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How To Share Your Sexual Fantasies With Each Other

By serenapaige

Sexual fantasies are something everyone has – but many people are too shy to reveal them. They’ll enjoy their sexual fantasies on their own during masturbation or solo play, but they may be afraid of sharing them with a partner, even someone they are very close to. However, exploring your fantasies together can be a great way to increase intimacy and bring more heat into your sex life! Here’s how you and your lover can accept each other’s desires.

These can be both a blessing and a curse. There are so many men and women that are afraid to tell their partner what they want in the bedroom out of fear of rejection. Telling your partner that you think it would be hot to live out a fantasy is not very easy if they are not receptive.

Having a wife or husband that is willing to engage in your wants and needs is crucial to being happy. When you are in a relationship with a partner who is not willing to entertain your fantasies it is easy to become frustrated or discouraged by their stubbornness. Here are a few way that you can tell your partner about your fantasies and hear some of theirs as well.

1. Have A Meeting

No, you don’t have to get access to a boardroom, but you do have to arrange a meeting with your partner. When you are having a discussion about your it, you want to make sure that you are in a good environment for it. Give the kids some money to go out for ice cream or arrange a time when your partner’s favorite TV show isn’t on.

There can be no distractions when you are discussing your sex life. If there are distractions your partner might just tell you what you want to hear instead of really listening to what you are saying. This isn’t an intervention, but you should kind of take the approach.

2. Engage Them As A Partner

There is no reason to place blame on yourself or on your partner. Sure, either of you might feel like the other is not as receptive to your sexual fantasies as you wish, but that is why you are talking about it now. The last thing that you want to do is turn a discussion into an argument. Talking about your desires should be fun and exciting. It shouldn’t drudge up past problems in the relationship or lead to new problems. Remember that your partner is going to take a part in your sexual fantasies so you need to be respectful and figure out a way to work together so you are both happy.

3. Leave The Judgment At The Door

All judgment should be left out of the room when you are discussing your wants and needs. One of the biggest problems with couples is honesty. There is a lot of judgment in every day lives and couples can feel as if their partners would reject them if they shared something that was too over the top.

For the most part, your partner’s desires are going to be fairly tame. If you’re in a healthy relationship and you are committed to each other, there is nothing that should sway your partner’s love for you. Desires should be used to create more intimacy in the relationship, not to bring a barrier between the two of you.

4. Reciprocity

Each of you should be sharing with each other. It takes two people to make up a couple so there is no reason why one partner’s fantasies should overshadow the others. Make it a point to talk to each about both of your fantasies for a more healthy relationship.

If there are conflicting fantasies then you need to work through them. For instance, if both of you have sexual fantasies about being dominated by the other, you should take turns. There is no reason that the both of you can’t be happy. Work together to get rid of all the discrepancies in the relationship and enjoy your desires together.

5. Start Slow

It’s all too easy to start sharing your sexual fantasies and then get so hot that you can’t wait to put them to work for you. Start off slow. You have no idea how your partner is going to react once you or they finally get what they want. The fantasy might not actually have the same weight that it did in you mind.

Your partner might not even do it right the first time. Start off slow so the both of you can perfect your sexual fantasies and make them mind blowing each time. If you rush it, what you thought would be super hot could actually leave a very bad taste in your mouth. Take your time and build upon what you and your partner feel comfortable with.

Filed Under: Bondage, Fetishes, & Fantasies Tagged With: better sex, sex tips, sexual fantasies

5 Ways To Discover Your Kinky Alter Ego

By serenapaige

Kinky sex can be a great way to spice up a boring sex life, but just how do you get there? Check out these five tips to reveal your darker side.

Finding your kinky alter ego doesn’t have to be a difficult task. So many couples go through vanilla sex and don’t address it. If you and your girlfriend have had “the talk” about a bland sex life then you are a step ahead of the game. Sex is an important part of the relationship and it can be a very frustration endeavor to keep things spicy.

If you’re looking for a way to bring out the inner-freak, there are a few things that you can do. You don’t have to head out and get a latex suit or become a certified dom. You can find out what turns you on very quickly with minimal hassle and little effort.

1. Ask Her What Turns Her On

Most of the time a guy will simply get turned on by having a girl turned on. When women find themselves so hot that they can’t contain it anymore, guys are instantly in the mood. Most of the guys that you talk to will tell you the same thing. They are much more concerned with getting their girlfriend or wife off than actually getting off themselves. Take this into consideration when you are trying to spice up your bedroom activities.

2. Do You Get Embarrassed?

There are a lot of guys that are easily embarrassed when it comes to sex and sexual fantasies. Maybe you want your girlfriend dress up like a Catholic schoolgirl or maybe you want her to dominate you. These are both fairly common sexual fantasies. However, there are a lot of guys they get so embarrassed when they talk about their fantasies that they can’t actually act upon them. Talk to your partner in an open and honest, nonjudgmental way about what would really turn you on.

Try to come up with a way that you won’t get embarrassed halfway through and have her reassure you that you are not strange or weird because of your sexual fantasies. A girlfriend that is confident in her own sexuality and willing to play a part of your sexual fantasy will help the relationship immensely.

3. Watch Some Pornography

Say what you want about pornography, but it is one of the best tools to get men and women going. One of the easiest ways to use pornography is to help you discover what your sexual fantasies are. Whether you are into straight sex, domination, lesbian porn or all of the above, pornography can help you get there.

Take your girlfriend or wife to an adult store and search through the porno section. Decide on a movie that you will both enjoy and then take it home and watch it. Relationships are about compromise. If you are trying to find common ground in spicing up your sex life, deciding on a porno for the both of you is a great first step. If you can’t decide on one movie, find two or three and take them home for a whole weekend of fun and exploration.

4. Sex Toys

Sex toys can be a great way to find out exactly how kinky you are comfortable being. But if you get the wrong sex toys, you might put yourself and your partner in an awkward position. Have you ever had the fantasy of using a vibrator on a girl? How about a butt plug? Before you do any of this you’re going to need to talk to your partner.

It is her body that you’re going to be experimenting with after all. Sit her down and talk to her honestly. Tell her about how hot you think it will be and tell her that you believe it could bring the two of your closer in your sex life. You will probably be surprised on how open she will be to your honesty.

5. Be In The Moment

Most women love a guy that can be in the moment. If you have talked about getting more kink in your sex life, go ahead and do it. You girl is going to be much more open to things in the height of her arousal than talking about it afterward or before. If you want to try a new sex position, tell her in the middle of sex. Sometimes putting her in that position without asking can be a huge turn on for women. If she doesn’t feel comfortable with something, she will tell you. Don’t try something crazy on a whim, but you shouldn’t be afraid of trying something new on a whim.

Filed Under: Bondage, Fetishes, & Fantasies Tagged With: bdsm, better sex, kinky sex, sex tips, sexual fantasies

How To Achieve The Holy Grail Of Sex – The Simultaneous Orgasm

By serenapaige

A simultaneous orgasm can be a super hot and emotionally gratifying experience. Here’s how to achieve what is known as the “holy grail” of sex.

A simultaneous orgasm is something that a lot of couples strive for. This concept can even be something that people worry about on a constant basis. The most important thing to understand about a simultaneous orgasm is that it does not define your sex life or your relationship. People put way too much weight on climaxing at the same time.

Just because you and your partner to not have an orgasm the same time every time doesn’t mean that you have a problem in your sex life. However, if you would like to achieve a simultaneous orgasm, there are a few things that you can do in order to improve your chances.

1. Know That It’s Not Easy

There are men and women that have control over their orgasms and there are men and women that can’t keep it at bay for too long. When you are trying to achieve a simultaneous orgasm, it is important to realize that it might not be that easy. Timing your orgasm with your partner can put a strain on the relationship that is really not needed. Different partners have different sexual needs to even reach an orgasm in the first place. Don’t be afraid of failure and you will be much more likely to put each at ease during sex.

2. Prolonging Can Be Bad

Prolonging an orgasm by either a man or a woman is never a good idea. Some men find that prolonging their orgasm during sex makes it that much harder to actually have one. This can also make them that much more sensitive to premature ejaculation. Taking a man to the edge of his orgasm and then making him stop could be a recipe for disaster.

After prolonging the orgasm, the man could be that much more likely to have an uncontrolled climax during the same session. Forcing a woman to prolong her orgasm can also be bad. When a woman prolongs her orgasm, it can be harder to get her back up to the level of being able to climax.

3. Use A Lot Of Foreplay

Having a simultaneous orgasm is much harder for women than men. At the drop of a hat a man is usually able to achieve orgasm during sex. Using a lot of foreplay on a woman will bring her to edge of climax much more quickly. Guys, use oral sex and fingering to get her primed to have a female orgasm and you will find it much easier to achieve a simultaneous orgasm. Using manual stimulation on the woman’s clitoris during sex will give you much better results in trying to come together.

4. Use Multiple Orgasms To Have A Simultaneous Orgasm

One of the best tricks is to use multiple orgasms to have a simultaneous orgasm. If the girl can have multiple orgasms then the two of you will much more likely to be able to reach your goal. Not all women can have multiple orgasms, however, if your partner can, you can use this to your advantage. Although you might not be able to reach orgasm during the first one or even the second, you can have a simultaneous orgasm on the third or fourth.

5. Do Kegels

Kegel exercises can help a man control his orgasm during sex. If your boyfriend or husband has a problem with premature ejaculation, he should start to use kegel exercises during the day. These exercises can help him old his orgasm in rather than having to pull out and wait a few seconds for the sensation to pass. When a man has found the ability to control the muscles that affect his orgasm, he will easily be able to hold it in until the woman has reached climax.

6. Practice

Practice always makes perfect. When you are trying to have a simultaneous orgasm with your partner, it is important to keep the goal in mind during sex. Use all of these suggestions to help you master the learning curve and get to where the both of you are happy with your sex life. Remember that there are going to be times where you are not both coming at the same time. If you even hit 50% then you are doing better than most couples on the planet. Practice with each other and communicate during sex so you can both come together.

Filed Under: Orgasm Tagged With: better sex, female orgasm, orgasm, sex, sex tips, simultaneous orgasm

Why 69 Can Improve Your Sex Life

By serenapaige

Oral sex in the 69 position is something many couples try, but don’t do regularly. Why? It can totally revamp your sex life! Here’s what you’ve been missing out on.

69 is a great position for giving each of your mutual pleasure. While the 69 position can be great for foreplay, not enough couples use it to bring the both of you to orgasm. Most people think of this as a starter position or something to get the ball rolling for the “real sex.” The fact of the matter is that the 69 position is great for foreplay or for bringing the both of you to orgasm. 69 can improve your sex life immensely. 69 allows the both of you to enjoy giving and getting all at the same time. Here are some ways that you can improve your sex life through the 69 position.

1. The Woman’s Advantage

The 69 position has a significant advantage for girls. Men love to see the most intimate parts or woman’s body from behind. While you are in this position your partner Will be able to give you oral sex from a view that he will love. This will also give you control over how deep you want your vagina on his mouth. A man can please you while you are pleasing him, bringing you both to orgasm with a view that he will never grow tired of. This position will also give you sensations that aren’t commonly felt when your partner goes down on you the traditional way.

2. The Male Advantage

Getting a blowjob is something that all guys relish. However, the problem with having a girl give you oral sex is that she doesn’t get anything out of it. With the 69 position, you both getting you what you want. When she is on top of you, she will give you different sensations just by the angle that your penis is at when it goes into her mouth. This angle is not something that is typically felt unless you are engaging in 69.

3. The Side By Side

A variation of the 69 position, the side by side position allows the both of you to give and get, but without the hassles of gravity. Traditional 69 will leave a girl’s legs tired and her knees irritated. If you are looking for an easier way to achieve the benefits of 69 but without all of the stresses, the side by side is a great way to go. Simply lie on your side and get into the 69 position. This going to put more weight on your side, but you will be able to shift the shift by bracing against your partner’s legs. This will also give you better access to the small of your partner’s back and their butt.

4. Anal

If your girlfriend or wife is into anal, the 69 position will allow you to play with her anus. One of the best techniques to employ is to use a sex toy on her anus as you give her oral sex to her vagina. Not all women are going to be into this so make sure that your wife or girlfriend is up for it before you try it out. If your wife or girlfriend is into analingus, you will also be to easily go from her vagina and clitoris to her anus while you are in the 69 position.

5. Intimacy

69 can easily improve your sex life because it can build intimacy. Not making the night about having the best sex of your life takes away a lot of pressure. This allows the both of your take things slow and forget the rush of pumping away at each other. 69 rarely requires any kind of lube so it can easily be employed from other foreplay methods such as kissing. If you don’t want to take this position all the way to the end, you will be able to easily reposition into sex.

6. Prostate Massages

Another benefit of using the 69 position is that you can give your boyfriend or husband a prostate massage without having to change positions. Whether you are on top or on bottom, you will access to his anus without making much of a fuss. Not all guys are into prostate massages, however, if your partner is, you might want to use this position the next time he gets the urge. If you are going to give your guy a prostate massage from this position, make sure that you have a lot of lube near by and that he knows what you’re about to do. There is nothing stranger than when you feel a girl start to to a little more north that you’re used to.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: 69, blowjob, cunnilingus, fellatio, oral sex, sex tips

6 Tiny Sex Toys To Carry In Your Bag

By serenapaige

Sex toys don’t just come in the form of giant dildos you have to keep stashed under your bed. Try slipping one of these teeny treasures in your purse!

Sex toys can be a great way to get you through a dry spell or bring you and your partner closer together through better sex. However, when you’re traveling or you’re looking for a way to make your sex toys portable, there are a few models that are manufactured for discretion. Whether you are looking to surprise your boyfriend after a date with a kinky new vibrator or you just want the option to have an orgasm when you’re in bind, there are a few options out there. Here are a 6 tiny sex toys that you can carry in your bag.

1. LELO Nea

The LELO Nea is a shapely clitoral vibrator that has been designed to give you a discreet option when you’re on the go. This tiny vibrator comes in a sleek black color with a delicate cherry blossom design, giving it an ultra feminine look. This vibrator is not manufactured for insertion so you will need another device if you’re not just looking for clitoral stimulation. The LELO Nea looks like a tiny computer mouse, and is curved to hug your body just right. This makes the device very easy to conceal in your handbag while you are on the go.

2. First Time Mini Vibrator

The First Time Mini Vibrator is the perfect vibrator for on the go G-Spot stimulation. One of the best features of this vibrator is the different functionality that you can get out of it. This vibrator features a variety of vibration speeds that are easily controlled with a simple twist dial, so you can control the amount of stimulation to your G-Spot or your clitoris. Another great feature of this tiny vibrator is the fact that it is waterproof. This allows you to take into the shower or bathtub. Just one AA battery powers this sleek, soft vibrator and it’s crafted from ABS plastic to give you a silky soft feel that is still body safe.

3. Petite Treats Micro Bullet

The Petite Treats Micro Bullet is a great sex toy to take around with you. The controller fits in the palm of your hand and the bullet is super tiny – perfect for intense orgasms on the go. The controller is actually an interchangable Doc Johnson version, so you can switch the controller if you see fit. The bullet is only one inch long and less than half an inch wide, but you’ll be surprised at the power this mini bullet can provide. If you’re looking for a mini bullet for compactness, this is definitely worth the money.

4. Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator

The Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator is definitely designed for discretion. This vibrator comes with nubbed and wavy texture to give you amazing vibrations. While this vibrator does not come with many features, it is definitely a compact toy that will fit in your handbag without anybody knowing. Simply slip the ring over a finger and use the vibrator wherever you like. The soft nubs feel great against the clitoris, but will also work well for nipple stimulation too. A simple on/off switch makes the Fingo Nubby Finger Vibrator easy to use during solo play, but you can also use it with a partner when you want to mix things up.

5. I-Vibe Pocket Rocket

The I-Vibe Pocket Rocket is a super small vibrator that comes in a variety of jeweled colors for ultra fun and feminine style. This vibrator has a nubbed and studded texture with simple to use controls that make it easy for you to achieve your orgasm no matter where you are. One of the best things about this vibrator is that it only takes 1 AA battery. This is a very quiet vibrator that every girl will like!

6. Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator

The Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator is a great vibrator for business trips or the unexpected family obligation. This vibe looks almost exactly like a real tube of lipstick and is primarily used for clitoral stimulation. Even if someone were to come across your vibrator in your purse or pocket, you need not be concerned that they would automatically know it’s true function. It’s cleverly designed to look like a tube of lipstick and it’s real purpose will only be revealed by someone who is really looking for it. This makes the Studio Collection Lipstick Vibrator one of the more discreet vibrators you can own! It’s perfect for travel, because it can easily be concealed rather inside your handbag or purse.

Filed Under: Sex Toys Tagged With: female masturbation, female orgasm, masturbation, orgasm, Sex Toys, vibrator

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