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How To Flirt Once You’ve Got Her To Go Home With You

By loveandsex

To flirt is easy at a club, but how do you flirt when the girl you like is finally at your house? Here are several good ways to flirt intimately!

Different types and amounts of flirting are acceptable in different circumstances. The flirting you do around groups of people is much different than flirtatious acts around only one woman.

In isolated settings such as your place or her place, the rules change and you’re allowed to be more sexually flirtatious. Before we explore this type of intimate flirting, you must first understand how to successfully get there.

Touch Her!

Touching a woman is a great way to build trust. If you continue to go on dates and don’t even affectionately touch a woman’s arm, at some point it becomes harder and more awkward later on.

If you haven’t hugged, kissed or touched reasonable places such as her arm or hand, then you’ll have trouble making her feel comfortable in an intimate setting because she hasn’t felt any physical contact from you before.

If you watch a couple interacting from a distance, you can usually tell how close they are just by how far apart they stand. Most women only feel comfortable with men entering their personal space when they know them to a certain degree.

To ensure a woman will be comfortable when she’s having a date at your place, here’s a guideline for what flirtatious physical contact you can possibly do.

Create The Flirtatious Mood

The flirtatious mood incorporates the same flirting used during previous dates. This involves being playful, fun, teasing and confident. Here are some examples of fun things you can do in a secluded setting.

1. Bed Push

While the two of you are talking on your bed/couch subtly move over while performing a yawn or stretch to move her closer to the edge. Once she realizes what you are doing, she’ll try to move her way back on. Whether you decide to slowly push her completely onto the floor is your choice. Depending on the size of your bed/couch and whether this action can be done harmlessly or not is up to you.

2. Bed Hog

When she tries to get back on the bed/couch or even if she’s already lying with you roll over taking up most of the space. As she realizes you’re taking over she’ll try and win her share back. If she asks for you to move back onto your side you can say, “What’s in it for me?” or “Na, what are you talking about? I’m not taking up any room at all.” Be smiley and sarcastic when you say this comment, creating an “I’m hard-to-get vibe.”

3. Soft Tickle

If she’s comfortable lying next to you and being close, you should be able to tickle her gently to get a positive reaction. Tickling her hips, waist, feet or armpits work best. If she’s not ticklish or you don’t have the right touch to make her giggle, say something like, “I’m not trying to tickle you, really I’m not.” This saves you from looking like you’ve failed at tickling.

4. Pillow Fight

To increase the excitement, grab your pillow and start whacking her softly with it. If she joins in and gets more aggressive, turn up the pace but don’t use all your strength. If you’re looking for a great way to transition into a pillow fight throw your pillow at her when she’s across the room or on the bed with you. If she doesn’t throw it back tell her to throw it back. If she still doesn’t throw it back, get off the bed, grab the pillow, and throw it at her again. Eventually she’ll join in.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: Dating Tips, flirting, seduction, sexual tension

Weird Ways To Tease A Woman And Get Her Interested In You

By loveandsex

Flirting doesn’t have to be intimidating when you use these unconventional ways to get a girl’s attention! You’ll make an impression right off the bat!

Teasing women about their beauty is the most powerful way to lower their initial defenses and attract them. You’ve only got two minutes to impress a woman and make yourself stand out as somebody unique.

Understand that these beautiful women only want men with high standards.

How To Use This Strange Teasing Method To Your Advantage

OBJECTIVE: To show the woman you’re not easily impressed by “physical beauty” like other guys. You have higher standards.

By teasing the woman you’re making her compete in order to try to meet your standards. Teasing tells the woman she’s failing to reach your high standards and needs to work harder. Understand that these comments work best on “super hot” (over-confident) women.

Naturally, these are the women most guys are attracted to. If a woman is “cute,” but not “super attractive,” tone down your comments and engage her in competitive conversation instead. The more over-confident the woman is, the more you can tease her.

WARNING: Once you’ve used a teasing comment and it’s worked well, she’s going to try and regain her power. She’ll do everything possible to test you, so make sure you don’t give in to her.

Things To Say

  • Nice hair. What made you go with a 60’s style?
  • Ha. That walk is hilarious. Do it again!
  • You like cappuccino’s? (weird look) Na, that’s cool.

Imply she’s short, has no fashion sense, has a funny quirk, etc. Once you find something that gets a great reaction, keep using it. Tease her about her:

  • Hair
  • Clothes
  • Shoes
  • Accessories
  • Walk
  • Mannerisms
  • Dorkiness

The “Where Did You Go?” Flirting Technique

Here’s a great example you can do with just about any woman. After talking for some time you can walk up to her and look over her head as if you’re looking for something. You can then say, “Where did you go?”

Don’t stand too close just close enough to get the point across. You’ll usually get a playful hit for this one because it implies that she’s short. If you’re the same height or just a little bit shorter, stand on your toes to add some extra height. Being the same height can actually make this technique work better because it’s sarcastic humor. You’re saying she’s short even though she’s clearly level with your height.

Woman’s Teasing Interpretation

SHE THINKS FIRST: “I’m short and he is laughing about it.”

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He doesn’t only want me for my looks! He’s different than most guys. I want to get to the bottom of this and see what he’s really like! Is he faking?

RESULT: She’s interested.

Re-active Teasing

While this form of teasing is slightly more difficult, it usually more effective because of its “natural conversation” feel. So here’s what you do:

Ask the woman something about her day, what have you been up to? Where do you work? Where have you been shopping? What’s in the shopping bag? Where’d you get that necklace? Anything!

The idea of teasing is that you want to DISAGREE on something with the woman. Thus, creating sexual tension.

DISAGREE on her looks

Say her clothes aren’t cool.

DISAGREE on her opinion of something.

Side note: A great way to tease women at pick-up bars is to joke to your buddy that the woman is too drunk, even if she’s not. Or, accuse her of becoming as insecure as a man who goes around trying to get lucky with his “confidence-in-a-can,” and tell her it’s not going to work with you.

In conclusion, there’s a difference between a woman being seriously upset, and just playing around and being “fake upset.” When they playfully hit you and have a half smile on their face, they like it, no matter what they say!

FACT: Women mean what they do, not what they say.

When she starts laughing, acting natural, fun, and genuinely smiling, then you know you’ve spoken long enough. You no longer need to speak to the woman.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: confidence, Dating Tips, flirting

Flirting Vs Rapport – Know The Difference For INCREDIBLE Results with Women

By loveandsex

Flirting is much different than rapport. Rapport is a way of relating to someone that you have an established relationship with.

The fastest way to build relationships with people is to share personal information about yourself. When you talk to a woman and discover things or experiences you have in common, you are building a rapport with her. The longer you talk to someone and discuss a wide variety of topics, the more rapport you build.

Rapport allows you to nurture and grow your relationships with friends, family and anyone you come in contact with.

The Most Common Mistake

The most common mistake is trying to become friends first, and then trying to build a sexual relationship later on. Here’s the simplest way to remember how to interact in any given situation.

  1. Flirt till she’s attracted to you.
  2. Then, while maintaining the flirting, begin to reveal personal information about yourself.

It’s the information about yourself that helps build relationships – your name, job, dreams, hobbies, interests and memories — but it’s the emotions you evoke through your personality that sparks attraction — your confidence, security, sense of humor, leadership, mystery and playfulness.

Don’t Build Report Without Being Flirtatious

Never try and build rapport without first being flirtatious, fun and playful. Not ever. Without showing yourself to be desirable, she has no reason to be interested in you. Nothing has set off the attraction.

Talking about hobbies, life ambitions, careers and education can be fascinating conversation and can work if you can discuss these things in a flirtatious manner. But most men who start on the boring demographic questions find it difficult to transition into a flirtatious mood later.

Most men have the urge to get into these boring questions first, and try to be playful and flirtatious later.  They only attempt to make her sexually aroused after they have established a friendship. This is a death trap that’s going to kill you slowly and painfully as you wait, and never see results.

Move On To Other Women

If you want to attract a woman you’re already friends with and there’s been no sexual chemistry, then you need to move on and start dating other women. You’ve been put into the friend zone and there’s no coming back

If this woman is everything you’ve dreamed about, then you need to date other women and gain valuable dating experience so you’ll actually have a chance with her. If you love her because she’s “the perfect woman”, then chances are that a lot of other men feel the same way about her, which means heavy competition. She has many options and she’s only going to date the very best guy – and that will be hard to compete with.

After you’ve dated several women, you’ll notice your dream girl become curious about your new found desirability, and you may get a second chance. And then again, after going out on a first date with other women, you may realize you like a new woman much more than the one you had your sights on before.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: confidence, dating, Dating Tips, flirting

How To Use Your Voice To Attract Any Woman

By loveandsex

Flirting is highly dependent on your voice. Deepening your tone can easily make you more attractive to women. Admire your new, confident, attractive voice.

You don’t need to have an extremely deep voice, but it should be deep enough to communicate that you’re comfortable in the presence of women. If you notice when you talk to women your voice becomes squeaky from nervousness use this technique to compose your voice.

Use Your Voice Volume

Sometimes for fun I ask women what they like about men. While consciously women want their men to be, “nice, caring, romantic, etc”, unconsciously they want men who are masculine. When I ask what they like, these women respond with things like: “I like a man who holds himself well” “I like a man who knows what he wants” “I like a man who’s sure of himself” “I like a man who’s not intimidated by me” “I like a man who’s not nervous.”

While from first glance these qualities may all seem different, they are in fact all the same. Unconsciously women want men with confidence. Part of a confident voice is the volume you project. Confident men flirt with loud, strong and clear voices.

Un-confident men speak with soft, weak and muffled voices that project fear and low self-esteem. If you want to get the attention of women start speaking with a louder voice and be fearless of rejection.

If women intimidate you, chances are your voice is very soft. Boost your voice to a volume that “seems” too loud and you’ll speak at a more normal volume. Because you’re not used to speaking at this volume it will seem very loud; don’t worry, practice makes perfect.

Monitor Your Voice Speed

Public speaking is a real fear for most people. When somebody stands up to speak you can tell exactly how confident they are just by the speed of their vocals.

When we talk to our friends we speak in a cool calm voice and at a reasonably slow pace. If you hear a terrified person make a speech against their will, you’ll hear the fear. People who are not confident speak at an unnaturally fast pace to “get it over and done with.”

They are so uncomfortable at public speaking, and they rattle off their speech so fast, that most people have trouble getting the main points. Just by listening to the pace, women can determine if you’re nervous.

For those of you who are terrified when meeting women, here’s a great tip. Speak at half the speed you think you should be speaking at and you’ll most likely be talking at a natural pace with great body language.

Learn Voice Timing

Comedians are funny because they deliver their jokes with a great sense of timing. Learn to use emphasis, pauses, pace changes and fluctuating vocal tone with your speaking voice.

If you want to know exactly how to talk to women, study some of the most confident public speakers and coaches of our time. Go to seminars and listen to confident people speak on TV, noting the characteristics of the speakers.

A lot of men say they know how to portray a confident voice, but when it comes time to approach a woman and use this confident voice, they freeze up. Just knowing something doesn’t make you an expert. You have to put what you know into practice.

Watch Your Spoken Words

The words you speak have very little impact on your ability to meet women. Having said that, there are words or lines you can say that will repel women so fast it will make your head spin. Lines that define women as sexual objects, creatures of desire or nothing but a shell of physical beauty don’t work.

You can’t flirt with women by being too direct about your intentions. “Hey cutie,” “babe,” and “hot stuff” are terrible lines for first impressions. As mentioned before, women interpret the meaning behind your words, so think about these words from a woman’s perspective. Whenever in doubt always use the formula below designed to transform action into meaning.

Know How To Use More Than Your Words

As we move onto non-verbal flirting remember that flirting is much more about how you use your voice than the words you actually say. This point has been repeated, but with good reason. When a friend talks about the success he’s had he’ll tell his friends the lines he used rather than what he did and how he acted.

These friends then go and try out their newly found pick up lines, only to be harshly rejected. They conclude the lines don’t work and give up. If they realized that flirting is more about the delivery than the lines, everything would make sense to them.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: body language, confidence, Dating Tips, flirting

How To Flirt With A Shy Guy

By romymorgan

Flirting isn’t always easy, especially if the guy you’re trying to talk to is an introvert. Here’s how to flirt with a guy who isn’t as outspoken as the rest.

Flirting with a shy guy can be intimidating, but shy guys normally make the best boyfriends. Shy guys are usually caring, quiet, intelligent and funny. If you have your eye on a shy guy and you want to bring him out of his shell, there are a few things that you can do to accomplish the task at hand. Shy guys can be intimidating because you will need to guide the conversation. Once they feel comfortable with you they will open up and you can see the type of person they really are. Here is a short guide on how to flirt with shy guys.

Approach Him

Shy guys are not going to approach you. He might try to start a conversation if you have mutual friends, but in general you are going to have to approach him. If you’re not comfortable with approaching guys then you need to be the one that comes out of your comfort zone. Shy guys are usually shy for a reason, so don’t be too aggressive when you approach him. Start off with an easy conversation to break the ice.

Make Him Feel Comfortable

Chances are that the shy guy is not going to be comfortable with you flirting with him at first. Make sure that you aren’t making him uncomfortable with aggressive tactics. Ask him simple questions and see how well he reciprocates. If he’s not asking you questions about your life or what you do then he might not be interested. In most situations a shy guy can spring to life when a girl approaches him, but this isn’t always the case. Go slowly with him, but make sure that he knows you’re interested.

Touching

Touching him is a good way to show interest, but don’t fall all over him. Shy guys love a girl that will touch his shoulder or arm while she’s flirting. Make the touches subtle. Brush against him or touch his arm when you laugh at a joke. Even the subtlest touches will not go unnoticed. Wait for him to touch you back. Usually touching begins with the guy. He will put his hand on your back or touch your arm lightly. However, with a shy guy, you probably need to make the first move when it comes to physicality.

Give Compliments

Compliments are essential for flirting with a shy guy. Compliments work well because they are a quick boost of confidence. Shy guys aren’t looking for girls that are self-involved so when you compliment them you show that you are interested in them instead of yourself. Complimenting their job, appearance or taste in music is easy for breaking the ice and bringing him out of his shell.

Don’t Ask For A Date

Shy guys like women who are upfront, but don’t ask him for a date. Wait until he asks you or make an excuse to give him your phone number. Shy guys are notorious for letting great girls slip through their fingers, so you want to put the ball in his court without making it seem like you are. Use mutual interests as a way to get his phone number or as a way to give him your number. For instance, if you’re both into basketball, say something like “Let me give you my number so we can watch the game together this weekend.” Watching a basketball game together is not a date, but it is a way to get together.

Don’t Play Games

As stated before, shy guys are usually shy for a reason. Whether the reason is a tough childhood or being hurt in the past, shy guys are quick to drop a girl that plays a lot of games. If you are a game player, you need to put all of your nuttiness on hold. Not responding to phone calls in a timely manner or lying to him are off limits. If you really want to flirt with a shy guy and have it go somewhere, don’t play games with him. If he picks up on the fact that you are playing games with him he will probably never call you again.

Learning how to flirt with a shy guy is not difficult, but it does take a different approach than with other guys. Shy guys can be a lot of fun once they feel comfortable enough with you. Approaching shy guys and using the best tactics to flirt with them is vital to establishing a healthy relationship they feel comfortable in. Don’t be too aggressive and you should see an improvement in your flirting abilities with shy guys.

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: body language, confidence, Dating Tips, flirting

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