Blowjob tips aren’t all about how to suck and lick your partner. It’s also about your state of mind when going down on him. Here’s how to improve your blowjob skills.
The most important aspect of giving your lover an incredible blowjob is your attitude. If you have a bad attitude about it, the activity isn’t going to be enjoyable for either you or your partner. However, if you have a good attitude about the blowjob, it will really turn your lover on and get him into it.
Acting Like The Blowjob Is A Chore
Think about the situation in reverse – what if he were giving you oral sex? How would it make you feel if he acted like giving you oral sex were a chore? How would you like it if he acted like he’d rather be doing anything else than have his head between your legs? (You might already have a man that does this – if so, then you definitely have some perspective here.) It wouldn’t make you feel very sexy, would it? You wouldn’t feel desired, or that your lover cared at all about your pleasure. You would probably feel intensely rejected and you would take a huge blow to your ego.
When you act like sucking him off is a burden rather than something fun and enjoyable for you, it makes your partner feel exactly like that – unsexy, undesired and uncared about. This makes it very difficult for him to get lost in the pleasure, or really feel any pleasure at all. His mind will be preoccupied with trying to figure you out than being open to receiving intense pleasure and orgasms from oral sex. So no matter what your blowjob skill level is, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a good attitude about giving head.
How Do They Do It In Porn?
Take porn for example. Although porn is probably the worst place you could possibly go to learn blowjob techniques, there is one thing you could pick up from the porn stars and use in your own oral sex repertoire – and that’s how great their attitude is. Men love it when the girls in porn get excited about going down on them. They love it when a woman is enthusiastic about doing such a naughty, pleasurable and submissive activity.
You’ll notice that in almost every blowjob porn, the girl on the giving end is just plain ecstatic about sucking her man off! Now you most certainly do not have to go to the extremes that these women do – or else it will probably come off as fake anyways – mimicking their willingness and enthusiasm about giving a blowjob will make you really good at it. A great attitude is even more important than learning great blowjob skills.
Smile, And Act Like It’s FUN!
So with a great attitude, you can give your lover the best blowjob of his life – even if you’re not that skilled at different techniques and moves you can do. Just act like you get really turned on by the idea of going down on him and giving him the ultimate pleasure. Bonus points if it’s less of an “act” and you really do get into it. If you can learn to really enjoy giving your lover fellatio, the activity can be super meaningful and super pleasurable for both of you.