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Flirting Vs Rapport – Know The Difference For INCREDIBLE Results with Women

By loveandsex

Flirting is much different than rapport. Rapport is a way of relating to someone that you have an established relationship with.

The fastest way to build relationships with people is to share personal information about yourself. When you talk to a woman and discover things or experiences you have in common, you are building a rapport with her. The longer you talk to someone and discuss a wide variety of topics, the more rapport you build.

Rapport allows you to nurture and grow your relationships with friends, family and anyone you come in contact with.

The Most Common Mistake

The most common mistake is trying to become friends first, and then trying to build a sexual relationship later on. Here’s the simplest way to remember how to interact in any given situation.

  1. Flirt till she’s attracted to you.
  2. Then, while maintaining the flirting, begin to reveal personal information about yourself.

It’s the information about yourself that helps build relationships – your name, job, dreams, hobbies, interests and memories — but it’s the emotions you evoke through your personality that sparks attraction — your confidence, security, sense of humor, leadership, mystery and playfulness.

Don’t Build Report Without Being Flirtatious

Never try and build rapport without first being flirtatious, fun and playful. Not ever. Without showing yourself to be desirable, she has no reason to be interested in you. Nothing has set off the attraction.

Talking about hobbies, life ambitions, careers and education can be fascinating conversation and can work if you can discuss these things in a flirtatious manner. But most men who start on the boring demographic questions find it difficult to transition into a flirtatious mood later.

Most men have the urge to get into these boring questions first, and try to be playful and flirtatious later.  They only attempt to make her sexually aroused after they have established a friendship. This is a death trap that’s going to kill you slowly and painfully as you wait, and never see results.

Move On To Other Women

If you want to attract a woman you’re already friends with and there’s been no sexual chemistry, then you need to move on and start dating other women. You’ve been put into the friend zone and there’s no coming back

If this woman is everything you’ve dreamed about, then you need to date other women and gain valuable dating experience so you’ll actually have a chance with her. If you love her because she’s “the perfect woman”, then chances are that a lot of other men feel the same way about her, which means heavy competition. She has many options and she’s only going to date the very best guy – and that will be hard to compete with.

After you’ve dated several women, you’ll notice your dream girl become curious about your new found desirability, and you may get a second chance. And then again, after going out on a first date with other women, you may realize you like a new woman much more than the one you had your sights on before.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: confidence, dating, Dating Tips, flirting

Why Her Fake Orgasm Is YOUR Fault!

By loveandsex

An orgasm that is faked is your fault. There is is no wiggle room. You go at foreplay for all you’re worth and she starts making those tell-tale noises in your ear to let you know that you’re turning her on.

Just as she’s getting in the mood for more, you take a dive down south and stick in a finger to see if the waters are warm. If she’s not ready, it’s back to the testing phase – a little more kissing, necking, nipples and bum.

This back and forth is not only annoying when we aren’t aroused yet, but makes us feel pressured. the only thing that seems to make a difference toward the success of women who overcome sexual dysfunction is the commitment of their mates.

Wet Doesn’t Mean Ready

If your wife is warm and wet when you test her out, do you take that as a sign that it’s time for sex and head straight for intercourse? Not so fast! Being lubricated and being open for sex is not the same thing. DeAngelis explains that lubricant can be affected by a number of factors – nutrition, exercise, medications, hydration, emotions and cyclical hormones – and warns,

“Don’t assume just because we’re wet that we’re ready. Our body and mind need to be open before intercourse will feel good to us.” Don’t fall victim to the belief that if you don’t “strike while the iron is hot” she will become less aroused as you continue to stimulate her before having “real” (i.e. penetrative) sex.

The opposite is true, unless she’s really tired, in which case there’s no magic you can do besides giving her a chance to get the rest she needs. She will learn to lovingly live with it, much more than she would learn to live with you being standoffish, awkward and emotionally distant because you’re always “waiting for the right time.”

Are We There Yet?

You hate it when the kids can’t stop asking, right? You don’t want to be the big five-year-old in your relationship, do you? It is time to get with the program.

It’s Not Always About Orgasm

Yes, women like orgasms. We are human after all, and our bodies are programmed for pleasure. Perhaps it is the fact that men are three to five times more likely than women to orgasm during every sexual encounter but we women don’t need sex to be so goal-oriented.

Sure, it might be fun to play a game once in a while, just to see how many orgasms your wife can have, but she doesn’t want every sexual moment to be a marathon. Each encounter doesn’t have to be an event – sometimes it’s nice to just relax and enjoy the sensations and emotions of being together.

No Pushing

In other words, stop acting like it’s the end of the world if your woman doesn’t come! What is the point of being passive aggressive? Bullying your partner into enjoying herself is pretty counter-intuitive, right? Sex is supposed to be about feeling good and there are plenty of good feelings that may not lead directly to orgasm.

Heck, if she gets there every time, she’s doing better than 85% of other women out there, and only about half report having orgasms during sex “often.”

A Watched Pot Never Boils

I like sex. In fact, I love it. I love orgasms, too. But when my husband would ask me over and over if I was “there yet?” it drove me mad! Sure, it was nice to know that he cared one way or the other. But the pressure to perform for him was so overwhelming; I would end up faking just to get him to stop asking.

No woman wants to be pestered about her orgasm. Honestly, if you have to ask, you haven’t fingered her well enough yet to make her body tell you of its own volition.

In this case, that is where you should be focusing your energy, not pushing your orgasmic expectations and your trivial real-world cares and stresses onto her exactly when she needs to relax and let go the most.

Great Expectations

Let me put this very simply. If you can’t tell whether or not your partner has had an orgasm, you better stop acting like Casanova and trying to collect orgasms like trophies. When you can recognize the tell-tale signs of an orgasm, put your mouth to good use and make it happen!

And I don’t mean by talking at her incessantly until she fakes it so you’ll shut up and leave her be. Sometimes, I am just not in the mood for wild sex and multiple orgasms, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to cuddle or play. Just because your wife might not up for The Big O doesn’t mean you can’t work on one for you, or suggest a bit of mutual masturbation!

Many women will start to experience the onset of sexual desire after getting started, so a slightly-less-than-enthusiastic response isn’t the kiss of death.  Foreplay is the secret to get any woman to respond the right way.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: female orgasm, foreplay, kissing, orgasm, sex tips

What You NEED To Know Before You Have Sex!

By loveandsex

Sex tips? Who needs those? You know the basics, right? You  know exactly what you need to do to get her wet and in the mood. You go at foreplay for all you’re worth and she starts making those tell-tale noises in your ear to let you know that you’re turning her on.

Just as she’s getting in the mood for more, you take a dive down south and stick in a finger to see if the waters are warm. If she’s not ready, it’s back to the testing phase – a little more kissing, necking, nipples and bum. This back and forth is not only annoying when we aren’t aroused yet, but makes us feel pressured. The only thing that seems to make a difference toward the success of women who overcome sexual dysfunction is the commitment of their mates.

Wet Doesn’t Mean Ready

If your wife is warm and wet when you test her out, do you take that as a sign that it’s time for sex and head straight for intercourse? Not so fast! Being lubricated and being open for sex is not the same thing. One of the best sex tips to give is don’t assume just because they are wet that they are ready. Their body and mind need to be open before intercourse will feel good to them.

Don’t fall victim to the belief that if you don’t “strike while the iron is hot” she will become less aroused as you continue to stimulate her before having sex. The opposite is true, unless she’s really tired, in which case there’s no magic you can do besides giving her a chance to get the rest she needs.

She will learn to lovingly live with it, much more than she would learn to live with you being standoffish, awkward and emotionally distant because you’re always “waiting for the right time.”

It’s Not Always About Orgasm

Yes, women like to have an orgasm. We are human after all, and our bodies are programmed for pleasure. Perhaps it is the fact that men are three to five times more likely than women to orgasm during every sexual encounter but we women don’t need to be so goal-oriented.

Sure, it might be fun to play a game once in a while, just to see how many orgasms your wife can have, but she doesn’t want every sexual moment to be a marathon. Each encounter doesn’t have to be an event – sometimes it’s nice to just relax and enjoy the sensations and emotions of being together.

No Pushing

In other words, stop acting like it’s the end of the world if your woman doesn’t come! What is the point of being passive aggressive? Bullying your partner into enjoying herself is pretty counter-intuitive, right?

Intercourse is supposed to be about feeling good and there are plenty of good feelings that may not lead directly to orgasm. Heck, if she gets there every time, she’s doing better than 85% of other women out there, and only about half report having orgasms with their partner.

A Watched Pot Never Boils

I like sex. In fact, I love it. I love orgasms, too. But when my husband would ask me over and over if I was “there yet?” it drove me mad! Sure, it was nice to know that he cared one way or the other. But the pressure to perform for him was so overwhelming; I would end up faking just to get him to stop asking.

Here is one of the best sex tips I know. No woman wants to be pestered about her orgasm. Honestly, if you have to ask, you aren’t fingering her well enough yet to make her body tell you of its own volition. In this case, that is where you should be focusing your energy, not pushing your orgasmic expectations and your trivial real-world cares and stresses onto her exactly when she needs to relax and let go the most.

Great Expectations

Let me put this very simply. If you can’t tell whether or not your partner has had a female orgasm, you better stop acting like Casanova and trying to collect orgasms like trophies. When you can recognize the tell-tale signs of an orgasm, put your mouth to good use and make it happen! And I don’t mean by talking at her incessantly until she fakes it so you’ll shut up and leave her be.

Sometimes, I am just not in the mood for wild sex and multiple orgasms, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to cuddle or play. Just because your wife might not up for The Big O doesn’t mean you can’t work on one for you, or suggest a bit of mutual masturbation! Many women will start to experience the onset of sexual desire after getting started, so a slightly-less-than-enthusiastic response isn’t the kiss of death.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: fingeering, foreplay, kissing, orgasm, sex tips

5 Weird Flirting Methods For EXPLOSIVE Results With All Women

By loveandsex

Flirting with girls about their beauty is the most powerful way to lower their initial defenses and attract them. You’ve only got two minutes to impress a woman and make yourself stand out as somebody unique. Understand that these beautiful ladies only want men with high standards.

1. Flirting Lines

  • Nice hair. What made you go with a 60’s style?
  • Ha. That walk is hilarious. Do it again!
  • You like cappuccino’s? (weird look) Na, that’s cool.

Imply she’s short, has no fashion sense, has a funny quirk, etc. Once you find something that gets a great reaction, keep using it and maintain your eye contact.

2. Tease Her About Her

  • Hair
  • Clothes
  • Shoes
  • Accessories
  • Walk
  • Mannerisms
  • Dorkiness

3. Where Did You Go?

Here’s a great example you can us when flirting with just about any woman. After talking for some time you can walk up to her and look over her head as if you’re looking for something. You can then say, “Where did you go?”

Don’t stand too close just close enough to get the point across. You’ll usually get a playful hit for this one because it implies that she’s short.

If you’re the same height or just a little bit shorter, stand on your toes to add some extra height. Being the same height can actually make this technique work better because it’s sarcastic humor. You’re saying she’s short even though she’s clearly level with your height.

4. Woman’s Flirting Interpretation

HE JUST SAID: “I’m short and he is laughing about it.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He doesn’t only want me for my looks! He’s different than most guys. I want to get to the bottom of this and see what he’s really like? Is he faking?
RESULT: She’s interested.

5. Reactive Flirting

While this form of flirting is slightly more difficult, it usually more effective because of its “natural conversation” feel. This will require more confidence. So here’s what you do:

Ask the woman something about her day, what have you been up to? Where do you work? Where have you been shopping? What’s in the shopping bag? Where’d you get that necklace? Anything!

The idea of teasing is that you want to DISAGREE on something with the woman. Thus, creating sexual tension.

DISAGREE on her looks
Say her clothes aren’t cool.
DISAGREE on her opinion of something.

Side note: One of the best ways to incorporate flirting is to joke to your buddy that the woman is too drunk, even if she’s not. Or, accuse her of becoming as insecure as a man who goes around trying to get lucky with his “confidence-in-a-can”, and tell her it’s not going to work with you.

In conclusion, there’s a difference between a girl being seriously upset, and just playing around and being “fake upset.” When they playfully hit you and have a half smile on their face, they like it, no matter what they say!

FACT: Women mean what they do, not what they say. Know this when you are out trying to meet singles.

When she starts laughing, acting natural, fun,  genuinely smiling, and giving you the right body language then you know you’ve spoken long enough.

Filed Under: Dating Tips Tagged With: body language, confidence, Dating Tips, flirting

The Female Orgasm Black Book Review

By loveandsex

The Female Orgasm Black Book is a handy guide on how to give a woman incredible, mind blowing orgasms. Your girl will love the techniques i this book! This manual is a plain-and-simple, instructional guide on how to give women mind blowing orgasms. The information is intended to help, men, women and couples achieve female orgasms and have a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

The Good

Lee Jenkins, the author of the Female Orgasm Black Book, seems to know just about everything there is to know about female orgasms! Whether you want to know about female anatomy, the basics of a female orgasm or how to give your girl an orgasm in a variety of different ways, this ebook has more information than you’ll know what to do with! This is truly a “one stop shop” when it comes to learning about female orgasms.

The Bad

The introduction contains lots of useful information, but those looking to get down to business may find it a bit long winded. Also, getting to the big “O” is a two way street – she needs to learn how to be open to receiving an orgasm because if she’s not, your best efforts will be wasted. Unfortunately, the “Tips For The Woman In Your Life” section is a bit short and leaves plenty to be desired if your woman wants to learn how she can best prepare herself for an orgasm. A great companion manual to the Female Orgasm Black Book is Faster Female Orgasm, written by Jessica Perez. Here your partner will learn how to control her own orgasms, so she can have one every time!

The Bottom Line

The Female Orgasm Black Book is a great tool for learning all there is to know about a woman and how she reaches orgasm. Lee understands the importance of not only arming yourself with lots of “tips and tricks” to use in the bedroom, but also with the knowledge of how a woman’s body and mind really works. There’s no way you won’t be a master of female orgasms if you read the Female Orgasm Black Book in its entirety and truly employ the techniques he teaches in the bedroom.

The Full Female Orgasm Black Book Review

Lee starts the Female Orgasm Black Book off with a great introduction, explaining in depth just what exactly an orgasm is for a woman and what it means both physically and emotionally for her to get one. Then he’s off to the races for a very detailed lesson in female anatomy, where he illustrates everything from the all-important clitoris to the lesser known and harder to find g-spot. While the chapter on anatomy may make you feel a bit like you’re studying for a test in advanced gynecology, Lee’s intentions here are hard to argue with. Knowing a woman’s sexual anatomy backwards and forwards will give you quite the edge when it comes time to actually give your lover an orgasm.

For many men, a woman’s g-spot is difficult, if not impossible to find. However, Lee goes into detail with both verbal and pictoral instructions telling you not only how to find a woman’s g-spot but also how to stimulate it and leave her absolutely breathless. He also goes in depth about a woman’s other sensitive spots, because any woman will tell you that going straight for the gold will usually get you nowhere. The Female Orgasm Black Book will tell you exactly which spots on your lover’s body will have her writhing in pleasure, without even touching her vulva!

Perhaps the most powerful section of the Female Orgasm Black Book is the “Female Orgasm Blueprint” found in Chapter 4. Lee takes the elusive female orgasm and breaks it down into sections, teaching you step by step how to bring your partner to orgasm again and again. You’ll find helpful maps and diagrams that actually show you how a woman’s orgasm happens from start to finish. Lee also goes into great detail to explain how a woman’s body reacts to excitement and the things you need to look for to let you know you’re on the right track to giving her the big “O.”

Lee wraps up the Female Orgasm Black Book with lots of helpful tips on how to help your partner become sexually attracted to you, how to get her to relax and open up to having an orgasm and an ultra explicit section on how to perform oral sex on her. Many oral sex oriented guides give vague tips on how to go down on a woman, but Lee actually gives you numbered diagrams and an actual step by step,fool proof instruction manual on how to lick a woman into orgasmic frenzy.

Included with the download of the Female Orgasm Black Book are several handy “special reports,” including:

Best Sex Positions

A short but sweet manual highlighting the best positions for female orgasms, including several positions you’ve never tried as well as some great twists on old classics like missionary or woman on top. Sex positions really are the “creme de la creme” of sex, and this manual will give you ideas on sex positions that you’ve never thought of before! Sex will never be boring again, and you’re bound to find tons of sex positions that will soon become you and your partner’s new favorites.

Orgasm Mastery

A manual full of exercises that you and your partner can do outside of the bedroom to increase her chances of having an orgasm inside the bedroom, such as tongue exercises for you and pelvic floor exercises for her. Learning step by step techniques will only get you so far when it comes to giving her an orgasm. If her muscles aren’t in peak form, it could take longer for hear to reach orgasm, and if your tongue isn’t in great shape, you’re going to tire easily. The tips in the Orgasm Mastery manual will prepare her for great orgasms and you for marathon oral sex!

Female Orgasm Blueprint

A detailed, graphic flow chart that takes you from the beginning of a woman’s orgasm to the end, and highlighting all the stages in between. A must have tool for truly understanding how the female orgasm works. Never before have you seen a female orgasm depicted this way, in an easy to understand flow chart that shows you step by step where she’s at in her orgasm and where she’s going next. An absolute must read if you want to really understand and control a woman’s pleasure.

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