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How To Turn A Shower Before Oral Sex Into Foreplay

By loveandsex

Oral sex can be a lot of fun, but if he’s not clean first, it’s only fun for him. Here’s how you can get him to shower before oral sex and make it foreplay.

You know that it is pretty much essential for a guy to shower before oral sex for both your sake and his – but just how do you broach the subject? Do you flat out tell him he stinks and needs to wash up before you come within 10 feet of his downstairs area? Absolutely not! This will kill his ego and turn him off for the remainder of the night. He won’t be able to enjoy the blowjob because he’s caught up in worrying if he smells bad down there or not. But does that mean you grin and bear the sweaty man odor?

No way!

You can get him to take a shower before oral sex without telling him he stinks and bruising his ego. It’s called foreplay.

Lure Him Into The Shower

Making a shower before oral sex a part of foreplay is the best way to get your man smelling fresh and clean without him being aware of what you’re up to. Look at it this way – he can’t resist a naked, soapy girl who wants to play with him, can he? Use this to your advantage! Lure him into the shower by telling him you want to be hot, wet and naked with him. Whisper in his ear that you want to feel your wet, soapy body sliding all over his. He’ll probably take his clothes off and high tail it to the shower so fast he leaves a smoke trail!

Soap Him Up To Turn Him On

If you’re whispering in his ear that you want to slide your hot, soapy body all over his in the shower, you’d better make good on your innuendo. Don’t hop in the shower and start scrubbing his balls right away – he’ll definitely get a clue then and he’ll be none too happy about it. Start by slowly soaping yourself down, spending a little extra time on your most sensitive parts, such as your nipples and your clitoris.

He’ll really enjoy the show and you’re bound to get turned on too! If he wants in on the action, let him get you sudsy first. Allow him to soap wherever he’d like and spend as much time as he likes there – that way, when you go to soap him down, it just seems like you’re copying what he’s doing.

When you’re washing his genital area, be gentle and keep up the notion that you’re doing it to turn him on, not to clean him up. If you lose yourself in the idea of pleasuring him, you’re going to forget what you’re doing too – and you’ll both end up getting out of the shower hot, steamy and turned on – not to mention clean. Use the soap as a sort of lubricant to allow your hand to slide up and down his shaft and all around his genitals.

Cup his scrotum gently as you wash him, and make sure to get under where his perineum is. He probably doesn’t want you to wash his anus, so skip that part unless you know for a fact that he likes that area stimulated. If you skip the perineum area, you’re likely to still have a strong odor when your fella gets out of the shower, because this is where most of the sweat and bacteria hangs out. Let him know how much it turns you on to see him all hard and soapy!

Give Him A Preview (Or Finish Him Off) In The Shower

Once he’s clean, you may want to surprise him with an in-shower blowjob. This can be super fun for the both of you, but may require some creativity on your part to find the right oral sex positions. Giving head in the shower is easier than having sex in the shower, but only marginally. The easiest way to do it is to have him stand while you kneel, but don’t be afraid to get a towel soaked in the name of making sure your knees don’t start to hurt five minutes in. If you have a large enough tub or an in-tub chair, you can have him sit down, while you sit cross legged in front of him.

If you’re lucky enough to be able to get into this position okay, this is going to be the most comfortable for you. Another option is to have him sit down in the tub, while you kneel on all fours and go down on him that way – again, a towel is your best friend here. Who cares if it gets soaking wet? You can always wash it later.

You can give him an oral sex “preview” while you’re in the shower, or you can totally finish him off there. It’s up to you and how you want to do it! Sometimes the hot, running water can be super sexy as you suck him off, and if he ejaculates semen in your mouth, the shower makes it much easier to spit and rinse your mouth out discreetly, without him ever knowing that you didn’t swallow! Experiment with different things in the shower and have fun with it!

Even though your main purpose is to get him clean before you go down on him, washing your man up and giving him a blowjob in the shower is fun in and of itself!

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: better sex, foreplay, oral sex, sex tips

5 Red Hot Rear Entry Sex Positions

By loveandsex

Sex positions are fun to play around with and many guys love rear entry sex positions. Here are five that are so hot, you’ll have to take a cold shower!

1. Rear In The Air

The rear entry position has long been heralded as one of the best positions to use to help a woman reach orgasm. However, you need to know the right positions to achieve maximum effectiveness. Here’s one way. Have your partner get in the “doggy style” position on the bed. You stand behind her.

Now before you begin, ask her to lower her top half and rise up her bottom so that her back is arched. When she’s comfortable, you can commence with penetration. In this position, you should be able to stimulate her G-spot (another sensitive area on a woman), plus you can reach below her and use your hand to massage her clitoris.

2. Fun In The Tub

If your foreplay began with you giving your partner a bath, then this may be a good way to take it to the next level when she’s ready. Keep the tub partially filled with warm water (and bubbles if you like). Your partner gets into the tub first and kneels down. She should be close to the faucet so you have plenty of room behind her.

When you get into the tub, you’ll kneel down behind her and penetrate her from behind. As you’re both enjoying this, you can use a showerhead to direct a stream of water directly on her clitoris or you can use a waterproof vibrator to stimulate her. Either method will work wonders, particularly if she has enjoyed masturbating in the tub before.

3. The Leg Clench

While most rear entry positions require the “doggy style” position, this one does not. In fact, if your partner is partial to the missionary position, this may be a good one to try. Your partner stretches out on the bed face down while you straddle her body from behind.

Once you’re deep inside her, ask her to clench her legs together and cross her ankles. This position will keep your bodies close together, which many women enjoy. Plus, she can add even greater pleasure for herself by clenching and unclenching her PC muscle in time with your thrusts. Another benefit of this position is that if you have difficulty preventing yourself from ejaculating before your partner climaxes this technique will slow you down and can buy you some extra time.

4. She’s In Control

One of the most erotic things for a woman to experience sometimes is being in complete control of the sex act during a session. This position can make that possible. In this technique, you sit down on the bed with your legs straight out in front of you. Your partner lowers herself down onto your penis by straddling your legs and facing away from you. You do not move; you allow her to move in the anyway she wants and to set her own rhythm. This gives her more control so she can determine what feels the best for her while you enjoy the view from your end.

5. One Leg Lifted

Women do tend to enjoy this particular position more than others in the “doggy style” category, so it’s definitely one you’ll want to try out. As usual, your partner will be down on all fours. However, one of her legs should be lifted up at angle. Since this position is difficult to hold for long, you should assist her by sliding some soft pillows under leg to prop it up. Instead of penetrating from straight on, you’ll want to position yourself at an angle to her body.

Now slowly insert your penis into her vagina all the way. Don’t stop until your testicles brush against her bottom. Just as slowly, pull it out and repeat. You can speed up a little, but the idea with this technique is to use long, slow strokes. The deeper penetration gives you a better chance of stimulating her clitoris and/or her G-spot, plus most men get off on watching their penis slide inside their partners. Maybe it’s a little like watching a self-made adult movie.

Filed Under: Best Sex Positions For... Tagged With: better sex, doggy style, female orgasm, orgasm, rear entry, sex tips

How To Drive Her INSANE With Soft & Hardcore Dirty Talk!

By loveandsex

Dirty talk can be done anytime during the sexual dance, but we’ll discuss it here as part of sex talk before intercourse.

Dirty talk gives an expectation, an idea or a come-on for your partner. Its purpose is to create naughty pictures and generate dirty thoughts in your lover’s mind. And you do this through highly descriptive, highly sensual language.

Your job is to create a picture she can almost see, hear, feel, taste and smell.

Dirty talk provides an avenue for rush. Civil society has always had a rebellious streak and it is human nature to feel a high engaging in something naughty, prohibited or frowned upon. It makes us feel so alive doing something we’re not supposed to. And the very idea of getting away with it, makes us feel superior, which makes it even hotter!

Be warned though – many find dirty talk hot, but not everybody is a big fan. Some find it inappropriate, lewd and down right offensive – like listening to someone dragging fingernails on a chalkboard. This is very important as the same statement can be effective or offensive, depending on your skill, timing and the woman you’re with.

Sensual Softcore

It’s the world of Double Meanings & Sexual Innuendoes – a good set-up before the step up, perhaps something to get her warmed-up at the office, or even a few steps outside the bedroom door.

We know what a ‘banana’ is, but we also know it suggests things other than the fruit monkeys live for. She need not say: I wanna slide your cock in my mouth. She can just hint that she wants a taste of your banana. A woman may feel icky at the word “cock,” but she’ll have no qualms expressing desire for ‘banana.’ The resulting ambiguity serves as major turn-on.

Because of double meanings, hot dogs and buns become something else. Balls, First Base & Home Run put on meanings not even remotely related to sports.

And the thing is, the double meaning potential need not be obvious. In fact, it need not be there at all! Sexual innuendos prove that anything can be made “dirty.” Yes, anything! Even trivial stuff like can openers, catfish, toothpaste, and the moon & the stars – all these can be made dirty. Simply back them up with a sexy tone, lascivious look, heavy breathing, puckered lips, a mischievous wink, a knowing smile, a tongue sweeping across the lips etc. Anything you pair with these can become dirty. With softcore, it’s not so much the precise words as it is the manner you deliver them. Because you can scream “pussy” all day and your girl still thinks you’re referring to some cat.

Deliciously Naughty Hardcore

Softcore is suggestive, hardcore is explicit – it doesn’t say ‘banana,’ it says ‘dick’ or some other slang. It doesn’t hesitate, stall, or curtsy. It is often blunt, direct, and often carries the themes of dominance, authority, aggression and possession. It is declaring what you want and delivering it in the most evocative manner. Hardcore simply lets the listener deal with the real thing. This is not the time for rainbows, flowers and butterflies – it is speaking with license.

Banned from public discourse, hardcore dirty talk can make Grandma Lily faint. It’s very effective in that it lets you almost feel the words – therein lies its diabolical power. Because it is direct, hardcore gives a woman a more vivid picture.

Softcore and hardcore dirty talk have their parts to play in the sexual game. Just as hardcore is ineffective in the early goings, softcore  can be too wussy or even inappropriate in the heat of things.

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: better sex, dirty talk, foreplay, sex tips

3 Super HOT Techniques For Any Sex Position

By loveandsex

Sex positions are a great way to spice up your love life – but it’s time to go outside the “box.” Here are three tips you can use with any of the sex positions!

1. Angles & Reverses

Have you ever noticed that almost all sex positions have reverses? They’re not always performed face-to-face, they can also be done back-to-face or butt-to-face.

The Woman-On-Top for example, has the ‘Reverse Rider’ Position where the lady rides with her back to you. The Man-On-Top has two reverse versions, the male ‘Reverse Rider’ – where the gentleman rides with his back to the lady, albeit a difficult one. And of course, the classic ‘69’ Position.

Not all Side-by-Side Positions are executed face-to-face, one may penetrate coming from the back – which can also be classified under Rear Entry. (Like when it’s late in the evening and your lady is sleeping with her back to you, and you suddenly get the idea for a quickie. You simply slide her undies half-way and wiggle from behind – hoping she won’t wake-up before you’re done.)

These variations are not for aesthetic purposes. The feel for each is unique as the strokes come from unique angles – it’s a different set of sensual experience.

2. It’s All About Legs

Your hot rod hangs between the legs, the vagina resides between her legs – and the objective is to acquaint these two so they can do each other some good.

So guess what – those legs (yours and hers) play one of the most principal roles in determining variations. If you think about it, positions have a lot to do with how the limbs are configured. And it’s usually the woman who has legs shifting and flailing about. (Are they spread, crossed, raised, wrapped around your body?) The man, affecting the strokes, often needs leg support for balance and stability.

Changes in leg poses can create a variety of sex positions. One may not be aware of it, but a simple shift in limbs could result in many different configurations.

But more than that, seemingly innocent limb placements do affect the dynamics of penetration, and therefore, the resulting sensations. Leg configurations affect how your penis approaches her vagina, even the nature of the stroke itself. It’s not just for the sake of pose variety; it carries consequences that modify shape, size, depth and tightness of the vaginal barrel because internal changes take place in consonance with those leg movements.

For example, every time a woman brings her legs together and brings both her knees to her chest, like in a fetal position, she’s actually shortening and tightening her vaginal barrel. Thrusting in this position results in maximum penetration. The position is therefore advised for gentlemen with tiny weiners. This way, his penis feels bigger and longer in a shortened, tightened and tensed vaginal barrel.

Conversely, the knees-to-the-chest thing is not prudent for men with a big penis. Theirs will just drive straight into her cervix, and that’s way too intense for comfort. Not good.

3. Pelvic Positioning

Just as minor shifts in limbs create different sensations, simple adjustments of the pelvis also bring distinct delights. This is caused by the change in how the penis approaches the vagina. As said before, the penis can penetrate the vagina in different angles and sexual variations align the thrusting & receiving pelvises in different ways.

In some sex positions, a woman’s pelvis is tilted up. But every time she raises or lowers her pelvis, she changes the angle of entry – causing different vaginal areas, such as the g-spot, to be targeted.

In the same manner, a man leaning backwards or forwards while inside a woman varies the tension between his erect penis and the vagina. (Twitching his rod while inside also has the same effect, but to a lesser degree.)

The idea here is for the couple to move their pelvises around, experiment, even gyrate them sideways or in circles, and find that specific angle that leads to greatest enjoyment.

Filed Under: Best Sex Positions For... Tagged With: better sex, female orgasm, orgasm, sex tips

Erotic Massage For Couples

By loveandsex

Erotic massage is not just a great way to transition into sexy time with your lover, because it helps to calm and relax her, to get her in the mood. Those same calming effects, applied to your body, can help you to take your time during lovemaking, and focus your intentions on pleasing your wife instead of hurrying to please yourself.

Before you dive right in to a sensual massage, take some time with your wife to decide what you want out of the experience. Do you have time for this to turn into sex? Do you want to make sure you both have a good massage before you take that next step?

Or is this just a brief interlude during a busy day, with the knowledge that you will come back together, more relaxed and in the mood, later on, when the rest of the day is complete? Perhaps this is just a chance for the two of you to connect on an intimate level when her libido is waning or you are saving your energy for a special weekend sex marathon!

The Extra Mile

No matter what the purpose, it’s nice to be clear with each other about what you expect. It will help you get a good idea of what to wear, how to set up the room, and what accessories or sex toys to bring along. Also, she is much more likely to enjoy the massage if she knows whether or not it is going to turn into steamy sex, so be sure to take the time to plan before you start working her muscles.

In Position

Start out with your wife lying face down on her stomach, with her head turned to one side. Have her lay her arms down by her side. She may want a small pillow or none at all, to be comfortable in this position, so let her find the spot that works for her. When she is ready, you have your choice of top positions.

Depending on the height and location of your bed, (or perhaps you’re very serious about massage and have acquired your own table!) you can decide what the best position is to enable you to reach the areas of her body that need the most attention. Move around a bit to be able to give her a full-body rub down.

Try kneeling and straddling her thighs, pressed up against her bum so you can reach her shoulders, back, hips and butt. You can also have her spread her legs while you kneel between them, or try kneeling at her side instead. If your bed is high enough, or she is on a table, you can stand next to her.

Just Breathe

The breath is incredibly important during this intimate experience, allowing you to connect with each other and helping you to stay focused on your partner. If you have a hard time focusing on her breath long enough to continue breathing with her the entire time that you are massaging, at least take a few moments before you begin and each time you switch positions to match her rate of respiration.

An alternate breath from Tantric methods that is supposed to aid in the exchange of energy between two partners is to breath alternately – in as she exhales, then out as she inhales. Start slow and deep, and if the rate builds to a crescendo, let it happen naturally. Bring it back down to a slow, deep, calming breath before you head back to the real world.

Rub Just Right

You’re right if you have already realized that a deep muscle massage or a stimulating surface rub are both very different from the kind of clitoris and vagina touching you’re probably used to.

If you are both naked enough to use massage oil or lube, it will help keep your hands slick and smooth for an easy glide on her skin. Be sure to use the whole palm and fingers of both hands for best results. First, put a bit of oil in your hands and rub them together to warm it. Using a flat hand spread out the oil in large, circular motions on her back, being careful not to press directly on the spine anywhere.

When she is well-covered in a natural massage oil, try locating and loosening her sore muscles with a gently squeeze. Use the heel of your thumb to gently press the muscles of her shoulders, back, butt and legs toward the cupped fingers of your hand. Again, avoid pressing directly on the spine.

Follow her lead and listen to her sounds for clues about which spots need more work.

When you have given her a thorough massage, ask her to do you too, lying face down as well. If you want to continue this massage into some sexy time, next have her lie face up, and take some time to massage and caress her face, neck and shoulders, breasts, hips, legs and feet before heading in for a vulva massage and finger play and hopefully an orgasm or two. After she has climaxed, suggest you switch again. Position yourself face up on the table, and let her decide how she wants to return the favor!

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: better sex, erotic massage, foreplay, sex tips

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