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5 Ways To Get Her To Be Better At Sex

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Sex tips aren’t something you can just give to a partner who is bad at sex – you have to be gentle about it. Here’s how to nudge your lover in the right direction.

Having sex with a girl that doesn’t really know what she is doing can be very frustrating. Nobody wants to sleep with a dud. A girl that is inhibited by her sexuality or simply does not know how certain positions make you feel can easily leave you exhausted with your sex life.

Just because the girl doesn’t really know what she’s doing, it doesn’t mean that you should end the relationship. You can turn this around by some simple communication exercises. Here are a few suggestions for getting her to be better at sex.

1. Talk To Her

Maybe she knows that your sex life is on the rocks, but maybe she doesn’t. For you know, she could think that everything is hunky dory. Talk to your girlfriend or wife and tell her that you think the sex could be improved. Every relationship has problems and sex is a very common one.

Talking to your wife will let her know that you are not satisfied with the sex, but willing to work on it so the relationship can improve. An improved sex life will lead to an improved relationship from an overall standpoint. You don’t want to be negative about your sex life. Keep things light and positive.

2. Find Out Her Fantasies

There is nothing that is going to get a girl enjoying herself more in the bedroom than exploring her very own sexual fantasies. When a girl is exploring her fantasies, she is going to be much more open to leaving her inhibitions at the door. Talk to her about what she finds hot. One of the problems with guys is they are centered on what they want in the bedroom rather than what their partner wants.

Your sex life should be filled with compromise. If your girl comes back and says that she wants to try something that you’re not really that thrilled about, go with it. When she sees that you’re compromising with her fantasies, she’s going to be more open to your fantasies.

3. Be The Guy She Wants To Change For

Whether you need to schedule more date nights or make more time for her in your every day life, be the guy that she wants to change for. Sex can be a never-ending conundrum. You don’t want to change because you’re not getting the sex that you want.

She doesn’t want to have sex because you’re not changing for her. Break this cycle by helping her out whenever possible. Make sure she has gas in her car. Do the laundry without being asked. When she is not worried about other things in her life, she will be more carefree and more open to feel the emotions she needs to make you happy.

4. Work On The Relationship

Sometimes a girl will be lethargic about sex because the relationship has other issues. Whether she is worried about the longevity of the relationship or if there have been infidelity issues, working on the relationship will definitely improve the sex. Reaffirm how much you care for her every day. Do little things that will make her feel special. No girl or guy wants to be in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere.

Sure casual relationships can be fun for a while, but the passion eventually wears off. A relationship cannot be sustained by sex alone. Realizing this and working on your relationship is a great way to get her to be more open about sex and better in bed.

5. Teach Her

Guys love it when women are vocal in bed. Why wouldn’t it be the other way around? When you are having sex, don’t be afraid to tell her what you want. Try to avoid things that are light-years ahead of the norm. For instance, don’t tell her that you want to have anal sex with her if you have never done it or ever discussed it. If you want to try a new position or you want her to go faster or slower, tell her.

Women aren’t mind readers. They might be able to pick up on a few things here or there, but telling her what you want outright is a surefire way to easily get the positions that you like. If she’s doing something wrong, correct her in a positive manner. Never criticize her during or after sex. The last thing that you want is for her to get embarrassed or ashamed of her techniques. Use positive reinforcement and you will start to see a vast improvement in your sex life.

Blowjob Therapy Sex Position

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Perhaps one of the best oral sex positions for him, Oral Therapy allows a man to lie back, relax and enjoy a blowjob in the utmost comfort. He can lie all the way back and close his eyes, or check her out while she goes down on him. This is truly an oral sex position he will love!

How To Do It

The Oral Therapy oral sex position is an exceptionally comfortable and enjoyable one for a man. He’s laid back on the couch or the edge of the bed, relaxed and comfortable. His female partner is kneeling at his groin, leaning over the couch or bed to perform oral sex on him. It’s a fairly easy oral sex position to use, and it is much more conducive to the male orgasm than a standing oral sex position, since it can sometimes be difficult for men to ejaculate when they’re concentrating on standing and not falling backwards if their knees get weak.

Where To Do It

This is a perfect position for the sofa, a lounge chair by the pool, or even the edge of a low bed.

Props You’ll Need

Pillows for her under her knees and under his head

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

2

This oral sex position is fairly comfortable for the female partner and does reduce neck cramps somewhat, which can be a huge problem when it comes to giving great head. She can also reach down and stimulate herself in this position, making the experience more enjoyable for her.

His O-Meter

4

He’s relaxed, he’s comfortable and he’s kicking back while getting a blowjob – what’s not for a man to love with the Oral Therapy oral sex position? He can lay back and concentrate on the pleasure with his eyes closed, or he can prop his head up on a pillow or underneath his arm if he wants to watch the action.

XXX Tip

Ladies, if you reach down and fondle yourself while you’re giving your man oral sex in this position, he’ll love it. He may not be able to see exactly what you’re doing, but he’ll really get off on the fact that you’re so turned on by going down on him that you can’t help but touch yourself!

If he’s game, this is a great position for a little prostate stimulation to really give him an explosive orgasm!

Kneeling Blowjob Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Kneeling BlowjobThe Kneeling Blowjob sex position is perhaps one of the most popular oral sex positions for him, and it’s definitely one of his favorites. He loves being able to look down and see her going to work on him, but if she’s really good at it, she might make him weak in the knees! Keep a chair nearby!

How To Do It

The Kneeling Blowjob is one of the most common oral sex positions for him. It’s an extremely powerful position – he will feel very dominant when he receives a blowjob this way. In this position, the male partner is standing and the female partner is kneeling in front of him to perform oral sex. This is a very simple yet effective oral sex position for him, although some men won’t be able to orgasm well in this position because they are standing and cannot relax. Ladies, if you’re good enough to make him weak in the knees, you might want to switch to a sitting oral sex position for the finish!

Where To Do It

Anywhere he can stand!

Props You’ll Need

Pillow or folded blanket/towel to slip under her knees

Difficulty Level

1

Her O-Meter

1

This position can help reduce neck cramps when the female partner is giving oral sex, but may be uncomfortable due to extended periods of time spent on her knees.

His O-Meter

5

He loves getting head this way because it makes him feel very manly, as though the female partner is submitting to him – and in a way, she is. He’ll enjoy looking down and watching his lover give him oral sex, and making eye contact with her when she looks up from doing her job.

XXX Tip

This is an excellent “quickie blowjob” oral sex position. He can drop his drawers almost anywhere at any time and if you have enough privacy (and sometimes if you don’t) she can suck him off quickly. It’s a standard oral sex position that you can make very, very naughty if you get creative!

Lap Dance Sex Position

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Sex Positions: Lap DanceThe Lap Dance sex position is a fun rear entry sex position but can lack intimacy due to the way each partner is facing. Thrusting can also be a little difficult, but he can have a lot of fun playing with her breasts while she rides him. It can also be a great follow-up sex position to a real lap dance!

How To Do It

This is another rear entry sex position, but it happens to be a little more difficult than some of the others. In this sex position, the male partner is seated on a surface such as the edge of the bed, couch or a chair with his feet flat on the floor. The female partner lowers herself onto him facing away from him with her back against his chest. That sounds easy enough, but the difficult part of this sex position is getting the female partner’s feet in position – her feet are tucked behind her, facing away from her on either side of her partner’s body. This can be an awkward position if a woman is not very flexible.

Where To Do It

Couch, bed, chair – anywhere that allows the male partner to sit on the edge with his feet on the floor.

Props You’ll Need

Couch, bed or chair

Difficulty Level

4

Her O-Meter

2

This sex position is more difficult for her to get into and stay in than her partner. It can be a little awkward, especially since the thrusting is mainly her responsibility. This is where it can get tough, because she’s going to have to raise up on her shins and most women aren’t used to maneuvering that way during sex. It can take some time getting used to how to move here to create the best penetration.

His O-Meter

3

Since he’s in a natural sitting position with her facing away from him and sitting on his lap, this sex position isn’t really that uncomfortable for him. He doesn’t have a view though, unless he and his lover are getting it on in front of a mirror.

XXX Tip

The male partner can reach around and hold or fondle her breasts during sex, and he can also reach down and fondle her clitoris, which is getting almost no stimulation in the Lap Dance sex position. This will make sex more enjoyable for her and increase her orgasm potential.

6 Hot New Sex Tips To Try Tonight!

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Sex tips are a great way to keep your sex life inspired. Whether you’re getting tired of the same old missionary style, or you’re looking to expand your already amazing sex life, sex tips can take you over the hump. If you and your partner are looking for a way to increase the amount of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship, these sex tips can easily help you out. Here are 5 hot new sex tips to try tonight.

1. Roleplay With Your Partner

Role play isn’t for everybody. There are of men and women that get embarrassed over putting on a costume or having to improv sexy talk. If you and your partner are comfortable with it, role playing can be a great way to put some new kink into your sex life. Some of the most common forms of roleplay involve one partner being dominant and the other being submissive.

Before you start to role play, you should always determine who is going to be dominant and who is going to be submissive. If you want to switch it up in the middle of the role playing then this is fine too. The key is to find a healthy balance so the both of you are satisfied in the end.

2. Set Up Barriers

This is something that is commonly found in the pick up artist community, but it works well with couples also. Barriers are basically used to increase sexual tension. Pick up artists use this to increase sexual tension in an environment that cannot be used for sex. For instance, talking dirty to a girl in a restaurant or getting a her turned on in a nightclub.

You can’t have sex in a nightclub or in a restaurant, so the girl feels safe and more likely to respond in a positive manner. Go out to dinner with your partner and use the barriers to your advantage. Get the sexual tension so high that you can’t wait to get home.

3. Switch Up The Dominance

There are a lot of guys and girls that love to be either dominant or submissive in the bedroom. One of the best ways that you can get out of your comfort zone and experience something different is to switch up the dominance. Instead of always having your boyfriend or girlfriend being the dominant one, take control.

If you’re the one who always takes control, be submissive. In the middle of sex, switch roles so that you are either dominant or submissive. This will not only increase the sexual tension and create a really fun environment for experimentation, it can also expose you to new and creative ways of taking or letting go of control.

4. Use Sex Toys

There are too many couples who rely on their bodies for sexual pleasure. If you haven’t tried sex toys yet, do it. Take a trip to the adult store together and pick out a small vibrator or dildo for your girlfriend. You also might want to try out a cock ring or a vibrating condom. Sex toys are there to enhance your sex life, not replace it.

So many couples think that sex toys are a form of “cheating” or “copping out.” Just because you have a really intense orgasm with a vibrator doesn’t mean that your guy isn’t a good lover. Try out some sex toys to get things rolling or to take your orgasms to the next level.

5. Remove Anxieties

With kids, work, housework or whatever else you have in your life, the last thing that you or your partner wants to do is have sex. Sex is about having fun and it can be an escape from life, however, there are things that your sexual urges can’t overcome. Remove the anxieties from life so you can focus on your sex life. Try to help your partner out on a daily basis so you both have less stress and anxiety in your lives. This will go a long way with your sex life.

6. Double Down On Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for having great sex. While this is not secret, so many men and women tend to forget it when they are in a long-term relationship. It’s way to easy to get to the big show immediately. Take the time that you normally spend on foreplay and double it. If you normally spend about 5 minutes on foreplay, extend it to 10 minutes.

Mix up what you normally do so your partner is surprised. Going from kissing to oral sex is a staple. Mix it up so you are kissing and then giving oral sex and then back to kissing or just fingering. This will make a big difference in the way that your partner gets turned on.