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5 Body Language Moves You MUST Master When Meeting Women

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Body language is interpreted by women more than you might think. Women are very good at interpreting body language for one reason: It’s how they determine whether a man is irresistible or not.

Why is this? This is because without displaying confidence, no amount of flirting will work. In fact, do you know that women can tell how confident you are just by the way you stand? Women always interpret your body language to see what’s REALLY going on.
So how can you portray to women a high level of self-respect that makes them feel attracted to you?

1.  Stand with Powerful Posture

Posture is extremely important when you flirt with women and it’s the most powerful way to convey power and confidence.

Here’s how to correct your posture:

  1. Stand in front of a mirror
  2. Puff out your chest and make your spine straight
  3. Relax your shoulders

Bonus Step: Now slouch over and see how it makes you look. Which image do find more appealing?

Women can tell whether you’ll be interesting or not just by observing your posture as you approach them. And, although posture is important, eyes are your most important asset when it comes to successful body language and flirting.

2. Get Caught Looking

Eyes convey a tremendous amount of information about a person. When you keep eye contact with woman, you say an awful lot about your own self-esteem.

Do not look away when a woman looks at you. I repeat. DO NOT look away when a woman is looking at you. If you do, she will think, “He’s shy, has no confidence and if he has any feelings for me, he’s trying to hide them. I know this because he doesn’t even have the guts to keep looking and be honest about how he feels.”

If you want to utilize the single best way to instantly trigger a woman’s attraction, then keep looking when she looks over.

Here are the three quick steps:

  1. Look in her direction until she looks over
  2. Hold the look until she looks away
  3. Walk over and start flirting with her

If you look at the ground because you’re shy your head will naturally point towards the ground. When your head faces downwards your shoulders tend to roll forward creating terrible posture. That’s why simply looking at the ground can repel a woman.

3. Tilt Your Chin Up

While eye contact and posture are your two most important assets to effectively flirt with women, the positioning of your head can add the finishing touches to your confidence. Understand this:

People want to be around people who are BETTER than they are
People want to hang out with people who are COOLER than they are
People want to learn from people with MORE EXPERIENCE than they have
People want to compete against people with MORE SKILLS than they have

And it’s exactly the same for women. A subtle way to fulfill this natural desire within people is to tilt your chin up, but still make eye contact with the woman while flirting.

Women love it when you’re very sure of yourself. While this technique may seem like a display of arrogance, it doesn’t come across that way.

Without going into it too much, women enjoy men who are arrogant in a humbling, sort of non-offensive, way. Notice how popular and rich people tend to project an aura of arrogance without offending?

Others respect these people because they respect themselves. Use this universal body language to subconsciously communicate success and self-respect. Soon others will believe this about you. Bottom line: Don’t be afraid of rejection. Others will comply.

4. Stand Reasonably Still

Nervous body language is your ticket to a night of loneliness. If you come across as nervous when you introduce yourself to a woman, you will make her nervous. Here are some examples of nervous behavior in a woman:

Flitting their eyes around
Scratching their back, neck, hands or face.
Shuffling their feet
Swaying left to right
Talking in an unnatural or rehearsed tone of voice
Speaking in a monotone and quiet voice
Fidgeting with accessories (phones, watches, bracelets or necklaces)

Sometimes less is more. The less you move your body the more attractive and confident you will appear when trying to meet women.

5. Reward Her with Smiles

This may be hard to understand, but don’t smile all the time. Guys often smile because they’re insecure, but this is not the reason you shouldn’t use your smile. When you can make a woman laugh, smile, and enjoy herself without too much facial expression, you increase the level of mystique surrounding yourself.

Think about it. If you tone down your facial expressions (while also eliminating nervous body language, as discussed above) you don’t give the woman any clear indication that you like her.

If she’s 100 percent sure you like her, there is no mystique. But if at the end of the interaction or date the woman still doesn’t know anything about you and your intentions, she’ll want to find out more. She becomes seduced by her own curiosity.

The Female Orgasm Explained – MASTER The Female Climax TONIGHT!

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A female orgasm was considered to be a myth for a long time. With nothing but personal accounts to go by, it was hard for male scientists to accept that there was a function and reason behind the elusive experience. Now scientists of both genders think they understand some of the purpose and evolutionary benefit of female orgasm.

We now know that the muscular “flutter” that occurs during female orgasm helps to encourage fertility. The strong muscle contractions in the pelvis, vagina and uterus occur rapidly at less than one second apart, allowing the cervix to open up for incoming sperm.

The consequence of this is biologically significant and a verifiable physiological phenomena; couples who are able to have orgasms during penetrative sex are more likely to conceive. A recent study found that when a woman reaches climax anytime from one minute before and 45 minutes after her partner’s ejaculation takes up significantly more sperm than during sex when she does not orgasm.

Even more surprising, a woman has an orgasm before their lover by any more than one minute retains as little sperm as those who don’t orgasm at all, making it necessary for her to either orgasm during PIV sex, or find a partner who will continue to stimulate her after he has reached his own orgasm.

Rising Desire

Orgasm is a three-step process, the culmination of a lengthy build up beginning with psychological desire, climbing through the various plateaus physiological arousal and peaking in the spasmodic release of orgasm. There are some times in a woman’s monthly cycle when she may be naturally aroused both psychologically and physiologically, depending on the libido type, but these days are few and far between. The rest of the time, you’re going to need to know how to really touch the girl, inside and out, to get things moving in the right direction.

Building Arousal

The signs of physiological arousal are obvious, if you know what you are looking for and are paying attention. Increased blood
flow to the genitals caused by hot thoughts or stimulation results in swelling of the labia, clitoris and vagina. Increased lubrication helps make the peak experience of orgasm possible, opening a woman up for more intense activity.

This is prime time for using your ten best assets – your fingers! With such an incredible range of movement, those miraculous movers are exactly what you need to keep your woman going even when you can’t. And hey, your grand kids will secretly thank you for your Don Juan progeny.

If you go ahead and plunge into intercourse before she is fully aroused and open, you aren’t just depriving your girl of the pleasure of your hands, but actually decreasing the chances of being able to give her an orgasm with you inside! By “saving your energy” for the act of coitus itself, you are in fact ensuring that it doesn’t function properly.

Orgasmic Release

Orgasm is an extreme sensual experience. The heart races, breath quickens, pupils dilate, skin flushes, lips and breasts swell with anticipation of the pelvic floor muscles contracting and sending out a ripple-effect that emanates through the rest of the body.

Each woman experiences this process differently, and for most women, every orgasm is unique. Some may be the powerful, earth-shattering things we see in pornography or on television, but others are simpler, quieter and cascade like gentle waves along the body instead of a raging tsunami thrashing with ecstatic energy.

They can be silent or deafening, or even both at the same time. In her own medical practice, author Rachel Carleton Abrams M.D. explains that many women who come for help to reach orgasm are in fact already experiencing them regularly while having  sex, albeit mildly.

They just didn’t realize it, after the false expectations set by porn and Hollywood’s over-the-top acting led them to believe that what they were feeling somehow wasn’t orgasmic enough.

Learning to experience several different kinds of orgasms by experimenting with stimulation involving a variety of techniques aimed at eliciting different but complimentary reactions is the best way to help a woman discover her orgasmic range, her preferences and desires, her favorite moves and, most importantly, the best combinations to ensure that sex satisfies both of your needs and desires every single time!

How To Use Your Voice To Attract Any Woman

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Flirting is highly dependent on your voice. Deepening your tone can easily make you more attractive to women. Admire your new, confident, attractive voice.

You don’t need to have an extremely deep voice, but it should be deep enough to communicate that you’re comfortable in the presence of women. If you notice when you talk to women your voice becomes squeaky from nervousness use this technique to compose your voice.

Use Your Voice Volume

Sometimes for fun I ask women what they like about men. While consciously women want their men to be, “nice, caring, romantic, etc”, unconsciously they want men who are masculine. When I ask what they like, these women respond with things like: “I like a man who holds himself well” “I like a man who knows what he wants” “I like a man who’s sure of himself” “I like a man who’s not intimidated by me” “I like a man who’s not nervous.”

While from first glance these qualities may all seem different, they are in fact all the same. Unconsciously women want men with confidence. Part of a confident voice is the volume you project. Confident men flirt with loud, strong and clear voices.

Un-confident men speak with soft, weak and muffled voices that project fear and low self-esteem. If you want to get the attention of women start speaking with a louder voice and be fearless of rejection.

If women intimidate you, chances are your voice is very soft. Boost your voice to a volume that “seems” too loud and you’ll speak at a more normal volume. Because you’re not used to speaking at this volume it will seem very loud; don’t worry, practice makes perfect.

Monitor Your Voice Speed

Public speaking is a real fear for most people. When somebody stands up to speak you can tell exactly how confident they are just by the speed of their vocals.

When we talk to our friends we speak in a cool calm voice and at a reasonably slow pace. If you hear a terrified person make a speech against their will, you’ll hear the fear. People who are not confident speak at an unnaturally fast pace to “get it over and done with.”

They are so uncomfortable at public speaking, and they rattle off their speech so fast, that most people have trouble getting the main points. Just by listening to the pace, women can determine if you’re nervous.

For those of you who are terrified when meeting women, here’s a great tip. Speak at half the speed you think you should be speaking at and you’ll most likely be talking at a natural pace with great body language.

Learn Voice Timing

Comedians are funny because they deliver their jokes with a great sense of timing. Learn to use emphasis, pauses, pace changes and fluctuating vocal tone with your speaking voice.

If you want to know exactly how to talk to women, study some of the most confident public speakers and coaches of our time. Go to seminars and listen to confident people speak on TV, noting the characteristics of the speakers.

A lot of men say they know how to portray a confident voice, but when it comes time to approach a woman and use this confident voice, they freeze up. Just knowing something doesn’t make you an expert. You have to put what you know into practice.

Watch Your Spoken Words

The words you speak have very little impact on your ability to meet women. Having said that, there are words or lines you can say that will repel women so fast it will make your head spin. Lines that define women as sexual objects, creatures of desire or nothing but a shell of physical beauty don’t work.

You can’t flirt with women by being too direct about your intentions. “Hey cutie,” “babe,” and “hot stuff” are terrible lines for first impressions. As mentioned before, women interpret the meaning behind your words, so think about these words from a woman’s perspective. Whenever in doubt always use the formula below designed to transform action into meaning.

Know How To Use More Than Your Words

As we move onto non-verbal flirting remember that flirting is much more about how you use your voice than the words you actually say. This point has been repeated, but with good reason. When a friend talks about the success he’s had he’ll tell his friends the lines he used rather than what he did and how he acted.

These friends then go and try out their newly found pick up lines, only to be harshly rejected. They conclude the lines don’t work and give up. If they realized that flirting is more about the delivery than the lines, everything would make sense to them.

10 Anal Sex Rules You NEVER Want To Overlook!

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Anal sex can be a lot of fun for both a man and a woman. However, there are things that should not be overlooked. Here are 10 rules to live by when deciding on this particular sex act.

1. Never Do It While She’s Pregnant

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sex therapist, media personality and author, points out that some men think that having vaginal intercourse during pregnancy will somehow hurt the baby, so they suggest anal intercourse instead, which is not true. Anal sex can be very dangerous during pregnancy, especially because of the risk of spreading bacteria from the anus and rectum to the vagina.

Vaginal infections during pregnancy can be both harder to treat and more serious. Moreover, it is more difficult to get in a comfortable position for anal stimulation while pregnant, which makes it least desired by women. Also, hemorrhoids are a common side effect of pregnancy and could make anal sex excruciatingly painful for her.

2. Don’t Do Her By Surprise

Word of advice: girls are not amused when boys slip their penises in the wrong hole “by mistake”. It doesn’t matter how turned on she is, she will feel the difference, and she won’t be very happy about it. The only way you’re getting in there is if she’s ready for it. And you’ve talked about it beforehand. And she’s agreed to give it a try. There are no other options. Everything else is a forced-sexual encounter, and you don’t want her to think that about you, do you?

3. Never Skip Foreplay

Even if she’s the type that likes it rough, it’s different when it comes to anal intercourse. Foreplay is critical. She might like when you surprise her with sudden trysts, without any clitoral stimulation beforehand, but she might not like it when you do the same, but in her derriere.

4. Start Slow And Move Step By Step

The anal tightness takes time to ‘break’ into a state of relaxation, and until that happens, any attempt at thrusting is meant to cause pain of the worst kind. This pain is the worst for first time anal sex, so avoid it all costs.

5. Don’t Push It Too Soon

One of Murphy’s famous laws on sex goes something like this: “Anal sex is like snow. You never know how many inches you are going to get or how long it is going to last.” Always keep in mind that there is no sure thing when it comes to anal sex. She might not want to go through with it tonight, and that means you should always be prepared to back off whenever she asks you to. If you’re too insistent too soon, you might scare her for good.

6. Don’t Go Too Hard

Camille Paglia, feminist author, teacher and social critic said at one point: “You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of anal sex comes from the danger of it. You can be overpowered.” Though you can get over excited while you’re doing it, keep a lucid mind and think about the consequences that your roughness can produce. Keep your enthusiasm in your heart, not in your moves, otherwise you can end up hurting her.

7. Don’t Forget About Breathing

Deep inhaling and exhaling is very important during anal sex. Ask your partner to take relaxing breaths so that the anus doesn’t tighten up too soon. After you have inserted your finger or penis inside the anus, get her to exhale deeply so that the muscles relax. Yoga lessons can help her control her breathing, so it wouldn’t hurt if she took some.

There is no such thing as too much lube. People who like anal sex use to say that “too much lube is almost enough.” This is true. Don’t worry about the mess. As long as you’re using the right type (condom compatible), you have nothing to fear about. Lube her whole body if you want, from head to toe, whatever makes you two feel comfortable enough so that the experience is pleasurable.

8. Don’t Use Numbing Cream

Never use lubricants that contain numbing ingredients under the mistaken impression that it’s a good thing not to feel sore. Pain is a sign that your body should desist from what it is doing and this is not something you should ever overlook. She could get hurt really bad without either of you realizing it.

Also, you could get hurt just as well. Accept the fact that it is possible that it hurts in the beginning and move through to the pleasurable phase. That is the natural way of doing it and it saves you both from unneeded complications.

9. Use Protection

Even if you’re a solid couple and you trust each other, you should never do it without a condom. There a number of diseases that you can get and it’s not worth the trouble. However, if you’re dead set on not using, for whatever reason you may invoke, The American Medical Women’s Associations recommends that before safer sex protections are discontinued, both you and your partner be tested for HIV.

10. Don’t Switch Holes Without Switching Hats

There’s a reason women swipe their lady parts from You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of anal sex comes from the danger of it. You can be overpowered. The germs that exist in the fecal remains cause serious infections both to the
vagina and to the urinary tract. Either you switch condoms or you put on double hats and when the backdoor job is complete, you can take one off and continue to vaginal intercourse.

Top 5 Erogenous Zones On Her Face

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Foreplay has a vital role in getting a woman primed for sex. Some of the most erogenous zones on a woman’s body are on her face and head. Here are some foreplay tips to help you master these zones.

Why The Face Is So Important

All women are beautiful in their own special way. And nothing expresses physical beauty as succinctly as the face. It plays primary role because of one very obvious reason: IT’S THE SEAT OF THE SENSES!

It houses the EYES (windows to the soul), the EARS (receptor of dirty talk), the NOSE (channel for scents), and the MOUTH (for spit-swapping, licking, sucking & biting) Capitalize on her senses. If you know anything about sex, you’ll realize how vital the senses are – it’s all about them.

1. The Nose

What can one do with a snout? A lot actually. For starters, you can make her close her eyes and give her a whiff of varied scents and aromas. Nothing strong, just something nice. Then initiate those playful nose rubs. Nuzzle each other. It’s mano-a-mano only with the snouts. Pinch that cute nose, cut air flow and then start kissing her.

Kiss her on the nose. You can even gently bite on it – just not on the bony part. Use your lips to shield teeth and bite through that. Bite and release immediately. Don’t hold the bite too long because it will get weird.

Tell her to close her eyes and trace her nose contours – the ridge and the sides. You may then give her a nose massage, this works best with lubricant or lotion. It’s very simple – with your thumb and forefinger, gently slide up and down the sides. Just slide up & down.

2. The Ears

In many countries, animal ears are considered a most sought-after delicacy.  Women have ticklish flaps, and going this route can be the beginning of something fun during foreplay. So nibble her ears. Since this is not a boxing match, don’t bite it off. Play with her ear lobes and curves, but don’t go deep. Make sure it never gets wet and sloppy – it’s not a nice feeling when things start getting slick.

Whisper sweet nothings. You don’t have to be poetic. Anything in a sexy tone will work. Since you’re so close, your utterance will be magnified several times, so don’t go drill sergeant on her. Banging the life out of her eardrum is not sensual. Instead, use your sexiest and most evocative voice. Whisper is the operative word.

You may, but very gently and not directly, blow her a warm breeze – it’s more like a sigh or moan really. This is a huge turn-on, especially when reinforced with a caress somewhere. An erotic massage works well with this method.

3. The Eyes

Bring your heads closer and get eye contact, this cheap psychological trick adds to the feeling of intimacy. As been said, gazing into each other increases attraction.

Try this – have some sweet things to say in your head, and then try communicating them through your eyes. Get to that point where you find it easier to talk through the eyes. The satisfaction of knowing what the other is thinking, without the exchange of words, is incomparable – it’s like an inside joke that strengthens your bond.

Tell her to close her eyes. Plant those gentle & dry kisses. Run your fingers over her eye brows, eye lashes and kiss them very gently. Watch her get dreamy with this. Caress the soft skin around, go gentle and sweet. This is something men rarely do nowadays.

4. The Mouth

Take licking, sucking, biting, making out and blowing to a new level. What else can you do with it? Feed her! Put something inside that mouth. Open your refrigerator, what’s inside that’s not past expiration date? You don’t need to go grocery shopping for this one.

Feed her. Kiss her. Don’t just spit swap, swap diets. Spread some on her cheeks and lick it off. Encourage her to do the same. Give her something to suck on – a chocolate-dipped finger, perhaps? Anything that’ll make her mouth and tongue move will do the trick.

You are scintillating her by offering an assortment of flavors. Don’t feed her to fullness though – that’ll just make her sleepy and bloated – not good for physical activity. Give her a tingling sampling, a taste to excite and awaken her drowsy existence.

5. The Hair

Unless your partner is G.I. Jane, I’m going to assume she’s got some. Blond, brunette, frizzy – doesn’t really matter, you can have fun with it. Smell her locks. Isn’t that already a treat? Instead of considering her locks as an annoyance guys should take advantage of her hair.

Hair is one of the best sex toys. Play with it. Use it to caress her body and yours. This will spring goosebumps on both. Run your palm over her head several times – like soothing a lost child. Then course your fingers through like a comb. Add appropriate eye contacts and you make her feel like she’s the most precious girl in the entire Universe.

Motion as if you’re tucking her bangs behind her ears.  It’s the same move as wiping the corner of her lips clean even when there’s no food there. These are cheap, ‘cheesy’ tricks, but she falls for them every time because they’re a sweet-kind-of-nothing that shows attention to details.

For ladies with long locks, take a fistful by sliding your hand from the back, through the neck and through her hair. Form a fist and grab a fistful near the roots then gently tug on it. Gently but firmly. Look at her longingly, survey her face and slowly descend your lips on hers and kiss her.