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4 HOT Advanced Sex Positions

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Sex positions can make a dull sex life incredible all over again! Here are four advanced sex positions for you to try TONIGHT to turn the heat UP!

1. Side By Side Position 1

If you’ve never tried having sex in a side-by-side position, then now is the time. Many couples find these positions are not only conducive to orgasms but it also allows for more physical contact and a mutual feeling of closeness which, let’s be honest, you want to feel with a special partner. With this first example, you and your partner must lie on your sides facing each other. You’ll need to be as close as possible. Also, make sure that your feet are facing your headboard. The sturdy surface will act as a brace for you when things get really hot.

Now gently lift your partner’s top leg in the air and slide inside her before placing her leg over yours. She should wrap her leg around you to give you more leverage during penetration. This way the two of you can work together to set a rhythm pleasing to both of your bodies while you also continue some heavy foreplay.

2. Side By Side Position 2

Here’s another way you can enjoy the side-by-side position while helping your partner reach orgasm. This time you won’t be facing each other. Instead, you’ll be on your side behind her. In order to penetrate her, you may need to raise her upper leg a little. Once you are inside and have found a steady thrusting rhythm you should gently lean her backward so she is almost lying on top of you.

Now while you are still thrusting in and out of her vagina, use your hand or a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris.

3. Grinding

When women masturbate with their fingers, they often rub their clitoris using circular movements. Since you know that, you should attempt to use similar circular motions during penetration. To do this, you need to grind into your partner the way you would if you were doing some erotic dancing. Move your hips in a circular motion and make sure that you are pressing against her groin area. The combination of your movement and the pressure on the area will stimulate her clitoris and bring her to orgasm.

4. Alphabet Position

If your partner is more comfortable with the missionary position, but she is still having trouble reaching orgasm, then this position may help. Again, she should be lying on her back, preferably on the floor or a large comfortable bed. You’ll spread out across her on your side, perpendicularly so that the two of you resemble a lowercase “T.”

Place her legs over your body or have one of them hanging off the bed, whichever is most comfortable, and slide your penis inside of her. At the same time you penetrate her, begin using your finger to gently massage her clitoris. Try to mimic the intensity of penetration with your clitoral stimulation. For example, if you’re doing a slow grind, use slow circular motions to stimulate the clitoris.

What To Do When Sex Hurts

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Sex tips aren’t always about how to do it better. If sex hurts, you need some suggestions on how to fix the issue. Find out now how to relieve sex pain!

For the woman that finds sex painful, it can be rare to find a position or angle that will help her orgasm with any kind of ease. If she has had this issue for any length of time, she has already associated intercourse with pain in her mind, so overcoming this can be incredibly difficult. There are a handful of reasons why a woman might find sex painful or uncomfortable, but only a doctor can decide what the underlying symptoms might be.

First Timers

Although it’s nothing more than a myth that sex always hurts the first time, for some women, especially if she has never used a sex toy or tampon, it can be very overwhelming. She may have a particularly firm hymen, or she may not be adequately aroused and lubricated to ensure safe penis passage.

Some women also clench up during their first few sexual encounters because they aren’t body-aware and are nervous, or anticipating some form of pain. Go slowly, but if you cannot enter her one finger without serious discomfort, it’s time to visit her doctor.

A Funny Feeling

For many women, sex is more than just a penis entering her vagina. It is a full-body experience, and one that she takes very seriously. If she’s not feeling into it, if you’ve recently had a fight or are otherwise emotionally disconnected from one another, it could be incredibly difficult to make sex work at all, let alone getting her to let go and release.

Take some time to woo your lover again with bubble baths, massages, lots of kissing and foreplay, and try out one of the more intimate, face-to-face positions in this eBook as a starting point. Once she’s feeling comfortable with you, this too shall pass.

Lack Of Lubrication

A woman who has just given birth, or one who is over the age of 40 will likely need a bottle of lubricant nearby during most sexual encounters, but there are a lot of other factors that could inhibit a woman’s ability to get moist. Make sure she’s really excited, because for most women that is the only reason that keeps her from getting slippery.

If you are both sure she’s adequately aroused, grab some water-based lube for all-round, long lasting use. Warm it up with your hands first so it doesn’t surprise her, then lovingly massage her labia and vaginal opening with a little drop before entering her.

Have Patience

Yes, some women can orgasm quickly during intercourse, but this kind of quick release is a learned skill that she has to perfect over an extended period of time. For most women, getting to orgasm will take at least twenty minutes, but could be even closer to the forty minute mark with foreplay and fingering, especially if she hasn’t reached climax during sex before, or is still learning to make it there consistently.

Take your time when seducing your partner and really enjoy the experience for as long as you can. You don’t need to clock-watch – just chill out and take your time. Rushing her will only increase her anxiety about reaching the mark, and you’ll be defeated before you’ve even begun.

Allergies Or Medications

The special spots between a woman’s legs are highly sensitive, and for some women, prone to rashes or irritation. If she is complaining before sex that she’s not feeling 100% ‘down there,’ take the time to investigate and ask questions. Has she used any new products lately, such as a douche or laundry soap? Have you changed brands of condoms or lube? Did she get sunburned, has her personal sexual activity changed?

Have you been playing with food or other strange insertions? Any of these things can impair her comfort and ability to climax. If after a week or so of waiting for things to heal or clear up after changing products or habits, a trip to her doctor is the next step.

Irregularity

No, I don’t mean her behaviour in this case, but rather how things are flowing ‘down there.’ When her body is backed up or her cycle is strange, she may struggle with feeling sexy, or worry that she’ll have to run to the bathroom in the middle of a session. She might not have the body-comfort necessary to share this kind of information with you, so you may just need to wait a day or two if you think this could be an issue, and see if it works itself out.

A Jaded Past

When a woman has been sexually abused or treated poorly in any past sexual relationship, it will affect your relationship with her, no questions asked. If she is willing to talk about it with you, listen carefully to determine what bothers her most. You need to determine her triggers and avoid situations that might remind her of the past. If past abuse holds her up sexually, suggest the two of you go to professional help together so that she can move passed her past, and you can learn how to please her in new and exciting ways.

When To Call The Doctor

There are a few instances where a medical problem comes in between you and your partner’s personal enjoyment. For women who find sex extremely painful during penetration, it might be necessary to visit a doctor and rule out Vaginismus. It is a relatively rare condition, but there are options for treatment. Take a trip with her to her gynaecologist, or even her G.P. If you would like to learn more about Vaginismus, show an interest and participate in the process, so you can find out what you can do to help her scream in ecstasy instead of pain.

Spooning Sex Position

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As far as romantic and intimate sex positions go, the Spooning sex position is really where it’s at. Much like spooning when sleeping or cuddling, this sex position provides full body contact and plenty of opportunities for touching, hugging, kissing and whispering in each other’s ears.

How To Do It

This is an excellent intimate sex position that will give both partners a sense of emotional connection. While both partners are lying on their sides, he enters her from behind, with his chest resting against her back. This is very much like the “spooning” position that many couples use while sleeping – which makes this sex position so comforting and sensual.

Where To Do It

Bed, couch, floor

Props You’ll Need

Pillows for your head

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

3

She will really enjoy the intimacy of this sex position. It feels very much like cuddling to her, which is right up her alley. The penetration might not be as deep as other sex positions, however, he can make up for it by reaching around and stroking her skin with his hands, cupping her breasts and fondling her clitoris.

His O-Meter

3

With this sex position, there’s not much in the way for him to look at, which can be a huge damper during sex. Fix this by installing a mirror next to your bed if you don’t already have one – he can enter her from behind, while still getting to enjoy checking her out from top to bottom.

XXX Tip

This is the perfect position for spontaneous middle-of-the-night sex. To add a BDSM twist, he can pull her hair or grab her throat from behind.

Cowgirl Sex Position

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Sex Positions: CowgirlThe Cowgirl sex position is by far the most conducive to female orgasms, and many women can only orgasm in this position. Guys love it too because they get to sit back and relax while their girl takes care of most of the thrusting action. This is a must have sex position in your repertoire.

How To Do It

The Cowgirl sex position is a favorite among women! It’s also known as the “Woman On Top” sex position. The male partner lies flat on his back (like the woman does in standard Missionary) and the female partner straddles his pelvis with her legs on either side of him, resting her weight on her knees. He can bend his knees some to help support her, or he can leave his legs lying flat on the bed. She can sit straight up, but it is more common for women to lean forward some for more clitoral stimulation.

Where To Do It

Couch, bed, chair, floor, car – any flat surface will do.

Props You’ll Need

A soft blanket or pillow to go under her knees.

Difficulty Level

2

Her O-Meter

5

The Cowgirl sex position allows a woman to control almost everything about sex – the speed and depth of penetration, as well as the angle. She can change any one of these things to better facilitate an orgasm, and this makes it much easier for her to achieve the big O. Because this sex position offers such excellent g-spot and clitoral stimulation, many women can have blended orgasms!

His O-Meter

4

If she’s getting off, he’s getting off. He really loves watching her do her thing, so this sex position gives him a great show. He really digs her riding him and using his body to get herself off.

XXX Tip

If she’s sitting straight up, he’s got a much better view, and she can touch herself while having sex to give him the ultimate show!

How To Get Her Phone Number

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Dating tips are essential if you want to score with the ladies. Here are some excellent suggestions to snag any girl’s phone number you want!

There is a misconception that you must talk to a woman for a long period of time before you’re allowed to get her number. There is nothing wrong with asking women for their phone numbers after only a very short conversation. After conversing for five minutes you could pull out your phone and say, “What’s your number?”

Be Confident

Don’t say submissive things like: “You’ve probably got a boyfriend, right? No? Well, then can I maybe please have your number?”

You may be thinking, “If she really likes me she’ll give me her number, won’t she?” Well, no. As you may remember, women are always checking to make sure you’re the confident, masculine man you project yourself to be. It’s part of the “the test.”

FACT: Masculine men know what they want and know how to get it

Masculine men don’t beg or plead for what they want. They command respect and expect everyone to comply with their requests. The simple mistake of asking humbly for her number gives her hundreds of opportunities to avoid your request and to figure out that you’re not the man she thought you were.

Instead, when you expect her number, you communicate that you’re a man who knows what he wants, and knows how to get it.

What If She Doesn’t Give It To You?

When you start putting your new knowledge into practice you’ll make mistakes – everyone does. Resistance during the initial meeting is normal. When you start to use this information, by understanding the excuses women might give, you can be prepared with your own responses and possibly save many hours.

There are only two reasons why a woman would avoid giving out her number:

  1. She’s in a relationship.
  2. She isn’t attracted to you.

Understanding the reasons, let’s look at the four major excuses women use.

Excuse #1 – “Why You Don’t Give Me YOUR Number?”

Don’t buy into this common trap. Women almost never call men first because, as discussed before, men are supposed to be the leaders. They should control every step of the dating process. Continue to ask her for her number. If she doesn’t want to give it to you, don’t give her your number, because you’ll just be wasting your time.

A woman says, “Why don’t you give me your number?” To the misguided man this means, “She’s interested and will call me” But it actually means, “I don’t feel a connection to you and want to get out of this situation as quickly and as easily as possible.”

Excuse #2 – “I’m Really Busy With Work/School/Commitments At The Moment”

This can be her subconscious mind really trying to stay away from men she doesn’t know well or feel comfortable with. The best way to deal with this is setting up a date on the spot. Say something along the lines of: “That’s OK – I understand, I’m really busy myself, but everyone’s got 20 minutes for coffee, no matter how busy they are, haven’t they?”

Excuse #3 – “I Have A Boyfriend”

This excuse can mean two things. She actually has a boyfriend and is happy with her relationship, or she doesn’t have a boyfriend but wants you to leave her alone. This is usually a lose–lose situation, because if you persist in asking her out, it reinforces her choice by telling herself you have no respect for a woman already in a relationship. Take the excuse “I have a boyfriend” as a sign to thank her, have a laugh and move on, no hard feelings.

Excuse #4 – “Why Don’t We Swap?”

Why would a woman want your number in return? Most likely so she can see who’s calling and avoid answering the phone if she doesn’t find the caller interesting. Let’s say you successfully get the woman’s number, now it’s OK to give her your number in return, right?

Wrong! You don’t want a woman identifying your number. Although this may seem strange, the fact is a woman doesn’t need your number. If you call her three times while she was working she’ll see: “three missed calls from John.”

Letting her know that you’ve called three times doesn’t look too good if you want to appear as an independent, strong and masculine male. Instead it makes you seem clingy and desperate. Women would rather wait for you to call again. So remember not to offer her your number at all. If she asks for it, just say she doesn’t need it, or say, “Na, just give me yours.” It’s that simple. If you don’t want to give her your number – and I recommend you don’t – just let her know.

Women don’t really want to lie. But after years of experience with boys they aren’t attracted to, they’ve engineered an under-the-radar method to avoid socially awkward situations they’d rather not deal with.

While some of these dating tips seem tricky and complicated, just understand that what women say isn’t always what they mean. Identifying the common responses and resistances lets you know whether you should invest your time further, or whether she isn’t interested at all, but is just being nice to avoid an awkward confrontation.