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Are You Making These 5 Critical Sex Mistakes?

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Sex tips can take you from an out of touch lover to a virtuoso with just a few reading. While you’re not going to be able to literally hypnotize women, sex tips can put you in a place where you will have the ability to gauge what makes your girlfriend, wife or one nightstand reach orgasm every time.

However, there are some very critical sex mistakes that you could be making without even knowing it. Depending on how open and honest your partner is, they might be too afraid to tell you what you’re doing wrong. If you are committing these mistakes, stop yourself immediately.

1. The Foreplay Is Too Short

Yes, there are times when you are both so hot that you can’t wait to get to the main event. However, most of the time, foreplay is going to be essential. If you are spending less than 5 minutes on foreplay, you’re definitely not giving the girl enough time to warm up before penetration. There should be a lot of kissing, sucking and touching before you ever try to have intercourse with a girl.

Think of it like a car in the winter. How long does it take for the engine to heat up your vehicle in the dead of December? At least 10 minutes? Try to incorporate more foreplay for longer and you will see immense results.

2. No Oral Sex For Her

Oral sex is essential for a girl to get warmed up for sex. If you are not going down on her before sex, you’re committing a very big sex mistake. There isn’t a girl on this planet that doesn’t like when a guy gives them oral sex, especially if he’s good at it. Work your way down her body from her lips to her breasts and then down to her stomach.

Don’t immediately go for her vagina, as this is an amateur move. Lick on her inner thigh before you start to suck and lick on the clitoris. You will start to see her convulse a little in her legs when she wants you to give her oral sex.

3. You Talk Too Much

Being vocal during sex is great. While there are girls out there who like a guy to talk dirty to them, there are times when you can go overboard. Calling them names or being derogatory is fine if that’s what she’s into. However, not every woman is going to want you to call them a whore or a slut during sex.

Asking a ton of questions about whether or not she is enjoying herself or if you are doing things right is not going to turn her on. She will immediately get annoyed and probably tell you to shut up. Don’t talk too much unless she is initiating it.

4. You’re Silent

While no girl wants you to talk their ear off during sex, they don’t really want you to be silent either. There is nothing weirder than a guy that has sex in complete silence. Steady breathing without any vocals can certainly ruin the mood. When you’re having sex, reaffirm her by telling her she’s beautiful or that you like what she’s doing.

This can also get her talking and open up the lines of communication for dirty talk. Being silent during sex will make her wonder if she’s doing it right or if you’re even enjoying it. Talk to her a little during sex so that she knows she is on the right track. If she does something that you really like, make sure that she knows about it. You can also ask her what she wants.

5. You’re WAY Too Kinky

Sure, you like a little kink in your sex. Things can get very boring if it’s the same every time. But the last thing that you want to do is bring the sex shop home with you. Girls like a little kink and she might even want to incorporate sex toys into the bedroom. But you’re with a girl that isn’t into the scene, you might be intimidating her with your overactive fantasy life. Refrain from pulling out all the stops with vibrators, dildos, straps and whips until you know what she’s into.

Unless you met your girl on a sex site, you could easily scare her away within a few minutes. Ease her into your fantasies and you will start to see her open up much more. If you jump in too quickly you’re going to send her to the hills.

12 Unbreakable Domination Rules

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Domination can be fun and sexy, but you need to make sure you don’t cross the line. Here are twelve things to keep in mind when getting your BDSM on.

Here’s how this game is played: one partner is the dominant one (the top) and the other plays the submissive role (the bottom). It is the power component that differentiates this form of lovemaking: the bottom accepts the vulnerable position and leaves all responsibility in the hands of the top.

Before engaging to it, be sure that you’re both aware of the following four conditions for good B/D:

  • You know and trust each other enough to go beyond the “normal code” of sexuality
  • You both agreed to practice safe sex and take all the necessary safety precautions so that nothing stands in the way of your pleasure.
  • Neither you, nor her is pressured or uncomfortable doing it.
  • Whenever something starts to feel painful or wrong, you stop immediately.

Do NOT Break These Rules

1. Be Careful With Your Knots

Don’t do anything air, circulation or joint constrictive. Don’t use slipknots (they’ll tighten up when pulled) or stockings (being so thin and slippery, they also tend to tighten up under pressure). The act of bondage is just make believe, so use knots tied very loosely or even thread.

NOTE: keep a pair of scissors nearby, just in case.

2. Never Use Alcohol Or Drugs Before Or During

Don’t abuse alcohol or drugs before doing BDSM. Your judgment will be impaired and you might overdo everything.

3. Use The Right Tools For The Job

Don’t improvise. Use specially designed sex toys for bondage, if you want to remain on the safe side. They are easy to use and don’t present complications.

4. Always, ALWAYS Have A Safe Word

Invent an escape word. Agree on an escape word that ends the game immediately when uttered. A clear and established sign is more prone to be taken into consideration than mere begging, which might be taken as a game play move.

5. Establish Boundaries First

Create a checklist. Sit down with your partner and write what is ok to do and what is not, so that there are no misunderstandings.

6. Don’t Forget The Intimacy

Keep the heat on. Whether you are on the giving or receiving and of the bondage equation, take every opportunity to behave seductively toward your partner. If you want this to work, you must not allow yourselves to get lost in the preparations and forget the goal of all this experience, which is to feel good and share your love for one another.

7. Don’t Aim To Hurt

Stay on the comfort side. The purpose of bondage is to restrain the body for sexual pleasure, but it shouldn’t cause you pain or irritation. It might end up distracting you and putting you off.

8. Keep It Simple

Rope, and handcuffs, and leather, and ear bunnies, and spanking, and dirty talk – sometimes too much is just that- too much. You don’t need to re-enact everything that you’ve read in all the books and magazines that have passed through your hands. Excess fumbling and fussing over elaborate details obscure the ultimate goal.

9. Know Your Limitations

As adventurous as you might be, there are some things that you just can’t do, and attempting to impose or maintain a position at the expense of anatomical realities eventually results in frustration and disappointment.

10. Know How To Release Your Partner Quickly

One of your first purchases when you’re preparing for this type of sexual activity should be a pair of paramedic scissors from a medical supply store. The blades will be at a ninety-degree angle to the handle and the lower one will have a blunt end to avoid cutting skin as you cut rope. If you’re using locking restraints (such as handcuffs), know where the key is at all times, and always have a backup one for emergencies.

11. Pay Attention To The Warning Signs

The human body is extremely unpredictable and no two bodies react the same to the same things. Fainting, out-of-focus gazing and talking, flushed an pale face, clammy skin, all these are signs that she’s not really liking what you two have put together. If you see any of these signs on her face, be prepared to put her out of the restraints immediately.

12. Never, EVER Leave A Partner Who Is Tied Up Alone – EVER

Not for a minute, not for a second. She’s helpless and she’s counting on you to be there. No matter what role play game you’re ‘pretending’ to play, always keep in mind that you’re responsible for whatever outcome this has, since you’re the one pulling the shots. Stay in the same room at all time and keeps your eyes and ears peeled for the tiniest sign of discomfort.

4 Ways You’re Touching Her Wrong

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Foreplay is something you never, ever want to skip before sex but what if you’re doing it wrong? Could you be wasting your time when it comes to foreplay?

Your partner can tell a lot by your touch, including exactly how you feel about touching her. Whether you’re nervous, unskilled, aggressive or ignorant, your bad touch will speak louder than any words. Here are 4 ways you’re messing up the foreplay.

1. The “Nervous Nelly”

This kind of hesitant, unsure touch paired with “Is this good? How does that feel? What about this? Should I do a bit more of this? Or maybe that other thing!” will drive any woman mad, and not with pleasure. What does a nervous touch tell a woman?

That you don’t know what you’re doing and are too busy worrying about what she thinks of you to focus on making her feel good! You’re not between her legs to craft some dissertation on the poetry of her beauty. You’re there to be the best sex toy she’ll ever enjoy. Get over yourself and get to work.

2. The “Man-Handler”

Unfortunately, confidence isn’t enough. If you barge on ahead but are so caught up in enjoying yourself that you forget that the breasts in your hands are attached to a warm body, you are probably manhandling your girl. I can guarantee that’s not enjoyable for anyone.

Man-handling simply tells her that you don’t have the experience to touch her like you know what you’re doing, or the knowledge to notice that you aren’t hitting the right buttons. Don’t let it dissuade you unnecessarily; she already knows that you are a man and didn’t grow up with the same body she already knows. Calm down, take a few deep breaths and try to pay attention to her reactions when you touch her. Tease, tantalize – this is art, not construction.

Discover the answer to the question, “What new way can I touch her that makes her feel even better than I’ve ever made her before?” Do it by asking her to show you with her own hands. If you’ve never watched her body speak before, why would she expect you to already be fluent in her language? Take the time to learn by not being scared about using the wrong word. If you make a mistake, she’ll tell you.

3. The “Rough-And-Tumbler”

Feel like you have something to prove? Maybe you think you’re being aggressive or dominant, strong or sturdy, but getting rough without the clear go-ahead can be scary and can put the person you love in a pretty awkward position.

This kind of attitude tells her that you don’t respect her body or her boundaries. If you tend to “grab-on-tight and don’t-let-go,” it’s time to loosen up and enjoy the If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal, listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath.

4. “The Hokey Pokey”

Your lover is not a pot roast, you don’t get to “stick a fork in her” to see if she’s done. Poking and prodding, whether trying to elicit a reaction, or determine arousal levels, can only lead to deflated desire. Poking the girls to make them cry stopped being an effective courting technique when you were eight.

Time to give up that juvenile attitude towards your body’s ability to speak the female sex language. A little dance like this sends the clear message that you can’t read her responses and that you are impatient to “get to the point.” If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal and pay attention to her body language. listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath. Feel the heat of her skin and listen to her voice. If you must ask, just don’t spend more time asking how she’s doing than you do listening to what she’s saying.

3 Things To Do With Her Clothes During Sex

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Sex tips will definitely spice things up in the bedroom – check out these three simple but super hot ways you can play with your lover’s skivvies during sex!

1. Involve Her Clothes In The Sex

Don’t immediately dismiss them to the floor. It’s not just about the beauty that awaits to be unveiled, it’s also about the beauty of unveiling it. Get the drift?

Run your hands on her clothes, barely touching them. You’re not touching her body, but her apparel. This in itself brings pleasure as you grope through the varied textures & cuts of a woman’s couture. In a way, it’s a good thing she spends half her day choosing the perfect outfit. Sensitize your palms to the feel of cotton, linen, silk and other fabrics. And even when she’s wearing the plainest top and those classic denim jeans, run your hands through. Feel the friction. Doesn’t that feel nice?

Imagine what it will be like for her. She’ll be in a limbo with this hovering hand technique. It feels like you’re touching her, but then again she can’t really be sure. It’s like you’re touching her aura. It’s exciting, but not too intense. (Watch as her breathing gradually quickens.)

After hovering around, gradually apply more pressure and touch her body THROUGH her clothes. Now she can really feel you, she now knows what it means to be held and touched by a man. You’ve set her up so she’ll appreciate and welcome the warmth of your touch.

2.  Spice It Up! Work It!

Being a dull mouse and simply going through the motions of getting your girl naked is a waste of erotic potential.

Add carnal appeal to the proceedings and combine everything you’ve learned so far into a potent & powerful sexual tool. Talk dirty, unleash those naughty looks as you slowly release her body from the restrictions that are her garments. Don’t act all mundane. You might have seen her naked a million times, and it might actually be no big deal, but it doesn’t mean you should take it for granted. Make her feel wanted by lightly kissing the patches of skin you uncover.

And as you strip yourself – put some feeling into it! Nobody cares what ridiculous blob lies beneath your “I’m with Stupid” T-shirt, take it off with erotic appeal – there’s absolutely nothing sexier than confidence.

3. Pause Every Now And Then

Cease your hostilities with fabric and get busy with simpler stuff like kissing. Sometimes it’s good to back-off for a moment, leave her half-naked and recognize that she’s sexiest when she’s ALMOST BARE. There’s that tension again of being naked, but not quite. Of almost being there, but not yet.

Dig up all the sexy calendars you’ve collected over the years. Most ladies in there are not totally naked, they are almost naked, or perhaps covering chest and crotch with their oh-so-lucky palms. Feel the tension this creates. She lets you see the rest of her, but the parts you want the most, she leaves to your imagination. She doesn’t give it all away, always making you want more.

Perfect sexual tension. It’s not always about censorship.

Pause every now and then. Get an eyeful, (but without looking overly impressed.) Notice how incredibly sexy a woman with bare breasts in denim jeans can be. Leave those on and do something else. Caress her face or play with her hair. Don’t worry, those jeans will unzip themselves later.

3 Exotic Sex Positions She Will LOVE!

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Sex positions that are new are wonderful additions to most couples’ repertoire. Try to incorporate one or two every few weeks to keep things fresh and exciting – even if that means the two of you laughing together while trying to get into the pose! Check out these three sex positions you are both bound to get a kick out of.

1. “The Swing”

It is definitely easier to perform this maneuver if you have got a swing with a flat seat to it (like a tire or plank of wood), but if you want to be really adventurous, you’ll get yourselves a swing just for sex.

Have your wife lie back on the swing so that it is propping her up between her shoulder blades, with her back flat and her legs firmly planted on the ground, if she can reach. Her knees should be bent and wide enough apart for you to put yourself between them, and she can use her arms to prop herself up on the swing so she can get a better view of what’s going on.

Put your hands on her hips – or the swing – for leverage and to move her between your legs. Make sure she holds on tight, or at least stays strapped in if you are using a special sex swing.

Climax Cue

If she props herself up, she will be able to control just how much clitoral stimulation she receives, and she can pull you towards her as well just using her legs if she so desires, controlling the tempo of your movement. It can be a bit tricky to get the rhythm right for this position to work, so have her keep her legs on the ground initially, if she can, just to get into a groove.

Also make sure that you stay in constant contact with her mons pubis, so that she can grind as she wants to and you can feel like you are reaching really deep inside of her vagina, even if you are only moving with the movements of the swing. This move is easier to perform if the swing is around groin height; if it isn’t, she can lower or raise her body accordingly and wrap her legs around your hips to get the right angle.

2. “Plug The Socket”

Have your partner lay on her back with her legs spread and knees bent. Get her to plant her feet and push her groin up so that her bum lifts off the bed. Lie yourself down sideways, perpendicular to her body, with your feet at her head and your head at her feet. Scoot yourself in between her legs, so that one leg fits under her hips, and the other lies over her mons pubis.

Put your foot over by her shoulder and prop your heel up by the area to support yourself. Hold onto the leg closest to you, and get her to do the same. Bend your penis slightly to enter her, and start having sex by grinding and moving against each other slightly, or have her tilt her pelvis up, down and from side to side.

Climax Cue

Make sure that you use your leg to really rub into her above her mons pubis, and encourage her to grind into you to do the same. By moving your hips forward and backward, you’ll rub against her clitoris with extreme precision, giving her an overload of oh-so-good sensations. You may also have a long enough reach to get at her clitoral head to play with it, but it might be easier for her to touch herself instead while you work on keeping the swing steady.

Make sure that you get really tight up against each other, so as to offer shorter, smaller spurts of penetration but lots of rubbing, twisting and humping, without pushing her right off the edge and onto the floor!

3. “Man Spider”

You’ll want to use the bed or some cushions on the floor to make this position work comfortably for you both. Have her lay down on her back, with her buttocks right at the end of the bed or cushions. She should bend her knees and rotate her hips so that her legs lift off their resting place and she is able to hold them up in the air, perpendicular to her body.

Get yourself in push up position, so that your feet land by her head, your pelvic region aligns with hers and your hands or forearms rest on the ground. She will need to take the initiative to insert your penis into her vagina, as you will likely need both of your hands to prop yourself up high enough to stay level with the bed or cushions. If she rocks her hips back and forth to move, you can lift and lower your penis to meet her.

Climax Cue

The unusual angle here helps connect you to your partner in ways she has probably never experienced, enhancing the sexual sensations for you both. For visually inclined women, this is also a highly recommended position because she’ll get a great view of you penetrating her.

The real magic with this position, though, is the possibility for friction: you can use your body weight to increase the pressure along her symphysis, and she can twist and turn her hips to ensure the exact angle of penetration, depth and rub that she requires for orgasm.