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2 Orgasmic Blowjob Sex Games That She Will Love!

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A blowjob is something lots of girls don’t like to give – but with these orgasmic sex games, she won’t mind giving a blowjob (or two or three) to you at all!

“Do You Want Me To Do You?”

Step 1:

Set a timer for 5 minutes and have her lay on the bed.

Say to her “For the next 5 minutes I will do whatever you want me to do to you.” (Note: Some women will panic at being given control like that. Make some suggestions. “I can massage you. I can touch you all over. I can kiss you all over. I can finger you.”)

When my girlfriend and I play this game she usually asks me to spend time sucking her breasts or focusing on something that I (I’m a horny dude and have a tendency to want to get in there and get to business) don’t usually take the time to do long enough when we’re having sex.

Whatever she asks you to do DO IT. In fact, do it with GUSTO. Let her know you’re ENJOYING giving her pleasure.

The great thing about this game is that it takes all the pressure off of her to perform or to do anything to you. She can just relax and enjoy what you’re doing to her. It creates a great sense of gratitude and reciprocity. (Taking penetration off the table can actually do wonders for your sex life in general, by the way.)

Step 2:

SWITCH!

After the five minute timer is up, ask her if she enjoyed that. Look her in the eyes and kiss her. Then ask her if she wants to switch places. She’ll probably say yes, but if she doesn’t, just go with it. Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint.

If she does say yes (she probably will) DO NOT jump the gun and ask her to give you head. In fact, don’t ask her to do anything overtly “sexual” at all.

Whatever it is, make it something SENSUAL instead of sexual. Bringing her mouth into things is a GOOD idea at this point, but you need to make sure you’re not rushing to oral sex.

By telling her NOT to touch her cock (do it with a smile, not a bark. She needs to know she won’t be punished if she does) you free her up to make the DECISION to touch your cock or give you blowjob on her own. Expectations suck. Remove them and great things happen.

OK, that note wasn’t quick at all, but it was really important.)

“Do You Want Me To Do You? – REVERSE”

Reverse the rules.

Game two is essentially the same thing with reversed rules. Have her lay down on the bed. Say, “OK, now I’m going to spend 5 minutes doing whatever I want to do to you.”

It’s important not to act predatory or weird here. If you have some fetish she’s NOT into, this isn’t the time to bring it up. This isn’t a dom/slave thing or anything like that. Instead pick something you really DO want to do to her for 5 minutes, tell her what it is and stick to it.

The first time you do this you probably want to keep it pretty basic. Touch her all over. Give her a massage. Feed her your fingers. Massage her butt. (Butt massages turn women into jello, by the way.)

WORSHIP HER BODY. Make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. Show her how much you adore her and even TELL her how much you adore her while you’re doing it. If she gives you signals that she really wants you to touch her clitoris while you’re doing this, go ahead and do it. But make sure it’s her idea.

NOTE: SHE GETS VETO POWER. If she stops you from doing something RESPECT HER. After you’ve worked on her for 5 minutes (the timer is important) reverse things again. Lay down and say, OK, now you get to do whatever you want to me for five minutes.

Ask her what she wants to do and let her TAKE CHARGE and be in control. Your only job is to LAY there. Keep your damn hands at your side. Only move if she tells you to move. She’s in charge and you’re there for her to do what she pleases to.

From experience I can tell you that if you’ve seeded the idea of a blowjob being a positive thing in her mind she may well take the initiative here.

The 4 Do’s And Don’ts While Getting Head

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Oral sex is something every guy wants, but if you make any of these mistakes, you’re likely not getting it again. Here’s how to mind your oral sex p’s and q’s.

1. DO NOT Grab The Back Of Her Head And Shove

Yes, I know this one should be obvious, but it’s amazing to me how many guys try to turn their women into Linda Lovelace on day one. Remember, you’re trying to make giving head a pleasurable and FUN and POWERFUL experience for her.

Especially the first few times, you’ve got to make sure she feels like she’s in charge and can start or stop the process whenever she wants.

At least at first, keep your hands out of the equation entirely. Don’t touch her head. Don’t grab her.  Down the line she might discover she likes it when you grab her head and when you treat her a little roughly, but for now you gotta keep things basic.

2. DO Make EYE CONTACT With Her

Remember that whole “women don’t like fellatio because it’s degrading/dehumanizing?” Yeah, we’re nipping that one in the bud. While she’s giving you head LOOK AT HER. Look her right in the eye and smile with pleasure and appreciation.

By making eye contact you establish a real connection between you while she’s blowing you and make it much more something you’re SHARING than something she’s doing TO you.

3. DO Give Her Gratitude And Appreciation

OK, guys, if you lie there like a dead fish your chances of getting ANOTHER blowjob are pretty much nil. Women are nurturers. They will do almost anything for that gratitude and appreciation. Where guys make the mistake is by making oral sex too much about them. Even if you’re the one getting the PHYSICAL pleasure, you’ve got to make the woman feel good about herself.

While she’s giving you head you’ve got to let her know how GOOD it feels, how much you APPRECIATE what she’s doing and how INCREDIBLY SEXY she is!

4. DO Show Her Technique And Give Constructive Criticism

OK, once you finally get the blowjob you’ve been dreaming of for who knows how long, you might be afraid to criticize her technique at all.

But I’m going to tell you right now that just staying quiet or ONLY giving positive feedback is a bad idea.

Here’s why:

  • Women are more observant than men and they can tell when we’re faking something.
  • If you don’t tell her something doesn’t feel good, she might assume it DOES feel good and keep doing it. Do you really want her to think you like it when she uses her teeth when you really want the opposite?

So how do you “guide” your woman without her taking offense?

Simple, you do it with the time tested and proven “Criticism sandwich.”

Step 1: Compliment her on something she did that you really like. “Oh, baby, your tongue on my cock feels soooo good.”

Step 2: Gently push her away from whatever she’s doing “wrong” (wrong is subjective. It’s just something you don’t like as much as you like something else) and towards what you want “OK, just loosen your lips a little bit and . . .”

Step 3: Give her HUGE positive reinforcement when she switches over to what you really want you to do. “OH, that feels soooo good. Thank you. You’re amazing.”

Get it?

How To Get Your Girl To Want To Go Down On You AGAIN

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A blowjob is a favor. It’s not often that men find a woman who loves to give a blowjob. If your wife or girlfriend is standoffish about giving you oral sex. There are things that you do to increase the odds. Here is a quick guide on how to make her actually want to give you a blowjob AGAIN AND AGAIN!

Right After Your Blowjob

Right after the blowjob there are a few key things you need to do.

1. Help clean up. If she lets you orgasm in her mouth, get her a towel to spit into.

2. If you came somewhere else, it’s your job to clean up. Wipe it off. Show that you’re going to take care of things.

3. Have a positive and THANKFUL and HAPPY attitude. Tell your girl things like…

“That was WONDERFUL.”
“You are AMAZING.”
“Oh my god, thank you so much. That was awesome.”

4. Shower her in affection. Don’t go overboard but really show that you care appreciate what she’s done.

Listen guys, I know you might not love cuddling or hanging out after you climax, but drink an energy drink if you have to, stay awake and make sure she feels appreciated.

The Next Day

The next day is when you really cement the positive experience of giving you a blowjob. If you have my Text Your Wife Into Bed product, use some of the core concepts there to revivify the experience for both of you. Focus on how GREAT she made you feel and how WONDERFUL the whole thing was.

If you don’t have TYWIB, text or email this:

“That was wonderful last night. Thank you.”
“My favorite part was when you ran your tongue along the underside…you looked SOOO sexy.”

KEY POINT: Whatever you do, do not create the expectation that she’s going to do this again. If she feels pressured to make this a regular part of the arsenal, you might lose the fish. You may even want to say “It’s totally up to you if you ever do that again, but it was WONDERFUL.”

You can also focus on how she seemed to really enjoy it. “I can’t believe how wet you were when you were sucking me.” Or “You really seemed turned on.” By bringing the attention to the girl’s own arousal you cement it in her mind.

Days Down The Road

Really all you need to do at this point is rinse, wash and repeat. Continue the games I’ve taught you here. Continue to reinforce the idea of her mouth as a erogenous zone and the POWER of her mouth and tongue to give you pleasure. Remember, you’re basically trying to create a “habit” here and creating a habit requires repetition.

If you let off the throttle the first time you have success, you’ll have a lot more work to do next time. But if you continue at a strong and steady pace you’ll have your wife or girlfriend acting like an “oral enthusiast” in no time.

5 Ways To Start Getting Oral Sex REGULARLY!

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Oral sex can be a fun way for your partner to show you how much she loves you. If you aren’t getting as much oral sex as you want, use these methods to start getting it on a regular basis.

1. Wake Up The Nerves In Her Lips And Mouth

I’ve never met a woman who doesn’t absolutely LOVE this. Next time you’re in bed or even just kissing your woman, kiss her really nicely and then say. “Hold on a second. I want you to close your eyes and just let me kiss you for a second.”

The key is to get her to just stay still with her mouth either closed or partially open. While she’s laying there (or standing there), take the very tip of your tongue and lightly trace it along her lips. You just barely want the tip of your tongue to touch her lip.

You’re not licking her like dog here or anything like that, you’re just gently caressing her lips with your tongue.Women LOVE this when you do it right.

2. Create An “Oral Fixation”

OK, you remember Pavlov’s dogs?  The short version is that Pavlov rang a dinner bell every time he was going to feed some dogs he had. Before long the dogs started salivating when he rang the bell even when there was no food.

We’re going to start doing something similar with your wife. We’re going to start creating a connection between pleasure and the idea of having part of YOU in her mouth. Next time you’re in bed with your woman, take time to really focus on HER pleasure.

If there’s a particular way she really likes you to fuck her, do that. Or you can go down on her, use your fingers. Just focus on doing something you KNOW gets her off and that she really enjoys.

While she’s in the throes of passion, bring your fingers up to her mouth. Just bring them right up to her lips. (Quick note: many women really LIKE the taste of their own vaginal juices. You may want to get your fingers all wet, finger her to an orgasm and then bring your fingers up to her mouth.)

The key is to have her suck on your fingers either WHILE she’s experiencing great pleasure (one hand is getting her off while the other is in her mouth) or directly afterwards.

This is largely a continuation of our last “Trick” but it deserves its own section. If/when she starts to lick and suck your fingers, make sure you give her POSITIVE reinforcement.

3. Use “Outside The Bedroom Talk”

Hopefully you’re in the habit of giving your wife/girlfriend/lover compliments. What I want you to do from now on is start mixing in the occasional comment on her lips, mouth or tongue. So at one point you might comment on her eyes, her hair, whatever else you find sexy about her.

But then slip in something like:

“You have the most gorgeous lips.”
Or “Your tongue really turns me on.”
Or “I love the way your lips feel on my skin.”

You don’t ever need to make a direct connection between this and oral sex. Instead just create the idea in her mind of her lips, mouth and tongue being sexy and beautiful and desirable.

Again, we’re going for more self esteem, power and desirability here. With everything you’re doing, make sure you do it with a smile. Remember, sex is FUN!

4. Show Her What It Feels Like

I know, this sounds weird, let me explain. Next time you’re messing around with your woman I want you kiss your way down her arm. Use your tongue and lips liberally here and really let her enjoy it.

Kiss your way across her palm, up her fingers and then (with a smile, this is FUN) take her finger into your mouth. Eye contact is good here. Really have fun with her fingers. Fingers are actually REALLY sensitive. She’ll probably like this a LOT and may even get into it.

Being the “Receiver” in that way can really help your woman get into the idea of blowjobs being fun for both side.

5. Make It Seem Like Her Idea

OK, as I said way back in the first few pages of this (increasingly comprehensive…man, my fingers are tired) training, one of the reason so many women don’t like giving a blowjob is because of trauma from the past.

A boyfriend or husband or some guy they were dating was too rough with her, made her gag, created a bad memory and ruined it for the rest of us.

So what we need to do to get her to be INTO the idea of giving you head is put her in the driver’s seat and make the whole thing seem like her idea. If you follow the first 4 steps I listed out here you should be slowly warming her up to the idea of her mouth being an erogenous zone and oral being fun.

Now it’s time to give her the opportunity to “take the bait” and make the decision all on her own to give you head.