-Line: How To Deal With Your Partner Being Unemployed

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Newsflash, everybody: we are living in a rough economic time. No, seriously, we are. Previously coveted gadgets are now considered frivolous. Businesses are dropping faster than the nation’s morale. Millions of Americans have been laid off at least once over the last few years. Because of this, the idea of your significant other suddenly being rendered unemployed and dating during a recession is not all that far-fetched. “Got it,” you think, “but how do I deal with it?”

Should You Fork Over The Dough For Your Date?

First, how long have you been together? If it hasn’t been very long at all, stepping up to support him or her could set a bad precedent for the future of this relationship. However, if you are already living together and have committed a major portion of your lives to each other, this should be a no-brainer. Try doing a few things to recession proof your relationship before the going gets too tough.

Second, how long will he or she be able to get by? Is there an emergency savings account that can be accessed? Do you have money you would be willing to loan? Did the employer give them a severance package? These situations may make the transition easier for the both of you. This is a time when couples must work together to find a solution.

If there is no backup plan, get one…fast. Now is not the not the time for your partner to host X-Box tournaments to all the unemployed people on the block. They should be sending out resumes left and right, stapling them to lampposts, if necessary (no, not really). You can help by writing up the resume if you are skilled with business writing. If you aren’t, offer to help by looking it over a couple times. Meanwhile, your partner should look into the possibility of getting a part-time job to sustain them until a full-time job comes along.

Supporting Your Partner During The Rough Patches

The best thing you can do for your partner is to be supportive and avoid financial infidelity. This is a very difficult time, one in which a person feels lowly and burdensome. Reassure them that they’ll find something. When they start to feel down on themselves, help with the online search or tweak their resume to fit each job. Having a support system will keep him or her motivated. Work with them on interview skills. Offer to introduce them to people in your network, people who could possibly help them secure a position. Try not to make money an issue or talk about money much if you can during this time. It’s stressful for all, but making them feel worse about it will not help matters.

Finally, while you love and adore this person, keep a wary eye open. Don’t let them fall into the habit of depending on you, of letting you do all the work. You don’t want to constantly hassle them about job-hunting or networking. However, if you never see them making progress toward finding a job and the high score in PacMan keeps growing with each passing day, they may be taking advantage of you and your good nature.